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Yes! I didn't know it was happening, but I was beyond happy to be there at the right time! October 13, 2019 at 12:22AM

Yes! My roommates are always like “let’s have a game night” and then they just drink and I’m like... “I brought Clue, Carcassonne and The Mind guys, ya ready?” October 13, 2019 at 12:20AM

I'm wearing a similar one, just slightly broader, so there's at least one other person who considers this an ace ring ;) October 13, 2019 at 12:18AM

I am still confused by this as it has been a couple of days already. I went out on a second date with this very nice women and things were going really good. We don’t really talk much over text or anything maybe a couple of funny gifs and stuff but we both have very busy careers. Back to the story..After we have dinner we sit outside and wait for our Uber. As we are sitting there and talking she brings up that she was raped and has to testify pretty soon against the guy. She seems pretty level headed and calm talking about and I am just floored about the story. It changes the vibe of the date. I was very sympathetic and really listened to her. My question here is with that type of traumatic event is that something you would bring up on a second date b) If you heard that from your date, how would you react? Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:57PM I am still confused by this as it has been a couple of days already. I went out on a second date with this very nice women and things wer

Lou Reed and Laurie Anderson are key figures in my personal journey. They are/were both absolute icons for me, people who showed me there was a horizon beyond the one I could see. So I've been fascinated by their relationship, ever since they hooked up when they were 50+ years old. This is an essay by LA talking about their relationship, I'd be interested in hearing other people's perspective on it. https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/laurie-andersons-farewell-to-lou-reed-a-rolling-stone-exclusive-243792/ Key passages for me... > ...we spent a happy afternoon looking at amps and cables and shop-talking electronics. I had no idea this was meant to be a date, but when we went for coffee after that, he said, “Would you like to see a movie?” Sure. “And then after that, dinner?” OK. “And then we can take a walk?” “Um . . .” From then on we were never really apart. > Like many couples, we each constructed ways to be – strategies, and sometimes compromises, th

TLDR: mum is a stubborn heavy drinker who sits there whole she has an asthma attack and won't use her inhalers or let me help her. Right now she's in the next room having an asthma attack with her two inhalers (she has a blue and pink one, they do different things but I don't know what) and not taking them. I went in to make sure she had them and ask what I could do to help, and she just tells me she's fine. That's all she ever says, "I'm fine", if you were fine you wouldn't be struggling to breath? I wouldn't worry so much if she just used her inhalers or asked us to get them instead of laying/sitting there shaking her head and struggling to breath. She also drinks heavily most nights, which definitely doesn't help, as it's when her asthma gets worse. Before anyone asks, no she won't see a doctor. Last time she did see one was Christmas Eve/Christmas Day 2017, she had an asthma attack and panic attack, became convinced she was h

Have been coworkers with a very attractive girl for a few years now. She's mentioned wanting to hang out with me for a long time but I'm hesitant to hook up with coworkers even though I'd love to, but too risky. We hung out a week ago and ended up back at my place. I put some moves on her but she rejected me saying she just wants to be friends. I told her that I'd never stop hitting on her if we hung out again. Just to make it clear. A week goes by and I don't contact her. I'm not upset and actually kinda like the idea of just being friends. But we have a shift together and she texts me: Want to get high after work? So I'm thinking: she knows me and that I'll be making advances. She must be cool with it now. We hang out again, talk leads to sex and she even wants to watch some porn with me (!). But once again she resists my advances, saying friends only. I say FWB, hah, but no go. I'm not going to force myself on her, I respect her wishes. And n

So, I've been getting the impression a friend that I like might be interested in dating me. I'm definitely interested, and a part of me wants to just ask him out, but I worry that there's too much important info he doesn't know about me. Firstly, I haven't really "dated" before - I had two relationships in my teens but they were straight into relationships without really any "dating" period, and I would definitely want to take things slower/try dating to get to know each other better before I would want to have like... an "official" relationship or whatever. And more importantly, there's the reasons that I haven't been in a relationship since that last one ended. There are two main reasons that go hand in hand - 1) I am asexual, and have no interest in having sex but find it hard to believe someone else would be interested in a relationship with no sex, and 2) my last relationship was emotionally manipulative and my ex used m

I met my current bf when I was 18 and he was 22. We hit it off instantly and quickly moved in together. We have had a rocky relationship, a lot of our stress came from not having enough money, and always being broke. When I met him he was on house arrest for a crime he didn't commit, he couldn't keep a job because of this reason so I was the main one working my ass off. He spent a lot of time at home and his friend moved in with us about 6 months into our relationship. His friend was very disrespectful to me, never picked up after himself, and had took my car multiple times without my permission. He had lived with us for a month and when it was time to pay rent he didn't have his $300 so I told him he had 3 days to pack his shit and get out. This didn't sit well with him obviously and ever since then we have been somewhat enemies. My boyfriend never really stood up to his friend when he knew he was being disrespectful to me, which I didn't like and always told him

M 28 and F 24 years old. Relationship lenght: 1 and a half years (First post, please be merciful!) Sorry, it's quite a long read! A bit more than a month ago I found out my boyfriend had been on a dating site for like a month while hiding it from me. I found out quite randomly and he confessed he'd lost the spark between us and that he wanted to flirt with other girls. He also said he didn't get horny around me anymore. This was the situation: I had moved to another country to stay with him and this happened after a few months that I'd been there. We lived together for like 2 months before this happened. He said he started craving his space more and more since we started sharing the flat. It was an experiment and apparently we had failed. He had tried to break up with me once already but then felt guilty and said the spark came back too. After he tried to dump me the first time, I went through a hard time (he was the only friend I had around, I stopped working so

Destined for bad love life? My gf (20fm)of 6 months and I (19m)just broke up, and honestly I’m pretty bent out of shape about it. It just feels like history repeats itself. I’ve lost all my other relationships for similar reasons but can’t see to figure out how or what to change. It’s the same “you can’t express love”. I feel like I’m destined towards bad relationships. Not a single person in my family has ever stayed married to one person their whole life so I don’t even know what a good relationship would look like. I just feel stuck and existential sad that there might not be a permanent person in my life. Any advice would be great Tldr; all my relationships end the same way, I don’t even know what a healthy relationship feels or looks like. Am I destined for bad love? How do I fix this? Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:41PM Destined for bad love life?My gf (20fm)of 6 months and I (19m)just broke up, and honestly I’m pretty bent out of shape about it. It just feels like his

My (26f) husband (26m) had to pull up a ticket from his pictures and was obviously trying to shield me from seeing. (He has had issues with lying to me about financial matters in the past though we have moved past that) I made him give me his phone and there was a picture of a dick. I was obviously upset thinking it was him and he was sending it to people. I questioned him and he said it was just a picture he found online and liked so he kept it. Upon further examination I confirmed that it wasn’t him in the picture. I did however continue to look through his phone. I found Grindr and Whisper. Grinder was him exchanging the dick picture saved in his phone with other guys. A couple suggesting they meet up but no exchange of actual information. The whisper account had stuff about being curious and wanting to experiment while I was out of town. There were also straight up lying posts saying I was pregnant and he was so happy. He told me he realized he was bi within the past year and thi

This is really getting to me. My wife and I are trying to save money to cover some costs for a long-term overseas job opportunity for her (not a point of contention between us at all, I'm totally okay with her going and she knows that). I'm the primary money manager in the house, and I've made some serious alterations to my lifestyle so that we can put away more money for her, but she still spends quite a bit on little things (mostly outside food, usually between $1-4, but a few higher-ticket purchases too) that add up to be more than she realizes. I talked to her last month about how it was necessary to stop spending the extra money, and she did cut back somewhat, but not entirely. This hurt my feelings quite a bit honestly, since I've given up almost all non-necessary expenses in the interest of saving money for her. I confronted her about it again today, and she was initially receptive, but then got angry when she perceived the conversation as "going on too lon

My crush and I only see each other for two days a week because that's when we have breaks between our classes. However, once the last day we meet ends, we don't text. I always start the convo and she either ends it by replying with a one-word response, or does not respond. But then once the week is about to start, I ask to meet up again and she always says yes. What could this mean? Do I still have a chance :( TL;DR - Crush and I get along well and share laughs, but she never texts me once the school week ends. Do I still have a chance Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:54PM My crush and I only see each other for two days a week because that's when we have breaks between our classes. However, once the last day we meet ends, we don't text.I always start the convo and she either ends it by replying with a one-word response, or does not respond. But then once the week is about to start, I ask to meet up again and she always says yes.What could this mean? Do I still

I know I am going to get a lot of hate for this, but I do regret what I did and I hate myself for it. He and I have been dating for 3 years and we have a one year old daughter together. I love him so much and he’s the perfect boyfriend, there’s no excuse for what I did. He does a lot around the house; he cooks for us, cleans, and he treats me very well + he’s a great dad. I cheated on him while drunk at a party in which I shouldn’t have been there. I knew it was a mistake and I should’be just stayed home with him that day. I myself told him the truth and I gave him the space he needed and he luckily decided he would forgive me, but things aren’t right with him. He only goes to work then comes back home to sleep or he sometimes stays up all night and won’t sleep. He alsp randomly gets this super sad look on his face and I can tell when he isn’t feeling. well He no longer wants to eat anything and he also doesn’t go to the gym or anything from his old daily schedule like before. I wan

I come from a family that takes mental health very seriously. I have a diagnosed condiction for which I am medicated and attend therapy for. My sister, mother and father, same deal. My whole life I have heard about different mental health treatments and therapies and had the gamut of tests performed on me. Well a few months ago at my therapists office I stumbled upon a pamphlet outlining care for an individual with BPD and my heart fell to my stomach. It's outlined a good chunk of my girlfriends behavior to the letter. The mood swings the suicidal thoughts the self medication and self destructive behavior. All of it. She says shes always been a "wild child" shes "just difficult" shes a "gypsy soul" and likes spontaneity. All I see is impulsiveness. Shes struggled with addiction and I'm convinced shes hiding either a drug or drinking problem from me now. Shes moved over 40 times, because she loves new "adventures" She ignores her phone fo

Hi all. Been with my girlfriend for 6 years, we’ve ring shopped a bit and both want to get married. We recently moved across the country so she could pursue her PHD. I left a job back home that would’ve yielded a 6 figure salary by 2025 and was truly happy at. We’ve been at our new location for a year, and I hate it here. Completely different dynamic, yadda yadda. Anyways, my new job has recently paid me a bonus and back pay resulting in being well off for my age. We started looking at rings, moved to a nicer apartment (I paid the last 3 months at our old place, and first month and deposit at the new place) but work demands a ton, and my hours are hectic. My GF and I would ride our bikes to dog adoption events just to go see some dogs. A few years ago I secretly adopted our dog that she wanted while she was at work, and surprised her when she got home. After the last time we went to this adoption place, I had to tell her no to adopting a new dog. I work too much, she spends a ton of t

Some background... When I was 16 my 10 year old brother died in an accident. Despite the age gap we were very close and he was one of my best friends. We were both in to computer games, loved going out on our bikes together and I'd sneak him in to my room to watch South Park at night and we'd inevitably get caught when our parents would hear us laughing. A couple of years after he died I moved away from the town we grew up in to a city a few hours away and started a job I worked for nearly 10 years before moving back to my hometown in 2016 as I moved to a new company. It was great to reconnect with old friends who still lived in the area and one night I was invited out to a party where I met my now girlfriend. It took some time for us to become serious and though she said she had a son I assumed he was around 4 or 5 the way she spoke about him and our ages so it was a bit of a shock to me when I finally meet him and this 12 year old kid greets me with "hey dingus".

So my boyfriend and I had a pretty long history together back when we weren’t dating. He was my ex’s (M/17) best friend, and when we met, we hit it off super quick. Same humor, opinions, etc. He caught feelings for me when I was dating my ex. So when my ex and I broke up (and ghosted both of us), he immediately swept me off my feet and we started being together. Some of my friends said that they were happy that I was with him, but in the inside I knew they think that I looked better with my ex than I am with my boyfriend. My ex was super tall and was really good looking. He played baseball, and was such a softie. Meanwhile, I’m pretty short (tall x small dynamic were cute I guess) and was equally as good looking. My current boyfriend is about the same height as me, loved film, and is (to be brutally honest) not the most attractive person ever. But what hooked me up isn’t just his looks. My current boyfriend treats me right, cares about me, and was always there when I needed someone u

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