If I may say, you're looking good! October 20, 2020 at 12:00AM

To add on, know you're not alone. Being ace isn't some aberration, it's just another way that people experience life. October 19, 2020 at 11:58PM

Yeah I it's definitely a pull, it certainly takes up a lot of your attention. You feel drawn to that person specifically and their body, and sexual thoughts sort of cloud your mind. The important thing is that all this is involuntary, if you think about having sex with them for a moment it's most likely not consciously something you're doing ("Hmm, I wonder what it would be like if...") and more just the thought manifests itself in your head. You can still be sexually attracted to someone but not feel like this 24/7, these are only the effects when you can actually feel it. Like I think my girlfriend is the sexiest woman on the planet but I only feel these effects maybe 20-30% of the time, usually when she looks particularly sexy or is wearing something sexy and of course whenever I'm aroused. October 19, 2020 at 11:55PM

See?! I CAN be sex-repulsed and sex-positive at the same time! I don’t care what you do with each other, as long as both of you agree to it, just keep it away from me please. October 19, 2020 at 11:54PM

their reason doesn't even make sense, and it low-key looks like they just said that cause theyre interested and they aren't ace. big oof October 19, 2020 at 11:53PM

Here is some general life advice that I try to use when I get stressed about something. Try to think about what aspects of being ace cause you stress, and if there are actions you can take to alleviate that stress. When you analyze what exactly is causing you stress, you need to label each as an internal pressure or an external pressure. I feel like natural characteristics, such as being ace, set our baseline for how we behave, but don't have to control our behavior. If it's an internal pressure, you can work on adjusting your attitudes and actions to try to change your behavior. For example, if you are worried about being able to date, you can exert more effort until you find someone with whom you're compatible. Changing behaviors can be a slow process, so don't get frustrated. If it's an external pressure, decide if you actually care about it, and if not, then try not to worry about it. Don't feel pressured that you have to date/marry/have sex by a certain

Who wants garlic bread I also have pasta like spaghetti and mascholli and lasagna October 19, 2020 at 11:46PM

I'm on a tiny Discord server for writers, and of the five people there, four of them identify as being on the ace spectrum. It's kind of funny. Oh, and Neopets is awesome. 👍 October 19, 2020 at 11:46PM

First off, let me say that this isn't strange at all. Just because it's not a natural reaction for me, doesn't mean you can control what runs through your. mind when you feel that way. Secondly, if I'm hearing this right, it's more of a pull towards that person than anything else? I'm sorry I'm looking at such a thought clouding and subjective emotion from an analytical perspective, but I think at this point it's the only way I'd have a prayer in wrapping my head around it. October 19, 2020 at 11:45PM

OsO Finally! More of us! The stereotype is ‘all furries are horny bitchards’ the opposite with us lol. Should I even be counted as a furry? My fursona is literally just a lynx. Not an anthro one. Honestly, I’m just a Therian with an obsession with lynx October 19, 2020 at 11:45PM

Umm, I have insanely dense hair lmao 😅 October 19, 2020 at 11:40PM

like OP said it's a queer platonic relationship which again like OP said is a relationship without sex however it does not always need to be a romantic relationship nor does it need to be between solely 2 people at least this is my understanding of it October 19, 2020 at 11:39PM

From one aegosexual to another. I am glad I was able to help you. October 19, 2020 at 11:38PM

I know this post is older, but I just wanted to share that I also experience this and do identify as aegosexual. You're not alone! It's always boggled me because I will BURN through reading some smut, let me tell ya. And also indulge in porn & masturbation when I have alone time. But even in those instances, I do not insert myself into my fantasies. Now I'm in a long term relationship with someone not on the ace spectrum. I still didn't know about asexuality at first so was still engaging in sex on a "felt like I'm supposed to" basis. Then, at some point, I realized the only way I can get off during sex is if I'm thinking about porn or something that does not involve either me or my partner. I didn't realize other people didn't do this until I started researching. But I literally have to focus on that or I get grossed out by the whole thing. In general, I don't get the urge to have sex with anyone and I've finally realized this

But- your a virgi- THOSE WORDS MEAN NOTHING TO ME October 19, 2020 at 11:35PM

Haha yes well that's the point!! October 19, 2020 at 11:34PM

This is so beautiful October 19, 2020 at 11:32PM

I personally don't relate (I'm not apothisexual) however I have an apothisexual friend who I can tell you very much relates. (One of my friends used to make a lot of innuendo before realising how awkward it made my apothi friend) October 19, 2020 at 11:30PM

Thanks my friend bought it for me as a christmas present October 19, 2020 at 11:27PM

I'm very tired right now so I'll probably miss stuff, but I'll give it a go and hopefully other commenters can fill in the blanks. A lot of this is how i personally experience it, I don't actually know if other allos feel the same way (it'd be awkward to ask about and most of all not really necessary even if you're talking about people you find attractive when you're in an environment where you're all allos) I'd make a distinction between sexual attraction and sexual arousal to begin with. Obviously a lot of aces feel sexual arousal, which to me ends up being a range of things, ranging from physical stuff like erections and salivating a bit more to having less coherent thoughts in your head and more "mm, yes, sex." Sexual attraction can obviously have that stuff, if you're attracted to someone you'll undoubtedly get aroused by them at some point or another. However you can still feel attraction without being fully aroused, in whi

I like your hat! October 19, 2020 at 11:25PM

What asexual people look like? Fucking people!!!🤦🏻‍♂️😂 October 19, 2020 at 11:24PM

So I've never been on this subreddit before but I went on it today with the vague idea of learning more about something related to what I feel and I read your comment and I googled aegosexuality and then I teared up and immediately told it to all of my friends because that's literally me right there that's me IT'S ME so thanks October 19, 2020 at 11:23PM