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when people compliment me, I want to bury my face in sand because I can’t stop smiling and blushing. It’s very rare, but my heart swells with so much happiness when it happens. August 15, 2019 at 12:02AM

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I (23F) feel like the biggest failure. I let him (23M) back in even though I had told myself so many times that I’d completely ignore him if he ever came back again. We were together for 3 years and broke up in February 2018. Two weeks ago he calls me out of the blue and apologizes for everything, he kept saying “fuck the person I was when I was with you, I hurt you so much I’m so sorry”. HE WAS CRYING whilst apologizing. He begged to be friends and like the absolute spineless piece of shit that I am, I welcomed him with open arms. He initially made it very clear he only wants to be there for me as a friend but he’s been contradicting himself a lot. He has been hyping me up by constantly calling me and checking up on me, sending me memes and constantly bringing up the good times we had in the past. He even accidentally dropped “I love you” two times and when I called him out on it he said it was muscle reflex. Which is total bullshit. He’s been getting jealous that I may be talking t...

We met when I was in university. Dated for two years before he asked me to marry him. So, actually, we’ve been together for fourteen years. I had only dated a few guys before him. Had sex with one. Not that this has anything to do with sex. In fact sex with him has only gotten better. It’s just ... lately I’ve been starting to wonder if we had rushed into things. I see the way our married friends act around each other and that’s not how we are at all. As far as having children is concerned we’ve talked it over and the timing has just ... never felt right. I want children but work keeps me busy. I travel for work a lot. If I were to slow down now, all of the work that I’ve put into my career will have gone to waste. He’s understanding of that. I’ve frozen my eggs and we’ve discussed adoption, which he’s on board with, so our options are open at least. Anyway, I ... don’t know how best to describe the way I feel. The change, better yet. I realize most couples go through this after a n...

Long back story short i am being sued by 2 debt collectors and the gf is willing to lend me the money to pay them both back in full, interest free, at my leisure. The relationship is going great, its not only the best one ive ever had in my entire life, it's the one that changed my lack of belief on "soul mates" (augmented more like, but god damn i understand the phrase "twin flames") so i am not worried about cheating, issues, we got all the deal breakers out in the open because we both didn't want to deal with another dead end. We agree on the next 5 years plan for both of us. So im not worried about having to pay back an ex. Im ok with taking the loan, but a part of my brain says its wrong to take a loan this early. Am i being irrational? Or should i take it? Tl;dr gf if 3 months is willing to lend me a few thousand, interests free, to pay back at my leasure, for my credit card debts. Am i wrong to take it? Submitted August 14, 2019 at 11:37PM L...

We started dating five months ago, both of us were bisexual and in our first relationship. We started off as friends and I was the one who ended up asking him out. It was great at first, we shared a lot of the same interests and our conversations flowed naturally. But now I'm realizing that I'm only romantically attracted to women. The long and short of this is that I only thought I was romantically attracted to him. I know I need to break it off with him before I leave for college in two weeks. He has anxiety and depression, and I want to make it clear that it wasn't anything 'wrong' he did during the relationship. He's a really great person and I still want us to be on good terms if possible. Can anyone give me some advice on how to go about this? TLDR: I need to break up with my boyfriend because I'm realizing I'm a lesbian, how do I let him down easy? Submitted August 14, 2019 at 11:39PM We started dating five months ago, both of us were bis...

So, long story short, I (F/32) was seeing a guy (M/34) for 3 months, I fell for him, but I also knew he was no good for me, and I knew there was no long term future with him, but I was attracted to him and even though he had MAJOR red flags I still texted and spent time with him, knowing that this would eventually end. After what I thought was a great weekend he ghosted me. I was upset, because though I knew the relationship would go nowhere, I wasn't ready to say bye yet, I hoped we would still have more fun. I cried for him, i texted him and he never responded. After about a month of sending one text a week, I finally gave up. I tried moving on, I started seeing another guy, slept with this other guy, but i couldn't stop thinking about my ex but I still hoped he would one day text me, not to start a relationship, but maybe for more fun. Fast forward 2 and half months after i last saw him, he texted me out of the blue, on a Monday, in the afternoon (cuz i've read the time...

Okay.. Second try.. Hopefully I am hitting all the rules now.. I've been sitting on this and have no idea where to seek advice anymore, I'm getting biased answers from my peers and I really want to understand where the medium actually is. My relationship has its issues, and we both work to make it better. It's not easy and after 8.5 years, there are a lot of things that just get left for 'later'. I'm starting to feel like one of those things Years ago I used to have a bad phone addiction, I was always on it. It was a bad coping skill and when ever I felt anxious I would just stare into my email. At that point my s/o told me that I cared more about my phone than him. I've been working really hard to fix some of these negligences. On my phone I have a daily use tracker and for the last year I clock about 3 hours use time a week, thats about 25 minutes a day. I feel like I'm rarely on my phone unless I'm transiting and even then I prefer headphones...

I'm horrified. He didn't tell me until 1.5 years into the relationship (today). Apparently I use it 50% of the time I talk with him or other people. He brought it up when we were facetiming and he said "I'm not a baby" (but not in an aggressive way) and I was like, what do you mean? I'm starting to wonder maybe I am too controlling of him. Also, I realize I always talk to him in this way and he always talks to me in a normal way so he must really not like it. Not sure why he waited this long to tell me tl;dr! Boyfriends says I talk to him in baby talk, not sure how to proceed Submitted August 14, 2019 at 11:48PM I'm horrified. He didn't tell me until 1.5 years into the relationship (today). Apparently I use it 50% of the time I talk with him or other people. He brought it up when we were facetiming and he said "I'm not a baby" (but not in an aggressive way) and I was like, what do you mean?I'm starting to wonder maybe I am to...

Hey r/relationships . So to get to the point, I met a guy on tinder about 3 or so weeks ago. We clicked, and met in person a few days after matching. The date was great, and I felt chemistry with him. We got intimate very quickly, and the next day had sex. After that, he stayed and cuddled, and we had a good time talking. Basically, he didn’t give off the signs of simply wanting to hit it and quit it. He kissed me and left after a few hours, and then texted me the next morning. We kept talking for a while until he stopped responding, and I assumed he was busy. A day went by, and then I decided to initiate by texting him. He responded almost immediately and left a nice text, but didn’t keep the conversation going very well so I assumed maybe he was busy or whatever. So I decided to stop texting and now it’s been almost a week since I’ve heard from him. I’m new to casual things like this, so I’m not sure if this means I’m never hearing from him again or if he may just be keeping things ...

I've been friends with A for about 3 years now. We're pretty different (I'm super introverted, don't drink, loves a good night in, she loves to drink and go out every weekend, as well as our values when it comes to dating, who pays for a first date (she thinks the guy should, I usually split), social issues, ideal partners (she wants a guy in 4 specific career fields who makes over 200k, I don't care about that as much), etc.) but we get along well and I consider her a close friend despite how different we are. We have been on girls trips together, have gone out together, gone shopping, gotten food, helped each other through difficult times, supported me when i was dating people, gone out of our ways to help each other when the other person was feeling shitty. She's been considerate and when it's just the two of us, she plans things we would both enjoy, or asks me if it's cool if she invites someone else, is super considerate of my medical condition, s...

My fiancé (M22) and I (F21) have been dating for 4 years, and have recently gotten engaged. We want to spend Christmas together, and have three weeks in December to see our families together. The problem is, both of us (understandably) want to spend the holiday with our respective families. He wants us to spend the 25th with his family, who lives in AZ. And I want us to spend the day with mine, who lives in ND. Logically, we know that we will spend a week and a half with the first family, spend Christmas Day with them, and then fly to the other to spend New Years. But he has a very little sister who has just come out of a mental institution for depression, who would be crushed if he wasn’t there for the holiday, and my father is dying of cancer and we don’t know how many christmases he has left, and would be alone on the 25th if we weren’t there. Does anyone have any advice on how to decide what to do this holiday season? Neither of us can visit over thanksgiving, so alternating famil...

Tl;dr at the bottom. Formatting might be off, I’m on mobile. My boyfriend and I have been together since January and I got pregnant right after we started dating. I’m 22 weeks along right now and these hormones have been making me act a bit crazy which is why I’m looking for some outside perspective. I’ve had some trust issues with him previously (see previous post history) and those + my insecurities from previously relationships have made our relationship rocky but the past few months have been okay. Between talking about us more and the distance, we have been able to work out many of our major issues. We’ve moved apart and see each other on weekends since he works at the bar directly below me Friday and Saturday. He’s a bouncer and he’s been job hopping a lot recently since nowhere can give him the hours he needs. A couple days ago, he got a job offer from someone he knows who is the owner of a strip club. I’m not sure how many hours it is but it’s really his only job prospect r...

I've known this girl for a little less than two months now (I have heard about her from a mutual friend for about a year, so she's not something completely new). We get along fine, have had plenty of good times together discussing life and what else is happening in our lives and well.. I would lie if I said I wouldn't want something more with her, than just being friends, but that's not the problem right now, it's about whether or not I should invest time and energy, into keeping a friendship that might not stay for long. At our last meetup, on the topic of relationships, she said that she thinks that one should not have friends of the opposite gender, if the person is in a relationship. She says life-long friends and workplace-friends are ok, but friends of the opposite gender outside those two categories, are not okay with her, or to quote her "they're unnecessary, and I don't think you should have them". I have a few female friends, but we ra...

It's a long story, but there will be TL;DR on the bottom. My boyfriend of two years lives in London, and I'm in Chicago, so that's a 6-hour time difference. We met on an anonymous erotic roleplaying website (F-List, if anyone is familiar), which affected my trust in him from the very beginning, but since then we've built trust and visited each other twice now (first at CHI, then at LON), met each other's friends and families and are now planning for me to move permanently over to London as soon as possible. Everyone we've told has been very supportive so far. He and I have had our ups and downs, and we've dealt with them as best we could, and whenever things have gotten super tough, we would always decide we don't want to give up and that we want to make things work. Recently he's finished university and started working a 9-to-5 job while I've got one on lock as soon as I finish my classes this October. Our schedules clash now more than ever, a...