I feel that my gf sees me too much

Right so me (M22) and my gf (F22) have been going out for about 2 and a half years. Here’s the situation: I work evening shifts(not long shifts) and get off around 8. She works a 9-5 job. She gets off 2 days off as do I. For those two days off she gets; she sees me in the morning for about 3 hours until it’s time for me to go to work. Then after I get off every day, always, we see each other until midnight. The only way we don’t is if I/or her have something to do with friends or family (but that’s rare). When I’m off (and she isn’t) I have the whole morning/evening to myself until later in the night when she sees me. And basically the days she works and I do too, I have the mornings to myself until I have to work.

Now here’s some background info. I grew up alone. Only child, no family near me, just me and my parents. I never was social,i struggle to start and maintain conversations. It takes a lot of me to be social. Energy wise. And I love my alone time. And she grew up with a lot family. And she doesn’t really have hobbies of her own. (Sometimes I feel Im her only hobbie lol)

So when I got a gf it was all different. At first I feel we saw each other less. We worked together so basically every day but the only difference is that when I got off it was around 10pm so I would go home and she would go home as well. So I had the nights to myself. Now that we both have different jobs our schedules allows her to see me every nights and two mornings of the week. I sometimes feel like that’s too much. And it affects our relationship. I get distant from time to time because I want to be alone after work. I’m tired and I want to get to do my hobbies. But she’s always there. She sometimes feels that, and we get into arguments, her saying I’m not happy or I don’t want her there, which I say of course I do want her. Which is true is just that sometimes I’d rather be alone. I would say something to her but we have discussed it before very vaguely and she has the idea that I have more than enough time to myself through the week.

So what do I do? Am I being selfish and immature? Or do I have a right for more alone time?

See the things that scares me is that if I’m struggling with my time now what will happen when we live together?

TL;DR! Gf sees me every day, and I need more alone time

Submitted October 26, 2019 at 11:42PM

Right so me (M22) and my gf (F22) have been going out for about 2 and a half years. Here’s the situation: I work evening shifts(not long shifts) and get off around 8. She works a 9-5 job. She gets off 2 days off as do I. For those two days off she gets; she sees me in the morning for about 3 hours until it’s time for me to go to work. Then after I get off every day, always, we see each other until midnight. The only way we don’t is if I/or her have something to do with friends or family (but that’s rare). When I’m off (and she isn’t) I have the whole morning/evening to myself until later in the night when she sees me. And basically the days she works and I do too, I have the mornings to myself until I have to work.Now here’s some background info. I grew up alone. Only child, no family near me, just me and my parents. I never was social,i struggle to start and maintain conversations. It takes a lot of me to be social. Energy wise. And I love my alone time. And she grew up with a lot family. And she doesn’t really have hobbies of her own. (Sometimes I feel Im her only hobbie lol)So when I got a gf it was all different. At first I feel we saw each other less. We worked together so basically every day but the only difference is that when I got off it was around 10pm so I would go home and she would go home as well. So I had the nights to myself. Now that we both have different jobs our schedules allows her to see me every nights and two mornings of the week. I sometimes feel like that’s too much. And it affects our relationship. I get distant from time to time because I want to be alone after work. I’m tired and I want to get to do my hobbies. But she’s always there. She sometimes feels that, and we get into arguments, her saying I’m not happy or I don’t want her there, which I say of course I do want her. Which is true is just that sometimes I’d rather be alone. I would say something to her but we have discussed it before very vaguely and she has the idea that I have more than enough time to myself through the week.So what do I do? Am I being selfish and immature? Or do I have a right for more alone time?See the things that scares me is that if I’m struggling with my time now what will happen when we live together?TL;DR! Gf sees me every day, and I need more alone time