How many failed first date attempts before I go back to the drawing board and think about what’s wrong with me as a person? I’ve tried asking out about 100 women now, and keep in mind this was always after making conversation and establishing some discourse, and gotten no every time. Should I reevaluate myself and what it is about me that might be causing this response? Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:39PM How many failed first date attempts before I go back to the drawing board and think about what’s wrong with me as a person? I’ve tried asking out about 100 women now, and keep in mind this was always after making conversation and establishing some discourse, and gotten no every time. Should I reevaluate myself and what it is about me that might be causing this response?

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Broke up with my boyfriend the weekend before Christmas . I'm not over it. I miss him. We've been doing the friends with benefits thing. Which I guess doesn't help me. I was hoping he'd stay the night with me today but he left to go to a friend's house for New Years. Which I'm pretty sure will have girls. I came to my mom's hoping to get distracted but she's just verbally putting me down. Going home to smoke and be sad and lonely on New Year's Eve. Just home alone with my dog and my 11 year old son. What is life? Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:43PM Broke up with my boyfriend the weekend before Christmas . I'm not over it. I miss him. We've been doing the friends with benefits thing. Which I guess doesn't help me. I was hoping he'd stay the night with me today but he left to go to a friend's house for New Years. Which I'm pretty sure will have girls. I came to my mom's hoping to get distracted but she's just v

Asking because for all my trying no person has ever been willing to give me a chance and I’m not entirely sure why... Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:53PM Asking because for all my trying no person has ever been willing to give me a chance and I’m not entirely sure why...

I get it, the shit is annoying but let's be real If someone gives a "hey, I don't think we work out" text they're more than likely going to receive responses that either are insulting to them or probably going to get responses trying to convince them of giving the would-be ghostee another chance For those who have liked someone a lot and got ghosted, would you try to convince them otherwise to give you a chance? I know for sure I would've wasted even more time doing so in the past if I were to ever get a "respectful" text telling me why we don't have chemistry It's not a reflection of your worth because someone else doesn't appreciate you. Their minds are made up, move on. Submitted January 01, 2020 at 12:05AM I get it, the shit is annoying but let's be realIf someone gives a "hey, I don't think we work out" text they're more than likely going to receive responses that either are insulting to them or proba

cleaning up my iphone photo albums today, came across some food photos i sent to a guy (25M) I matched with on an app almost 2 years ago now. Matched and started talking early 2018. I went back through all our conversations because why not, those food photos were bomb, and now I'm wondering if I should reach out to this guy. I'm terrible over text but he messaged me first, and often, and asked great questions, sometimes texted me multiple messages in a row, and always kept the conversation going. He made suggestions of dates like oh we should do this or this sometime, but never explicitly said hey wanna go do something with me this weekend. Despite that, I've never really connected with someone like this over text and we have the exact same sense of humor, interests, everything. BUT. we texted for almost 2 months and never met up so it kind of just ended up in a mutual ghosting or really just fizzled out. At the time, I was transitioning to a new job and I knew it would re

I (33f) love this man (36m) to the moon and beyond, but something isn't right. Our emotional bond is unbelievable, but we have made out only thrice. We have decided to wait for sex until marriage. We got close twice earlier and I felt butterflies on both occasions. But I didn't feel much today. I took a propranolol medicine 3 hours before our date. Does it mess up our feelings? Is it normal to feel different degrees of attraction in a stable relationship? Submitted January 01, 2020 at 12:07AM I (33f) love this man (36m) to the moon and beyond, but something isn't right. Our emotional bond is unbelievable, but we have made out only thrice. We have decided to wait for sex until marriage. We got close twice earlier and I felt butterflies on both occasions. But I didn't feel much today. I took a propranolol medicine 3 hours before our date. Does it mess up our feelings? Is it normal to feel different degrees of attraction in a stable relationship?

My boyfriend mumbles in his sleep sometimes and it’s usually incoherent nonsense but I decided to talk to him to see if he’d respond. I said “do you love me?” And in the sleepiest CUTEST tone he said “just so much” Y’all when I say I CRIED, I just had to lay there and hold him for a while. I never thought I’d be able to love again after everything I’ve gone through but with him it’s just endless appreciation and validation. He’s my best friend and it’s like everything before was so disingenuous. I’m actually IN LOVE, safely, healthily, and deeply. I’m going to marry this man. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:34PM My boyfriend mumbles in his sleep sometimes and it’s usually incoherent nonsense but I decided to talk to him to see if he’d respond. I said “do you love me?” And in the sleepiest CUTEST tone he said “just so much” Y’all when I say I CRIED, I just had to lay there and hold him for a while. I never thought I’d be able to love again after everything I’ve gone through but

I wish a happy new year to every lovely member of our community! I hope you all will spend your precious time with your family and your loves. I certainly do spending my new year's eve with the woman who is my true love and my family. 2020 will be ours! Happy New year everyone! Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:36PM I wish a happy new year to every lovely member of our community!I hope you all will spend your precious time with your family and your loves.I certainly do spending my new year's eve with the woman who is my true love and my family.2020 will be ours!Happy New year everyone!

I have been talking with someone that I considered special since she showed me a interest pretty “spicy” as you could say but, after that she just has been distant towards me and that really confuses me so, what should I do? Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:59PM I have been talking with someone that I considered special since she showed me a interest pretty “spicy” as you could say but, after that she just has been distant towards me and that really confuses me so, what should I do?

When my best friend called me up in the midnight last night, told me about her day while she allowed me to listen to her voice and sleep on the phone with her so I could feel safe in my dreams. Because most of the times, I don’t. Every now and then she said does this for me, then leaves me a long voice note in the morning before she leaves for work. She’s literally the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I’m so grateful for our friendship. I’m so blessed to be taking her with me to a different decade. She always makes me a better me. ♥️ Friends like that are so rare. Submitted January 01, 2020 at 12:14AM When my best friend called me up in the midnight last night, told me about her day while she allowed me to listen to her voice and sleep on the phone with her so I could feel safe in my dreams. Because most of the times, I don’t.Every now and then she said does this for me, then leaves me a long voice note in the morning before she leaves for work.She’s literally the b

It seems I match and date only women that have their sh*t together with a great career and good income, while I'm stuck with my current accounting entry level job. I feel like the women I meet play in a different league. Sometimes I have such a low self-esteem, that I have to cancel a date, or not propose a date at all even if hitting it off on the dating app. I think I would feel much more comfortable dating someone who's on a similar financial level. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:50PM It seems I match and date only women that have their sh*t together with a great career and good income, while I'm stuck with my current accounting entry level job. I feel like the women I meet play in a different league. Sometimes I have such a low self-esteem, that I have to cancel a date, or not propose a date at all even if hitting it off on the dating app. I think I would feel much more comfortable dating someone who's on a similar financial level.

Okay so I need some advice, last year I went on 3 dates with this guy and I didn't think he was for me so I ended it. He asked if we could be friends because he doesn't have very many female friends. I was sure okay because he seems like a nice guy (always keeping in the back of my mind, that he most likely would put the moves on me at some point). Anyway, we continued hanging out and everything is normal and fine. He's hot, nice, very smart, loyal, and all these things, but throughout our friendship I could tell that he wasn't always honest with me because he was trying to impress me and feed me bullshit that he thought it's what I wanted to hear. For me, that's a turn off, because it feels like someone's lying to me and trying to manipulate the situation (also how dumb do you think I am). I never called him out on it, but I deinitely noted the manipulation and the sneakiness and the little lies (I think he just thinks he's smartest guy in the room). N

I'm still stuck in the 2010's... :( January 01, 2020 at 12:11AM

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That’s kinda how I feel too. Something to figure out for myself for sure. January 01, 2020 at 12:04AM

Alright, thank you for the advice! ❤️ January 01, 2020 at 12:03AM

I'm a 19F as well. It's impossible for me to combine the idea of having sex with someone I'm romantically attracted to. Don't know if I truly am an ace but I know I don't want any sexual thing in my life. And for now I don't feel the need to tell anyone about my asexuality. I just feel like it's just a detail in my life people don't necessarily need to know about. December 31, 2019 at 11:59PM

Only you can decide who you are, don't let your friends influence you unless you believe its to better yourself as a person. In my experience, it's best to feel your way through this kind of thing rather than decide how you feel. We got all the time we need for this, no need to rush anything. You're young, don't freak yourself out by thinking you need to fit into any category. Be yourself 💜 December 31, 2019 at 11:51PM

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So lemme explain this real quick. I asked my crush out if she wants to go see a movie and she said yes. She has also told me several times that she likes my personality and that im really kind to her and stuff. And after we go out of the cinema and get some food i want to ask her if she wants to start dating with me. I am also kinda scared of being rejected. This is also our first time going out (only us 2 without any friends or classmates). Please tell me if its right to ask her on our first "date" or sometime later. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 12:17AM So lemme explain this real quick. I asked my crush out if she wants to go see a movie and she said yes. She has also told me several times that she likes my personality and that im really kind to her and stuff. And after we go out of the cinema and get some food i want to ask her if she wants to start dating with me. I am also kinda scared of being rejected. This is also our first time going out (only us 2 without an

Stop being always available to people who are just there for you when it’s convenient for them. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 12:22AM Stop being always available to people who are just there for you when it’s convenient for them.

I went to a wedding yesterday of my cousin and a women from the other side I caught looking at me. Then we went to a house of the father in laws and there I noticed when she spoke I listened in a crowd and she kept looking at 1-2 people and then looking at me. Then after she was behind me and she came along at what we were looking at, held my arm leaned over and her head came on my shoulder briefly. I was going to ask for her number but then someone asked me to leave with them abruptly. To me that last bit was a clear intent, women don’t do that unwillingly. Thoughts? I am going to find a way to contact her and talk to her I heard she is 18f and I’m 25m. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 12:22AM I went to a wedding yesterday of my cousin and a women from the other side I caught looking at me.Then we went to a house of the father in laws and there I noticed when she spoke I listened in a crowd and she kept looking at 1-2 people and then looking at me.Then after she was behind

Long story short, I'm finding it difficult to go out of my way to try to use dating apps or do things that may involve romantic interest/events, or try to branch out. I just lack the motivation these days. Random facts about me that may aid you in giving me tips: I have been warned that Reddit may not be the best place to be upfront about things without being heavily judged, but I feel stranded with nowhere else to look for advice. Please try not to make presumptions about me and be friendly/well mannered. Physical aspects: Male, low mid-20s, above-average looking, did some modeling too (on the side, not my career), a bit over 6 feet tall. Asian. A bit on the thinner build, not "skinny" by any means. Objectively I believe I am decently attractive. I'm no Hollywood star of course, but I'm definitely not very unattractive either. Decently successful for my age , which has been a variable contributing to my shrinking motivation to date because of time const

What do you think I should do? This is my first post so bear with me pls. I'm 17 and I'm dating for the first time. She's really adorable and supports me and I don't have nothing bad to say out about her We will be dating for 1 year in February and our relationship is pretty great We are in the same class and we are together every day because of that. I'm writing this because sometimes I get this feeling that I shouldn't be dating. I'm on holidays and away from home. I've come to realise that there is some limits when interacting with other people that you have to be cautious when you are in a relationship and I feel like I'm too young for that. Like, in my age is a bit suffocating at times being in a relationship and maybe I if I was single I would be able to enjoy my young years. I'm don't know if I want to break up with her, but I know that I can't do it in person cause I don't want to see her cry or hurt. But I don't want t

"Hey, we've been talking for a while. And i kinda like you. We should date maybe?" She said. Random woman who he had been talking to. Random woman to fill the void. A big gap, no amount of success or happiness could fill. Each day was same, empty, grey and silent. The colours that once painted this world vivid had all disappeared, wiped off with his own hands, destroyed by his own demise, destroyed by his inabity to act. There when the void was about to filled, when another tried upon his heart, he realised, that love is present, always and throughout him. He muttered the words of love, words of sacrifice," I shall love in perpetuity.i shall love till i forget what love is not. I dont need to let go. For love stays in my heart, not in my mouth or in the state of my being. Let me be alive or dead, walking or immobile, happy or unhappy, i will love. And when her time comes, let her marry a man who keeps her happy, let her live a satisfied life. Let her walk the path h

I'm 30 years old/male been in 2 long term relationships. Had to breakup with one due to the fact I found out she was cheating on me and I don't give cheaters a second chance. The second one broke up with me because she felt that I deserved better and tried everything from therapy and to talking about the issues. I tried so hard to want her to stay but she left. Thus has been 1 year ago. I met my exs from old jobs. I like chatting and joking around and having intellectual conversations. I have never done internet dating because for one I don't know who is on the other side and two I enjoy face to face interaction instead of texting. What should I do? I am ready to move on but i do not know where to start. Thanks Submitted December 31, 2019 at 12:09AM I'm 30 years old/male been in 2 long term relationships. Had to breakup with one due to the fact I found out she was cheating on me and I don't give cheaters a second chance. The second one broke up with me becau

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Nope because it's riddled with terf logic. You can be sexually/romantically attracted to women/women aligned people, while being romantically/sexually attracted to two or more genders(which does not include men). What's so hard about this? Get this terf, bi/pan/lesbian-phobic shit out of here and do some research please. December 31, 2019 at 12:09AM

Im so happy for you and that you finally feel comfortable for being you!! I understand it can be hard coming to terms with being ace (lord knows I still am) but youre never alone and everyone here and on other ace forums are here for you whenever you need. As for friendships Im so sorry to hear that some of your friends are unaccepting of you but it seems like you know who you are and are sticking to your feelings and beliefs its inspiring, but if you feel alone and want to meet other like minded people I suggest giving the AVEN forums a try They have a section where people from all around the globe organise meet ups with other aces and Im sure that there are more aces than you think nearby who will understand and accept you. Or there are also ace dating apps like AceApp which help aces find romantic or platonic relationships. Just remember to keep being you!! ♠️ December 31, 2019 at 12:08AM

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Bi lesbians can’t exist because bisexuality and lesbianism and two different sexualities. Bisexuality refers to a person being attracted to two different genders, usually referencing the binary but it doesn’t have to. A bisexual person can be of any gender. However, lesbian refers to a cis gender woman being attracted to other cis gender or people she perceived as other cis gender women. Does this not make sense? December 31, 2019 at 12:01AM

bi lesbian can refer to bisexual lesromantic or biromantic lesbian December 30, 2019 at 11:59PM

OMG thank you! I feel that idemromantic (a subcategory of quoiromantic) fits me perfectly. December 30, 2019 at 11:58PM

It’s not valid that literally doesn’t make sense. December 30, 2019 at 11:58PM

It's in the last paragrahph. I'm not debating this though. I explained in my comment to op. Bi lesbians exist. Not up for debate and that's exactly what op tried to do. December 30, 2019 at 11:56PM

Yeah, you know I never thought about it but it's someone else's fault for asking me what the ring is for, it's not something that'd get an "OmG wHy ArE yOu PrEaChInG yOuR sExUaLiTy AaAaAaAhHhHhH" December 30, 2019 at 11:49PM

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A couple of weeks ago I met a guy by chance on a night out. He was really pursuant and chatty and asking lots of questions, added me on insta and then Snapchat. We've been chatting on Snapchat ever since. He's doing a masters in a different country and will be coming back home at the end of January and wants to meet up. His family also live abroad and he spent Christmas with them, he's been snapchatting me the whole time but it felt quite inconspicuous, I mean I get you don't want to be on your phone the whole time you're with your family but a lot of the ones throughout the day have been like bathroom selfies and under the table selfies. I didn't make much of it at all in the beginning but he grew on me a bit down the line, I thought his curiosity was cute but I also put that down to the fact that I'm older and he's obviously intrigued and it could be a novelty for him (I'm 27 and he's 22). One thing I did notice on his insta are 2 pictures w

I'm 26 and heading back to school to get my Bachelors. I have my education visible on my dating profile and even mention 'returning to complete my Bachelors Degree' a few different times. I keep getting matched with really educated successful men and its INTIMIDATING AF. I have a small child who just started school and a job that payed decent so I didn't really prioritize returning to school until recently(I have more time now). The dates I've been on have gone well 🤷🏽‍♀️ Regardless, I'm curious.. how would you feel if you saw someone you were interested in but they had not yet completed a traditional degree or had a 'career' by mid 20s. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:36PM I'm 26 and heading back to school to get my Bachelors. I have my education visible on my dating profile and even mention 'returning to complete my Bachelors Degree' a few different times. I keep getting matched with really educated successful men and its INTIMI

So this girl I was seeing for about 2 months texted me a few days after the last time we hung out. This was before the holidays and she said how she thought I was super sweet and liked me, but didn't want a serious relationship, and didn't want to string me along. I replied saying that I am happy to take things slow, and asked her if she wanted to still see me or if we should just move on, to which she said she wanted to still see me and hangout after the holidays. At first I was super happy about that, but ever since she said that I have been getting ghosted from her, sent her a text, no response, about a week later I send another small text and no response. So it is fair to see this is the end. But why did she do this? I clearly asked if she wanted to move on or not and she told me she wanted to hang out still, only to ghost me right after. I guess I am slightly annoyed, but more so confused than anything. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:42PM So this girl I was seein

I (22m) am an IT student, so naturally I don't have many girls in my college. I was interested in one, but despite her being my type and going out a few times (not dates tho) chemistry between us was kinda on and off and I don't think she's interested, especially given that almost always I was the one initiating the conversation. I don't party much, and if I am it's mostly with guys, I'm kinda poor so most paid activities like dancing lessons aren't really available. Girls I have good contact with (from previous schools) are mostly in relationships, everyone advices me not to use dating apps. I don't really see many options here, or maybe I'm just blind. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:43PM I (22m) am an IT student, so naturally I don't have many girls in my college. I was interested in one, but despite her being my type and going out a few times (not dates tho) chemistry between us was kinda on and off and I don't think she's i

Met this girl on a night out got her snapchat and we texted the next day for a bit. But I have no idea what next to text. Should i just go like "Honestly im horrible at texting want to meet up for drinks on *insert day here*" Also to note she's good friends with someone I work with so should I just ask her about what I should do? Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:49PM Met this girl on a night out got her snapchat and we texted the next day for a bit. But I have no idea what next to text. Should i just go like "Honestly im horrible at texting want to meet up for drinks on *insert day here*" Also to note she's good friends with someone I work with so should I just ask her about what I should do?

I (30M) was at a party last night a couple of friends were hosting at their apartment. This girl (29F) and I arrived coincidentally at the same time and had some small talk in the elevator before heading in to my friend's apartment. Once there I started greeting everyone and after 5 minutes I'm standing next to the same girl and she mentions how besides the host (whom she studied with) she didn't know anyone else at the party. I gave her my name and said playfully that now she knows at least one other person there. She smiled and gave me hers. She seemed pretty cool and we briefly talked, but after a minute or so, this other girl was saying hi to her, and I then noticed another friend whom I hadn't seen in about 10 years, so we talked a bit to catch up, thinking that I could mingle for a bit and then talk to this girl again in a bit. After our chat (around 10mins I'd say) I notice the girl I was previously talking to just left the party. She was gone. I asked my f

How do you start talking to the girl one likes out of the blue without being creepy or forward To me it seems that just saying hi is odd as u have no reason to talk to that person. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:54PM How do you start talking to the girl one likes out of the blue without being creepy or forwardTo me it seems that just saying hi is odd as u have no reason to talk to that person.

Hi All, I'm seeking a dating and self improvement advice as I have been on the Single market for a while now and I'm planning on going back to dating again. Lately I have been thinking about my fashion sense and if I should change it. On a dress down days at work or when I go out with friends, I would usualy wear something like this ( Hoodie \ Hoodie \ T-Shirt \ T-Shirt + Jeans). As you have noticed from the examples above, I like very bright and colorful clothing. This types of clothes make me feel comfortable and confident as well as I think it highlights my personality, me being a very nerdy, introverted and shy 26 year old guy. 🤷‍♂️ 🤷‍♂️ I usually get a mixture of reactions from various people, for example: My manager at work: Please come in something darker/black to work on the dress down days. Co-Workers: This sh*t is so bright I'm going to become blind Close Friend: Nothing. Male Stranger: I am so amazed that you wear that, it has soo much pink on it.

I cant seem to get a date no matter what I do. I'm very antisocial and introverted so I've always imagined that's why. I haven't gone on even a date in 3 years. I had always thought that I had some very extroverted friends who would help me with that. But since then I joined the army and now I have no friends as i am now at my first duty station. I'll be out of the army in 3 years. I turn 21 in less than a month. I'm a male. Please don't recommend bars. Any advice is much appreciated! Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:58PM I cant seem to get a date no matter what I do. I'm very antisocial and introverted so I've always imagined that's why. I haven't gone on even a date in 3 years. I had always thought that I had some very extroverted friends who would help me with that. But since then I joined the army and now I have no friends as i am now at my first duty station. I'll be out of the army in 3 years. I turn 21 in less than a month.

My ex-bf broke up with me because he wanted to try online dating locally (he moved to another country after 1 year of being together physically and I never had a problem with long distance ) . Of course I let him go without a fuss. As much as I was devastated i didn't show it on his face as I didn't want him to feel guilty and retain my pride. I have moved on now. Not bitter or angry. In fact if anything I have learnt to be content on my own with help of wonderful family and supportive friends. But just out of curiosity, would u guys do the same as he did? Why and why not? Just want to understand in perspective for my own education. Be as honest as you want. I need to undertand this so that in future I know what to expect if ever i come across similar situation again. Submitted December 30, 2019 at 12:07AM My ex-bf broke up with me because he wanted to try online dating locally (he moved to another country after 1 year of being together physically and I never had a p

Hooked up with this girl a few times and I started to really like her, but she got back together with her ex when he asked her back two weeks ago. I felt crushed, and just told her to hit me up if she changes her mind. Since then she has posted pictures on Facebook with whom I believe to be her ex. I had started moving on as well, meeting new girls and hanging out with friends. Just today, she texted me in response to a Facebook story post about my lunch. Her pictures with her ex are still up. I don’t know how to take this initiative on her part. Is she available now for me to ask to meet up? Should I ignore the message? Maybe she just likes food? Any advice is appreciated. Submitted December 30, 2019 at 12:21AM Hooked up with this girl a few times and I started to really like her, but she got back together with her ex when he asked her back two weeks ago. I felt crushed, and just told her to hit me up if she changes her mind. Since then she has posted pictures on Facebook wit

Today I had a long discussion with my wife and after 2 hours, she conceded I was right. I am quite worried as this had never happened to me. Is this a trick? Submitted December 30, 2019 at 12:20AM Today I had a long discussion with my wife and after 2 hours, she conceded I was right. I am quite worried as this had never happened to me. Is this a trick?

Question is pretty much listed above. Bit of a background - I have been seeing someone I really like for almost a month now, but we haven't had the "exclusive talk" yet. I have only been on one date with another person after our first date, but quickly stopped checking apps/talking to other people. I haven't deleted my profile or apps yet, because, well, just in case we change the pace or he's not on the same page as me, which means that I still get notifications on my phone for when people like me. Last night, we spent the night together for the first time, and my phone was charging on his side of the bed. He had to turn off the alarm when it went off in the morning, and checked the time using my phone, etc. I asked him to pass my phone and I saw a couple of notifications from bumble/hinge for likes, etc. I am 100% sure he saw them, but didn't say anything. I felt really bad/guilty, because I really don't want him to think I'm still actively seeking

Okay so I'm talking to this girl and she just left me on read. We've been talking a lot for the past couple days and we weren't really conversing just sending pics back and forth on snapchat, which kind of makes sense why she may have rnr'd me. What I'm confused about is that she seemed really interested also, constantly sparking up conversation, asking how my day was etc. Now, I can see that she is active on snapchat but has left me on read for 3 hours. Do I be the person to snap her first or do I wait for her to message? I feel like this can go somewhere but her leaving me on read is giving me solid second thoughts. Any help is appreciated! Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:43PM Okay so I'm talking to this girl and she just left me on read. We've been talking a lot for the past couple days and we weren't really conversing just sending pics back and forth on snapchat, which kind of makes sense why she may have rnr'd me. What I'm confused

For me, i’m just going to go out more and enjoy myself with or without friends because it seems like the more you try hard at dating whether it’s IRL or OLD, the less likely you are to get matches and go on actual dates. I’d rather just let the universe take the wheel and let everything fall into place. Now I know that’s more reactive versus proactive but at the same time you don’t want to be so focused and consumed on dating. Because let’s face it, OLD/IRL dating is fucking EXHAUSTING! I don’t care who had it easier or harder back in the day it just sucks in general. It’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack, I’m not saying it’s impossible to find your partner but it takes a toll on you. Too much swiping, too much of the same ON EVERY DATING PROFILE “make me laugh”, we’re not all circus seals and news flash some people aren’t all that funny...so try again... “must love dogs” like that’s a personality trait?! REALLY LADIES?! And my personal favorite, references from the office “

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Does anyone have a recommendation on where to look for an online sex therapist in Cali or a recommendation of someone you’ve used? It would be to help me break through the mind barriers that stop me from being able to orgasm with others. Even by myself, it can take me over an hour and I go through two vibrator charges at times. Thank you. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:16AM Does anyone have a recommendation on where to look for an online sex therapist in Cali or a recommendation of someone you’ve used? It would be to help me break through the mind barriers that stop me from being able to orgasm with others. Even by myself, it can take me over an hour and I go through two vibrator charges at times. Thank you.

So When I was 7? I unconsiously masturbated to the thought of being punished into wearing diapers/doing baby things. I always have had a rocky? Toxic? Relashionship with my overprotective mom and a somewhat distant father. I touched myself not to the thought of a sexual act but to the situation of being punished by a figure of authority in my life (usually my mom) and them making me wear diapers, do baby things. I must make it clear I don't and I didn't I have a desire to have sex with any of these people nor my "dreams/fantasies" include any type of sex. I continued to touch myself to these things, eventually found out I was masturbating all along (I thought it was an adrenaline rush eheh) and about ab/dl, Dd/lg, etc... and I thought I had a diaper kink . Until recently. I still have kinky thoughts. I am into lingerie, having a "daddy" or a dominant, spanking... but not diapers really. I am not sexually active and haven't experienced any of these fanta

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What is love? I’ve never felt it? I don’t think I really understand what it is, what it feels like? I don’t think I will ever attain romantic love. What does it feel like? Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:19AM What is love? I’ve never felt it? I don’t think I really understand what it is, what it feels like? I don’t think I will ever attain romantic love. What does it feel like?

I, 20 year old Male, just went on a date with this girl with whom I have had 1 date before(2 if you count a workout together). This girl has been texting me quite a few times after not talking for a bit since I was doing my internship in another country and only home during the weekends. We have also been having some nice long hugs whenever we meet or say goodbye. By the way I most likely won't be seeing her for atleast a couple of months, since I am going to the UK for a study abroad and won't be able to come back during the weekends. I got out of a 6 year relationship half a year ago and I am not looking for a new one. However I would like to have some escalation with this girl (kissing/hooking up). My question is what could I do next time I hang out with her to escalate. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:10AM I, 20 year old Male, just went on a date with this girl with whom I have had 1 date before(2 if you count a workout together). This girl has been texting me qu

I confessed my feelings 🤦🏻‍♀️ I (27F) have been talking to a guy (54M) I met through work for months. We talk almost everyday. He initiated 90% of the time. Inside jokes, silly stuff, tell each other personal stuff, anything. I get the feeling he’s interested in me- he teases me, sends me selfies a lot, and seems to enjoy our conversations. Well, we met for some time today to hang out and it was fun. We both enjoyed ourselves. I decided to send a text and just admit that I have feelings for him and said that I should have told him in person earlier, but I’d just rather say it. He said we’ll talk in person, it’s better than text. Which I fully agree btw. But my gosh I’m stressing. I would love to just be friends with him if the feelings aren’t reciprocated. But I have to wait a few days to hear what he has to say. Any input anyone? SOS. Silently dying because I’m impatient. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:13AM I confessed my feelings 🤦🏻‍♀️I (27F) have been talking to a

Well don’t know what to say but invite you guys to laugh at my blunder. I set the record for shortest relationship of my life haha. After dating for a month and becoming mutually exclusive on Christmas, I set the record of shortest relationship. Last night in the middle of sleep and after a night of moderate drinking I rolled over hugged her and said the words nobody wants to hear. I told her I love you then immediately froze hoping she was asleep. Nope, she heard me and this morning said we’re better off as friends. I don’t blame her, but hey you live and you learn. I learned when I think I should go home and not stay over, I should just go home. I can’t help but laugh at the situation and wanted to share. Happy holidays! Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:14AM Well don’t know what to say but invite you guys to laugh at my blunder. I set the record for shortest relationship of my life haha. After dating for a month and becoming mutually exclusive on Christmas, I set the record o

There is a guy I have been interested in for quite sometime but most times, I make the plans, I call or text him, I keep in contact and I’m tired of it. I feel if he really wanted me he would try to talk more or plan things. When we talk, he swears I make him feel ways he has never felt before and how much he wants to be with me when it’s the right time.. (he’s under a lot of stress with school and I live 1000 miles away until May) Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:18AM There is a guy I have been interested in for quite sometime but most times, I make the plans, I call or text him, I keep in contact and I’m tired of it. I feel if he really wanted me he would try to talk more or plan things. When we talk, he swears I make him feel ways he has never felt before and how much he wants to be with me when it’s the right time.. (he’s under a lot of stress with school and I live 1000 miles away until May)

I’ve been texting this guy for a few weeks and I’m really starting to like him. I haven’t met him in person yet, but he went to high school with my best friend who said he was kind of wild, but nothing too bad. She said she really liked hanging out with him. So from what I’ve gathered, he’s had a really rough life. His mom used to be an alcoholic, he was homeless at one point, he’s dated some insane girls, he’s been abused, taken advantage of etc...and I just found out he was adopted and he said his bio cousin and bio brother are literal, clinical psychopaths. I really like this guy and think he’s really sweet. I don’t want to pry and make him tell me his life story so I can properly psychoanalyze him, but I’m also kind of worried going in somewhat blind. I’m driving to their (him and my friends) city for New Years so I’ll meet him this week. Any advice? Please don’t tell me to run. I’ve dated other guys that had problems/dealt with abuse that weren’t abusive/insane at all. I don’

My mum is begging me to come to Christmas (she was working Christmas day) but I don't want to. In her latest text she said it could be our grandma's last one and I don't know what to do. My mother used to choke and hit me as a kid and kicked me out at 16, I don't feel attached and come to things because I know it hurts her when I don't. But even now sometimes we have conversation that leave me with a bad taste, such as her making light of her past abuse, or bringing up how I hit her (somehow twisted in her mind?) when the last time she did something I held up her arms and asked her to stop. Of course normally its just a few hours and it's over, I don't usually see her bad sides anymore. Despite that, I dread spending time with her. What do I do? Should I really go? For my grandma? TLDR; Don't enjoy time with my mother, but feel bad if it is grandmas last Christmas, should I go to lunch today? Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:01AM My mum is beg

My boyfriend [23] & I [22] have been together for almost 2 years. We’ve met through tinder (yes you can find love there trust me) & we really connected through this game called league of legends (aka lol). We’ve found that we both had the same interests in this game & we both started playing together often. Recently we both have started playing more lol & when we do we always play with each other. Like any games, this game has a streak of making people get very emotional as it’s a competitive game & can make some ppl toxic. Again it’s just like any other game you see out there that can bring the worst out of a person (ie fortnite, cod, overwatch, etc). My boyfriend has been lashing out in games & recently I have been the one getting the baggage. We’re both gold (I’m gold 4 & he’s gold 3) & he has a lot more experience playing that game as he played it way before i did. Because of that he’s been very verbally aggressive with me through this game. He alw

TL;DR :End friendship with girl of my dreams because she got a boyfriend. Am I wrong? Our relationship started sexual. It grew into a beautiful long distance friendship despite all odds. I tried dating her but She told me She wasn't ready for a relationship despite previously wanting me to relocate and us trying to have a child together. She ask me to come visit her again for the fifth time because every other month we would go on trips together and hook up (cruises, flights, etc). The day before my flight she said “her boyfriend don’t like the idea of me staying with her which is understandable but I didn’t even know she got a boyfriend in the 3-4 weeks of her asking me to come see he and that she decided to tell me about it the day before I arrived. I had a great time on my trip. I respected her relationship despite seeing her with her new love of her life especially knowing that how we used to be. I decided to distance myself and emotions. Am I selfish for protecting my heart