I wanna know how it changed his perspective on life O.O July 15, 2021 at 12:00AM

The difference would be that the sexual person who isn't attracted to someone in particular at that moment would still desire to have sex, whereas the asexual person would not desire to have sex at all. July 15, 2021 at 12:00AM

What do u wanna know? July 14, 2021 at 11:59PM

?? I wanna know too July 14, 2021 at 11:57PM

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'll definitely be sure to check out grey asexuality and aegosexuality! Thanks again! :) July 14, 2021 at 11:52PM

Yeah I know, thing is that apparently the guy didn't think much of it until he started understanding stuff after having sex the first time. The vagueness doesn't help and the mystification of things makes me skeptical, but that is in my mind, if that makes sense. I still felt inadequate because everyone was agreeing to this apparently serious thing and I couldn't relate to that or understand at all (or even try, given how vague it was. He kept saying "that's just how it is"). But I guess that's just being human, not fitting in a group is uncomfortable for obvious reasons lmao July 14, 2021 at 11:48PM

You may experience sensual attraction, but it doesn't sound like you've experienced sexual attraction - which would be asexuality. July 14, 2021 at 11:44PM

When one believes that something is important, once it's done, they delude themselves into feeling that something important actually happened. July 14, 2021 at 11:44PM

the only two shows ive ever known about that have canonically ace people are both netflix originals. other companies can learn a thing or two from netflix. July 14, 2021 at 11:42PM

Alrighty well, I found out she is on the side that says "absolutely not" which I guess gives me something to think about. On one hand we are both youngish teens (16M, she just turned 15) so nothing would be likely to even happen for AT LEAST a few years, but I need to figure out exactly how important each side of a relationship is to me. One part of me says sexual intimacy is really important to me, which could get difficult as the years go by, but the other part of me really cares about her and thinks that it shouldn't be much of a problem. Another part of me always wanted to eventually build a family but she has also made it clear she never wants to have kids. Just kinda spooky how fragile a relationship can be and when you have to question if you truly are great for each other... kinda got me messed up over here, especially regarding that over teen years things may change but then I feel bad for thinking that because I don't want her to change. Sorry about unl

I’m 16 as well, but I learned over time just to take your time and explore and learn more about asexuality. but if you want to try anything with someone don’t feel pressured to do so bc teens and society give like a “standard” with sex and etc. you also can still be asexual and be in a relationship, but for me I don’t have any sexual attraction to anyone but that’s just how I feel lol. dont forget not to confuse (sexual attraction with aesthetic attraction) hope this helped! July 14, 2021 at 11:34PM

Yep yep. You do you and don't put up with anyone who pushes your boundaries or says you can't be ace! July 14, 2021 at 11:32PM

Ok cool thank you!! I’ll try to do some more reading July 14, 2021 at 11:30PM

I mean you could be on the asexual spectrum just not asexual asexual, I honestly don’t have the best knowledge to advice but I know asexuality is a spectrum so somepeople don’t have any sexual attraction while others do but in a different way to an allosexuals, honestly I figured out my sexuality by reading and listening about others experiences so if your still questioning you could look into that July 14, 2021 at 11:29PM

Quick answer is I would say that’s aesthetic attraction and a QPR would probably suit you :-) and yes, aroace makes sense Also like to point out, in response to “less than a partner”, you don’t need to meet any of society’s ridiculous standards to validate your relationship by whether or not you engage in sexual or romantic activity. If you feel someone qualifies as your partner then that’s what they are, regardless of what you choose to do together :-) Sorry if I got the wrong end of the stick from that statement btw July 14, 2021 at 11:26PM

I wouldn’t mind a little fun though. Idk I don’t think I’m ace July 14, 2021 at 11:23PM

Honestly I don’t have the widest experience but from talking to friends that have identified as ace longer than me it’s fairly normal to feel aesthetically attracted to someone with out wanting to sleep with them July 14, 2021 at 11:22PM

Sounds like you’re biromantic asexual July 14, 2021 at 11:21PM

But if it’s based on their appearance, how is it romantic? Isnt romantic more based on the intertwining of personalities, and not just cause you like their appearance? Because I’ve felt this way for people whose personalities I don’t necessarily like. July 14, 2021 at 11:17PM

Yh I get a tingling feeling but I’m pretty sure that’s romantic attraction i honestly don’t know what allo’s feel, I only hear things July 14, 2021 at 11:14PM

When I was working at a summer camp when I was 18, I guess me "flirting" with other staff members was a point of concern at one of the director's meetings. I was just being friendly with people. I have never flirted with anyone in my life. I basically treat guys the same as I do girls. If they think that's flirting, that's clearly their problem. Thankfully, one of the director's knew me personally (she was my brother's girlfriend) and came to my defence by basically saying "Flirting? You do know who you're talking about, right? Someone who has never dated anyone or even kissed anyone and doesn't want to?" She told me about this meeting after the fact. Fast forward to the next year, and I had the reverse problem. There was a guy flirting with me. Now, I am usually completely oblivious to people flirting with me, so understand you have to be really really obvious about it for me to even realize that's what going on. In fact, in 23 yea

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I had a decent amount of push back from people who didn’t understand asexuality for a while so I identified as bisexual then I found things online explaining asexuality and realised I was bi romantic asexual, didn’t really have any problems excepting either just took a more winding path to finding asexuality July 14, 2021 at 11:12PM