So I went on a Tinder date with some pretty girl and I think it did go quite well, we went bowling, getting ice cream and into a local bar afterwards and we kissed at the end of the date, so I thought it was all good, but now I have the feeling like she's not that interested into meeting again. Date was on friday and she said she's only free next weekend even though she told me she had this whole week off. Any advice? Or do you think I'm overreacting? I'm 21 y/o ans she's 18 btw. Submitted August 11, 2020 at 11:48PM So I went on a Tinder date with some pretty girl and I think it did go quite well, we went bowling, getting ice cream and into a local bar afterwards and we kissed at the end of the date, so I thought it was all good, but now I have the feeling like she's not that interested into meeting again. Date was on friday and she said she's only free next weekend even though she told me she had this whole week off. Any advice? Or do you think I...

TLDR at bottom. So there’s this guy I met at the bookstore (he works there) a couple weeks ago and we found we had some nerdy similar interests. He ended up giving me his number. We texted a little bit but I got the feeling that he wasn’t interested. Ok, fair, he probably doesn’t want to get into trouble with dating a customer. I kept the conversations really light and asked him questions about his other interests. I found out he follows a pagan religion like me so I was really excited!! I haven’t found any other guys who shared my religious views in the past. But he just didn’t seem to share the enthusiasm over text. At this point I felt like I was the only one who was the least bit curious to ask questions or continue a conversation. I really got the impression that he wasn’t interested in anything more serious than a professional(?), distant relationship. Well lo and behold, a couple days later and I get a text at midnight from him saying he really enjoyed our conversations over...

I recently read this book about trauma. It really unclouded my thoughts. I've been having a terrible time due to covid and due to work so it may be just these stressors of the environment being sort of released now that I no longer have work. Anyways, I want to talk to my bf about where my feelings of fear come from - I have always told him it was the act of betrayal but I don't know why I allowed myself to feel like I had to make him be the person who hurt me. I think I placed a lot of pressure upon myself and upon him through myself to make changes when in reality - the mind just can't speed up the body. Basically, I just want to tell him that since I'm beginning to start befriending myself, it's basically led to a perception of being able to genuinely trust someone. Because I've always been obsessed with the possiblity of betrayal and I've been obsessed with having constant reassurance from him even though it felt unnatural because I would have to ask f...

I'm in a LDR.My girlfriend didn't contact me via phone call or Skype for 3 months.She's either tired or she has some other excuse.She just want to text.At first we had regular phone calls,facetime, IG quotes and so on...but now she seems distant.I didn't want to be needy and to ask her for any phone or video call so i hoped she would initiate one... but unfortunately she didn't... I didn't bother her with the constant texts or similar... but after a month, i had to wait for a text respond for hours and in the meantime she was active on IG and FB. I told her if theres some change in our relationship, but for her it was all ok. Im so really down right now... but what confused me, she's telling me she further loves me, but her actions don't show that.Should i be worrying**TL;DR;** : Is this going the right way? Submitted August 11, 2020 at 11:54PM I'm in a LDR.My girlfriend didn't contact me via phone call or Skype for 3 months.She's ei...

Hey, everyone! My younger brother and I used to be a lot closer when we were younger. He looked up to me as his big sister, and we always used to joke around and have a ton of fun together. Sometime after he turned 16 or so, he hit that angsty teenage "I hate the family" phase, and it seems he still hasn't left it. I get that he's only 20 and freshly out of the teenage years, so that might have something to do with it. The only people he seems to talk to and really get along with are his gamer friends. What are some good ways to bond with a younger sibling? My mom suggested I offer to take him out to lunch one day, but I've tried that and he doesn't really seem to care. Guys, I just miss my fun-loving little brother. Any tips, especially if you're an older sibling yourself, would be welcome. Thanks! tl;dr : What are some good ways to bond with a younger sibling who still acts like an angsty teen? Submitted August 12, 2020 at 12:03AM Hey, everyone!...

Am I right to hate my Dad for having a secret child. I’m 28 years old now. When I was about 14 I started noticing signs that my dad was having an affair. Overheard phone calls, saw texts, away on “business trips”....This went on for years before I finally lost it and called him out for it in front of my mom around age 17. He completely denied it, my parents had a long talk and my mom basically told me that I was overthinking it all and that she believes him and I have to apologize to him. Fast forward to when I was about 26 I found out that my dad has a secret child and so I confronted them again about it but still denial. He ends up telling me this bs story that he was caring for a coworkers kid that lost his father and he became like a father to him. My entire adult life I have never had any respect for him for what I know he has done. Any time he would get mad at me for even the smallest thing I would lose it because I felt he had no right to be mad at me for anything when he kn...

I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, living together for 1. I'm 25, F, he's 26, M and we work full time but on very opposite schedules - he works Monday - Friday 07:00 -16:00 and I work random night shifts (18:00 - 07:00) all over the place including 6 weekends in every 8 (2 of these being 13hr day shifts). I get a lot of days off in the week due to the long shifts but obviously this means we don't often have full days off together. Because of this I typically sit in the house alone all day, watching TV and cleaning etc. He gets home about 17:00, plays with the dog for about 10 minutes, briefly chats then takes himself off for what he says will be a 3 hour nap but is usually 4+ hours. When he eventually gets up he pretty much goes straight to his computer (I'll get maybe 10 minutes of interaction if I haven't just given up and gone to bed myself) where he'll immediately put his headset on and join the Discord with his friends regardless of whether...

My Ex-girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me because she didnt like me anymore. She broke up with me by trying to distance her self from me for a month before actually breaking up with me. I picked up on this immediately because I loved her and could notice any change in attitude/behaviour... she denied that there was anything wrong even though I knew something was up... I suspected her becoming un-interested but didnt want to believe it for obvious reasons. Month passes she isnt trying not interested at all but than acts offended when I call her out on it... a month passes, she breaks up with be and basically admits she was trying to make it easier by distancing herself. This is so selfish. This is playing mind games/head games. She was obviously done with the relationship a month earlier if she already had a plan. This hurt so much because what am I supposed to do differently. Nothing i just wasnt enough. The more i think of it the more I think of how selfish and mean this was of...

So a bit of a back story, there is me M19 and a Girl I work with F23, I’ve worked with her for just over a year when I decided to try ramp things up a bit. So we got a lot closer and she did volunteering outside of work and she convinced me to join in as well. We got quite close and I really decided that I liked her. I don’t know if it was just me in the mindset but she was getting really flirty with me which others mentioned to me as well. Said on a couple of occasions “I wish I could find a guy like you” so her saying things like that and being really flirty for the best part of a month or so really made me think that there could be something there. I’ve always struggled with my confidence in the past but I always think that I fear regret more than rejection so I went for it. Asked her out and you guessed it... got rejected. So since then I’ve been struggling a lot with my mental health. I’m just so confused, was it me misinterpreting the signs? But then again why would other people...

I have been talking to this boy I met one dating app. We have some mutual friends so it came up with one of my friends. I asked her a little about him and she told me something incriminating about him but then told me he’s aright and I should see him. Few days later, this boy saw the same friend on my story and got repulsed at how I was friends with her. I asked him what’s wrong and he told me how she goes around making lies and conspiring against people. I told him what she told me about him that I didn’t make much of. Turns out, that was a blatant lie too. Now my friend has always been great with me so all of this is news to me. But this guy was really defensive and hellbent on how she has ruined his and many lives. I told him I didn’t want to be involved in drama, I don’t discredit his experience however my experience is different so I can’t wrap my head around it. To which he quotes to me, “the darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of...

Throwaway. So, my bf of 2 years is a ginger and has previously told me I'm not generally his type but he still loves me and finds me beuatiful. I believe this is true as he has never shown otherwise. To get to the point, his type is ideally a ginger, or a blonde, and pretty skinny. Now, I am a brunette and got some curves. The thing is, he follows a lot of pretty, ginger, skinny girls with either erotic on non-erotic feed. Not like influencers but just like random girls with less than 200 followers and from all over the world. I guess he just followed every ginger girl he found... I know he loves me but this makes me insecure because he likes all of their pictures... and only when they are in it, like if they post a pic of their dog, or a landscape he won't like it so i believe he isn't really interested in their lives but their looks. I don't know exactly how and should i bring this up? I mean he isn't doing anything wrong but it's bothering me a bit and i can...

Ok ummm well I’m new on this but I really need help. I was normally chatting with her (she’s a girl) and she says that I’m her crush, but she said that like in a joke; then we send gifs about love...is she crushing on me?!?!? The problem over here is that she’s saying almost the same since 4 months? And we have been friends since a year. She’s really confusing me, I really like her but what about her feelings?? Submitted August 11, 2020 at 11:47PM Ok ummm well I’m new on this but I really need help. I was normally chatting with her (she’s a girl) and she says that I’m her crush, but she said that like in a joke; then we send gifs about love...is she crushing on me?!?!?The problem over here is that she’s saying almost the same since 4 months? And we have been friends since a year. She’s really confusing me, I really like her but what about her feelings??

Girl chatted (m)e up, after she broke up with her bf, we’ve been chatting for a while - have had some racy drunk lockdown conversations about our turn ons and favourite porn - she’s been asking me if I’m single - and just generally been flirting We go to the beach for a few drinks on a blanket - after we reschedule because she asked me out first, but we’re at the beach, having deep conversations and looking into each other’s eyes and whatnot - there’s one point where I’m checking her face over (inside joke about sand in her eyes) and she’s asking me if it’s gone yet and looking into my eyes, looking down at my lips - really fast - and our faces are very close, she’s smiling and my hands on her face But In hindsight I’m wondering if I should have kissed her then - don’t know why I’m overthinking this all now considering the conversations we’ve had - gonna ask her out again - we discussed dinner and she said that’d be nice - but nothing’s set in stone Just don’t know why I’m overthin...

So I [m21] have been talking to a girl [f21] over the years on and off but we’ve both always had something going on in life to so things never really got anywhere. Recently we have both been available a lot more so saw each a couple times and have been taking/texting more. Over the last month however we both haven’t spoke as much. Sometimes she will messsage me first, but it’s always been at weird times like at 2 am when I’m asleep or a random snap video of her and her friend late in the evening. So I would reply an make conversation then she wouldn’t reply for days, again it’ll be super later at night when she does. Then this will repeat itself, the majority of the time her messaging first. I do quite like the girl but really cba with games. Do I keep persisting with her or just stop messaging first completely to see if she still bothers? Edited to show age to follow rules Submitted August 12, 2020 at 12:05AM So I [m21] have been talking to a girl [f21] over the years on and o...

Hi, I am a 24 yr old American guy with a decent job and savings. I met a Nigerian woman almost a year ago on Facebook. Initially I thought she was just a scam artist but she was indeed a real person and actually love ans care abt me. We FaceTime and text all the time. She has a cute 2 yr old son and a 12 yr old younger brother she has to take care of. So 7 months later she's trying to start a business in Nigeria. It involves selling designer purses. China and Vietnam has a lot of warehouses in Nigeria so she has easy access to cheap designer bags straight from the manufacturer and then can flip them to the U.S for profit. She asked me for a loan of $1200 for her to buy the purses and in 3 months she can pay me the money money back with interest. From talking to her everyday for a almost a year, I'm 92% sure she's not scamming me. She shown me her entire life, i gotten to know her son and brother on a personal level, she showed me her legit business plan and a video tour ...

I (35F) just started seeing a guy (32M). We have been on about 4 dates, but I want to make sure Im being smart about things and sensible. I know 10 months ago he was engaged and it ended. J want to ask why, but is it too soon? What are some questions that you think its important to ask to get to know if someone is truly a match and on the same page? Questions maybe you asked and are glad you did, or didn't ask and regret not knowing sooner. Submitted August 12, 2020 at 12:09AM I (35F) just started seeing a guy (32M). We have been on about 4 dates, but I want to make sure Im being smart about things and sensible. I know 10 months ago he was engaged and it ended. J want to ask why, but is it too soon?What are some questions that you think its important to ask to get to know if someone is truly a match and on the same page? Questions maybe you asked and are glad you did, or didn't ask and regret not knowing sooner.

Hey all! I guess I'm going to throw myself a bit of a pity party because I don't want my friends and family to pity me. TL:DR I've asked three guys out and have been rejected for different reasons. I'm normally confident and outgoing but now I'm beginning to be discouraged and self-conscious. I've just been struggling with the fact that guys I know have never taken an interest in me (besides on dating apps but that never goes very far). I'm friendly, out-going, motivated, and confident. I like to hang out with people, play games, join people in their hobbies, and the such. I'm very people-motivated. I deal with some mental illnesses but I take medication and go to therapy. It's not something I disclose to people often because I want to be able to handle it alone. Anyway, I've never been approached by any guys which has kind of bugged me recently. I've asked a couple of guys out in the past, guys who I was friends with then developed a cr...

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Awesome! I’m quite young, but I’m pretty sure I’m asexual. I’m glad you discovered that you are not the only one! August 11, 2020 at 11:41PM

I understand how that feels. In many place all over the world LGBT+ are still being oppressed in places like China, Russia, and even in first world countries like the U.S. It only seems right that all LGBT+ should stick together because after all we are all apart of the minority of the population. It shouldn’t be a contest about who is the most oppressed or who should be excluded because they aren’t “oppressed enough”/they don’t exist. I do wish for the best for you maybe one day she will understand. It’s possible that she still won’t change her heart but you can’t let it get underneath your skin. No matter what people might say and think of us, they will never change who we are and how we feel about our sexuality. It’s not worth using the energy to try to please everyone, it’s better sometimes just to take care of yourself. I simply accepted that my parents will always hate the LGBT+. I still do my best to convince them otherwise but it might never work. But it may work for you if sh...

Maybe I just need to vent, not really sure if there's an answer I'm looking for. My husband seems to be getting more snippy and in worse moods anymore. Has been for a while now, maybe even a year. It feels like he's just annoyed to have the kids and I around sometimes. I hate going on road trips or even a short drive with him anymore because he always finds a reason to get mad at the kids or he gets moody all of a sudden. And he always talks to us (maybe he talks to people at work like this too, I have no idea) like we're idiots or he speaks very rude or angry when there's no need to speak like that to people. It may not always be what he says but how he says it. You don't always have to talk down to people. And honestly I'm just getting tired of it. I'm not sure what to do. I've mentioned it to him before, and he does not take criticism well. And the times when he does take time to hear me out nothing changes anyway. I'm sorry I'm just...

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