I've been alone pretty much my whole life, and by miracle I met this person in a mental institution. We have been talking for 3~4 months now and I'm totally in love with her. We were going out and planning on dating later on since we were focussing on our mental health. One day she tells me that she doesn't want to date anymore because she doesn't think she'll ever fall in love with me. She says she loves me emotionally and romantically, but that she wants to get over those feelings since she doesn't see herself falling in love. I don't want to be insisting but I can't deal with the idea that she might get a boyfriend and I won't be spending the rest of my life by her side, I respect her choice but it hurts, I don't know what to do. I apologise for wasting your time. Submitted October 11, 2019 at 12:11AM I've been alone pretty much my whole life, and by miracle I met this person in a mental institution. We have been talking for 3~4 ...

Love is never equal. Loving someone is never give and take all the same. It's never 50/50, it's never one for one. Love is knowing that somedays, you have to be the one that loves more. The one that sets aside your worries, because it's your turn to be the pillar. It's saying I love you without expecting it to be returned right then. Love is taking turns to be there for each other, to care for each other. Love isn't fair, and it never will be. But when you carry life's burdens together, that's love and you'll be okay. Submitted October 11, 2019 at 12:13AM Love is never equal.Loving someone is never give and take all the same. It's never 50/50, it's never one for one.Love is knowing that somedays, you have to be the one that loves more. The one that sets aside your worries, because it's your turn to be the pillar. It's saying I love you without expecting it to be returned right then.Love is taking turns to be there for each othe...

I totally understand that line of reasoning, but it always felt more natural to me to be friends first and then date despite those risks. October 11, 2019 at 12:26AM

I see myself in this and I don’t like it October 11, 2019 at 12:15AM

It inherently is but it’s a good way to separate the communists from the capitalists (not anarchists but whatever). October 11, 2019 at 12:15AM

Hey thanks for your reply. It sounds almost like another commenter above you - that with romantic love you feel that infatuation feeling and you don’t get that with platonic love. Your example is interesting to me because with the romantic love you clearly had no sexual or even sensual attraction. While you do like cuddling with your platonic friends - and even your QPP. I’m still mulling that over. Were you ever infatuated with your QPP? Or something close to that? I’m just curious because you explain your QPP as someone you have more than platonic but not quite for... October 11, 2019 at 12:13AM

So my girlfriend is on a 2 week work trip on the other side of the world. Over the last 1.5 years or so since we moved in together, we've spent almost 0 actual time apart. This has been mostly due to life circumstances (we moved to a new city together, and our lives have become pretty much entirely intermingled). It was pretty obvious early on in our relationship that I'm someone who usually needs a fair amount of independence & space to be happy...while I think she's pretty happy being in near constant communication most of the time. We talked & worked through this as best we could. Eventually I sort of just got used to always being around each other after we moved in. But I honestly think lack of breathing room has taken a toll on our relationship, as we've been fighting/arguing more and more over stupid stuff. The last month has gotten especially bad with the bickering. We both agreed this work trip would be a good much-needed break from each other. In m...

My close friend of 2 years has been doing things that aren't too crazy, but a little off putting. For example, she has a bf and they live together but she tends to hide me from him. At first I thought maybe the guy is the jealous type. Which in that case I can back off and not hang out with her as much. But I recently met him and he had no idea we would hang out. He was fine with us going places to eat, going to the bar, etc. So I asked her why she hadn't told him and she said she just doesn't mention those things to him cause it's not important. About 3 days ago she asked to hangout by going to the pier and eating clam chowder. I'm okay cool let's go. As we drive up there she asks if I wouldn't mind taking a detour. At first I said I didn't mind. Then as an hour passes I realize I don't know where we are. We get to this hill and I guess she wanted to watch the sunset. We go outside the car and sit on the hood. She started shivering so I gave her m...

The title sounds really, really bad. And I get it. I would scoff at a title like that too and just scream “dump him” at my screen but hear me out. I’ve met this guy two weeks ago at an event, we’ve started talking nonstop and it seems like we just clicked. We’re both living in our university dorms so naturally we see a LOT of each other which sort of gives the two weeks a heavier weight? if that makes sense. Anyways, one thing I should mention is that this guy is super super attractive. He’s a solid 10. I don’t like to think about my looks or any of that because in the past I was deeply insecure and jt affected almost every aspect of my life, so I just avoid thinking about it altogether. I’d say I’m Okay looking. I know this sounds pathetic but it helps put things into perspective. So first time we went out he wouldn’t get this food item because it was too expensive, so I offered to pay for it since I basically dragged him to this place bc I thought there’d be food there. He bought...

Ugh this is going to be a long one but I’ll try to summarize it all in my TLDR. So I’ve been with my boyfriend (27M) for a little over a year now. We are co workers at a small company. Been there for 3 years. When we first met, I didn’t think anything of him. I wasn’t interested in dating anyone at all. We had small interactions and he had a girlfriend at the time. He was always inviting me to parties and asking about my personal life. I thought he was a friendly guy but I wasn’t attracted to him at all. In fact, I didn’t really find him appealing in all honesty. So I thought nothing of these interactions. A year goes by and I start hanging around him and his group of friends because we had a really fun night out on one of our business trips. He starts wanting to talk to me privately and he says he wants to “get to know me”. I didn’t think anything of it but then he kind of starts pushing boundaries and asks for a hug every time we stop talking. He asks if I think he’s attractive and...

We have been married for at least 10 years. I’m not sure when things shifted but whenever she is mad or doesn’t get her way she treats me like crap. I’m kinda hiding in the garage right now because she kept confronting me about what was wrong and I told her she terrified me. I don’t think she is going to get physically violent but emotionally abusive for sure. Now it’s going to turn into some thing where I either forgive her and forget my feelings or she’s going to probably start yelling soon and explaining how this is all somehow my fault. I’d leave but I want to be able to see my children. TL;DR i am afraid of my wife and not sure what to do. Submitted October 10, 2019 at 11:55PM We have been married for at least 10 years. I’m not sure when things shifted but whenever she is mad or doesn’t get her way she treats me like crap.I’m kinda hiding in the garage right now because she kept confronting me about what was wrong and I told her she terrified me.I don’t think she is g...

Context: we dated for 5 months and she broke up with me due to the circumstance of summer (we go to uni together). Nearly 4 months later, I’m still not over her; we were each other’s first love and I thought what we had was really special. No big betrayal led to the breakup, it was just her struggling to maintain the LDR and my poor handling of a push-pull scenario. What kept me in limbo all this time were the things she said on the way out “I love you,” “you’re the best boyfriend I’ve ever had,” “I can’t believe I’m letting you go,” etc. I reached out a little over a week ago, in a good headspace, because I thought I’d miss her less and get a little bit of closure. I knew she wasn’t going to reach out, as my friends told her it wasn’t a good idea to a few weeks ago. We went to dinner last night, and I went in with an open mind. I can positively say there’s still something there. We caught up, talked of new developments in life, reminisced, and generally had a great time: nearly two ...

We’re 22 now, and I haven’t seen him since I was 18. I had a huge crush on him for 6 years of secondary school. We weren’t in the same school (mine was a girl’s school), but we saw each other daily. Apparently he had a crush on me back then (he even asked me out, but I was going through a lot at the time, and his friends were bullying me so I didn’t believe him). I was going to message him as like, closure, and I feel like he wasn’t very confident in himself so it might be a nice ego boost to know? I always thought I’d see him around after because it’s a small town, and even when we moved away people come back to visit, but I never saw him around, and now it feels like - unfinished business? I also have no way of knowing what way his life went after, just that he went to university, and he met my friends at a pub a few weeks after we left school and took a selfie with them to send to me. I don’t want him to think I’m being a creep/expecting anything, so I’m mostly worried it’d give ...

Today I have been to Maastricht University to take part in a psychological study (Virtual Reality study). In the study, I had to watch a crime scene in VR and later an investigator (real person) comes to interrogate me. When the investigator (F26 or so) came into the room, I was starstuck looking at her! The investigator is damn so beautiful, charming, confident, firm and so attractive person. We introduced each other little bit but I couldn't really forget her face. Her face was just bright and shinning!!! I wanted to tell her that she is a charming person but I didn't because it would be creepy, inappropriate, make her feel uncomfortable and probably she heard it a lot. I just left the room with a huge smile in my face! She made my day and I'm really impressed how beautiful human creation could be!! Cheers to the girl I met! :)) TL;DR : I met a girl and I found her special but didn't open up to her and she made my day!! Submitted October 11, 2019 at 12:12AM T...

Sorry for such a long post, and Honestly, it's not really complicated, it's just agreed that we will be friends, and I need some advice. Some backstory - I dated this girl from 1/21/18 until somewhere in the middle of summer this year. Her family had immigration issues so she was living alone in the US for her senior year (2018-2019 hs senior, I was junior when she was a senior). Because of that, we were together, a LOT. It basically felt like we were married/living together... anyways, college comes and she is attending uni in the UK so her family can more easily visit her. We talked about long distance, and we were back and forth, and decided to not pursue that because she was on a med degree track and won't graduate until 2025, and even then, there is no guarantee that she can return to practice in the US (foreign degrees aren't as well looked upon in the US). She is loving her new life in the UK, and has said that an option is for her to remain in the UK after gra...

I was making throwaway accounts for some of our problems and I think that only once I was the one overreacting in the situation, according to this subreddit. I wanna start by talking about the good things now: 2 years together, long-distance for 1 year. I can be childish with him. We can cuddle together forever and baby talk without feeling uncomfortable. We talk about our day during the day, we buy each other gifts, send each other cards and play games together. He taught me chess and how to properly train in the gym. He supports me. He takes care of me when I’m sick and gets panicked when I’m unwell. He tells me I’m beautiful. He goes down on me. He puts the laptop on the window sill to show me the fireworks and we laugh a lot, we always laugh and we can be silly together. We like hiking and visiting new places, we have the same taste in music the same lifestyle, and we have similar views regarding our future. He wants to marry me. Now quickly, the bad things : he once called me u...

I feel this! That moment when you realize that sex is what drives people to do things (write songs, commit crime, etc) and that its literally EVERYWHERE... was a shocking moment to me October 11, 2019 at 12:10AM

I'm sorry I hate to disagree here but I don't like dating friends either - because I don't want to lose a friend when I break up :( But then again I cant date someone without being friends first... I think I'm just cursed 😢 October 11, 2019 at 12:07AM

I (22m) joined a club at uni, it's more girls than guys. Had a lot of fun drinking with them. Thought it might be worth mentioning I do have a social life, so "get out more" and "put yourself out there" comments please don't. I'm already doing that. ​ I still kinda feel invisible to women tho. Bar crawls, clubs, not even a hint of interest from a single member of the opposite sex. I can approach but I don't know how to flirt. I don't know how to generate interest from women, seems like something I'll never figure out. P.S. Asperger's, skinny and babyface Submitted October 10, 2019 at 11:31PM I (22m) joined a club at uni, it's more girls than guys.Had a lot of fun drinking with them. Thought it might be worth mentioning I do have a social life, so "get out more" and "put yourself out there" comments please don't. I'm already doing that.​I still kinda feel invisible to women tho. Bar crawls, clubs,...

I (25f) dated a guy (30m) for a couple months or so. We never became official, but we broke things off when we realized our sex drives weren’t compatible. However, I still really like him a lot. He’s still been calling me pet names pretty often, so I’m wondering if he feels the same? Submitted October 10, 2019 at 11:37PM I (25f) dated a guy (30m) for a couple months or so. We never became official, but we broke things off when we realized our sex drives weren’t compatible. However, I still really like him a lot. He’s still been calling me pet names pretty often, so I’m wondering if he feels the same?

I [20F] started seeing a guy [19M] a few weeks ago. We met because he was working at a store I went into and thought he was cute so I left my number. Turns out we hit off pretty well. After texting a little we decide to hang out for the first time. We plan for him to come over around 6 and we go for coffee. He arrives just after, we get in his car and he tells me he has to leave around 7 because something came up for his sister's birthday and he has to meet them at the movies; this gave us about 40 minutes to actually hang out. It sucked, but I thought, it's family. Plus the drive to my place is about 40 minutes from his so I thought it was sweet that he still drove out instead of cancelling. We hang out again a couple days later. Right around the time he should've started heading over he says he's going to arrive late because he has to help his friend move. Alright. Arrives an hour or two late. We hang out and have a great time. Chat about hobbies and I mention I re...

Hey, so first time ever posting on reddit. Anyways I’m in my first year at college and there’s this really cute guy in my English class, but I don’t know how to even talk to him because he sits all the way in the other side of the class. I was hoping y’all could just give me some tips on how to approach him or have him approach me? All I know about him is his name and that he plays for the school soccer team. Btw I’ve never been in a relationship :/ so this is a new thing for me. I would appreciate any tips! Submitted October 10, 2019 at 11:52PM Hey, so first time ever posting on reddit. Anyways I’m in my first year at college and there’s this really cute guy in my English class, but I don’t know how to even talk to him because he sits all the way in the other side of the class. I was hoping y’all could just give me some tips on how to approach him or have him approach me? All I know about him is his name and that he plays for the school soccer team. Btw I’ve never been in a rel...

Guy I’ve [26 F] recently been dating [32 M] is really nice and open to communication and overall a lot better than my previous boyfriends. He comes off as a bit insecure which I initially liked because my ex could an overly confident and cocky narcissist. We’ve been hanging out for about a month. We spend most of our time just us two at each other’s places. He seems a bit shy sometimes but overall more comfortable around me. We’ve had very mature, adult conversations in private and the sex is great- he seems confident in that area. But when we do go out, he can act quite silly and it comes off to me as childish/irritating. I have a fear of marrying someone who is less like a partner and feels more like another one of my children. So I think it’s maybe tapping into that fear. I worry how he will be around my family and friends. Maybe it’s just anxiety based? Any ideas of how to get this under control on my end? Should I end things because I’m feeling this way? I don’t want him to fee...