Hello! I am 32F and have been single on and off for the past 2 years. In a recent conversation with a friend, she suggested that the reason I was single was the area in which I live now. On the one hand she maybe has a point, many of the men I match with work in the oil and gas field and I work in the furthest thing away from that!! Both my previous LTR were with men who work in the oil and gas field, never saw this as a problem before I have to admit! But I dunno... I feel her comment was perhaps a bit mean spirited? I refuse to believe that because I live in a certain area of Scotland I have cursed myself to remain single! I just want to know if any of you have been in a similar situation as me where friends or family advise you that your post code/address is holding you back from finding love? And if they did, did you go on to find love despite this? I feel hopeful that I will find my match and share my life with someone worthy of my time but it’s hard to remain optimistic when ...

Hi! 32F, and am doing the OLD thing for the first time in a while - last time I did it, it was in an unfocused manner - I didn’t know what I wanted/didn’t want much asides from finding “someone I like”. Now, I want that and more (marriage etc), and would like to be able to filter out unsuitable people - being more picky but more open-minded at the same time (for example, being open-minded about going beyond my usual type, which is artsy, intellectual and tall, but less accepting of people who aren’t ready for a relationship, give me bad vibes, making excuses for men etc), and I need some advice how to achieve that balance during the online portion: What to do with the taciturn men? Those with not much in their profile / or those that send “hey, how are you?” messages. I am between: a) giving them the benefit of the doubt - perhaps some people aren’t as expressive as others and aren’t as “marketable” (sorry, threw up in my mouth a little using that word here) or b) take them at fac...

Hi im a 25 year old man and slowly starting to shed my tough shell that i built up after having had a realy realy bad relationship in the past that got me into al sorts of trouble at the age of 16. It has been a rough journey to finding out who i am and trying to be myself and confident i myself. Thing is ive always simply ben a nice kindhearted gentelmen and as such i feel like i should be playing the cute guy a bit more when i try to flirt. Btw im absolutely the worst at social interactions since i have autism yet i feel like if i know what game im playing i can kinda figure out the rules. I tried to put up the tough cool guy act for a while but i just feel like a dick every time i do. Even tho it does sortof get people there attention. Honestly i simply want companionship and someone i can trust im not looking to date. A model i just want someone to love me the same way i love and care for everyone else and as such i want to be atractive for others yet i dont know how. Im simply s...

(M18) my best friends sister told her mom and brother (who’s my bestfriend) that she likes me. I had no idea that she did. Everytime I would go over she would go out of her way to try talking to me. However the only problem is that she’s 16 and I just feel like that’s too young? if she was 17 or 18 I would consider dating her but she’s 16. And well today my bestfriend told me that if I could, to take her sister out on a date, I don’t want to be rude and say no since I’ve know him and his family for years but like I don’t really want to mislead her or anything. I already told him how I feel about the situation but he said his parents don’t mind. What should I do? Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:29PM (M18) my best friends sister told her mom and brother (who’s my bestfriend) that she likes me. I had no idea that she did. Everytime I would go over she would go out of her way to try talking to me. However the only problem is that she’s 16 and I just feel like that’s too young? if...

I'm M(16) and I'm talking this girl that I've know for a while F(17) I just want to get a general knowledge of the relationship site because I don't want to go in there blind and you know mess up the relationship I'm going to have. Any advice from any couple will be great. Also what type of stuff do people talk about before they even think of dating. Just general knowledge and deep knowledge if anybody can help. Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:33PM I'm M(16) and I'm talking this girl that I've know for a while F(17) I just want to get a general knowledge of the relationship site because I don't want to go in there blind and you know mess up the relationship I'm going to have. Any advice from any couple will be great. Also what type of stuff do people talk about before they even think of dating. Just general knowledge and deep knowledge if anybody can help.

Stay away from dating sites until you get rid of your boring, old plain personality. It’s like some of these people grew up in a farm in the middle of nowhere or in a town of only 50 people. Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:43PM Stay away from dating sites until you get rid of your boring, old plain personality. It’s like some of these people grew up in a farm in the middle of nowhere or in a town of only 50 people.

Sorry I'm under 6ft and skinny Sorry I am average looking at best Sorry I am poor and don't have anything Sorry I have depression and anxiety and will probably fail school as a result Sorry I don't go to the gym and drive a nice car Sorry I am shy and have low self esteem Sorry my humor is weird... ...Sorry I am not good enough in your eyes and I'll never be enough, it's okay though, just something I'll have to accept. Submitted October 31, 2020 at 12:12AM Sorry I'm under 6ft and skinnySorry I am average looking at bestSorry I am poor and don't have anythingSorry I have depression and anxiety and will probably fail school as a resultSorry I don't go to the gym and drive a nice carSorry I am shy and have low self esteemSorry my humor is weird......Sorry I am not good enough in your eyes and I'll never be enough, it's okay though, just something I'll have to accept.

So, I'm new here, hi! I'm a 28 year old guy (about to turn 29 in November- fuck ) who's kind of been out of the dating scene for a while. I've tried to dip my toes back in here and there, but haven't really taken it seriously. For context, I was dating someone that I worked with back in 2017, she was a mom, divorced, and had dated another guy I never knew about after she got out of her marriage. He was a drug addict and irresponsible from the sounds of it. They lived together for sometime and he helped with her kids (why she let someone actively abusing substances and not being in a stable state of mind around her kids is something that will always escape me). So, he got locked up before her and I started dating, she never mentioned him-not once until close to when he was getting out, and decided she needed to tell me about him in case she decided to let him be around her kids. I was respectful but very, very hesitant. I always knew the boundaries she has as a par...

21F here, I was dating a 20M who i met through a mutual friend. we got on super well, the dates were good, we even spoke on the phone for hours some nights, and messaged throughout the days. the chemistry was great and we had so much fun on our dates. i really thought we would be together honestly, and after a lot of bad luck with men i thought that streak had finally ended. but i was wrong apparently! so it all went downhill after we slept together. yep! u can already guess. we had sex, all was well during and after, nothing felt different and i went on my merry way. but a couple days after, he basically stops messaging me, only replying once every 24 hours or so. his energy COMPLETELY changed, and i asked whats going on to which he said he's just busy and tired. it's been over a week of this now and we haven't spoken for 2 days, and i really fear the worst; that he just wanted to sleep with me. this brings me to my main point of this post: I want to address this somehow...

Hi all, 29 y/o M here. Recently I've been trying online dating due to circumstances outside of my control (COVID making it hard to meet new people and work moving me every few months). I've had more than one occasion where a girl that I'm seeing happens to flake out on a date a few hours before it happens. In one situation I had arranged a phone date with a girl I met on Tinder early in the week. Picked a time and date on Friday and she gave me her number. We kept texting daily over the course of the week like normal. Then on Friday afternoon a few hours prior to our phone date I asked if we were still on. Apparently she made other plans because she didn't hear from me regarding the date again and assumed it wasn't happening. Should I be confirming dates with girls frequently? It feels really bizarre to me that people would assume a date isn't happening because they haven't heard it brought up again instead of just asking the other person. Submitt...

He canceled within hours after receiving nudes from me. I’ve been used sexually in the past, so I do not take that feeling lightly. When he canceled, he said it had to do with his emotions and made no means of rescheduling, so it made me feel like he was lying. I tried to play it cool, until he asked me if I was sure that I was ok. I decided to be straight up about it and tell him how I was feeling, but I’m afraid that I may of overreacted in the process. I attempted to drop it soon on to avoid an overreaction, so I left him on read in order to process it first. He sent a double message to ask if I was mad, so I responded to tell him that I wasn’t mad, just embarrassed. After a few message exchanges, I started to feel silly, so I apologized. I’m usually capable of controlling my emotions, but I couldn’t ignore the gut feeling that I had. I personally never cancel on people, but I know that not everyone is like me. If he had canceled under different pretenses, I would’ve been ok with i...

I’ve been seeing this guy for a month now, we don’t see each other often (just once a week) but we enjoy a lot spending time together and he invites me to work from home at his place, we have dinner, cuddle, watch movies so it’s not just sex. We had the “talk” and we don’t want anything serious, so I know he’s not seeing me to pursue a long term relationship in that sense Last time I saw him was Monday and I really want to spend time with him, even just to be together and not have sex, since I’m on my period. Would it be strange for him? Do I have to tell him before hand? I don’t fear he’s appalled by the idea of women menstruating ahah but rather because he might be disappointed that we won’t have sex that day, since we’re on something casual Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:24PM I’ve been seeing this guy for a month now, we don’t see each other often (just once a week) but we enjoy a lot spending time together and he invites me to work from home at his place, we have dinner,...

I'm a 26 year-old guy who recently just got out of the relationship I had been in since I was 18. Basically I'm looking for general dating advice / how to meet women before I get back out there, as I've never really dated outside of that one relationship. For reference I'm decent-looking, more of an introvert than extrovert, and work as a resident doctor (which unfortunately means I have less free time than the average person). Seems like dating apps are the way to go now. Any suggestions on one over the other? Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:29PM I'm a 26 year-old guy who recently just got out of the relationship I had been in since I was 18. Basically I'm looking for general dating advice / how to meet women before I get back out there, as I've never really dated outside of that one relationship.For reference I'm decent-looking, more of an introvert than extrovert, and work as a resident doctor (which unfortunately means I have less free time...

So thats thestory (24M). I love(d) a girl (23F), which I met about 1.5yrs ago. We instantly connected and spend a lot of time together. Basically, I was extremely happy, looked forward to see her and to do stuff together, which is otherwise unlikely for me, because even though I would say that it is rather easy for me to connect with people, I also get easily bored, need plenty time for myself alone, and struggle to keep platonic relationships up for a long time. So I have a lot of vague friends, but basically no really close ones I would trust or open myself to. To continue the story I confessed my feelings to her after a few weeks and got "soft-rejected" the first time -speaking she said she is still into her ex. So we first stayed friends and after I felt she was open to something I tried again, but got actually real rejected - as she said we can still be "good friends", but we never recovered. It was akward for a bit, but as I see her at work the relationship ...

So a little back story and I’ll try to keep it short: Earlier in the month I(F23) reached out to someone(M27), someone I dated for 3 years in a pretty wonderful relationship but because of “wrong place, wrong time” sort of reasons near the end, I had to break it off, which was really hard. And a couple months later we sort of had a thing for a few months, but it was really emotionally unhealthy for the both of us, he just wanted to be friends and really unsure what he wanted I think but I was really immature and pushing that I wanted to get back with him. Overall, regardless of anything I think the both of us just weren’t ready to date anyone yet and still healing from the first breakup. So, we decided it was best if we stopped talking just to give ourselves time to heal. And it had been well over a year when I contacted him again for the first time, because I was in a much better place and I genuinely wanted to have him back in my life as a friend. It’s not often you find people w...

This question probably gets asked a lot, but I’ve [21M] been on 2-3 dates a week with this girl [21F] for over a month. We’ve taken things pretty slow because we are both introverted, but the past week every time we see each other has ended up with a lot of kissing/making out. (Tbh I’m surprised we started making out this fast bc it took me 3 weeks to even hold her hand lol) last night she told me she really liked me. I feel the same way, so the next time I see her would it be appropriate to ask about putting a title on it? And if so, how would I go about doing it? (Also as an FYI I’ve seen a lot of people say after you’ve had sex and been together for months etc is the time to make it official but we both believe in abstinence so making out is probably the furthest we’ll take it) Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:31PM This question probably gets asked a lot, but I’ve [21M] been on 2-3 dates a week with this girl [21F] for over a month. We’ve taken things pretty slow because we a...

Hey guys so I [M 19] have feelings for a friend [F 19] and long story she doesn’t know how she feels about me and just wanted to be friends and see where things go, while I wanted something less platonic. This led us to having a long talk about our feelings and how we care about each other but me saying we can’t be friends so i can get over her. However we have mutual friends so I saw her often and she texted me every other day at least. I also found out through a mutual friend of ours that she talks about me and asks her friend what we did when I hang out with the friend. She also said to her that there’s a chance we could be something in the future. We also watch a show at there house weekly and when we go we sit together on the couch pretty close, and yesterday she was leaning in to me while my arm was around the couch (sorta around her). As well as little things like her looking at my lips when we talk, body language, flirty talking, her trying to hangout with me / set things up,...

For a while I have foolishly dismissed other people's idea on online dating. My own experience clouded my judgement. My own ability to break up with someone three weeks ago and find a nice guy the next made me ignorant to many people's disadvantages. Psssh well I can find someone why can't you, it must be you. Foolishly I dismiss the majorities experience believing that my outlier experience is what will happen to everyone sooner or later. That is not true. I finally get it, online dating doesn't work for many. And it isn't because everyone sucks, or everyone is doing it wrong. It is because it is designed to help the few. For many (majority actually) it is an endless cesspool of incompatibility, no reactions, and people too rude to properly tell you what they want. I will say this I don't think this is how humans were meant to connect, interact, or fall in love. It is robotic, based on shallow things, and puts the already disadvantaged at a even more of a di...

I don't know how much of backstory is relevant but I'm deep in my own head and could use a fresh POV. In June I ended an unhealthy 10 year relationship with someone I loved, my only ever relationship. I moved to England and unexpectedly met this girl on a dating app. Wasn't expecting anything, but we clicked immediately. Had hours-long phone calls and texted frequently leading up to our first date, where we made out a bit and made future plans. 2 months and several dates later, that has been our only physical interaction. She stopped texting nearly as much, except to arrange meet-ups. I tried to kiss her again on date 5-ish but was rejected, saying she was in a weird place. Radio silence for 10 days, I was thinking we were done and started to move on. And she hits me up for another meet-up, which goes amazing again, but I was embarrassed after the previous rejection and didn't try anything. After another good date, I left town for a few weeks. We were texting more wh...

guys and girls (including the ones using online dating) i need your attention! recently i have being sooo many posts with relation to people giving up on dating (be it online or the other way) and honestly i have no one to blame but you people out there who literally just disappear out of these people's life! honestly get a grip of yourself people! why tf would you swipe right on these people in the first place? to give them false hopes? why would you lead them on initially? to make them feel soo low abt themselves when they get rejected? like can this just stop for once? you guys have just spoilt the main concept of online dating in total! i do know that dating apps consist of a lot of people who are looking for either hookups and a few people who r looking for a serious relationship, but people this doesn't mean you play around with the app. don't agree to making plans if you really don't like the person! rather what you guys actually do is end up ghosting these lov...

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So basically I like this guy and I sort of met him through joining a poker society but now I’m not sure how to initiate a conversation because of how the poker nights go. For context, it’s kind of a hit or miss situation when going to these poker nights because I could end up on the same table as the guy, or on a completely different table with other people. I do see him sometimes when I’m walking somewhere because I live on campus, but it’s kind of awkward because I don’t know him well enough to say hi. That and I am quite shy with new people so it’s kind of a tricky situation. So, I’m not sure if I have a chance to be able to talk to this guy. Submitted October 31, 2020 at 12:15AM So basically I like this guy and I sort of met him through joining a poker society but now I’m not sure how to initiate a conversation because of how the poker nights go.For context, it’s kind of a hit or miss situation when going to these poker nights because I could end up on the same table as th...

A friend and I hung out. We joke around a lot. This is a convo that happened when we were sitting very close alone on a small bench. Me: Sorry! apologizing for touching him after he told me not do touch him (I sincerely wasn’t trying to push him to do anything he was uncomfortable with. I was just very attracted to him that day. My subconscious kept insisting I touch him while in conversation. I apologized every time I touched him.) Him: One of these times, I’m just gonna leave go off, yell and leave! Me: in a sarcastic and funny tone If you did that, I’d cry. I’m cryinnnnnggg. Him: said in a light hearted way If you keep touching me, I’m gonna make you cry. Me: starts blushing It got quiet between the both of us. Then we moved onto something else. Was he flirting with me? Submitted October 31, 2020 at 12:16AM A friend and I hung out. We joke around a lot. This is a convo that happened when we were sitting very close alone on a small bench.Me: Sorry! apologizing for touc...