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How do I ask a someone out when there hasn’t been enough time for us to know each other, and seeing each other again is going to be a long shot if not scheduled?

Ok, so I’m 24 M Bi and he is 24 (assuming from vague Facebook info) M gay (I’m assuming but it’s a safe assumption) We met in a professional setting (but everyone is just super chill), this is a contract job so once the objective is met everyone moves on. Hence why I say I might never see him again. We have only two more days that we will see each other on, so far we have talked only once (yikes I know, that’s going to be a long shot) but I already like him, he seems nice, sweet, and cute. I understand I might have caught feelings too quickly, but god dammit I wanna try asking someone out, I wanna put myself out there cause online dating sucks. I feel differently, this is no longer sexual for me like it used to, I’m looking for a real partner this time and I felt something there. I don’t wanna come off too strong but I’m in a race with time, if I don’t ask him in person then it’s never gonna happen, cause he might forget me in the wave of humans we meet every day. Here’s what I’m p

I feel really bad when rejecting a girl

I’ve always have that feeling of feeling bad for the girl after going out with her on a date or two. For some reason, doing that to them would always remind me of myself a few years back when I would constantly get rejected. Now that I have my shit together, the role’s reversed (obviously I do still get rejected). How do I avoid making her upset or at the very least slightly less upset when saying no? Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:02AM I’ve always have that feeling of feeling bad for the girl after going out with her on a date or two. For some reason, doing that to them would always remind me of myself a few years back when I would constantly get rejected. Now that I have my shit together, the role’s reversed (obviously I do still get rejected).How do I avoid making her upset or at the very least slightly less upset when saying no?

Is it a turn off or something if I'm a muslim?

I've had my fair share of luck, met some lovely women, had some great relationships that grew nicely. Though, recently I feel like something is turning people away from me lol Is it my faith? That I don't drink? Its confusing. I'm not even super religious or anything. Last few girls I had been seeing all just fizzled out after they learned about that stuff Sigh...sorry, just need a place to vent. Maybe its not the case. Could just be a train of thought stemming from past experiences. lol a girl told me she didnt want to be with me cause i was asian (smack my face) Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:08AM I've had my fair share of luck, met some lovely women, had some great relationships that grew nicely.Though, recently I feel like something is turning people away from me lol Is it my faith? That I don't drink?Its confusing. I'm not even super religious or anything. Last few girls I had been seeing all just fizzled out after they learned about that stuffSigh.

i need advice

i’ve been talking to this girl for a few months and we’ve made it clear to each other that we’re attracted to one another and want a future relationship. recently she told me she messed up by accidentally doing stuff with another guy while she was high. i have a feeling somethings going on but everytime i try to talk to her about it she gets really mad and tells me that nothings going on and i shouldn’t be worried. its really hard to believe her since she’s always facetiming him and posting about him. im only a freshman and i’m aware that high school relationships usually don’t last but i seriously don’t know how to continue with this situation. edit: one of my friends asked the guy that she messed around if they’re a “thing” and he said yes. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:40AM i’ve been talking to this girl for a few months and we’ve made it clear to each other that we’re attracted to one another and want a future relationship. recently she told me she messed up by accidentally

Ask her out again?

I am a M(18) and there is this girl in my class I teacher aid for.I have been talking to for the last year in class but have only started texting her this last month. I ask about her weekend because we talk in class about every day so there is really no reason to text. When we talk in person we have really great conversations and she has come up to me to start conversations in class. Also in class I can sometimes catch her looking at me. We have a lot in common like hunting, cars, off-roading and some more.When we do text the conversations are great and I make her laugh So last week I asked her out as friends to go shooting( she hunts like me so I thought it was a good idea) after school on Friday. She responded with “ sorry can’t I am going to the city :(“ which was true she had hospital stuff to do and she said” I don’t even want to go”. Seeing the “:(“ I thought that she really want to go but can’t or I could just overthinking. Today when I was talking with her and her friend she a

I finally left the worst person of my life EVER !

Was dating this girl, everything was fine for a month, we had sex without a condom (she was on BC and always saw her take it) she took me to Disney world, had me in her instagram bio,snapchat everything the works ! She was on Bi polar and mood stabilizer medication (sometimes she would skip it) This girl used to live a poly lifestyle and changed to become monogamous for me. ​ Skip to month 2, she tells me via text she has HERPES 1 (she failed to disclose this to me in month 1 of dating ) and said it is not a big deal as long as I don't kiss the sore ( I never kissed her mouth again) Everything is good for a few more weeks after in month 2, she takes me to Six Flags she tells me she quits her job and works from home now because everyone at the office hates her, she also tells me everyone from the City she is in atm hates her and wants to fight her, I asked her "why would anyone wanna fight u?" " Why do u have so many enemies?" I eventually meet her mom and wh

Your partner/potential partner isn't a therapist.

Quick vent. So many people I've encountered have jaded views about dating these days. Those issues will not go away because you found someone you are interested in. You're not a baby and your partner isn't a pacifier. They can not soothe all of your trauma from past relationships because they aren't the ones that caused you pain. Deal with your trust issues or issues in general before you choose to mentally exhaust someone by looking for constant reassurance and weighing them down with your baggage from the past. I refuse to sit at a table with someone that dissects everything I say in order to find the "ah-ha you slipped" moment. It's uncomfortable and a major turn off. Hurt people, Hurt people. You become just as much of an abuser as the person who abused you. Honestly, we women are the most guilty of it. This has to stop. Take care of you first. Then come back to the dating scene putting your best foot forward. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 04:27AM

The First Date Nerves (need advice)

Basically, it's been four years since I've had a "date" date. I've had hangouts with girls solo but I wouldn't consider them dates, mostly friendly banter and enjoying social interactions. However, I've been talking to this girl for about a month or two now and I finally had the testicles to ask her out after we hung out a week ago. That being said though, the hangout was great but I just felt like I wasn't being interesting enough and she only was taking pity on me and such, though I think that was nerves, insecurity and anxiety all at once. I'm also having trouble trying to pick out if she's actually interested or not. First date I'm taking her to a grill that I recommended and she was interested in. Not sure about after that, will probably just wing it. How do I keep the atmosphere light enough without getting too overboard? Willing to answer questions. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 04:35AM Basically, it's been four years since

What is the thing you miss most about being in a relationship?

I think mine has to be having someone who wants to all the shit you're too lazy to do. Like 40% of my meals were steak and now 90% of them are steak TV dinners. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 04:57AM I think mine has to be having someone who wants to all the shit you're too lazy to do. Like 40% of my meals were steak and now 90% of them are steak TV dinners.

I feel like I got played and I'm a fool

I have a female friend and back around Halloween I met one of her friends out one night. We hit things off well and started talking. Turns out this girl was recently out of a relationship. The ex dumped her because she asked to borrow $10 for one of her bills. It was just an excuse for him to dump her since he was actually cheating on her and wanted an out. Me and new girl hang out a couple times and hookup once. I try to set up a date with her but she gets weird then ghosts. I ask my friend and it turns out the ex got dumped by the new girl so he came back and she took him back. Fast forward about 4 months and they break up again. This time he wrecked her car and wouldn't pay for the damage. I eventually start talking to her again. We go out on a date and things went well and we start talking. She says she wont go back to him, he tried to come back and she turned him down. I try and hang out with her again and she gets flaky. The other night her friend invites her to the hot

Being broken up with again

Heh, actually not all that broken up about it, I'm too busy for a relationship and I'll be moving into a situation where being in a relationship would get super complicated really quick. Guess I'm going to be single for a while. It was 4 years between my first serious girlfriend and my last one, hopefully I'm not 33 by the time I get another chance. Not looking for advice, just posting. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 05:25AM Heh, actually not all that broken up about it, I'm too busy for a relationship and I'll be moving into a situation where being in a relationship would get super complicated really quick. Guess I'm going to be single for a while. It was 4 years between my first serious girlfriend and my last one, hopefully I'm not 33 by the time I get another chance.Not looking for advice, just posting.

Where do you even start?

I'm starting to regain some semblance of mental health in my life, for most of my adult life I have been in "self imposed" isolation. It's been at least 5 years since I have even seriously thought of dating if not longer and I never had any experience through my teen years either so now I'm 23(m) without a single instinct on how to find someone. Bonus information: I don't drink, smoke or have any regular social activities in my life. I have no real friends or family in the area, I'm not attractive, out going or wealthy. Where the fuck do I go from here? I spend 95% of my life in solitude or at least that is how I have been spending my life and I have no real idea on how to break away from that now that doesn't just make me uncomfortable and miserable. I love the concept of building a relationship with someone but I honestly just don't know where to start. Do I just go to a bar and talk anything that moves, find some sort of social Meetup activit

The Perfect playlist for Love Making.

This is for couples, single Men/Women, & anybody that needs a mood setter. Back when I was happily single for the past 6 years (now in a relationship) i got quite good at setting an aesthetic & mood post dates. If you’re single & struggling or concerned on how to make your first sexual experience memorable (or comfortable). Well it’s with music. Music can block out the awkward sounds your body makes in an initial session. Like heavy breathing (panting), mouth smacking, awkward silence, fapping, slurping, maybe even a fart. Obviously don’t be silent, moaning & dirty talk are great escalators. Here’s the Spotify Playlist i use: Sex Drive. (The Weeknd, Alina Baraz, Bryson Tiller) Remember. Foreplay. There’s never enough Foreplay. Don’t have the lights on, or completely turned off. Leave the closet light on or leave your door slightly open. if you’re able to have visual eye contact it will lead to a more sensually intimate experience. Quick Tip: if you have a Bluetoo

Met at wedding but confused

Saturday I had a lovely time at a wedding. Got a bit intoxicated and was feeling confident on the dance floor. I ended up next to this girl and next thing you know we're chatting. Now I don't remember the exact conversation but do know I got her #. Decided to shoot off the ole good to meet you text and the # came back invalid. *Shocker* searched google for the # provided and realized she gave me her home phone #. This wouldn't be that weird besides the phone # provided is for her parents. I'm unsure if she lives @ home and even if she did, that seems really weird. My question is...Do i just chop this up and forget about it or do I reach out via a different social media like Instagram or FB? ​ I don't recall having much conversation with her but I do recall her catching my eye. Sorry for the edit or formatting. First time posting. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 06:29AM Saturday I had a lovely time at a wedding. Got a bit intoxicated and was feeling confident on t

Feeling Lonely while in a Relationship?

Has anyone ever felt this way before? The feeling of being alone in the world despite having a partner. Does anyone out there have few to no friends, but a partner they can tell anything? Or perhaps no friends as well as a partner you can't confide in? I've been dating someone for not long now, and am remebering past relationships as well. I have no close friends & wish I did. I have no one to confide with or tell very personal things to, yet, & am not close to my family. I'm 33 & have lived in the city I'm in for the past 9 years. I didn't grow up or go to school here, but those shouldn't be excuses for not having friends. I've had social anxiety as long as I can remember, though I've made strides. However, I did meet someone & we've been dating for just 2 months. They're tall, attractive, witty, have great taste in music, yet I find myself often annoyed by them as well as feeling like I can't tell them personal things. Th

I thought we were having a great time together, guess not

I dated this guy for about a month but we didn't see each other much due to mostly him being busy. Every time we hung out I had a great time, and he said he did as well. There was good chemistry, we laughed and joked around a lot, our conversations were fun and engaging. I thought things were going really well. I said I'd like to see him more and he agreed, but basically since then I haven't heard from him. I know he's making time for other dates, because he told me. I tried making plans with him last week and he was unavailable, but didn't make any effort to arrange something in the near future. I had to arrange all our hang outs, I don't think he asked me out once. I'm tired of chasing someone who doesn't want to make time for me. Ugh, I feel like I can't trust anyone when it comes to dating. Someone can tell you they really enjoy your company and want to see you again, then essentially go AWOL. I'm taking a break from dating. So far this y

Date at a gig

This is a new one for me and I wanted a little advice. I’m going to see one of my favourite bands tomorrow night and a man I’ve been speaking to the last couple of weeks (he’s been visiting family in Brazil, just landed home in the UK this afternoon) is now coming with me! It turns out he also loves one of the band members from their other work so I invited him/he invited himself along in the most charming manner. I was going to go alone so I’m happy to have someone to go with. We’ve not met before but he sounds super fun and cool and I have no reservations around him (for once!). But I’m a bit nervous to do a gig-date, it’s a first. We’ll be going for drinks together beforehand and I have no doubt that we’ll be comfortable in each others’ company (he’s super confident and chatty, as am I). ​ Any tips to navigate this? I keep having visions of us trying to talk and the music being too loud. I also feel a bit shy about letting loose and dancing in the mosh pit. Has anyone here ever d

I have a full life and so much to be grateful for, how do I stop obsessing about my lack of love life and just be happy?

I feel like whenever I start dating a guy and it doesn't lead to a relationship (usually because he keeps playing games), I can't stop thinking about finding a real relationship, but when I don't bother dating anyone, I'm fine. The problem with that approach is my chances of finding love will be much lower if I don't put myself out there and date new people once in a while. I just keep getting disappointed though! For all the people who have been single for a long time, what's your strategy for being happy and present while searching for love? Do you write down all the benefits of being single and all the cons of being in a romantic relationship?😂 Does meditation help?? I even have a fun girls trip planned but I can't stop thinking about the guy who disappointed me and will probably have that nagging feeling of I'll never find love while on vacay!! I want to hear your perspective! 😊 Submitted May 21, 2019 at 04:43PM I feel like whenever I sta

Which would you choose?

A new relationship, best sex ever, lots of potentials/uncertainties or Staying with partner of 20 years, dead bedroom, but compatible in all other aspects, still love the partner, but not necessarily in love anymore, and of course the stability and comfort Which would you choose? Submitted May 21, 2019 at 06:05PM A new relationship, best sex ever, lots of potentials/uncertainties orStaying with partner of 20 years, dead bedroom, but compatible in all other aspects, still love the partner, but not necessarily in love anymore, and of course the stability and comfortWhich would you choose?

This makes all the sense in the world!

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To know me is to love me... and my dogs

I'm just curious about ppls opinions on this. I'm really upfront that i love my dogs; even posted on okc, the one secret i will share is that... i sleep with my dogs (in the bed). ​ I met this really cool, great guy - we are so much a like, interest wise, mode of living, pastimes, etc. He doesn't have dogs himself now but i find it amazing that when he stays at my place, the fact that three small dogs are in the bed has not even been questioned. ​ Wondering how many others would be so accepting and not even ask why they're in there. Submitted May 21, 2019 at 07:54PM I'm just curious about ppls opinions on this. I'm really upfront that i love my dogs; even posted on okc, the one secret i will share is that... i sleep with my dogs (in the bed).​I met this really cool, great guy - we are so much a like, interest wise, mode of living, pastimes, etc. He doesn't have dogs himself now but i find it amazing that when he stays at my place, the fact that th

I'm officially done with OLD after the other night.

I decided to give OLD one last chance after my rant post the other day about dating. He was someone I'd hung out with briefly two other times and he invited me over to his apartment to listen to music and just hang out. When I got there he was folding clothes and listening to sad music. Shortly after I arrived he immediately went into vent mode about having to keep up a happy persona all day and he's tired of it, how he's a broken person, messed up on the inside, tells me about a horrifically traumatizing childhood, how hes an alcoholic, how he's not over his ex wife after being divorced for 4 years, and how his counselor tells him hes still looking for a mother figure because he never had a good one! Then he starts taking shots and snorting cocaine!! I'd never even been in the same room with cocaine before, let alone hanging out with someone who was snorting it in front of me. He goes on for about 3 hours venting while hes taking shots and high as a freaking ki

Was there a relationship/experience that just completely changed your whole outlook on dating/relationships?

I'll try to keep this brief. I'm a 33F. My whole life has just been one long series of shitty relationships. Just every kind of shitty relationship you can imagine. Toxic, lackluster, unrequited, abusive, etc. A combination of a shitty childhood (including sexual trauma) and a mental illness left me poorly equipped to date normally, but certainly didn't keep me from making myself miserable trying. About a year ago, I really took objective stock of how much I had invested into searching for a partner and what reward it had yielded. Looking at it from that perspective, it was kind of easy just to decide not to bother anymore. It really became clear to me that for numerous reasons, "it" probably wasn't ever going to happen for me. So I gave up. And I was doing fine. And then he came along. I was very clear that I wasn't interested in being in a relationship, but he pursued and wooed (ugh) me. Not in a creepy way. He was respectful of my boundaries, but I

Dating child free over 30

Ok so here's my story. I'm a man who is ~2 years into my 30s. I've had 2 what I'd call serious relationships and maybe a couple that didn't last more than a few months. The first lasted 7 years we even lived together but we had different career/life goals and ended up splitting up after she cheated on me. We are still friends no ill will. The second lasted a year and ended recently. She wanted kids, I don't and I've had a vasectomy. It was sad we we both loved each other but we understand and respect each others decisions. We both knew it going in but I think we both thought it was just a fun temporary thing until we both realized we'd become quite attached! So I'm single again and I'm wondering what are some good ways to meet like minded people since it's been a few years since I used apps and I'm now over 30. I think I'm aged out on Tinder and maybe Bumble tried Hinge but not that enthused. I have some good things: I'm finan

I hope this doesn’t come off as shallow, but have any of you been completely honest with a girl about having a “casual relationship”?

I’ve been friends with this girl for over a year, but I’m not in the position for a serious relationship. I am an honest person who doesn’t use or manipulate women, so I wanted to be completely honest with her and bring up the possibility of a casual relationship with NSA. How has your experiences been with these conversations? I feel like being completely honest is 100x better than leading her on and hurting her feelings later. Submitted May 21, 2019 at 09:00PM I’ve been friends with this girl for over a year, but I’m not in the position for a serious relationship. I am an honest person who doesn’t use or manipulate women, so I wanted to be completely honest with her and bring up the possibility of a casual relationship with NSA. How has your experiences been with these conversations? I feel like being completely honest is 100x better than leading her on and hurting her feelings later.

4 months in and still no kiss( 40 f , 45 m ) :(

So as the title states , we're been "seeing" each other for almost 4 months . Hes always been kind and caring, remembers things that I have told him , text every day ( mostly me who starts the conversations , but hes usually fully engaged) , calls me almost ever night to tell me about his day , hugs me when we meet up and when he departs , walks shoulder to shoulder with me ( clear contact..lol , hey , I'll take it ) , opens up to me about very personal things , always pays for our dates ( not that I expect it and in fact , I try to pay most of the time ) , does gentlemen type things like opening the door , puts me up front when walking through a tight place with his hand on my lower back , reinforces what hes doing without being asked ( by way of photos or give names of people hes with * I will assume to let me know that theres no women, of which I appreciate ) . But here I sit , I'm supper shy , but also I want to feel him , kiss him , hold his hand , cuddle w

I'm in love with my gay best friend who is also my ex's cousin..

We met through my ex about 6 or 7 years ago and instantly hit it off in a very platonic way. I didn't know she was gay at first and she hadn't come out yet because she had a boyfriend at the time. As time passed by, we grew closer and closer but everything remained platonic. At some point, she came out to her closest family members, which included my ex, her cousin. So I found out and it obviously didn't change anything but it matters in this situation. Now my ex and her cousin were really close. They still are now, just not as much. So we all hung out a lot. My ex's cousin started dating a girl after a while, and mind you that everything is still very much platonic. All 4 of us got along so well. We hung out a lot and had the best of times. As the hangouts piled on, the more my ex's cousin and I grew closer. The chemistry between us was literally nothing like I've ever had with anyone..but again.. very much platonic. She was now my best friend. I got her a job

He's never had a gf, and we texted for a day. I can't do this! Or can I?

First of all, we met online, on FarmersOnly.com . I know, I know. You can laugh. Truthfully I'm just trying a new option, I grew up super rural on a farm so I figured what the heck. Anyways, this was yesterday and he seems pretty nice, good looking, in my age range and actually wrote a few sentences in his bio other than "huntin, fishin." We started messaging and then texting and then...he wouldn't stop. He's never had a girlfriend, a virgin, doesn't drink, etc. He's texting me about if we were "bound together" (in a biblical marriage way) and how he's got everything set up and we can raise kids and live the rest of our live together. And just from the tone and intensity of his texts he's ready to get married tomorrow. He sent me a good morning text today and I haven't responded. I know he's a lonely farmer who obviously doesn't get to talk to a lot of girls, and isn't aware that he's coming on really intense. I was

Question about love

Is it more sad to find love and lose it, or to never find love at all? Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:44AM Is it more sad to find love and lose it, or to never find love at all?

Advice appreciated on how to proceed with crush on soon to be ex coworker

Hello fellow DOT-ers! Context: I (33m, separated 2 years, divorced 1 year) work in a really big place (hundreds of employees) 20% of my time and my job has me interacting with a lot of people there. I dated two girls from distant department, but the last one was more than 6 months ago. There is this girl (G) I always had a mild crush on, we would glance at each other every now and then, like our mutual FB posts, etc. We have a few common hobbies. I never acted on it because she was in a department where I spend A LOT of time, have very good relations with everybody there so this was strictly in a “Don’t shit where you eat” territory . Recently 2 of her colleagues started to slip G’s name in the conversation when they were talking to me, in a not so subtle way, and I was invited to a work gathering where I learned that G would be leaving soon. I was thrilled to learn that but there is a catch, she will be leaving for a big trip quite soon, although she will be back in a few months. O

What is a seemingly small memory/action that your S/O has done and made you think "i love you so fucking much"?

For me personally it was when my S/O and I were laying in her bed. She's musically talented and I have no experience with instruments. The lights were off and she began to explain some basic musical concepts. She hummed different tones and her voice was absolutely gorgeous. She asked me to hum some patterns, I was atrocious but she encouraged me to continue and she soon joined in. I'm slightly self-conscious about my singing, but that was the first time I felt truly comfortable letting go (without the assistance of liquid courage at concerts :P ). I remember thinking to myself "I absolutely adore this woman" and it's one of my most cherished memories with her. Now I ask the question to you. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:55AM For me personally it was when my S/O and I were laying in her bed. She's musically talented and I have no experience with instruments. The lights were off and she began to explain some basic musical concepts. She hummed different ton

Dude I'm Seeing Says He's Interested in Another Woman

New here. Need advice. I'm a woman in my early forties. Divorced 5 years ago. I've been seeing someone who I really like. We've known each other for over a decade, and have always had a lot of mutual respect. He asked me out about six weeks ago. We've seen each other at least weekly since, and have been intimate since our second date. The chemistry is off-the-charts, and we really like each other. However, two weeks ago, he brought up "the talk," and seemed to hint at some hesitation to get more involved. Since then, we've had the talk two more times. On the second occasion, I learned that he is interested in someone else. Apparently he's known her for a while too, and had begun talking with her romantically before he asked me out. But he says he is not seeing her, and has not been intimate with her. There's nothing there but his interest. He has communicated that he likes me (which I already know; the connection is strong), but basically, he wan

How do I (30F) make first-time sex more comfortable for my inexperienced partner (30M)? How should I initiate?

Hi /r/datingoverthirty , For those of you (particularly men) who lost your virginity at a later-than-average age, what did your partner do/what could they have to make the experience more comfortable for you, both initiating/discussing sex and during the act itself? I (30F) have been seeing a guy (30M) that I really like for about a month and it’s been great: he’s smart, funny, considerate, and interested in getting to know me as a person and is very open to sharing personal things about himself with me. That said, we haven’t progressed too far physically yet, as in, we haven’t done anything beyond kissing yet. In fact, we didn’t have our first kiss until our fourth date (I initiated and he was very receptive and has since initiated kissing himself) and he’s hinted around at the fact that he doesn’t have very much romantic or sexual experience which I suspected from the jump and am very much okay with. That said, it’s been a month and I’m pretty damn hot for this man. We see each ab

When was your last date? How did it go?

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Crushing at work- OH NO!

New to Reddit bare with me. ​ I have been working with a gentleman for the last 8 months. I think I felt an initial attraction but I'm in my early thirties and play close to the book. I wouldn't have dared look at him any other way, very corporate environment, have eventual plans of climbing ladder and don't like the idea of shitting where I work. But fast forward to now, I've met up with him a few times for post work drinks, we talk often and on our most recent hang out I realized, oh shit, I really like this guy. As in "Oh shit....this guy is pretty awesome" & are these.....God forbid....FEELINGS? As you may imagine this entire ordeal is very unsettling, you must understand I am a rational human being. What If I have developed some sort of "crush" on someone that totally sees me as a friend since thats the vibe I have been giving all along? Please offer some advise. Should I destroy the feelings creeping up inside of me? are there magic an

Beyond ghosted

I'm gunna keep it short and sweet, Recently I was talking to a gorgeous girl for a wile she was real sweet real fair we've been talking for a wile so for the first date I suggested we hit the fair, it was a couple towns over so I suggested we take her car because it was more economical and I'd cover everything, it was a plan. The night came I was excited feeling good she was beautiful we chilled for a bit I had a beer and a blunt we had a good chat it was allgood and we bounced, she drove like a bat out of hell in the sticks scaring the shizz outta me other then that things were good till her phone started blowing up and it was about the time we got to the gas station the car was on E, she stopped at the pump and I asked what happened she stated that her ex was bothering her as she put the phone down she looked me in the eye and told me everything was fine all that is beneath her lets have a good time and smiled, okay I'll go pay for the gas I said, I got out the car

I (32M) met a busy (33F) on the street (NYC), she's legitimately postponing our first date again. How text with compassion but maintain self respect?

I met a beautiful interesting woman on the street a couple of weeks ago, and we've been texting back and forth but she's very busy in her personal life and her work life. It's New York City baby, we're all very busy and focused on our careers. We had the first date set up which got postponed until Wednesday night. However, Tuesday night / Wednesday morning at 1:45am I get this from her: I’m just getting in. I finished my hair appointment and had to go back to the office to do voiceovers for a client who decided to change the copy last minute.. it’s launching tomorrow (don’t ask how I got wrapped into this..) Anywho, text me when you wake so I can figure out what I'm wearing tomorrow and/or bringing to the office, depending on timing. I have an 8 AM and I already know it's going to be a rough morning. But still very much looking forward to our pizza date :) It is clear to me that she likes me and that she does want to meet up with me but she's just leg