I’m 25 years old, I’ve dated some amazing people and I’ve dated some abusive people, my relationships have gone up and down, most of them ending on good terms. I have a hard time letting go of my abuser, but I keep him at arm length and continue to wear my heart on my sleeve. I stayed celibate for 5 years after my first abusive relationship, sex was used as a weapon for me through out my life, I’ve rarely had sex because it was my idea, I was either convinced or would agree though I didn’t really want to. I wanted my next sexual experience to be special and with my significant other should I ever have that happen. I got out of another abusive relationship with my current ex, we lived far from each other and he ghosted me out of the blue, I’ve been hanging out with friends and unlearning bad coping skills, but I cant seem to establish a relationship with someone I’m interested in that isn’t a strictly sexual relationship. It’s like I want to have sexual relationships, that are fun an...

I’ve been dating someone for 8 weeks now, and for my birthday I’m getting a trip away (another country). I’d like to ask him if he wants to come with me (this will be all be paid for), but I’m not quite sure how to approach the subject - I’m nervous! As a guy, how would you suggest I approach this? Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:27PM I’ve been dating someone for 8 weeks now, and for my birthday I’m getting a trip away (another country).I’d like to ask him if he wants to come with me (this will be all be paid for), but I’m not quite sure how to approach the subject - I’m nervous!As a guy, how would you suggest I approach this?

I've been seeing this girl everywhere lately (we don't know each other). Type of deal that makes you question if there are things that are simply meant to be. We never talked prior to today, we did a lot of looking at each other every time. Fast forward to today... So I went to dink coffee and as I entered she was sitting at the first table. I kinda glanced while passing through and she was smiling while looking at me. I passed by, went to bathroom and went outside where my table was. She was facing other direction, but at one point she glanced at my direction, not directly. I was minding my bussines, but at one point I was like I'm a go to my car, than return and introduce myself.. So that was what I did. When I returned she and her friend were exiting, so I reacted. I shook her hand and intorduced myself (saying considering we see each other so often it made sense). She smiled and said she hadn't noticed that we've seen each other (which it 99procent a lie)). So ...

I (M 21) followed a girl I thought was very cute on instagram last year. I had seen her at a party once, and a few times around my college campus. We've never talked and anytime I see her in person or even when she posts something, I always think about talking to her. I've decided it's time I reach out to her, but I've never reached out to someone like this before. I'm afraid anything I say to start the conversation will seem weird since we don't actually know each other. I know she's big into track/cross country and I do play a club sport at our college. I'd imagine we have some mutual friend since I saw her at the party hosted by some of my friends. But overall I have no idea how to approach this. Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:28PM I (M 21) followed a girl I thought was very cute on instagram last year. I had seen her at a party once, and a few times around my college campus. We've never talked and anytime I see her in person or even whe...

Just to clarify, I (27 M) am talking about a coworker and I have strict policy against dating coworkers but I’m a little curious. (I’m pretty certain she’s a few years younger than me) Some reasons why I ask: I’ve caught her looking at me a few times and when I do sh smiles and waves. One time at the corner of my eye I swear I saw her looking in my direction for a total of 8 seconds (I was counting) we haven’t spoken much but the times we have, she laughs at things I say. She’s a pretty and sweet girl, and I treat her with the same kindness and respect as I do all my fellow employees. As I said I don’t plan on making any moves but just curious. Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:31PM Just to clarify, I (27 M) am talking about a coworker and I have strict policy against dating coworkers but I’m a little curious. (I’m pretty certain she’s a few years younger than me)Some reasons why I ask:I’ve caught her looking at me a few times and when I do sh smiles and waves.One tim...

I am asking this as a girl who has quite a few friends on Facebook, but is not active on my own profile. I begrudgingly use social media to comment and like my friends stuff and keep in contact with them and happenings in my community. Is this a turn off to you if a girl doesn’t have a lot of selfies and posts? Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:34PM I am asking this as a girl who has quite a few friends on Facebook, but is not active on my own profile. I begrudgingly use social media to comment and like my friends stuff and keep in contact with them and happenings in my community. Is this a turn off to you if a girl doesn’t have a lot of selfies and posts?

I (25M) have been seeing her (27F) for almost 3 months now. She has recently been hit with a few struggles such as a past abusive ex court case and her dog passing away. She has become more distant and less talkative towards me. Our conversations have dwindled to maybe a sentence or two in text every other day. I can see that she is struggling, and I have been patient and tried to be supportive on the side. But I am unsure if her lack of replies and somewhat ignoring me is something I should bring up to her. Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:48PM I (25M) have been seeing her (27F) for almost 3 months now. She has recently been hit with a few struggles such as a past abusive ex court case and her dog passing away. She has become more distant and less talkative towards me. Our conversations have dwindled to maybe a sentence or two in text every other day. I can see that she is struggling, and I have been patient and tried to be supportive on the side. But I am unsure if her lack of ...

Sooo I (27/M) met this woman (26/F) off of Hinge (I liked her picture, she made the initial conversation) after conversing. I suggested we meet up. For our first date, we had dinner at a pizza place, which went pretty well. We talked nonstop for two hours. Funny thing is while I did have a good time, I completely forgot to mention her that I would like to see her again and didn't reach out until 4 days later. Though did I text her right after our date that I had a great time and hope she got home safe. Please cut me some slack as I haven't dated in forever, or if ever. I was under the impression she would reach out to me first LOL. But luckily, she did respond and said she would be down for a second date. The second date went well I thought. We went to mini-golfing/arcade. We were so busy talking that we almost forgot at some point we were mini golfing. Lots of joking and sarcasm. However, I didn't do anything "intimate" such as holding hands. I gave her a side...

I've seen alot of them on YouTube and even though I wouldn't say I want to pay for one myself. Some of their free advice seems to be helpful. Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:54PM I've seen alot of them on YouTube and even though I wouldn't say I want to pay for one myself. Some of their free advice seems to be helpful.

I’ve been using online dating apps for years now without much luck. The past few months, it’s basically been crickets. I know that guys where I live have lots more options than women. What tips are there for me to stand out? Would it be beneficial for me to say I’m open for casual (even though I’m not), as that seems to be the thing here? I haven’t had sex in years, only kissed someone once each year, and I’d really just like some company. I’m just not into hooking up and one night stands but I’m wondering if having a detailed profile and expectations of going on real dates is even realistic. I present myself as thoughtful, supportive, caring, well rounded/ educated woman, but I’m not sure guys care about this at all. Seems like they want fun girls who are down for whatever. The last few decent looking, local guys near my age (30s/40s) who asked to meet up with me, invited me directly to their apartment. One was gracious enough to offer to cover the Uber fare or maybe meet me at a b...

I (24) love my GF (23), she’s the first person I fell in love with and we have been together for 11 months. But I have been having doubts on and off about the relationship for the past 2-3 months. We’re both introverts who love to stay in and watch movies or go out to places we think are fun together on weekends. She makes me laugh, is super sweet/nice and I trust her 100%. My issue is she’s lacks ambition in her career, mostly because she’s insecure about everything. Even about our relationship. She’ll constantly say I love you or ask me if I had fun (usually multiple times a day) to reassure herself that I do. We’ve had a few serious conversations about how she’s amazing at her job and could easily progress if she wanted and how I love her and to be more confident in us. She also acts childish at times in the sense that she’ll talk like a little girl or make noises a little child would make. At first I thought this was cute but now I sort of view her as younger than she is and imma...

24M here who met a 23F on Bumble. I think the girl is smart and funny , and sort of attractive in certain lights. Sadly our first date went very well and I sayl sadly because we kissed a little much along with foreplay and basically had foreplay sex. For me of course at the time I had fun but I dont know what to do now. We went on the second date and did the the diry deed. 3rd date was just a wholesome walk. I am new to dating, am I allowed to see other girls? Submitted August 27, 2019 at 12:01AM 24M here who met a 23F on Bumble. I think the girl is smart and funny , and sort of attractive in certain lights. Sadly our first date went very well and I sayl sadly because we kissed a little much along with foreplay and basically had foreplay sex. For me of course at the time I had fun but I dont know what to do now. We went on the second date and did the the diry deed. 3rd date was just a wholesome walk. I am new to dating, am I allowed to see other girls?

I originally posted this on r/relationship_advice Hey everyone. My ex (20M) and I (28F) have been broken up for two months, and it's been super stressful on me. For a bit of backstory, we were together for 6 months, and while everything wasn't sunshine and rainbows, we were still really, really happy with one another. My ex once told me I was the best thing to ever happen to him. A quick TLDR of our relationship works like this: his depression started to go into a downward spiral, and he was angioshed for weeks before bringing up a possibility of us breaking up. Of course I didn't want him to! So we talked about it, but eventually he would feel like too much of an asshole to keep up our relationship. He cared about me to much to, in his eyes, hurt me by being emotionally distant while he works on his shit. My ex is a man who bottles his emotions inside, but who has a huge heart. He treated me so, so well, and I never understood just how horribly he was feeling until he ...

So I have been on hanging out with a guy a couple of times, we both enjoy spending time together, in fact he made time to hang out this weekend even though his uncle was in town and he had to hang out with him and his parents. The thing is that I want to hang out with him again but we have already a date planned, to hang out next week which I last week got tickets to since we are going to an event. Should I ask him if he wants to hang out this week or should I wait since we already have a date planned? Submitted August 27, 2019 at 12:03AM So I have been on hanging out with a guy a couple of times, we both enjoy spending time together, in fact he made time to hang out this weekend even though his uncle was in town and he had to hang out with him and his parents. The thing is that I want to hang out with him again but we have already a date planned, to hang out next week which I last week got tickets to since we are going to an event. Should I ask him if he wants to hang out this ...

Sometimes there's a fine line between the three. Any tips to help differentiate them? Submitted August 27, 2019 at 12:04AM Sometimes there's a fine line between the three.Any tips to help differentiate them?

This stereotype is very spread even though it's becoming less popular lately. Submitted August 27, 2019 at 12:05AM This stereotype is very spread even though it's becoming less popular lately.

A while back my girlfriend of over 2 years broke up with me. We werent some ordinary teenager couple. We hate pda, we hated really anything any other things that kids did. She broke up with me out of random. Ive been on vacation for about a month and she told me she was crying from missing me so much the first week i was gone. The night before she broke up with me she was being all lovey and mushy and normal with me. Then the next morning she broke up with me. It was just really out of random. The first couple days i was basically a vegtable, not eating, blah blah. She broke up with me because she wanted me to not rely on her for being happy. She saved me from suicide btw. Ive gotten happier as the month has gone by but recently ive gotten really sad again. I wrote in a journal the first couple days but that can only go so far. I just felt empty. I know she misses me. A couple days ago i wrote out this 5 page note thing. Which initally started as a suicide note, but i though about my ...

I (21M) met this girl (18F) on Instagram, she agreed to go out on a first date. It was incredible, no awkward silences, we seemed to hit it off. We spent it driving around talking and listening to music and then dinner. We had a second date, same thing again except now we've been cuddling the whole ride. For me, everything seemed going perfectly. The issue is that she has to go to her hometown, she finished her studies and internship. I asked her to go out the day before she goes. She responded that she has to spend time with her friend (~18F) and she will try to make some time. It wasn't the first time such a thing happens, while chatting, she would just go and talk to her friend instead and reply late. I decided that if she doesn't make some time to meet before she goes, I would break up with her. That's the least thing I see she can do if she's really interested. At around 19PM, she apologized that she can't make it. I told her that the first two dates we...

tldr; basically the title. And do people generally think the only reason for a relationship is to have kids eventually? Reason why I'm asking : A guy I matched with updated his profile to say that he was looking for someone to start a family with. I've had people tell me I look like "the type you settle down with", so I wasn't surprised when he messaged joking about how our kids will be athletes. I told him that I don't see myself with kids and he immediately said "ok, let's have fun". I want a relationship so I unmatched him, but I've encountered this before: when Bumble rolled out the badges to boast your family plans, I got an influx of guys who immediately asked if I wanted "fun". One said not wanting kids made me undateable, while a couple guys matched just to ask what was the point of dating. Since it seemed impossible for anyone to take me seriously, I took down the "don't want kids" badge, and now just avoid...

I'd like to consider myself a friend of that community. I also try and be respectful of some of their members who feel like we don't fit their criteria even if I disagree. Truthfully I've never really needed that kind of support for myself because my troubles can be addressed rather simply. It's a kind of cold welcome I feel from them at some of the small stuff Ive been to, so I tend not to consider myself a part of it all. August 27, 2019 at 12:07AM

Totally fair. August 27, 2019 at 12:06AM

Asexuality as an orientation is LGBTQ+, but i personally don't identify with LGBTQ+. August 27, 2019 at 12:03AM

me tbh August 26, 2019 at 11:56PM