**overreacting by This might get long. This past weekend my family and a few members of my extended family gathered for my sister's [21F] graduation from college. We went to dinner and the conversation veered to the usual topic of my greatest hits of being a "problem child". I'm used to this and it bothers me, but I wasn't going to make it tense by sticking up for myself. For whatever reason though, my sister decided to tell the story of when I called the cops on my dad. When I was 16 I got into an especially heated argument with my parents (all sides yelling/shouting) and decided to have the last word with some swears. I stomped up to my room and slammed the door. For my sisters, the story stops there and skips to my mom putting them in the car and then coming home to a cop car in the driveway. For me, the story continues with my dad storming up after me, pinning me down, and hitting me across the face several times. I got up, called the cops, and it became...

So one of my newest coworkers (Marsha not her real name) is someone that I find a hard worker and easy to get along with normally, has developed a habit that grates on my nerves. Every little thing she runs and tattles on to the supervisor (Kate 40F). Like oh I heard so and so doesn’t like so and so, petty stuff and multiple people have been confronted because of this and it’s creating even more unnecessary drama than just leaving the people alone. A particular incident involves another female coworker (Bethany age 24) who became so upset and panicky about having to meet with Kate that she got sick and had a panic attack. Kate has a history of making you feel like the smallest scum of the earth anytime there is any issue. I haven’t been the target of any of this but Marsha is taking someone venting about a situation or person wayyy out of context. I fear she is going to get herself in trouble or worse have other hard workers like Bethany quit over a stupid reason (we are already ver...

He has had two exes cheat on him before and says he has emotional baggage related to that. On the other hand, he reassured me that he trusts me, except that "you never know what you can't control in the future". See, I would have been okay if he had just wanted a regular prenup, but he specifically stated that he just wants one clause only that addresses adultery. I honestly feel pretty hurt because this to me indicates a lack of trust on this one issue in particular. I have never had a history of cheating. He knows my laptop and phone passcodes. We share live locations on Google maps 24/7. We've been together 1.5 years and are currently living together. I understand that past trauma leaves scars but I think it's unfair for him to let that sabotage his current relationship. This is totally left field for me as he had said earlier in our relationship that he wouldn't want a prenup. I should add that he is a lawyer by profession and has heard his fair share ...

Forgive me for any typos, but I'm writing this with eyes filled with tears. It's real. She's got a new address and plans to furnish it, has signed a lease, and, worst of all, has told our oldest son. I can see the sadness in his eyes, and, he's surely seen the depths of hell in mine for these last few months. I'm not one of those guys who's afraid to let my emotions show. I wish I were, to be honest, because I'm a lost, lovelorn shell of the man (48) I was when this year began. Since then, I've lost close to thirty pounds, and had devoted myself to being the man she (41F) wanted for our eighteen years. It wasn't enough. She's done. After so many years of love every day, sleeping in the same bed for all but the last three months, two young children, and so much love it hurts, she's really leaving. It's too much to bear sometimes but having heard her tell me she's not in love with me anymore no fewer than four times, and now that ...

Just a bit of context: he sexually abuse me when I was 11. Turned my family against me to make me lie on the stand. Adamantly denied the abuse. I had to live with him for years after. He ended up cheating on my mom. Left her. Got married to his third wife. I have no idea what he has done after that. Email: Im writing this because I guess that my history has caught up to me and has completely left me all at the same time.  I'm 25 now, going on 26. My adult head has grown in, and I've been able to think about things in a more adult manner. I'm no longer the teenage, "let's smoke weed and play guitar" person that you had to put up with. I'm no longer the lost, stuck in my feelings child with a bit of promising talent, that you remember. I'm more than that. Much more.  I've grown up to be who I was meant to be, with or without your direct intervention. It's quite liberating to tell you the truth. I've done a lot of things that I've ...

tl;dr: My dad is military and retired 8 years ago. Since they are finally stationary, my mom really wants a house. We currently live in a townhouse and my mom frequently brings up buying a house, but it wasn't serious until they found a realtor recently. Today, we found a near perfect house and everyone seemed onboard, but my dad. My mom and dad's dream of a perfect house seem to conflict each other, with my dad being unreasonable. Everytime my mom gets my dad on board to buy a house, my dad pulls back and doesn't seem to move past the step of signing the papers. This frustrates my mom and she is at her breaking point and may make a drastic move that could make the tension worse in their marriage. ​ ​ Context/Background ​ My dad and my mom have two kids: my brother (26M) and I (17M). My dad spent 25+ years in the Air Force and he retired in November of 2011. Throughout his service, we moved a lot. My dad really never saw the benefit of getting a house because we moved...

I'm an American living abroad in a Scandinavian country. I moved here seven years ago. I met a guy, Leif, through work. We started off as friends then friends with benefits which eventually turned into full on dating. He proposed to me in January and I accepted. However, I can't help but feel we are just settling for each other. Leif was in an accident when he was younger and as a result the left side of his face, shoulder, and arm are disfigured. He grew up being shunned and mocked for it. This has caused him to be quite withdrawn and alienated from society. I was adopted and raised in a "Ye Old Way" cult type of religion. Abusive father, stepford wife mother. Broke free as soon as I turn 18 but was very unprepared for the real world. Went looking for my birth mother but found out she was dead. Mental + physical pain from an undiagnosed health issue drove me to commit suicide. I survived, went to therapy, and got treatment for my health issue, but still rather dep...

Hi all, I [M26] recently got out of a relationship of almost a year with [F24]. I downloaded some dating apps and want to move forward with my life, and to stop feeling lonely and sorry for myself because I don't have anyone. ​ But, the problem is, there are some ultra-specific things I want from a future relationship that I'm worried might be too much for a dating app. ​ My ex-girlfriend introduced me to several bedroom activities that I definitely want in a new partner. But problem is, I know most people would never even venture into that realm. I'm inclined to be upfront about that in a dating profile, but I'm worried it would fall into the TMI category for some casually scrolling through Tinder or Bumble. But then again...I really want those...activities...and feel being upfront about it would save time for both me and the other person who has the choice to swipe right/left. ​ Since I know this discussion won't be complete without actually defining what t...

Yesterday evening I went to my Jewish orthodox relatives. There I met another invitee, an amazing woman. Not only is she my taste in her appearance, she is my taste in personality too. It's a true jackpot. Only problem is... she's religious. I'm not. I'm secular but I do enjoy some traditions to a degree. I do not keep the Saturday [for example, I use my phone and turn the lights on and off], I do not keep kosher. I really am secular. I don't know. I'm wondering if it is worth it to try and chat with her further and see if there is any midpoint we can meet at... maybe keeping kosher at home or I don't know what... I'm afraid of hurting her by doing so. It is the first time in my life I felt like I do about this woman. I can't explain it in words, but she is something else. She managed to get me to consider keeping kosher at home without doing anything, that's a huge achievement, I really am secular. I'm not sure if it's a dream or i...

The backstory is that in January my then-partner of almost 20 years broke up with me very suddenly. He was in love with someone he works with. In December we had been house hunting and planning our future together and I thought we were really happy, so it was very sudden and traumatic. We have two kids together. It's been incredibly difficult to work out things like custody arrangments and financial arrangements, and we're not agreeing on those things, but with the help of counselling and mediation we are both managing to compromise. I feel a huge amount of animosity towards him. He's been a major dick in many ways, and I wish I could never see him again. Obviously that's impossible because we are still co-parents, so I do communicate with him regularly. Almost 4 months after the breakup, I'm managing quite well. Everything other than my love-life is great. Today is Mother's Day in Australia, and my ex sent me a text which reads: Happy Mother's Day. I ho...

I’ve Been having a problem to find this post the correct home and I’m still not sure if this was the right place So I dated this girl (the same one in my choosing beggers post but theirs more to the story) for some background this girl was put into dhhs custody and sent to a foster family, and had some social issues due to some things that would get this post removed. My freshmen year of highschool this new girl entered our math class after a couple of days I noticed she kept to her self and while some of my friends where fooling around I looked to her and said “sorry about them where all autistic” just to make her feel welcome at the school, at the end of the class this girl comes up to me and asked for my Snapchat me being a person to always make friends I gave it to her. The same day when I got home this girl snapped me and asked me on a date me not having a girlfriend prior to this I agreed and we go see a movie witch happen to be black panther of all movies, we watch the movie...

As an aside or really just an initial observation about my dad--he is extraordinarily manipulative. He obeys laws that suit him and completely circumvent those that don't. He will always try to get the 100% best possible outcome for himself regardless of who it screws over in the process. He is also verbally abusive to anyone who he disagrees with. He has a superiority complex where he absolutely has to have the best story--to the point that I frequently catch him in lies. He likes to say that he is religious and will openly profess he believes, but he hasn't been to church in ~10 years that I know of. He (at this point in time) shares a very "conservative" political stance, but when ever pressed on facts he says (that is just what the left-wing media wants you to think). So a whole lot of backstory first: My relationship with my dad has always been tenuous at best. He worked all the time when I was little as an engineer. It was a very good job paying an insane sal...

All my life, I've(20F) never had a female best friend. I mean I thought I did, but she was my best friend-let's call her Y(20F), I wasn't hers. I realised this after we moved away for college. I am in my 2nd year of undergrad studies, and I still don't have a female best friend. It's not like all my friends are boys, but the people I do hang out with, tend to be boys. I got close to one of the better female friends of mine but then she kept rubbing it in my face that she is already best friends with somebody else, and I do not want to make the mistake of conferring someone with the best friend title, unless they do, because that road leads to heartbreak. It wasn't bothering me, but recently, my former high school best friend, Y, told me she is coming down to the state I am living in to meet this other girl, who was also a friend. But when I had asked her a year ago, to come visit me, she'd been ambivalent and then obviously, she didn't come. I want some...