Was gonna say, we old folks grew up as the internet began. We're definitely here. September 28, 2023 at 10:30PM

I literally got asked this by my roommate on the first day of college. Normally with celebrities I say "they're not ugly" which just makes people laugh and move on, but this was a person we were sitting like two tables away from. I said something very noncommittal and tried to redirect the conversation. September 28, 2023 at 10:27PM

he’s a rapist actually. September 28, 2023 at 10:27PM

No. There is a correlation between autism and identifying as something/someone outside of the average in general. This is likely because individuals with autism are less likely to confirm to and more likely to challenge the status quo . Basically, compulsive heterosexuality/ cisnormativity / etc isn't as effective on autistic people as it is on alloistic people, which typically translates to autistic people understanding that they are queer faster than their alloistic counterparts. September 28, 2023 at 10:27PM

Really interesting question I generally take the approach with labels (like "ace") that people should be able to self identify. The definition of these things is not concrete (and shouldn't be in my opinion). So by saying they are ace they are saying "this label has meaning to me at the moment". Maybe it won't in the future but if it's helpful now it's totally valid. I say this as a trans ace woman in a relationship with a woman. The idea that I had to meet some requirement to be "truly" trans tore me up for ages. But realizing it was just a label without a concrete definition was helpful to me to accept myself. Because it means only I can say if the label means something to me. September 28, 2023 at 10:23PM