Thank you for your advice! I hope I can find that supportive person soon as I do crave for some companionship. Some of my besties already got married, busy with their family, they rarely have time to hangout with me anymore so yeah I'm lonely lol but not in sexual way. In a way I still grateful that I'm (probably) an ace in this society because I never have problem with the whole chastity concept. Gays,lesbians, and asexual males definitely face more problem because the first two are condemned and asexual males will be the butt of the jokes..I feel bad for them. September 19, 2020 at 11:58PM

What does "being included in the LGBT community" mean in this context? I've heard that claim a lot, but I've never had it explained what exactly they're after. September 19, 2020 at 11:58PM

Eh, I agree with the message, but the meme's last picture feels pretty ableist and unnecessarily mean :/ September 19, 2020 at 11:57PM

a term's original intent does matter if most of the people using it still have that intent. which, from every self-described MAP i've seen or met, they do. i agree that people with pedophilic feelings that dont act on them should not be demonized, they should be helped. however, every single "MAP" i've met thinks MAPs should be included in the LGBT community. this is not okay. people with pedophilic feelings who do not agree with this should make a new term if they don't want to call themselves pedophiles. it sucks that the term is used like that, but we cant just ignore that it is. September 19, 2020 at 11:56PM

Like I said, feel free to try. However, my experience is that trying to educate someone about something they already think they know tends to be maddening. As Stephen Hawking said: "The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance; it is the illusion of knowledge". September 19, 2020 at 11:54PM

Thank you. I think the word rights has been thrown around too much without giving thought to its definition. September 19, 2020 at 11:49PM

This sort of negativity is exactly why people are apprehensive about us though. How can we expect people to learn about us if we don't make the effort to teach them? Sit in the background if it's easier for you, I'm going to die on this hill trying to educate everyone I can haha September 19, 2020 at 11:49PM

May I know where do you live?I live in Indonesia btw. Thank you for responding to my wall of words, I seriously don't have anyone close to me that I can have a discussion about this topic. Your take on label is the same as mine, but surely it's helpful to have some guidance. September 19, 2020 at 11:48PM

You can certainly try, but don't expect it to go anywhere. September 19, 2020 at 11:47PM

Why don't we try instead of assuming? Many people state things as fact when they think they're right. Most people can learn. It's obviously incorrect to us only. Many people don't even know we exist so I wouldn't say anything about us is obvious. September 19, 2020 at 11:45PM

In my experience, someone who so confidently expresses an obviously incorrect idea isn't the kind of person you can educate. September 19, 2020 at 11:44PM

What rights are we lacking exactly? We lack visibility, understanding, and representation, but we’re not fighting for any rights. September 19, 2020 at 11:43PM

And that MAP guy. September 19, 2020 at 11:42PM

Omg I'm not alone 😂 September 19, 2020 at 11:33PM

I just googled this. Interesting. Thanks! September 19, 2020 at 11:33PM

invalidate LGBT+ by attaching themselves like a parasite FTFY September 19, 2020 at 11:32PM

one can still feel sexual attraction but have no interest in acting on it :) have you looked into ARCsexuality? basically stands for people who are allo but averse, repulsed, or confused by sexual activities. I say try to read more about sexual attraction to be sure it's what you've felt, sometimes it's hard to distinguish from romantic attraction for ace ppl. September 19, 2020 at 11:23PM

The "magnetism" under sexual attraction kind of might apply to me but it's just an automatic reaction that I want no part in and my head isn't in it and now I'm honestly more confused September 19, 2020 at 11:19PM

Why didn't you reply and just correct them? It's not hard at all to educate people. It literally would have taken less time to correct them than it did for you to screenshot and post here to stir the "aphobia" cauldron. September 19, 2020 at 11:10PM

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I fully expect to get a ton of hate on this. I know this is treading in dangerous waters. 30 year old married female. New to the forum, not looking to post 16 paragraphs venting about why I feel stuck or unhappy. Not really looking for advice. Also not seeking out an affair. But does anyone want to talk? My husband’s not a talker and marriage in general is sort of this taboo subject you don’t discuss with real life friends or family. We don’t even have to talk about our relationships. Just, talk. I just had this moment in the shower the other night (I do my best thinking there) where I realized even though I’m technically surrounded by people, I feel really alone. I feel like there has to be someone in a similar situation? Message me. Submitted September 19, 2020 at 11:43PM I fully expect to get a ton of hate on this. I know this is treading in dangerous waters.30 year old married female. New to the forum, not looking to post 16 paragraphs venting about why I feel stuck or un

How do I know the difference between genuinely really liking him vs putting him on a pedestal because he is so different and a breath of fresh air? Submitted September 19, 2020 at 11:50PM How do I know the difference between genuinely really liking him vs putting him on a pedestal because he is so different and a breath of fresh air?

I’ve been on for a month now. I’m chill, I’m fun, I have my shit together - I’m attractive... every single guy I’ve matched with on hinge or bumble have flaked on me. Except one - who pressured me so much to meet up right away, I told him off and blocked him. Also, I think it’s super important to note that prior to 2020, I could get 3 dates in a week without even trying. So like... it’s not me. I don’t think. Is it really that weird to ask for a phone call prior to a date? Any one else finding dating in 2020 not just hard but literally impossible? Submitted September 19, 2020 at 11:54PM I’ve been on for a month now. I’m chill, I’m fun, I have my shit together - I’m attractive... every single guy I’ve matched with on hinge or bumble have flaked on me. Except one - who pressured me so much to meet up right away, I told him off and blocked him. Also, I think it’s super important to note that prior to 2020, I could get 3 dates in a week without even trying. So like... it’s not me.