I don't really think there's anything special you need to know or do. As long as he knows he can talk to you about issues he's having and that you're going to love him no matter what, that should be enough :) October 20, 2019 at 12:28AM

When he is at work he seems to be fine but on the weekends when he’s at home he is always grumpy and cold towards me. I have talked to him about this numerous times but he always says I’m imagining it and he’s not grumpy. It is super obvious that he is though but he won’t admit it. This is getting to the point where it is making me depressed and I dread weekends now. It is a huge problem for me and I feel like I’m going to have a breakdown and snap. Is there a way I can get him to talk to me about why he is like this? Why is he lying when it’s obvious that the weekends make him grumpy and it’s every second of the day too. Come Monday he will be fine when he comes home from work but on Saturday he will be a cold grumpy person who I don’t want to be around. I feel so alone and I should not feel this alone when I’m married. Please help, any advice will be appreciated. Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:21PM When he is at work he seems to be fine but on the weekends when he’s at home...

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I have a few acquaintances that I seem to click with a little. Like, we'll start talking and make that eye contact where you feel a little something deeper. But then, at some point the other person gets a little up-tight and you get the sense they don't want to talk to you or something like that? I just wonder if this happens to other people. Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:50PM I have a few acquaintances that I seem to click with a little. Like, we'll start talking and make that eye contact where you feel a little something deeper. But then, at some point the other person gets a little up-tight and you get the sense they don't want to talk to you or something like that? I just wonder if this happens to other people.

A recent breakup has me confused. It lasted just under a year. In hindsight, it wasn't a great relationship. There was a lot of physical neglect. There was a lot of silence. And there was a lot of insecurities. When the conversation happened, they said there was no passion in the relationship and that's why it had to end. To this I ask the question: "What is passion?" It isn't that I never initiated. It isn't that I never tried. We went on dates as often as they cared. We spent as much time together as they allowed. I'm sure I did everything "right"; however, to them, there was simply no passion. I have my suspicions on their definition of passion, but I'll never hear the answer from them. Submitted October 20, 2019 at 12:04AM A recent breakup has me confused. It lasted just under a year. In hindsight, it wasn't a great relationship. There was a lot of physical neglect. There was a lot of silence. And there was a lot of insecuritie...

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I actually don't think about that anymore. If it was done to me again, yes I would be scared. But does it render me immobile and fearful when I have sex? Nope, not anymore. I think my bf just said that to rationalize my stand about sex since he can't fully understand it. His libido is high and if he's the only one calling the shots, he'd like to have sex all the time. But yeah, that's not gonna happen. Lol. Thank you! I guess I should just let things be and see where this takes me. Again, thank you! October 20, 2019 at 12:16AM

At work? Coworkers talking about girls they’re talking to or seeing At home? Tv shows and movies always have romantic interests Video games? Even those have started to have that bullshit in there You can’t seem to run from it no matter what. Should you just off yourself at that point? Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:16PM At work? Coworkers talking about girls they’re talking to or seeingAt home? Tv shows and movies always have romantic interestsVideo games? Even those have started to have that bullshit in thereYou can’t seem to run from it no matter what. Should you just off yourself at that point?

So me and this girl have been talking for about a month now and we’ve gone on 2 dates we’re clearly interested in eachother but today i sent her a text and she hasn’t responded yet, normally we take our time between texts but today she posted a pic on her ig with a pretty self depricating caption, should i ask if she’s ok? Or would it seem desperate considering i only sent my text a couple hours ago. I’m 19 and she’s 17 Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:16PM So me and this girl have been talking for about a month now and we’ve gone on 2 dates we’re clearly interested in eachother but today i sent her a text and she hasn’t responded yet, normally we take our time between texts but today she posted a pic on her ig with a pretty self depricating caption, should i ask if she’s ok? Or would it seem desperate considering i only sent my text a couple hours ago. I’m 19 and she’s 17

Hey y’all. Lookin for some advice here. I have pretty severe celiac disease and any cross contamination with gluten can put me in the ER. I’m going on a first date tomorrow with someone I met off bumble and don’t really know at all. I’m worried I might have a reaction if she eats gluten at this Italian restaurant and tries to kiss me. The restaurant has gluten free food but I feel it’d be weird to ask her to eat gluten free as well. Any advice? Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:20PM Hey y’all. Lookin for some advice here. I have pretty severe celiac disease and any cross contamination with gluten can put me in the ER. I’m going on a first date tomorrow with someone I met off bumble and don’t really know at all. I’m worried I might have a reaction if she eats gluten at this Italian restaurant and tries to kiss me. The restaurant has gluten free food but I feel it’d be weird to ask her to eat gluten free as well. Any advice?

There is a girl at work but a diffrent department that i like a lot. We have talked a few. Her mom and sister work there also. I talk to her mom quite a bit. I told her that i have a huge crush on her daughter. She told me to ask her to go get coffee. The only thing is that our breaks are diffrent times so i dont see her as much. The crappy part is that i get extremely extremely nervous especially when i am talking to a girl that i have a crush on. Her mom told me she is single. Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:24PM There is a girl at work but a diffrent department that i like a lot. We have talked a few. Her mom and sister work there also. I talk to her mom quite a bit. I told her that i have a huge crush on her daughter. She told me to ask her to go get coffee. The only thing is that our breaks are diffrent times so i dont see her as much.The crappy part is that i get extremely extremely nervous especially when i am talking to a girl that i have a crush on. Her mom told me sh...

So about 6 months ago I went out with a girl who I had mutual friends with She's 25 (im 26) and she's very much my type It wasn't a bad date and I was surprised when communication started dying off and they told my friends "we should just stay friends" though it seemed like we had a good time Maybe I'm a little introverted/ shy but isn't everyone first date? Do I ask her out again? Try and regain communication? (not sure how I'd do that) Or let it go and move on? It would help if she wasn't almost exactly my type and I wasn't so bad at the whole dating thing Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:29PM So about 6 months ago I went out with a girl who I had mutual friends with She's 25 (im 26) and she's very much my typeIt wasn't a bad date and I was surprised when communication started dying off and they told my friends "we should just stay friends" though it seemed like we had a good time Maybe I'm a little introver...

I'm seeing a really nice guy who's recently fallen on financial struggles. Over the last week or so I haven't really spoken to him as much while he digs himself out of the situation he's in. We've been seeing each other since like June. And I'm not really sure on what to do? I guess I'm afraid things will start to break down. Guys have you been in this situation and what would you or have you appreciated from the women in your life when you've fallen on hard times? Thank you Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:29PM I'm seeing a really nice guy who's recently fallen on financial struggles. Over the last week or so I haven't really spoken to him as much while he digs himself out of the situation he's in. We've been seeing each other since like June. And I'm not really sure on what to do? I guess I'm afraid things will start to break down. Guys have you been in this situation and what would you or have you appreciated from t...

During one of my classes on Friday we were put into groups during discussion to talk through some of the week's topics. A girl I'm interested in was in my group, and we had a really great conversation (among all of us). There were some funny moments talking over each other, and it seemed that we got along really well. At the end of class, she begins to compliment me, asking about my major and interests, saying it is a lot of fun talking to me (this is all happening during the 5 minutes before I needed to catch the bus). This really caught me off guard. I hadn't talked with this girl ever before but was pleasantly surprised by what was going on. I'm a bit awkward, so after briefly explaining what I'm studying, I wasn't sure where to go next because I was short on time and my caveman brain led me to ask "Did you have a specific question?" quite condescendingly (or so I felt). We ended the conversation nicely, saying we'd see each other later. I k...

This happened the other day when a week ago I was on hinge and matched someone but due to having a busy life I hadn’t been on the app in a while. (Maybe I shouldn’t of matched in the first place) After a few days I went on the app again and I have had messages of this guy every day asking “do you talk” which I replied hey sorry I have been really busy. He then proceeds to message me that if I don’t reply he will be moving on and that’s this was my last chance. I had only sent one message to him but for him he somehow thought he was entitled to my time so I questioned him on why he thought this was the case. To which he responds that I am impolite and that if I was over an “8/10 he would of said fair enough but I’m not”. I responded by thanking him for his feedback but offered the advise that it doesn’t come across well to then belittle people. I don’t understand how someone thinks that they should be responded to immediately and then feels that they have the right to put someone dow...

I’m not really new to the dating scene or anything along those lines, I’d just love to hear a range of first date ideas. For context: I’m 23M, She’s 22F. We were friends beforehand, and both had mutual interest in each other. So I asked her out on a date and she agreed. Initially we talked of meeting up in a coffee shop, but I’m hesitant of this because she’s a little shy and I don’t want it to turn into a “so how about the weather” type of conversation lol So reddit let’s hear your great first date ideas, bonus points for festive fall ideas Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:44PM I’m not really new to the dating scene or anything along those lines, I’d just love to hear a range of first date ideas.For context: I’m 23M, She’s 22F. We were friends beforehand, and both had mutual interest in each other. So I asked her out on a date and she agreed.Initially we talked of meeting up in a coffee shop, but I’m hesitant of this because she’s a little shy and I don’t want it to turn int...

So before you judge this isn’t the best relationship. I’ve been distancing myself for some time and tryna get away but I just feel trapped... This other girl I work w her and when we’re together it is just great and time flys by no matter what we’re doing and I genuinely like hanging out w her. We text a lot and hang out on our off days and we just laugh and smile pretty much the whole time. I can’t tell if she’s just friendly and likes me as a friend but I feel like I’m picking up on smaller signs such as her finding ways to hang out and things to text me about and when we’re together just those small touchy thing like when she’s laughing or something. We do that whole being mean in a flirty way. Everything’s great like that when we’re together but say around other people we work w she sometimes acts different like doesn’t say hi or really talk in the mornings. Don’t know if I’m overthinking things or what guys but just please some help/advice/opinions... Submitted October 19, 20...

22 (F) looking for advice So, here’s a dilemma: I live in a really big city ( really. Big.) which is cool! You get to see a lot of interesting/ different ( and attractive ) people, but finding people who are up to get to meet each other is very hard to find, at least irl. ( and I get it, not everyone here is friendly and talking to strangers can lead to terrible things most of the time, there is a lot of crazy people out there ) Online dating apps are sort of meh, you will either find the crazy people, meaningless hookups, or just “meh” profiles. Personally speaking it’s hard for me to like someone, even with the visual appeals, if their personality isn’t nice I won’t stay for long. So actual 1 on 1 conversation is ideal for me to get someone better. how will I get to meet someone if irl people are so closed off, and the online ones aren’t willing to be honest about themselfs? Or are just looking for something “casual” ( which it isn’t my case) Submitted October 20, 2019 at 12:1...

I’ve had theee dates with this week in the span of a week. I like him and I thought our 3rd date went well and we spent 6 hours together. He took me to a nice restaurant and then to ice cream afterwards. It was all really sweet. But he hasn’t texted in a day, I don’t know what to think? I texted him last night and said “I hope you had a good day” and he replied with “Aw how cute”. I don’t know what to think. Advice please? Submitted October 20, 2019 at 12:11AM I’ve had theee dates with this week in the span of a week. I like him and I thought our 3rd date went well and we spent 6 hours together.He took me to a nice restaurant and then to ice cream afterwards. It was all really sweet. But he hasn’t texted in a day, I don’t know what to think?I texted him last night and said “I hope you had a good day” and he replied with “Aw how cute”. I don’t know what to think. Advice please?

I was in a relationship with this guy and we were planning to get married. This summer he had left me because he told me he was interested in another girl. Fast forward 3 months he contacts me again out of the blue and tells me how much he regretted what he did and how he wants to start over with me again. We all make mistakes that we regret and he seemed genuinely sorry, so I forgave him and got back together with him. A little while later after we got back together, this girl he previously left me for (they were never in an official relationship apparently and it was short-lived), her sister contacts my boyfriend saying that this girl is pregnant. However the sister has been very vague and not giving out any details, and same with the girl. The girl has also made claims to him that she is pregnant, but my boyfriend has not seen any proof of this. She lives in another town 2 hours away and has not even been to see him to discuss this. Furthermore, it is 2 months later and she still r...

Oh, dove, I've been playing the "am I demi or is it trauma?" game for years. Definitely need to know people reeeeeeal well to actually go there (or at least feel as if I do). If it lasts, it lasts; if it doesn't, and you can be fine with that, more power to yez. And it looks like you're having a cake day! Many happy returns! October 20, 2019 at 12:06AM

I get that's it's a cool part of life and whatever, but it kind of baffles me that sex means sooo much to some people. I really don't get it - do they have nothing else to be happy about and/or enjoy in life? October 20, 2019 at 12:01AM

I can't speak for the whole country. But I can speak from my experience in Cape Town. I have connected with quite a few acespec people in CPT and mostly women. Only met one other man who identifies as ace. So there are a couple of us spreading the gospel of cake around :P From the LGBTQA+ community however, I have found the following : Gender queer and other queer friendly allies, even if they don't know a lot about asexuality will generally accept and inquire more about being ace. Especially in the more arty circles. Being homoromantic, I spend a lot of time around gay men, and I have picked up a trend. Gay men under 30 are almost always inquisitive and ready to accept you. Gay men over 30 are very much stuck in the " I don't understand/You are broken/You are lying for attention" bracket. I mean, I don't really blame them. They don't know any better. Because of the very open and thriving hookup culture here, many gay men only know validation and acc...