I think it's quite normal for our labido to fluctuate with our period. I notice while on the pill, mine doesn't fluctuate at all though. It stays at near zero permanently! November 04, 2021 at 12:32AM

Biromantic grey, sex indifferent, no libido. November 04, 2021 at 12:32AM

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I’m 25F and haven’t enjoyed sex up until this point in my life. I’ll just say it straight out. My body struggles to become aroused (the whole idea of being wet still escapes me) and my own sexuality feels like a big, nebulous cloud hanging over me most of the time. I have historically only dated people who I knew were aesthetically attractive because it did not occur to me until recently that sexual attraction is not the same thing as thinking someone is aesthetically attractive. I almost never initiate sex in relationships bc I have no idea when you would even do that, it doesn’t cross my mind (I mean my partners always want more sex than me anyways so not an issue). But I will admire my partner in passing just like thinking they’re good looking. I know I have a sex drive in here somewhere, I do desire and fantasize about sex in my head with my partner but in person my body just doesn’t… work. I am working on listening to my body more and trying to figure out what is sexually attract...

I (20f) have a veeery very weird kink and I'm not sure if and how I should bring it up to my partner (21m) because it's really embarrassing for me. To be clear: my kink is weird and uncommon BUT it is completely safe and harmless. I wouldn't hurt myself, my boyfriend nor anybody else and it is nothing illegal. Me and my bf have a great sex life, I care about him a lot, but I'm holding a big part of my sexuality back and it frustrates me. He knows that I have a kink, he doesn't know which one, and he's always reassured me that it's safe for me to say it whenever I feel like to, that I don't have to feel embarrassed about things that makes me special, that he won't tell anybody, that he just wants me to feel free and that it's all up to me. He's been very sweet and supportive. A part of me wants to tell him and finally get to explore that part of my sexuality with somebody and get it off my chest. On the other hand, we've been dating fo...

Okay so... I should start with a disclaimer, I have been drinking a bit, so this is the only time I would ever post something like this. Sorry if my grammar or spelling is horrible. Hopefully, Grammarly comes in clutch here. Also, this is an alt account for obvious reasons lmao. I'm a 19-year-old (about to be 20) female who's a virgin. Recently, though, my sex drive is through the fucking roof. My entire day consists of me thinking about nothing but sex. I've even been close to leaving work early because of it... In high school, I repressed my sexual desires completely. I did have boyfriends, yes, but I never let it get farther than kissing due to fear. All of the females in my family are more than likely legit undiagnosed sex addicts, and I grew up in a very sex-oriented environment. I guess, seeing these women ruin their lives over sex kind of scared me away from it. I'm scared to do ANYTHING sexual because I'm afraid to become like them. I want to lose my vir...

I’ll make you squall all sprawled out Drawn like a French girl I’m all about going down, falling for you like the unsinkable ship Gonna drown on all your unthinkable drip Don’t slip, the floor is wet as I’m going all in I’ll flip you, then I’ll whip you, you’re seeing red like Stalin … Unforgettable, the things I’ll do to your anatomy Unregrettable, even though what we do is deviled blasphemy Unforeseeable, even in your wildest fantasy Inconceivable because I’m speaking so mild and casually … Your ass will be in agony The only casualty, filled your cavity, practically nasty, scantily trashy, actually ghastly cuz my kids will enter you like a poltergeist Jesus Christ, my dick is your savior; I will sacrifice your pussy precisely, Like a surgeon concisely operating my blade demonstrating my abilities.. Activities with me, and you won’t be walking straight with stability … But you had an epiphany; possibilities are endless when you give in to futility Countless dudes h...

the other week i decided to hook up with this dude i know from a mutual friend. the day after we had sex i started to bleed which i thought was odd because i already had my period that month but i thought it was just rough sex. after i got tested and it came back positive for chlamydia. I told the guy and he apologized and said that he would go get tested. today he texted me and said he doesn’t know what i’m talking about because all his tests came back negative. i haven’t had sex since january and that was with protection. So I know I had to get it from him why is he lying and how do i confront him. keep in mind he’s 19 a grown ass man and there’s no need to lie or feel embarrassed. please help Submitted November 04, 2021 at 12:58AM the other week i decided to hook up with this dude i know from a mutual friend. the day after we had sex i started to bleed which i thought was odd because i already had my period that month but i thought it was just rough sex. after i got tested an...

My husband definitely does not seem interested in his booty being touched. I am not super turned on by the idea in and of itself but I am turned on by giving him a mind blowing experience. I would never want to coerce him, and would never want to make him uncomfortable. I have just heard that it's a really good time for guys who try it. That said, is it inappropriate to bring up? Is there anything in particular I should or should not say? This isn't a big deal for me if he doesn't want to or anything. All opinions are welcome. Submitted November 04, 2021 at 12:59AM My husband definitely does not seem interested in his booty being touched. I am not super turned on by the idea in and of itself but I am turned on by giving him a mind blowing experience. I would never want to coerce him, and would never want to make him uncomfortable. I have just heard that it's a really good time for guys who try it. That said, is it inappropriate to bring up? Is there anything in p...

I went on a few dates with this girl I like and we ended up kissing several times. I asked her on a third date and she said “yeah I work everyday so we will have to see” I respond to her saying let me know when she’s free and she left me on read. Usually I’d take this as a sign of disinterest as she worked last week and still made time after work. But I feel like I should be a little bit more persistent with this girl because there is something different about her. I don’t really have any experience chasing girls as I usually give up if they don’t want to meet or ignore me. What should I do? Submitted November 04, 2021 at 12:05AM I went on a few dates with this girl I like and we ended up kissing several times. I asked her on a third date and she said “yeah I work everyday so we will have to see” I respond to her saying let me know when she’s free and she left me on read. Usually I’d take this as a sign of disinterest as she worked last week and still made time after work. But ...

Should guys wait until women have earned expensive dates rather than having them right off the bat? I heard some women say that coffee dates or non dinner dates are cheap and bad. Submitted November 04, 2021 at 12:07AM Should guys wait until women have earned expensive dates rather than having them right off the bat?I heard some women say that coffee dates or non dinner dates are cheap and bad.

We've been on five dates so far and only made out twice, once on the fourth and once on the fifth date, we do cuddle a lot but I always have to initiate any form of physical contact. Is this normal? Submitted November 04, 2021 at 12:08AM We've been on five dates so far and only made out twice, once on the fourth and once on the fifth date, we do cuddle a lot but I always have to initiate any form of physical contact. Is this normal?

My (21F) bf (23M) is studying graphic design but to be completely blunt he sucks at it. For starters he’s 23, switched majors twice,and is pretty behind in college all because of him being lazy. He always says that one day he’s gonna be rich and stuff yet chose a career like graphic design which already makes it hard. To make things worse he really really isn’t good at it. For the amount of time he’s been studying his work is very bad, there’s nothing in what he does that says “professional graphic designer”. He doesn’t have that much left before he graduates and I’m worried that it’ll be very hard for him to find a job when anyone sees his portfolio. I’ve tried telling him that maybe graphic design isn’t his thing and he gets offended and says I’m insulting his work but I mean if he asks for my opinion on something I’m gonna be honest…. Especially something important like a career. Submitted November 04, 2021 at 12:11AM My (21F) bf (23M) is studying graphic design but to be com...

I (24m) have been working closely with a fellow student teacher (22f) and it seems like she's sending signals but I'm very hesitant in a professional setting because I know it's such a gray area for flirtatiousness in a work environment. This girl gives me the most soul piercing eye contact when we talk, has asked me about something that I mentioned the previous week, quick touch of my arm to get my attention. Or today, she was telling me how she was redirecting a younger student and demonstrated by placing her palm on my upper back/shoulder area to 'show me' what she did. We bump/brush into each other a bit when walking. As I type this out it seems obvious, but like I said. In this professional setting it has me hesitant. I am definitely thinking about shooting a shot because we graduate in December and if I get turned down. Well I work w her for a few more weeks then never see her again. Just wondering if I seem to be reading this right. Submitted November 04...

I'm a Grey romantic Demisexual. November 03, 2021 at 11:43PM

Btw i love the aro ring November 03, 2021 at 11:41PM

This is absolutely disgusting but it says “boys make passes at girls in glasses” i definitely agree that it should be destroyed while the rest can stay November 03, 2021 at 11:41PM

Thank you! That’s super interesting. I’ll look into them :) November 03, 2021 at 11:41PM

I highly doubt that's what OP meant by "sexual by default" otherwise the question would become "do you think that breast are considered sexual by our culture" and the answer is obviously yes but OP said they realised breast were not "sexual by default". November 03, 2021 at 11:40PM