I used to listen to a lot of old blues artists like Robert Johnson, but recently I've been getting more into EP rock, like Ace of Hearts and some alternative like Alt J and Message to Bears. Lofi is pretty good on occasion as well. September 17, 2021 at 03:50AM

This is so confusing… if you are repulsed by sex why would you want to rape someone? I know power can be addictive but it’d be to much work for a power fix tbh September 17, 2021 at 03:49AM

Some people have a really hard time accepting the idea that someone doesn't like something they really like. It sounds incredibly dumb but it is very common. If you don't enjoy dancing they think you are just self conscious. If you don't like a certain food they think you just haven't had it prepared well. If you don't want to date they think you are just too shy. They will try to get you to do whatever it is, fully believing that they are helping you. With enough patience you can get through to some of them, or at least get them to give up. September 17, 2021 at 03:47AM

For me, it feels basically no different from masturbating. When I'm in a relationship, sure, if it makes my partner happy we can have sex. My touches are sincere because I love my partner and enjoy pleasuring them. September 17, 2021 at 03:47AM

I think it can really depend. The four levels of sensation people mention are I think a really good chart to gauge it on, but I also think things can get complicated enough that there's greys even between those. I had a relationship for awhile with another person on the ace spectrum, and we kissed frequently but it was never really as far as romantic and never really as little as platonic. Maybe Alterous? At the time neither of us was very informed on ace concepts and terms, we just kind of went with the flow and considered ourselves more than friends, but not dating, open or otherwise. The whole "bestest-friends" thing kind of checks out there. I also think it depends on your personal understanding of what kissing means to you and the people you share that experience with. How you feel about it totally informs the dynamics you'll come across! I think any display of affection is really individual to the person(s)! could be any number of things! especially with ot...

You could also try making a black ring. September 17, 2021 at 02:52AM

Kissing is what you make it. Sometimes it can be used like foreplay and be passionate and lustful, but also sometimes a forehead kiss can be a protective romantic gesture. I also kiss my cat on her head sometimes and it’s not sexual or romantic lmao so do what ya want, feel how you feel September 17, 2021 at 02:52AM

I think that we end up ignored or forgotten because we seem normal, quiet, and just want to mind our own business that people just forget. Also, we are one of the few parts of the community that actually have straight cis gender people as a part of the umbrella, so I see a lot of hatred coming from the community about that because of the focus on homosexuality and gender divergence. You can be a straight cisgender person and be Ace, which to a lot of the community feels like (from what I’ve seen) a white person who has maybe 1/100th of a black gene saying they’re black (poor example, but I think it gets the point across.) the black community is more likely to reject that person because they may have experienced white privilege, experienced less hardship, and lack the dark skin color, even though they have proof that there is a small amount that does belong to the community. We oftentimes don’t see discrimination at our work places or run the risk of homelessness or even the risk of be...

Don't kid yourself. Working through things takes two people. One of the things I regret the most is not realising that sooner. People rarely change much. You are way better off finding someone who is open to your needs from the get go. September 17, 2021 at 02:51AM

I imagine that it's kinda like a chore September 17, 2021 at 02:50AM

Aw heck yeah!! Proud of ya! Glad your mom took it well! September 17, 2021 at 12:50AM

idk, i want to kiss my s/o but the more i think about doing it the more e don't want to September 17, 2021 at 12:50AM

In my experience as a grey ace, I've never been able to have a relationship begin and then later try to explain ace to them. The times when I've had a successful relationship have been when I was up front and overly informative with them before a relationship really kicked off. As uncomfortable as it can be (and, for me, this ability came only with age and experience) to essentially "come out" to any potential romantic partner, it will save you both a world of heartache and feelings of rejection. I liken my asexuality to my stance on having children. It's unfair to enter a relationship with someone that's diametrically opposed to your position on this issue. It's really like a first date talking point for me. If nothing else, maybe you'll at least expand the ace knowledge to your friend group by opening up about ace to potentials. September 17, 2021 at 12:50AM

Bro your 17! You’re doing to much!!! Relax focus on graduating high school or whatever kids are doing these days and be thinking about your first steps into adulthood. Are you planning on attending college, trade school? Be daydreaming of your dream job and fantasize about the life you want to have when you are in your twenties. You don’t need to figure out your sexuality when you are trying to figure out how to calculate the hypotenuse of a triangle and remembering that the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. Tell this girl that you think she is super rad and you want to hangout but that you don’t need the drama that comes with a sexual relationship because you got enough stuff going on. Join a after school club if you aren’t in one On the whole thing about not wanting to have sex. That’s normal for anyone to experience for a number of reasons and being young and stressed out about school and girls is one of those reasons it just so happens asexuals experience not wanting to...

I mean I'm the first and last one I'm the last one if I'm feeling confident but otherwise I over think and think they might think it's romantic or I might do something wrong or I might stink (even if I just had a shower) etc etc September 17, 2021 at 12:49AM

It can be both honestly, depending on the situation September 17, 2021 at 12:46AM

Will do! September 17, 2021 at 12:46AM

Ok, then I'll just get it for my necklace! September 17, 2021 at 12:45AM

A ring on a necklace sounds awesome, I’d go for it! 😄 September 17, 2021 at 12:45AM

Dude of course they are valid. You don't need to experience something to not want to experience it. September 17, 2021 at 12:43AM