I'm gonna link a comment where I've talked about how I personally experience sexual attraction here . Hopefully that helps! August 29, 2022 at 12:31AM

i (26f) came to the realization that i wanted to focus on finding a relationship, so i decided to (respectfully and politely) shut things down with my fwb (30m). we had a really nice conversation over text where i was honest with him, told him my reason for cutting things off, and let him know i'd be happy to stay friends. he agreed - it was honestly the most mature conversation i've had with a guy in a really long time. basically, in summation, he said that a relationship wasn't top priority for him right now, but he wasn't completely closed off to the idea. anyway, cut to a few days later, he's texting me more than he's ever texted me before - even when we were fwbs. bantering, kinda flirting. just good chat. he bartends at a local place me and my friends frequent. after i left there the other night (i chatted - and yes , admittedly, flirted - with him and gave him a hug before leaving), he texted me telling me how pretty i looked. i texted him back and aske...

I (F20) recently started hooking up with this new guy (M26). I thought it was strange that we always met up at hotels and never his place. One day when we were both drinking I asked why and he said that his wife died six months ago from sepsis. The wife’s sister lives with him and it sounds like she is a little crazy so he does not want to bring me there. Later I started to notice he would get calls and texts while we were hanging out from “My Beautiful Wife”, I asked him about it and he said his wife’s sister now has her phone and he doesn’t have the heart to change the contact name. I became more suspicious and googled his wife’s obituary. I could not find anything. He has never posted anything on social media about her death and neither have any of her friends that I found. My friends think that he is lying. What should I do? Submitted August 29, 2022 at 12:03AM I (F20) recently started hooking up with this new guy (M26). I thought it was strange that we always met up at hot...

Last night I(M22l met a cute girl(F25) at a night club . She seemed kinda shy and introverted but for the most part , she seems to be a pretty chill person overall. I know for a fact i wouldnt want to date this girl because she has 3 kids but I would like to hangout with her as friends . Do you think it is possible for me to be friends with her ? What should I text her ? Submitted August 29, 2022 at 12:09AM Last night I(M22l met a cute girl(F25) at a night club . She seemed kinda shy and introverted but for the most part , she seems to be a pretty chill person overall. I know for a fact i wouldnt want to date this girl because she has 3 kids but I would like to hangout with her as friends .Do you think it is possible for me to be friends with her ?What should I text her ?

I'm struggling to understand what it is that makes me so repulsive to women. I've been told I'm not bad-looking (although I disagree), and I don't think I have a particularly unpleasant personality. Yet I could count on one hand the number of occasions that somebody has shown interest. Meanwhile, literally everybody else my age has been in and out of relationships for their entire adult lives. Even if I were to identify and address whatever the problem is, it would be too late for me to start dating anyway, since a 29yo with no prior relationships is surely a massive red flag. Submitted August 29, 2022 at 12:10AM I'm struggling to understand what it is that makes me so repulsive to women. I've been told I'm not bad-looking (although I disagree), and I don't think I have a particularly unpleasant personality. Yet I could count on one hand the number of occasions that somebody has shown interest. Meanwhile, literally everybody else my age has been ...

For reference, I’m 26f, Puerto Rican, from NYC. I have dated 3 men seriously in my life, we lived together and everything. All 3 of them abused me one actually held me hostage and tried to kill me multiple times. I’ve been cheated on by them as well as men I’ve dated casually. I’ve been in therapy for years and really wanna date someone seriously but it’s like everyone is just “looking for vibes” or they lie about being in a relationship or they have kids or are drug addicts etc I can go on and on. I’ve tried dating apps, I’ve tried going to bars but I don’t drink, I meet friends of friends and friends of family etc I’ve joined groups and taken social classes with others and done meetups. But, no one wants anything serious. I’m starting to think I’m hideous. I have some health issues but one being and autoimmune disease, if I catch certain STDs I can die. Men won’t even take an std test for me. I can’t do casual/fwb/hookups bc men usually sleep with multiple women and that increases ...

I'm orchidsexual and I don't feel sexual attraction with the same intensity or frequency as an allo. I've only felt it a handful of times in my life. It's different than a sex-repulsed allosexual where they would still feel sexual attraction like a sex-positive allosexual. August 28, 2022 at 11:45PM