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Finding a place where I belong.

I would love to find a sex club or work in the porn industry. I am a very sexual person and I would love to have that kind of outlet for stress relief not to mention where I live is prudish to the point of repression. It is worse because if you're honest you're punished for it by being ostracized. I just want to find a place where I can be open about who I am and not feel like people are judging me. Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:50PM I would love to find a sex club or work in the porn industry. I am a very sexual person and I would love to have that kind of outlet for stress relief not to mention where I live is prudish to the point of repression. It is worse because if you're honest you're punished for it by being ostracized. I just want to find a place where I can be open about who I am and not feel like people are judging me.

Orgasming More Than Once

So I've been sexual with this friend of mine(14/m) and I'm (16/f). He's very dominant and I'm incredibly submissive. I orgasm numerous times in just foreplay, is this normal? Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:52PM So I've been sexual with this friend of mine(14/m) and I'm (16/f). He's very dominant and I'm incredibly submissive. I orgasm numerous times in just foreplay, is this normal?

Having difficulty maintaining erections. What can I do if that happens during our first time?

I notice it's hard to maintain an erection when we make out. I take prozac. That's a really common side effect. My diet is pretty bad too. I've tried vitality enhancing herbs like maca. I've stopped masturbating. But I'm still having trouble. She really has her heart set on spending the night next weekend too. .... What are some things I can do if I start having this problem? And should I tell her this? We're still pretty early into our relationship. I'm worried i might scare her away. Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:57PM I notice it's hard to maintain an erection when we make out.I take prozac. That's a really common side effect. My diet is pretty bad too.I've tried vitality enhancing herbs like maca. I've stopped masturbating. But I'm still having trouble. She really has her heart set on spending the night next weekend too.....What are some things I can do if I start having this problem?And should I tell her this? We'r...

Would it be creepy if I (M/24) added a waitress (F/25?) i like on Facebook and Instagram?

There is a waitress at a restaurant that my family and I use to go to regularly (we've been going out less and less so not so much now). We talk a tad because she usually just works the front and brings people to their tables, so there's not really much time to converse. Recently I found her Facebook and instagram and I'm really tempted to add her but I don't want to come off as a creepy stalker or anything. But it turns out that she is mutual friends with many of my friends and just people I'm connected with on those sites, so I don't think it would be too bad. If asked, I could just say she popped up in my recommendations. I don't know when I'll go back to the restaurant, could be awhile, which is why I wanted to try this. What do I do? Tl;dr: There's a waitress i like that I found the Facebook and Instagram of. Would it be creepy if I added her even if we have mutual friends? Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:17PM There is a waitress at a ...

Not sure if my (25F) supervisor (30M) is flirting or just being friendly

I started a new job about 3 months ago, and I think I'm happy there. My boss seems eager to give me more responsibilities and it falls to one of my supervisors to show me the ropes. He and I don't always work on the same shift, but when we do, he usually helps me learn new things. When I first met him, I thought he was easy on the eyes, but from a conversation he was having with a coworker, I thought he must be married or at least in a relationship and have a kid. I don't know why I thought that, but it turns out I was very wrong. Sometimes I get the vibe he may be flirting. People say you should trust your gut, but at the same time I'm worried that thinking he's into me is kind of self-centered. I'd like to list some moments that really stick out in my mind and I'd love to hear people's opinions on whether there may be something there or if I'm completely making it up. The most recent one and the one that prompted this post was when he was teac...

My (21) GF wants to go work on cruise ships. I don't know how to feel honestly.

So me (23M) am in a somewhat happy relationship with my girlfriend, I'll explain the "somewhat" part further down. INFO Been together for almost 2 years She's a music student and wants to do multiple contracts as an entertainer Im a soldier in a very time demanding unit We've broken up but not due to cheating, fighting etc. We live about 45 mins away from eachother but we make it work She studies halfway between both towns ​ We've always managed to conjugate our free time (weekends, and the occasional week day) just fine. Eventually falling into a routine of sorts. Which led her to doubt her feelings for me, and my plan on emigrating and making her end the relationship once. And another after i felt insecure about cruiseships and other issues in our lives, which led her to believe she was being toxic to me. Both break ups were very hard on her (her tears weren't an act), but were significantly less hard on me. We always kept in touch after the ...

I (20sF) need some tips on making marriage (20sM) more interesting

Hi all! This is a pretty lighthearted one. My husband and I have been together 7 years. Since we've gotten married we've had a few life changes and now things have settled considerably. I feel like we've become tired office drones and we live a very tame, unexciting life. Naturally most days life has to be this way but I'm sure there are ways we could improve things. We live about an hour from a city so we can theoretically go once per weekend and we've started going when we can. Museums, etc. Takes a lot of planning so never anything spontaneous in our lives. But as it stands it's Saturday evening and I've been watching netflix for three hours, lol. We went out this morning (errands, etc) so husband doesn't want to go out again, he's been playing games in the other room. Sigh. How have you livened up your marriage? We're homebodies with no children but I feel like life is passing us by and I'm starting to envy some of my single friends. Ho...

My (29) boyfriend (28) of two years ex fiancé calls him

My boyfriends ex fiancé calls him. From blocked numbers. Late at night. Probably drunk. She has a boyfriend. We have been together for two years. She called a few months ago when I was there. This is what I had considered the first time. Once she heard me she said my boyfriend was “talking to five other girls’ ok...but anyway she called again recently and he didn’t tell me. I had to ask. I kind of find this weird. I talk to him about that incident because it was uncomfortable. I try to be open but today I asked if she ever called again and being told the answer was concerning. He said yes. Within the last few months. He didn’t explain why he didn’t mention it. He said he didn’t answer. He also said he likes the ego boost when she calls. I said I think he has the wrong idea of why she calls (it seemed to be disruptive and destructive based last time) And now I’ll never know when she has called unless I specifically ask. It feels wrong to me. If an ex called me I would feel so uncomfor...

My (25F) husband (29M) is asking me for permission to get nudes from his friend.

Let me start off by saying that this is a throw away account and that this post may be a little long, so thank you for sticking with it. TL;DR at the bottom. So my husband and I have been together for 4.5 years, but married for 1. During the first 7 months of our marriage, he was away for job related stuff. It was difficult but with communication, we stuck through it. When he came back, we spent about 2 or so months together and now he's currently away for job related stuff. While on business the other day, he's asked me permission for him to get nudes from his friend (M, early 30's) since his friend had offered to show him "what he was packing". My husband is bi-curious, his friend is gay and I have no issue with either of them. His friend has trouble getting into relationships, he also has issues with self confidence and being very self deprecating. I had told my husband, "it's an odd request for a guy to offer another guy a picture of his junk even ...

Help I [20,M] have a very clingy friend [20,M]

I met this guy freshman year and we've been good buds since, we got a lot in common and we're the same major. He's anti social but we share a group of friends. I'm in my 3rd year now and I'm starting to realize that I'm loosing my individuality by hanging out with him so much on campus. Everyday we go to class eat and do homework together. Although I'm fine with that, I'm in a rut where I can't avoid the guy, he always waits for me after class even when I go talk to teachers afterwards. I want to go meet new people and I can't exactly do with him always next to me. I've gotten multiple comments regarding how we're so close from teachers and other students and it just makes me feel like weird how we are immediately associated with one another. It also makes our friendship feel tiresome because we have nothing new to talk about. I'd rather not have to tell him this directly (I will if need be) since he's still a great friend but ...

I (25M) believe my friends are upset with me (25Ms), because I kind of bailed, but not sure what I did wrong.

Earlier t25Mhis week, some friends (aged 25m) asked if I wanted to hang out at their apartment this weekend. Honestly, I forgot to text back until today, and I said I would let them know. I didn't commit. Later, I found out a friend (24f) who is way closer to me distance wise was having a last minute birthday. She's going through something tough, so I thought it I should. I told them I couldn't, and now they aren't responding to my texts. I'm not sure what I did wrong here. Like I said, I didn't commit to anything. I just thought it would be better to do the birthday thing, but I'm afraid they think I'm opting not to do their thing for this, which they were also invited to. TL;DR - What did I do to make people mad at me? Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:28PM Earlier t25Mhis week, some friends (aged 25m) asked if I wanted to hang out at their apartment this weekend. Honestly, I forgot to text back until today, and I said I would let them know. I...

Do I (19F) Really Ruin Things For Him (25M)?

I'm going to try to keep this concise, so bare with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. He's a very explosive person and he says some very hurtful things and then apologizes for them almost immediately after. One of the things he almost never apologizes for is when he says I ruin everything for him. I take the fun out of everything and that he never likes going into public with me. The last time he said this, he said he didn't mean it but it wasn't the first time he said it so now I wonder if I'm really that bad. The most recent example of me ruining something for him is at a hockey game. I bought hockey tickets for our anniversary. We went to the game and we got there late. I don't like big crowds, especially not with someone as explosive as him. The game was already started so I didn't want to walk in front of people's faces, to avoid this I waited in the entrance area where I could still see the game. He starts yellin...

My [27M] girlfriend [24F] and I are planning on having sex for the first time next week. And I'm nervous?

She's spending the night soon. We talked about it on our last date and she really has her heart set on wanting having sex then. I'm nervous just thinking about it. I take anti-depressants. Which has some performance related side effects - like difficulty maintaining an erection or ejaculating. I've been taking vitality enhancing herbs like Maca the last month and abstaining from masturbating to try and strengthen my libido. But even while getting to second base as recent as a couple days ago I still experience these side effects. I'm worried I may not be able to satisfy her the first time. But she has a high libido, and I think I owe it to her to at least try. :\ ... I was wondering if you had any advice? ​ ​ tl;dr: My girlfriend of a month is spending the night next week She wants to have sex I want to try But my anti-depressants cause certain side effects I'm nervous as hell. Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:31PM She's spending the night...

Help me find some peace with my extremely mentally ill family (depression/codependency/addiction)

My (30M) mother (61F) has been chronically depressed her whole life. She takes a ton of medication and is best friends with her psychiatrist (60’s F). We’ve talked at length about their inappropriate and unethical relationship but it doesn’t change anything. She still hangs out with her psychiatrist platonically all while getting psychotherapy and prescriptions from her. I’ve met the psychiatrist on several occasions and it seems like she’s also very unwell and heavily medicated. That aside, I have one, extremely mentally unwell brother who is 34 and uses intravenously (into his neck because all other veins collapsed) car-fentanyl (sp?), sells it, commits other crimes (charged for 3 different crimes in the past 2 months), is homeless, and has been this way along with being totally dependant on my mother since he was 14. He’s been to every rehab, been to jail, in the shelters, etc. and refuses any help because he has an enormous chip on his shoulder about the “system”. My mom is code...

[Dating] How do I [30F] tell this guy [32M] I'm seeing to tone it down?

I've known this guy for a few months now, and we recently have gone on a few dates --and he seems pretty great so far-- but he's just a lot. A lot, a lot. Constantly saying outrageous over-the-top compliments... working them into almost all points of the conversation. Calls me every pet name in the book Hun, sweetheart, beautiful, gorgeous, sweetie... you name it, he's said it. And I really don't like pet names (I find them kinda lazy? Say my name, not the names everyone calls everyone). Good morning texts every day. No conversation, just [Insert greeting] [insert pet name] [insert compliment]. If I don't respond I still get them everyday. Constantly telling me how happy/excited he is to see/talk/hear my voice... any interaction whatsoever. Constantly "oh I was just going to say that you read my mind!" or "oh me too, something else we have in common!" Like, dude, slow your roll. When he's not doing those things he's fun, kind, ...

How do/should I get in touch with a friend I just slept with when his phone is broken and the situation is kind of weird

If you check my post history, I already posted something on this situation, but this is something I’m just now worried about. So, I (22 f) hooked up with a friend (22 m) who happens to be related to the person I live with (26 m) who also happens to be an ex. We’ve been broken up for 2 years, if that’s relevant. As of right now, my roommate doesn’t care at all. He thinks this is funny. I’ve been friends with the younger one for 8 years, which is definitely before I knew my ex. It would be nice to talk about it. The thing is, his phone is broken. He’s getting it fixed for Christmas, but that’s a ways away. I want to talk to him, and I kind of want to do it again, but the only way to get a message to him now would be to ask his brother, which feels very weird for me. I could get to him through his roommate, but I really don’t like the guy and I don’t want him involved. I know where he works and lives. I’ve been to his house for hangouts before, but I also just don’t want to randomly s...

How Do I (24F) Have a Relationship With My Parents When I Feel Like I Can’t Connect With Them (62 M&F)?

TL;DR I feel like there is something wrong with me, in that, I only find talking to about two or three people in my life deeply fulfilling because apparently, I see and analyze things and the world on a deep level and would rather be alone than bored talking to someone. I don’t know how to keep my relationship with my parents alive because my dad answers things in a very simplistic, logical way and my mom sometimes belittles my struggles because she doesn’t understand them. Also, when making friends, I struggle because I feel like no one sees me for the real me (no one gets me). Most people don’t fulfill me. I feel very alone and am seeking some advice on how to maintain relationships, even if they aren’t completely fulfilling. Ever since I was a kid, people have told me that I’m an “indigo child” or like special in some way in that I see the world—the entire world and I see through people and can stand back and oversee and analyze situations and emotions on a deep level. Segway into...

Should I(25f) write an email to this man(46m) requesting him to be my mentor?

I (25f) am a med student and I want to contact this pediatric surgeon (46m) via email. I have seen him in person but I have never really met him and I have never talked to him. I want to ask him to becoma my mentor but I'm not sure how would he react. Would it be appropriate? Should I do it? If so, how should I phrase it? I have never had mentor. How are these type of relationships supposed to work? TL;DR: I am planning to contact someone via email and ask them to be my mentor but I am not sure if it is appropriate Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:43PM I (25f) am a med student and I want to contact this pediatric surgeon (46m) via email. I have seen him in person but I have never really met him and I have never talked to him. I want to ask him to becoma my mentor but I'm not sure how would he react. Would it be appropriate? Should I do it? If so, how should I phrase it? I have never had mentor. How are these type of relationships supposed to work?TL;DR: I am planning t...

My friend (22M) never texts or invites me (20F) and I'm thinking of ending the friendship

I (20F) have a male friend (22M) who I was in the same class with since 5th grade but we only became friends in grade 11 (out of 12). We bonded over how boring our classes were and our shared interest in anime and art. He's a very quiet and reserved person, and also seems a bit, um, less mature? I don't mean this in a bad way, but he has a very vivid imagination, doesn't care about stuff others of his age care about and stuff like that. That makes him very endearing and I genuinely enjoyed spending time with him. Fast forward a couple years and I've been abroad a lot so we haven't had much contact. We texted occasionally but last month we met up for the first time in over a year. It wasn't particularly fun, because I'm not into anime or art anymore so we don't actually have much to talk about. My main issue though is that whenever we meet up, I have to invite him. He also barely texts me. I haven't been to his house, never got an invitation to hang ...

My boyfriend (19) of over a year seems completely unbothered by his best friend (18F) acting like a bitch towards me (17F)

Before I start I would like to comment on the age gap. He literally just turned 19 and be 18 in a couple of months. We started dating when I was 16 and he was 17. Right, my boyfriend had this friend, let's call her Jane, who has pretty much been making snide comments to me, throwing me dirty looks and completely ignoring me for about 6 months now. It took me a while to talk to my boyfriend about it because I was so worried about coming off as a jealous girlfriend if I complained about Jane. Now it started off as not too bad and I just got a few dirty looks thrown my way but now we're at a point where when he comes back from uni, I won't go out with him and his friends because I don't want to be around her. I do think I was just being a bit too optimistic in thinking that maybe in telling my boyfriend that, he would talk to her because I know that's what I would do if this was the other way around. We ended up having a fight about something unrelated and this was ...

Would I (28 F) be wrong to date a guy (31m) my friend (30 f) already dated

Let me explain (for the record I am using fake names) I have been best friends with LISA for 7 years. LISA is good friends with a girl named KATIE and KATIE is best friends with a girl named SAM. In the past 6 months, the 4 is us (Sam, Lisa, Katie and I) have all hung out together a few times. Because of this I consider SAM to be a friend of mine- but we aren’t very close. We have only spent time together 1 on 1 once- about 3 months ago. Our main source of communication is through a group chat. Etc. but she is really sweet and funny and I do like her. SAM is boy crazy. She would admit it. She was in a long relationship for 8+ years and they broke up about a year ago and she definitely enjoys the dating scene. She is constantly meeting new guys on dating apps. Going out with guys. Hooking up usually. But sometimes just dates and talking. One guy that she met on a dating app is named BILL. I met BILL twice - once we met him and his friends to watch a football game and another time h...

Am I [22F] Gay/Lesbian??

TL;DR-I haven't really had lesbian crushes or really resonate with things I read other lesbians who discovered their sexuality had, and I've had crushes on men and enjoy hetero sex with them-why do I still feel so stressed that I might be lesbian though? Anxiety or truth from my subconscious? ​ Hi reddit! Not sure if this is the right place for it, just need to get it off my chest. Honestly, considering if I'm posting here maybe I am? Who knows I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. He was my first boyfriend ever at 22. And now I'm confused. I have been stressed this past week that maybe I'm gay or bi? And I'm not sure why. I've had mild crushes on girls, but I've also had some crushes on guys. I've never really had a crush on a female actor or whatever-if anything it's been more the men. But now I'm noticing the girls more this past week, but honestly not sure if it's because the girls are prettier, or I've been anxious ...

My husband (both mid-30s, F/M) lied to me about going to a fitness class for seemingly no reason. Am I overreacting?

Let me just start this by saying that lying, in any form, is something that I have a REALLY hard time with. White lies, big lies, I hate it all. My adherence to honesty is even a running joke in my friend group. Background: My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for 7. No kids. We have a very happy and loving relationship. Yesterday he lied about something so silly and insignificant, that it makes me question what else he is capable of. He's never really lied about anything before to me (as far as I'm aware), but I've definitely heard of him lying when he was in his early 20s. Never anything big, like cheating on a girlfriend or anything, more "white lies" to avoid confrontation or disappointment. I'm just wondering it there's more, and if there WILL be more. Here's what went down: A few days ago, my husband and I were looking at the workout for Friday at this workout class we both attend. The workout gets posted everyday, and h...