Aces can experience arousal (have a libido). You’re correct that arousal and attraction are not the same thing. February 17, 2021 at 11:59PM

I forever draw on phone, nothing else... Only phone... February 17, 2021 at 11:57PM

Sexual attraction can change. Who knows. But if you haven't really liked anybody sexually, you are asexual. If you never felt a romantic attraction, you are aromantic. You can be both. If you are asexual and alloromantic, absolutely you can fall I love romantically. If you are aromantic, you can love platonically or alterously, but not romantically. February 17, 2021 at 11:54PM

Not to steal an aroace post, but as a lesbian ace who at this point isn't sure if I'll find anyone, I've always wanted this! I wanna spoil my friends and nieces and nephews and rock up to every miserably heterosexual family gathering with 5000 times more coolness than anyone else. February 17, 2021 at 11:53PM

I‘m LIVING it! I‘m a software engineer and love to spoil my niece rotten. I even got the cool aunt certified last christmas: Got a paper from the best niece in the world that humble me is the „best aunt in the world“. I‘m so going to frame it. February 17, 2021 at 11:52PM

As an only child without friends I very much doubt I’ll ever be in contact with kids lol. I don’t like them anyway, so it’s not a problem for me February 17, 2021 at 11:52PM

As an aro I do not really understand the difference between romantic attraction and just being close friends, so taking sex out of the equation does confuse me even more sometimes (and I'm not even sexually attracted to almost anyone either, it's just that I think I can understand it better), but I really don't think the people who say this shit are saying it in that sense. February 17, 2021 at 11:50PM

I took a Sociology of Sexuality class in college. the week after I got engaged, the professor discussed this; I believe he called it “premature closure.” He pointed out that there is almost certainly someone “better” for you out there, but the cost/benefit analysis of continuing to LOOK for that person is usually not worth it. February 17, 2021 at 11:49PM

Asexuality is very specifically about experiencing sexual attraction towards others. That's the entire deal. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards others, you're asexual. It's not really all that complicated, really. Asexuality has nothing to do with: romantic attraction, masturbation, porn, kinks, or actually having sex. It's just about sexual attraction towards others. The asexual spectrum basically sort of goes 1. Repulsed by comments about sex or others having sex 2. Repulsed by the reality of having sex personally 3. Willing to have sex, but maybe disgusted afterwards 4. Neutral towards sex, but no sexual attraction 5. Enjoy pleasing partner, but no sexual attraction 6. Occasional sexual attraction, but rarely (grey-asexual) 7. Demisexual is entirely different. Demis function like asexuals until they have a particular emotional connection with someone, after which they function like allosexuals with that person. #1-3 are considered "...

It does February 17, 2021 at 11:47PM

I've come out to some of my friends and acquaintances. I'm not sure how many of them took it seriously (I was kinda drunk and we were playing cards against humanity, it slipped out). My one friend was confused (jumped to the asexual reproduction area). I haven't really told my family. I've had conversations in the past with my mom and brother about how I'm not pursuing or wanting a sexual relationship but I think they took it more as "doesn't want hookups or fwbs." But yea haven't actually sat down and explained it. Not sure how really. February 17, 2021 at 11:44PM

Yes, but it is usually worn on t he right middle finger. February 17, 2021 at 11:40PM

It does not. I can also experience arousal (although in my case it's not really directed at someone/something specific) and I consider myself ace (more specifically aegosexual). From my understanding, arousal is non-directed and biological (edit for clarity: hormonal), like an itch you need to scratch. Attraction is directed at someone specific and involves sexual feelings about/involving them. Again, the latter is something I don't understand well, so I may not be 100% accurate. Hope this helps? February 17, 2021 at 11:40PM

You definitely need another option: Have come out to a limited number of people. I have a feeling that would be the majority. February 17, 2021 at 11:40PM

Ah close! February 17, 2021 at 11:38PM

1) People's interest in sex can change, especially as hormones shift through puberty. Frankly, the science behind asexuality isn't fully understood, but there are a lot of factors. 2+3) Asexuality is specifically about sexual attraction towards others. It is completely separate from romantic attraction towards others. Some asexuals are also aromantic, but some are hopeless romantics. They are completely separate issues. It is possible that you are aromantic and will never fall in love. Frankly, that seems easier to me, being a hopeless romantic demisexual. February 17, 2021 at 11:37PM

Thank u February 17, 2021 at 11:37PM

Hey, can you please send me an invite? February 17, 2021 at 11:35PM

It sure seems easy to write an asexual character, the only thing you have to do is not making your character feel sexual attraction, it shouldn't be too difficult in theory but the real problem isn't how you will write your character, but how you will represent asexuality. Many people don't understand asexuality, and they love to imagine things involving their favorite characters. To the point that if you play on ambiguity in your story, they will not accept the asexuality of your character. For example, Peridot in Steven Universe doesn't understand the concept of fusing (having sex) for fun, even if she's curious about it, she doesn't want to actually do it. But since she's a very close friend of another character, Lapis Lazuli, everyone wants them to fuck fuse. So when it was officially confirmed that she was asexual and aromantic, some people were really disappointed because it meant no fusion. And their disappointment turned into hatred towards ase...

Not exactly, but just because I do have an aunt that is single but she's... not cool. At all. Even today that image is stopping me to look forward to that kind of life... even though I think it's what I would enjoy the most. February 17, 2021 at 11:31PM

from what i read from other posts and threads asexuality is looking at someone that others may find attractive (you may find them attractive also) and not thinking “holy they’re smokin hot, i wonder if we can do it wwe style beneath the sheets.” Also from what I read, Asexuality has nothing to do with libido, sex drive, etc. Just not experiencing sexual attraction to someone. Your number 3 sounds like Aromantic which is experiencing little to no romantic attraction to others. And yes, asexual people still may fall in love and have sex. Sorry if this is confusing and i’m not exactly helpful. Hopefully some other knowledgeable people can come aid you in the questions and correct me on anything i may have gotten wrong. February 17, 2021 at 11:30PM

See I can have a "crush" like I love my anime boys and kpop idols I can find people aesthetically attractive and good looking sure but I don't want to do the deed with them 😷😷🤣 a hug would be nice, I just want to be their friend at the end of the day lol and cuz of this it took me AWHILE to figure out I was asexual. Although the "what is my sexuality" quiz hit hard 🤣🤣 I took so many of those lmaoo February 17, 2021 at 11:27PM

My ten years of happy marriage disagrees but ok February 17, 2021 at 11:27PM