I am in my early 20s and I like this girl that sits next to me in a music class in uni and I asked her out to coffee and she accepted and gave me her instagram. I followed her back and am going to set a date soon. She is very nice and easy-going and fun to talk to and she seems to have her life well in order. She climbs and hikes and plays banjo and has lots of friends and really seems to do a lot of things. I think she might kinda like me as well. I am new to the city and have no friends outside of work and a couple bandmates who are in their 50's with kids as old as I am. I am autistic and always found it hard to make friends. I am not insecure or uncomfortable with myself. I am good at school and am well into a computer science degree. I work long hours as a line cook at an established restaurant. I play many instruments and have been regularly writing and producing my own music since I was 15. I have written probably 50 songs, some that I think are decent. I think I am a ha...

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Hi, really don’t know where I stand, how to proceed and if I should even proceed. Went on a dinner date with an amazing girl who I really enjoyed my time with. The conversation felt effortless and we were bouncing back and forth for hours. After dinner and dessert we decided to go watch a movie at a drive in(didn’t make a move). As I dropped her off, it was around 3 am then, she asked if I wanted to come in and meet her pets and then asked if I wanted to smoke(the downfall, I should have never smoked, I trip out and act stupid). We kept talking for a bit and decided to lean in for a kiss. She promptly stopped me and told me that she wanted to take things slow and I responded with of course, I apologized and told her no worries and she decided to call it a night. Texted her when I got back and she thanked me for everything. Would I even text her back at this point? Wait for her? Or just let it go? I’m actually genuinely interested in her. Thank you for any input or help, I appreciat...

It’s natural to want a future with someone you find attractive, or think you have a connection with. However, projecting romantic feelings onto someone you barely know - or a “friend” that you’ve never been romantic with - often leads to neediness and insecure attachment. The fantasy perception of the person overtakes who they actually are. They are often placed on pedestal unnecessarily. In an attempt to keep this idealized person in your life, the interactions become less natural, more focused on pleasing them, rather than being yourself and allowing things to develop naturally. When you meet someone you like, it’s fine to appreciate them, but be wary of forming an emotional attachment to them. There has to be a phase that is a trial period. Not only do they need to learn about you, but you also need to determine if they fit what YOU want. Have fun, let things unfold naturally. A relationship will develop without planning or thought if you both have chemistry. Trying to force th...

Hey guys, so I was talking with this girl for less a week and her aunt passed away during this time. The girl I’m talking with now is very responsive and text me immediately. I believe I did the right move to drop her ass but I’m also confused with how she messages me back. I have two ss you guys can read and let me know how I could handle the situation better https://imgur.com/a/xnQDHL5 https://imgur.com/a/8DFA1a7 Submitted September 27, 2022 at 12:13AM Hey guys, so I was talking with this girl for less a week and her aunt passed away during this time. The girl I’m talking with now is very responsive and text me immediately. I believe I did the right move to drop her ass but I’m also confused with how she messages me back. I have two ss you guys can read and let me know how I could handle the situation betterhttps://imgur.com/a/xnQDHL5https://ift.tt/SAwx8gu