Sorry husbands, low libido is normal for women and we don't need to change

I am going to blow off some stream in the form of a rant. I'm feeling frustrated. I've been married for almost 12 years, together for 16. I'm 33f and he's 34m. The "not enough sex" issue has been prominent throughout our marriage, as early as 2 years in.
And I'm sorry (not sorry) but I have NEVER had as high of a sex drive as a man. And if I'm completely honest I know I WILL NEVER have a sex drive that high. Why can't this just be OK?! This is so frustrating as a woman. I just feel like the way I am is natural and it's ok and I shouldn't have to goddamn change of I don't want to--and this makes me "selfish"? That's bullshit. Think about it men. Sex exists to procreate. Seriously. That's it. We have sex to make more of ourselves. Your sex organs control your desires. Women release an egg ONCE A MONTH. This egg is viable for 2 Days. For those two days, her body wants sex. Because her body is programmed to create more humans. According to nature, it's a complete waste of time and energy to have sex when there is no biological ability to create more life. It's Nature. Nature is smart. It wants us to preserve our energy.

MEN. On the other hand. Can produce sperm Every. Goddamn. Day. Their bodies are in constant reproductive mode.

Of course their libido is higher!!! Their chances are slim to get a woman pregnant if she's only fertile 2 days a month.

Give me a fucking break please. Not to mention, I've already procreated. Excuse me if I don't want to do the thing that will cause my body to become an incubator for 10 months and squeeze a tiny, squealing, needy human out of my vagina. (I do love my kids, btw-- they are really cute). But yes, my body remembers that shit and it knows what caused it! So yes, I will recoil at any sign of that happening again.

Anyway, I just wanted to let out my angry feelings on this issue. Because I think many women feel the same. But we always try to change, think something is wrong with us, seek help and counseling on how to increase our libido.. and why? Because men tell us "it's not normal"? Sorry men, it's fucking normal.

Also, I love my husband. And I do want to be intimate with him, maybe even have sex with him for 2 days out of the month. But intimate does not ALWAYS equal a dick in my vagina.

Thanks for listening.



Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:31AM

I am going to blow off some stream in the form of a rant. I'm feeling frustrated. I've been married for almost 12 years, together for 16. I'm 33f and he's 34m. The "not enough sex" issue has been prominent throughout our marriage, as early as 2 years in.And I'm sorry (not sorry) but I have NEVER had as high of a sex drive as a man. And if I'm completely honest I know I WILL NEVER have a sex drive that high. Why can't this just be OK?! This is so frustrating as a woman. I just feel like the way I am is natural and it's ok and I shouldn't have to goddamn change of I don't want to--and this makes me "selfish"? That's bullshit. Think about it men. Sex exists to procreate. Seriously. That's it. We have sex to make more of ourselves. Your sex organs control your desires. Women release an egg ONCE A MONTH. This egg is viable for 2 Days. For those two days, her body wants sex. Because her body is programmed to create more humans. According to nature, it's a complete waste of time and energy to have sex when there is no biological ability to create more life. It's Nature. Nature is smart. It wants us to preserve our energy.MEN. On the other hand. Can produce sperm Every. Goddamn. Day. Their bodies are in constant reproductive mode.Of course their libido is higher!!! Their chances are slim to get a woman pregnant if she's only fertile 2 days a month.Give me a fucking break please. Not to mention, I've already procreated. Excuse me if I don't want to do the thing that will cause my body to become an incubator for 10 months and squeeze a tiny, squealing, needy human out of my vagina. (I do love my kids, btw-- they are really cute). But yes, my body remembers that shit and it knows what caused it! So yes, I will recoil at any sign of that happening again.Anyway, I just wanted to let out my angry feelings on this issue. Because I think many women feel the same. But we always try to change, think something is wrong with us, seek help and counseling on how to increase our libido.. and why? Because men tell us "it's not normal"? Sorry men, it's fucking normal.Also, I love my husband. And I do want to be intimate with him, maybe even have sex with him for 2 days out of the month. But intimate does not ALWAYS equal a dick in my vagina.Thanks for listening.
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