My girlfriend wanted an open relationship and its hurting me.

So me and my girlfriend have recently opened our relationship to include someone else. It is MMF and I don't feel like it is equal at this point. It is a new experience to me and I like concept don't get me wrong, when it's good it's very good.

At this point I don't feel like my girlfriend tells me everything that I should know and I almost never get cuddles or affections unless I go out of my way to ask because I am visibly upset. Even when she does give attention it feels like she doesn't really want to be around me. Whenever she has sex with me she rushes it everytime and I don't enjoy it, I've actually started turning sex down because it doesn't feel right. Wether it's out of guilt or any other emotion it doesn't feel like she's doing it because she wants to and that is an experience that leaves me more upset than when I was before. My sex drive is also very high so I suffer even on good days.

I'm so angry and upset and in the 4 times I've expressed my emotions to her she just tells me that she hasn't changed and that she is being equal and that she is sexually frustrated a lot as well. What she isn't seeing is that I feel the way I feel for a reason and she very quickly invalidates how I feel, and I don't quite think she understands my frustrations. She has 2 people that she can go to for sex, 1 person is going to say yes and she'll get what she wants, I however only have her so if I get a no I'm just fucked. Now I could masturbate but it's just not the same and doesn't fullfil what I need at the time so I go on to be angry, frustrated, irritable, and so on.

Now I don't know what to do. The thing is she doesn't even realize that she does these things so I can't entirely get mad at her. She's just kinda dumb and stubborn.

Submitted April 05, 2019 at 06:20PM

So me and my girlfriend have recently opened our relationship to include someone else. It is MMF and I don't feel like it is equal at this point. It is a new experience to me and I like concept don't get me wrong, when it's good it's very good.At this point I don't feel like my girlfriend tells me everything that I should know and I almost never get cuddles or affections unless I go out of my way to ask because I am visibly upset. Even when she does give attention it feels like she doesn't really want to be around me. Whenever she has sex with me she rushes it everytime and I don't enjoy it, I've actually started turning sex down because it doesn't feel right. Wether it's out of guilt or any other emotion it doesn't feel like she's doing it because she wants to and that is an experience that leaves me more upset than when I was before. My sex drive is also very high so I suffer even on good days.I'm so angry and upset and in the 4 times I've expressed my emotions to her she just tells me that she hasn't changed and that she is being equal and that she is sexually frustrated a lot as well. What she isn't seeing is that I feel the way I feel for a reason and she very quickly invalidates how I feel, and I don't quite think she understands my frustrations. She has 2 people that she can go to for sex, 1 person is going to say yes and she'll get what she wants, I however only have her so if I get a no I'm just fucked. Now I could masturbate but it's just not the same and doesn't fullfil what I need at the time so I go on to be angry, frustrated, irritable, and so on.Now I don't know what to do. The thing is she doesn't even realize that she does these things so I can't entirely get mad at her. She's just kinda dumb and stubborn.