I have so many! What’s your favorite color? October 22, 2021 at 11:48PM

wtf- you were born to live your life, not to satisfy a woman, she can do that by herself 😤 October 22, 2021 at 11:48PM

I relate to this a ton. I looks back at past relationships and sexual experiences and just hate it so much. Sometimes it honestly keeps me up at night. I wish I had know about ace identities sooner and seen ppl like me in popular media so I could have figured myself out a lot sooner but unfortunately I didn’t know and got myself into a lot of situations I thought I “should” be doing at whatever age. Now I’m nearly 28 and just figuring myself out. Makes me mad at society but I also feel feelings of disgust at myself bc I feel like I still should have refrained from things I knew I deep down did not want. We must be gentle with ourselves though OP. We didn’t know what we know now. Please don’t blame yourself 💕 we can’t fix past mistakes, only learn from them unfortunately. I’m right there with you. October 22, 2021 at 11:46PM

I suggest you try to explain to him that people have no control over who they love and that liking both genders doesn't mean that they can't choose. After you've explained it to him you could feel safer coming out to him. But if he decides to stick to his guns and you need something more extreme I suggest two options, you either have to come out to him or take him to a lgbtq+ meeting, you'll probably have one near you that you can attend. Sorry if this didn't help October 22, 2021 at 11:45PM

Death grip syndrome turned into one of the best things to happen to me. Been together with my wife 20 years. At some point she was out of commission for nearly 6 months. During which I had an uptick in libido. After several months of working it a bit too roughly, she was finally able to start participating again. Turned out I was no longer able to orgasm from her and this caused some frustration on her part for a while, having to see me take over afterwards. Made her kind of hesitant. I finally decided to make it perfectly clear. I enjoyed having sex with her regardless. Convinced her to stop worrying about having me orgasm. That's when I had the idea of a challenge. I told her that if she was willing to regularly have some amount of sex, didn't matter how much, that I would abstain from masturbation. Something had to eventually give, right? This turned out to be the best thing ever for us. Not only did it take all of the stress out starting sex, but it gave her a kind of c...

My girlfriend doesn’t have sex with me as much anymore. She doesn’t even let me offer one sided favors much anymore either. We are poly but I haven’t been with someone else since before the pandemic, and before then I thought I was bi. Men were so easy, and even though the thought of sex with men repulses me now, I’m so lonely and intimacy starved that I almost consider being drunk and sleeping with one just to feel sexually desired. I won’t do that I don’t think, but it’s all I knew how to do when I needed intimacy in the past. I miss her looking at me the way she used to. I miss not having to ask for sex and then maybe probably not get a yes. She says there’s nothing wrong with me and I want to believe it, but I can’t be sure. It feels like we are failing each other. I have mental health issues and this has sent me into suicidal thoughts more than weekly. Im a really sex positive person and now talking about sex at all makes me feel perverted and awful. I just cried after an orgasm ...

Hello i am 15m and I am in highschool. All of my friends have girlfriends and they always be telling me like how they have sex with them. This really gets me wondering if like im missing out on something. I am like horny all the time so maybe I should get a girlfriend? I dont really try too, but should i be the one too seek this? or should i just wait? Anything willp help thank you Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:33AM Hello i am 15m and I am in highschool. All of my friends have girlfriends and they always be telling me like how they have sex with them. This really gets me wondering if like im missing out on something. I am like horny all the time so maybe I should get a girlfriend? I dont really try too, but should i be the one too seek this? or should i just wait?Anything willp help thank you

I would never date a man I have 0 attraction to men until it comes down to dick. I want to suck a nice looking dick so bad, but if I were to look up and see a man's face I would have to stop... its the dick itself I'm attracted to not the man it's attached to. am I gay? Does anyone else feel similar? [19M] Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:44AM I would never date a man I have 0 attraction to men until it comes down to dick. I want to suck a nice looking dick so bad, but if I were to look up and see a man's face I would have to stop... its the dick itself I'm attracted to not the man it's attached to. am I gay? Does anyone else feel similar? [19M]

Bf and I had anal sex for the first time and he went in my vagina after anal with no condom. I read all about how to prevent it and I understand that now but What do I do in the meantime?! Am I going to die? Should I go to the doctors? From what im reading im scaring myself and I have severe anxiety and I feel like an idiot. Is there anything I can do to clean it, or fix the situation??? Plz b nice thank uuu Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:49AM Bf and I had anal sex for the first time and he went in my vagina after anal with no condom. I read all about how to prevent it and I understand that now but What do I do in the meantime?! Am I going to die? Should I go to the doctors? From what im reading im scaring myself and I have severe anxiety and I feel like an idiot. Is there anything I can do to clean it, or fix the situation???Plz b nice thank uuu

So I meet this girl at a new job I started about 6-7 months ago and intatially gave it a try and we kept making plans but always last minute she would cancel and give some reason as too why she couldn't make it. 4-5 months after the last time I tried making plans we started talking more, getting more comfortable with each other. Other coworkers of mine are telling me I should try it, that's she's "totally" into Me and nothing bad could happen and I'm just not sure what to do. I really like her and I want it to work but have my doubts. Any Advice? Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:09AM So I meet this girl at a new job I started about 6-7 months ago and intatially gave it a try and we kept making plans but always last minute she would cancel and give some reason as too why she couldn't make it. 4-5 months after the last time I tried making plans we started talking more, getting more comfortable with each other. Other coworkers of mine are telling me I ...

Can I win a case if I payed child support for 5+years but I never got to see my daughter cause her mother blocked me from all social media. And moved away to another city. Changed #s and I just have no clue of where to even begin my search. I haven't seen her since June 19 2015 & I know time is passing me but I don't want my daughter to think I just got up and left. I do want to be in her life so I'm not signing my rights away. She don't even have my last name nor am I on the birth certificate. I did went for the DNA test which proved she's mine. Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:09AM Can I win a case if I payed child support for 5+years but I never got to see my daughter cause her mother blocked me from all social media. And moved away to another city. Changed #s and I just have no clue of where to even begin my search. I haven't seen her since June 19 2015 & I know time is passing me but I don't want my daughter to think I just got up and lef...

I think if a lot of people really honestly examined why dating is such a high priority for them, they’d realize that their reasons aren’t very healthy. I used to not think very highly of myself, my looks, career, personality, anything; I thought if I could date more and have a GF it would make me feel a lot happier (BIG mistake). Now I’m in the best shape of my life, am in intensive therapy, and have a career in harm reduction/overdose prevention where I save lives. It’s been a couple years since I dated and have 0 interest in doing so again for a long, long time. Dating doesn’t always lead to happiness. Working on yourself first and foremost will give you way more happiness than another person could. Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:12AM I think if a lot of people really honestly examined why dating is such a high priority for them, they’d realize that their reasons aren’t very healthy.I used to not think very highly of myself, my looks, career, personality, anything; I thou...

I've basically broken the ice with my crush today and we've had a great conversation but it didn't finish cuz its 1am and she's gone to be. I wanted her to go to sleep with a closed good impression of me but unfortunately I didn't manage to. Am I just being superficial or is this okay? Submitted October 23, 2021 at 12:12AM I've basically broken the ice with my crush today and we've had a great conversation but it didn't finish cuz its 1am and she's gone to be. I wanted her to go to sleep with a closed good impression of me but unfortunately I didn't manage to. Am I just being superficial or is this okay?

I need some insight. I’ve been having trouble over the past couple of weeks discerning between actually liking a guy or just liking his characteristics and qualities. I’ve usually been attracted to asshole guys in the past (I’m 20 and in university btw) but I’ve never been in a relationship. There’s this guy who’s in the same community service club as me but we’ve only talked a few times and we went grocery shopping together once a few weeks ago but he’s different from the guys I’ve liked in the past. I like a lot of his qualities- quiet confidence, kind to people, calm, witty, dry sense of humor (which I personally like) And at first, I thought I had a crush on him but the more I think about it, I can’t tell if I’m attracted to him specifically or just his qualities and whether or not I would like his qualities on a different guy. I think he’s physically attractive too but I just can’t tell what’s actually going on. And then I think that I don’t really know him enough to even a...

It might depend on the context and/or environment of the convo, or the personality of the person (eg are they a jokester, do they enjoy making sex jokes, is it someone with sex on their mind a lot, etc), but I've never been misinterpreted unless it was part of the joke. If you'd said "I thirst for X" then that would be completely different. October 22, 2021 at 11:45PM

I explained it to my mother like this... "it's not that it's a sexual orientation, it's that I never have and likely never will experience sexual attraction to another person." October 22, 2021 at 11:40PM

Why do you sound mad? It just feels gross to me, like I think my mouth is warmer than other people's so for me it feels like having a cold slug in my mouth. October 22, 2021 at 11:35PM

Is this an ace thing to hate masturbation but do it anyway? I thought it was just me and there was something wrong with me October 22, 2021 at 11:31PM

Mine definitely isn’t lol October 22, 2021 at 11:30PM

No, and fuck everyone who tells you that you are EDIT: wait a minute, not in that sense October 22, 2021 at 11:27PM