3 years ago, I ended a 10 year relationship with my boyfriend. After being in a serious relationship for so long, I decided I wanted to have fun and do the stuff I missed out on in my early 20's. I didn't lol. A guy I was friends with in high school ended up getting out of a relationship around the same time. We start talking and hanging out several months after we both got out of relationships. We didn't hook up right away, it probably took 6 months to get to that point. We're been hooking up for 2 years now. He has hooked up with other people (don't worry, I make him get tested regularly), he's been my only hook up since the break up. I found out a few days ago I was pregnant. I have a lot of feelings. He is not someone I could ever imagine dating, having a long term relationship with, or anything like that. He's a good person, but we're very different. I only continue to hook up with him because the sex is good and I'm very focused on my career,...

So, as the title says... messy situation. I have known him for years. Things started up between us last summer. His wife travels a lot. He has spoken to an attorney and is about to leave her. There is no intimacy in their relationship. They have separate bedrooms, etc. We text every day when we don't see each other. He swears he loves me. And we have so much in common. Idk... it seems like it could never work out though, considering how things started. I am not quite sure how I feel about him yet. He treats me better than anyone else has, though. And if anyone wonders, it was me who made the first move. I had a crush on him. I saw how unhappy he was. I am trying to keep this as short and sweet as possible. I know I will probably get some angry comments. This is a throwaway account. So is there any hope or are we doomed? TL;DR I'm involved with a married man who is about to leave his wife. Wondering if things could ever work between us. Submitted October 25, 2019 at 1...

Ages- I’m 17, my cousin is 17, and my best friend is 18. I barely met him like 4 months ago, and this is because his mother and my uncle got off on bad terms and divorced because my uncle abused her. Because of that, his mom cut off my uncle and all of us, so I only saw him up until we were about 6 years old. I remember being close with him before, but it’s just been too long. My mom somehow got back in contact with him and she asked his mother for permission so we could meet him and initially she said we had to wait until he was 18, but she let him decide and we met him. When I first met him things were awkward and as I got to know him more, I really started liking him. Not only that, I also found him cute so I was super shy around him. I’m almost 90% positive that he is also somehwat into me becausesometimes when he stays over we cuddle in bed, and I have even joked with him about having sex with him. Then I introduced him to my best friend not knowing it would be a huge mistake. ...

TL;DR my girlfriend has anxiety and I don't know how to approach it My girlfriend (21, F) and I (21, M) have been in a relationship for nearly two years now. She has a lot of anxiety which causes her to have breakdowns in which she gets very upset and tearful. I've tried to be as supportive and helpful as I can and I've never done anything on purpose to upset her, I'm a very chill person and don't like arguments whereas she is a perfectionist and gets quite stressed. The tipping point it often something small like the bed not being perfectly made while we're running late to get ready in the morning to go to university. I understand that with anxiety its not a 'small' problem for her so I do my best to help her - for example: I'll make our breakfast, coffee, wipe the condensation off the windows, hang out her washing and make the bed all while she has a shower, puts make up on and picks an outfit. But despite my good intentions she often gets stress...

Would really need some advice. Some background story. My bf and I have been together for 8 years. Recently, he’s coming over to my house to stay during the weekends because my sis is away for exchange and I don’t feel safe with being alone with my mum. My dad works as a security guard so he works on a shift basis. There’s a history of my mom holding a chopper while we were sleeping about 2 years ago. My sister was with me. Since then, I’ve been having this image in my mind every time I sleep. She also discourages us having our own room. My bf tried so hard to paint the room, installed all my furniture for my sis and I so that we had our own rooms. Since then, things escalated. She claimed she couldn’t sleep at night. Things got better but my sis dropped a bomb to say she’s gg exchange (Aug 19-Jan20). Since Aug, she has been walking to my room while I was asleep. I heard footsteps so I woke up. And saw a shadow. I’ve looked at the timings, it can be 1am, 2am or even 5am! My bf stay...

She has been telling me that I don't open up to her. We talked about it and the evidence suggest that I tell her everything and she doesn't really tell me anything. The point is that she is trying to reveal more about herself to me. Her attempt at revelation manifested in a weird, uncomfortable way. I don't care about her sexual past. Numbers, genders, group stuff, whatever. It isn't a concern. But today she messaged me randomly and told me when she lost her virginity, the guy was really fit and afterword it felt like she had been doing tons of crunches. I asked why on earth she thought I might want to know that level of detail. Am I overreacting or being sensitive? I don't want to hear about how vigorously some other gentleman and her had sex. TL;DR: My gf told gave me unprompted, sexual history details. Wondering if I should concern her with such a small issue. Submitted October 25, 2019 at 11:47PM She has been telling me that I don't open up to her. ...

There’s a guy at work who is very friendly and helpful, and we’ve been talking a lot lately. I feel like there is always light flirting going on between us. A few months ago, he told me he was at the beach with his dog and thought of me (because I always ask about the pup) and said “maybe next time you can come with us”. I said that sounded great and to let me know, but he actually never ended up going back because he got busy with work. I wanted to ask him to hang out (to get to know each other better, not interested in jumping into dating without being good friends first) and figured asking about the dog would be a good way to do it since he previously asked me that way. I was talking about a new riverfront park by my house, and said “you should bring your dog there sometime!” He responded “hmm, maybe. We’ll see” and then we just continued on the conversation normally. It wasn’t awkward or anything. Now I’m confused. Did he even know I was asking him to hang out, since I didn’t e...

I don’t think I’ve ever had a single friendship that made me truly feel supported and understood. Loneliness is a horrible thing. It’s eating away at me. But I just wanted to hear other people’s stories and that maybe at some point in my life this pattern will end? Ever since I heard Johann Hari talk about the link between loneliness and depression I can’t stop thinking about how loneliness was the constant variable in my life and that’s why nothing truly helped my depression. Because I never felt a connection to the outside world through relationships. I’m rambling but yeah...please help. Tl;dr would like to hear others stories about loneliness and the absence of quality relationships in general. Looking for some hope Submitted October 25, 2019 at 11:52PM I don’t think I’ve ever had a single friendship that made me truly feel supported and understood. Loneliness is a horrible thing. It’s eating away at me. But I just wanted to hear other people’s stories and that maybe at some...

Im very Confused atm. My GF of 1 Year was the one of the most innocent,cute,loving and caring person I met, writing me cute texts, having little presents for me, making time or me, saying how happy i make her, howmuch she is in love with me, that im the perfect boyfriend she always wanted and much much more. Then suddenly she asked for a break because she had Stress in her live (Operation on her body,Parents divorcing,school exams)(all of that is true), so we went lowcontact and thats when it began. i gave her the time she needed but asked for quick updates on her life like her how she was and how everything went and so on, she responded with 1 word messanges but i didnt mind since she had not much time but never asked anything back, then she suddenly tells me she wants to break up because she has no feelings for me anymore, i asked her why that is all of the sudden but all she says is she needs time to think, again i gave it to her, 1 Week later i begin to message her again and ask ...

I met her through mutual friends 9 months ago and had an instant connection, we kissed the first night we met, and instantly started dating. We started dating seriously and even though we didn't label it, we were together, just not officially. However there was this one guy, let's call him Carl. He's been a longtime friend of my girlfriend, and they hooked up a couple of times and tried dating, but weren't compatible. Carl thought it was just a fling and it would go away. When it didn't, he tried to get close to my girlfriend again. Tgere was this one night when we were dating for a month (mind you, everyone knew about us, we told each other we loved each other ((a weakened version in our native tongue)) ) that she went to a party and got blackout drunk. She called me at 5am to tell me they had made out, insanely remorseful. I had to calm her down and tell her things would be okay. I let her sleep off the booze and we called the next day. She couldn't rememb...

I met a guy about a month ago through tinder. He lives about an hour from me so right now we are sort of long distance. I didn’t swipe right because I was head over heals from his profile or anything and wasn’t expecting much when he matched and messaged from me. But we started talking and exchanged numbers and social media and fast forward we couldn’t stop talking to each other and getting to know each other. We told each other about our childhoods, our interests, our life goals, our fears, everything. Like young naive lovers. I will admit, I fell for a guy I didn’t even met. But he said he fell for me. He couldn’t stop talking to me and kept complimenting me and saying I we have potential to be something and stuff like that. We planned on getting coffee together but I couldn’t end up going and he was so understanding. We have talked on the phone for hours at a time and snap-chatted like crazy. Then, we had I guess what could be called “phone sex” minus the nudes a few times last w...

TL;DR: my close friend of 3 years/roommate betrayed my trust by getting in a relationship with my ex. How can i deal with this? Almost all of last year I (F 21) was seeing/dating/hooking up with this guy (M 21) , let's call him Cole. There were tons of emotions involved, but we never really put a label on our relationship. Looking back, he didn't treat me very well. He ended up dumping me pretty unexpectedly, and it was really painful for a long time. One of my closest friends of 3 years and roommate for 2 years, let's call her Anna, told me a few months later that he had DM'd her. Being one of my closest friends, Anna had heard every dirty detail of Cole and my relationship, and saw what I went through during it and after it had ended. I was a little uncomfortable with that, but the DM didn't seem overtly flirty. A week later I sat down with her and we talked about him. I brought up how he had been DMing her and expressed my concern about him seemingly pursuing...

This is probably dumb, but I've been feeling pretty bad today so here it goes. Me and this guy have been going around in circles with each other for about a month. We've had a bit of flirty back and forth and he's expressed interest and a relationship with me before. But I was hesitant. The day before yesterday, he really opened up to me about what he feels and it touched me. So last night, I told him I wanted to go for it because he made me change my mind. He said it made him happy but now today, this is maybe the least he's ever spoken to me. It's been making me feel pretty bad all day because I thought we would be talking a lot more. Instead, there are big gaps between his replies and...yeah. I know he's not doing anything today, too. I'm feeling pretty confused and sad. It's like nothing happened. What does this mean...? TL;DR been "talking" to a guy for a month who was interested in a relationship, i didn't want to for awhile but the...

So I've noticed people simply stop paying attention to me when I'm talking. And they proceed to talk to someone else. Or they were listening to someone else and joined that other conversation, abandoning the one we're having. They don't even tell me to stop. They just directly start talking to the other person. Sometimes multiple times during a single conversation, and sometimes I had to repeat myself 3 times before giving up. It's happened during: - both professional and non professional scenarios - where someone asked me a question and I'm giving an answer - with my partner - can be in person and on phone calls - and it's many people, about half of everyone I interact with and unfortunately includes my partner I have cptsd anxiety and whatever and it's really upsetting, to be honest. Am I expecting too much? Can I just lecture the other person on basic respect? I'm getting tired of this. TLDR: trying to have a chat with people. Starts talki...

Yes. Actually went to the store for some lol October 26, 2019 at 12:12AM

No one ever told me that either, I just came up with it myself and figured it was normal until people started to talk about sex a lot and I asked myself which one of us was the odd one out. October 26, 2019 at 12:11AM

Thank you October 26, 2019 at 12:08AM

yeah its a good game imo October 26, 2019 at 12:07AM

Fucking seriously? 🤦‍♂️ October 26, 2019 at 12:07AM

Do homophobes even recognize the lesser known pride flags as such? Not sure if a lot of people I know could tell what this button means haha. Good luck though. October 26, 2019 at 12:06AM

I have been very, very tempted to get the heartbeat pride translucent ace set. Not that the old opaque stuff was bad, but those new translucent ones look absolutely gorgeous. October 26, 2019 at 12:05AM

Ah yes, because clearly, when i am ashamed of my disgusting fetishes or whatever category zoophilia, pedophilia and necrophilia belong to, I pretend to be asexual, because that DEFINITELY wont make people ask any questions, instead of just acting if I was perfectly straight all the time. Seems like a WAY simpler solution. Because it's so easy to be asexual when people like you out there literally accuse aces of being babyfuckers in disguise. October 26, 2019 at 12:02AM

Where do you work???? October 25, 2019 at 11:59PM