The frustrating part is that the reply is only wrong in the sense of asexuality. Trauma and body shaming can and do mess with people's sexual expression, but that's not what asexuality is . So there's just enough truth there to make it seem palatable to people who don't have the right context. October 27, 2019 at 12:19AM

That's ok, there's billions of other people I can talk to. October 27, 2019 at 12:18AM

Some tongue-in-cheek advice: Next time a guy tries the "how do you know you don't like it if you haven't tried it" excuse, reverse it back on him with something about having sex with sheep. Serious advice: Allosexual people aren't worth it. Also, take some solace in the fact that by being assholes from the get go, they've saved you a lot of trouble and danger. The trash is taking itself out. Maybe try Acebook ? October 27, 2019 at 12:14AM

Yeah I used to wonder if I was really asexual if I was feeling happy after fantasizing this but it's just...holding hands...that I find enjoyable...I'm pretty sure my mom had dirtier thoughts than me October 27, 2019 at 12:14AM

I've been told that it's just not kosher to ask someone out while they are working, so when and where is it ok? I'm thinking that OLD just isn't going to work for me and need to find a new fishing hole. FYI, I'm in St. George, It so bars aren't an option and church isn't for me either. 45m Submitted October 26, 2019 at 11:06PM I've been told that it's just not kosher to ask someone out while they are working, so when and where is it ok?I'm thinking that OLD just isn't going to work for me and need to find a new fishing hole.FYI, I'm in St. George, It so bars aren't an option and church isn't for me either. 45m

If your gonna skip have a better reason at least. Like your local bakey for some cake. October 27, 2019 at 12:10AM

Took me until I was almost 24 to figure out I was aro ace, but the signs of it were freaking everywhere and hilariously obvious in hindsight. Hearing in late middle school/early high school that another girl from my class was a lesbian and me internally going "...????" because sexual attraction made no sense to me. More aro-specific, but one of my long-time friends confiding in me at her birthday party (also back in high school) that she was crushing on a boy in her choir and me internally going "...????" Sex ed freshman year of high school and sex is described and I'm feeling, "Wow, that doesn't sound appealing in the slightest." October 27, 2019 at 12:08AM

I've actually been doing a lot better since I left high school! October 27, 2019 at 12:07AM

I get like that for the sound of people's voices. Like my "crush" in high school just had this gorgeous voice. Or I sometimes watch Markiplier on YouTube and I just fucking love the sound of his laughter. I don't know if that counts as aesthetically pleasing but imma count it. Pretty things are so pretty that I'm just happy they exist haha October 27, 2019 at 12:06AM

LITERALLY ME. I had a dream about my boyfriend and I’m tellin you he’s always like what happened😏? And I tell him you were in the bathroom FaceTiming me and checking yourself out in the mirror. You were wearing a black tee and I could tell you were gaining weight. The end. His face:😀😶😐🤨😏 Alrighht. October 27, 2019 at 12:06AM

I don't have to be a painter to appreciate art ;) just because a person doesn't turn me on sexually doesn't mean that I'm blind and don't see that something is visually pleasing. For example, I'm asexual but I still have a type of guy I find very attractive in the way that I enjoy looking at them and feeling comfortable around them. I know it probably sounds crazy but appreciating visuals and getting turned on by them are two different things. Isn't it flattering that your partner enjoys looking at you even without it simply being a hormonal reaction? :) October 27, 2019 at 12:03AM

False. I enjoy skydiving October 27, 2019 at 12:03AM

I know how it feels. I hope you're doing ok now, but I doubt words from a stranger could do much. October 27, 2019 at 12:02AM

You sound like you might be a sex-averse ace (even with the medical problems complicating the picture: you sound like you don't actually want sex even after treatment). Or maybe gray ace or demi? October 27, 2019 at 12:00AM

The original tweet is dumb, the reply is genuinely infuriating. October 26, 2019 at 11:59PM

Hello. Throwaway for obvious reasons. I've been engaged to Julia for 2 year. We have been together for 7 years. We live together and share finances and a pet. We live together in a house that I own. Things are good, just not great. An ongoing issue with us has always been Julia's mental health and lack of effort to do anything about it. Her anxiety prevents her from applying to jobs, booking any sort of appointments, using the phone, and she has had multiple panic attacks from regular social situations. I have great benefits and we can afford a psychologist for Julia. She has booked an appointment (after a year of me nagging her) with a psychologist for 3 weeks from now. This is a great step. However I know from experience there are still multiple hurdles. She WILL do her best to try and get out of the appointment. And it is extremely likely she won't like the psychologist and will say she wants to find a different one. Pushing everything back by 6 months easy. This, co...

This friend (Lucy) and I haven’t gotten along in the past. She was the only girl in their “friend group” and gets weird when new girls are introduced. Since my BF and I were long distance initially, I did not interact with Lucy a lot anyway. It wasn’t until she moved in as a roommate that I noticed her being cold to me—referring to me in the third person when I was there or on the phone, commenting that my BF spent too much time on the phone with me. I had no problem with her initially; I even tried to spark up a friendship in the beginning but stopped trying when I noticed these behaviors. She still treated my BF as if he were single—doing girly/childish things like asking him to tie her shoes etc, laying in his bed, calling all her friends her “boyfriends” etc. This bothered me. I felt like there were different boundaries for friends before and after getting into a relationship. I brought this up with my BF, and then messaged her directly with how I felt. My BF got defensive and de...

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I’m in a new relationship and I’m so happy with who he is. He’s everything I want in a partner and so much more and I’m fairly sure at this stage, he’s on the same page and we seem very compatible in many important ways. However, I’m terribly insecure, full of self-doubt and tend to be very self-sabotaging. Whether it’s my looks/appearance, my finances (32 and still in debt/living pay cheque to pay cheque), my perfectionism issues, or whatever else, I have a hard time getting out of my head and thinking that the men who I find would be better off with someone else. Over the years, I’ve been in a handful of year long relationships that are almost always ended by the other person because of my insecurities and I’m always left terribly heart-broken for a while. I stay single until I’m feeling better on my own and then get back to it. My insecurities and doubts are starting to come out in my new/2 month long relationship as I feel us getting closer. I often feel better off on my own but c...

My BF and I are 20 and 21 from Australia. We have been dating for over 2.5 years. There is this girl at my BFs uni that created issues earlier in the year. My boyfriend was secretly catching up with her. I found out through a message on his phone and from his mum who said she was over a few months ago and they behaved very flirty. I proceeded to give him a chance to fix things but he had to dramatically reduce his communication with the girl. He seemed to have been doing this, saying that he barely spoke to her and if he was it was about uni stuff. 6 months later i get a message from her friends confused by my profile pic, that includes me and my bf, because the girl and him have been dating for months. My friend also received a message from a different girl at uni, who she knew from school, who asked whether she knew if myself and my BF were still dating because everyone at uni we under the impression that we had broken up. Long story short that day, after still promising that he was...

I won’t go into detail about it all. But my boyfriend literally lies about everything to me. Even small stuff. And even when I confront him on the fact that he’s lying I have to go through hoops just for him to admit it to me. And even though I’ve told him time and time again how much it hurts me and how much I don’t like it. He keeps doing it. He has promised over and over again that he will never lie to me. But has become a problem in our relationship. I’m not sure I can trust someone who can’t even be honest with me. Does this make him a compulsive liar? How to deal with a liar? TL;DR! Boyfriend lies all the time about literally everything what should I do? Submitted October 27, 2019 at 12:09AM I won’t go into detail about it all. But my boyfriend literally lies about everything to me. Even small stuff. And even when I confront him on the fact that he’s lying I have to go through hoops just for him to admit it to me. And even though I’ve told him time and time again how much...

Hi guys. My name is definitely not Patrick (20yo). She is 20 either. I am very sensitive guy, I have depression and other stuff, I take psychotropics to feel quite ok. I felt good until today. My mental illness came back, I'm in a very bad mental state again. I know her for like 10 years, we have always been "best friends". I'm the only one person that is so close with her. At some point of time I fell in love with her. I never told her that, cuz I was very shy guy. Once, like 4-5yrs ago I gently suggested her that I feel something more, and we both decided to sort of "move away from each other", just to let me "cool down". Last year we had the opportunity to talk about this, and she told me something like "i'm feeling ok when i'm alone, i don't need a bf at this moment" - ok. Recently I've started to feel love again, but like 10000x more than ever. I asked her, but she told me that she didn't expect that I'm ...

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