Frankly, I didn’t know it was hurting me so badly until I had that phone call. I was so repulsed by what I had done that I not only needed to vent about it but also cried for 20 minutes. Literally an 8 second phone call had me in tears. I really need to stop. October 25, 2020 at 11:58PM

GSRM sounds much better and easier to remember than the whole ever increasing acronym for the first letter of every sexuality. October 25, 2020 at 11:55PM

I read through all the comments and it's very mature of you to have apologized for the unnecessary meanness, and I'd just like add my two cents: that discomfort can technically hurt you. Discomfort in and of itself can lead to trauma. I have had a few individuals over the years who have made me uncomfortable by touching me (mostly non-sexually) without my consent. I was not hurt, no one forced themselves on me, I was just made uncomfortable. But now I am very aggressive about not being touched, and I will not touch anyone without specifically being told I'm allowed to at least once because I never want to be the reason someone felt like I did. I was made uncomfortable by years of people trying to coerce me into dating a guy I had no interest in. That discomfort, over the years, damaged my mental health because I was made to feel like I was nothing if I wasn't a potential girlfriend to someone. I was made uncomfortable seeing a crucifix because I was little and thought

Sure. I hope you find something that works for you. Just be careful out there! People can be real jerks where sex is concerned, and anonymity amplifies that. October 25, 2020 at 11:47PM

Well do you feel like it's helping? It's obviously hurting in some way, and if it isn't helping more than it's hurting then it definitely seems like something you should stop. October 25, 2020 at 11:41PM

Fuck, that’s exactly the word I was looking for. Exposure therapy. Thank you so much. October 25, 2020 at 11:41PM

I get where you're coming from; while I can assure you (from experience) that it is possible to find a partner who doesn't mind forgoing sex - perhaps one who's also asexual - your opportunities are definitely more numerous if you're okay with having sex. That said, I don't know if exposure therapy is likely to make you more okay with having sex. If you go to a psychologist or anything like that, perhaps you could ask for advice on decreasing your sex-repulsed feelings - though I don't know if getting rid of them is actually possible. October 25, 2020 at 11:38PM

I don’t know. I use the online chats because I can test my limits without actually being in a room with someone. I don’t know. October 25, 2020 at 11:37PM

I follow the logic of what you're doing and I don't think the behavior is even that strange. But it does sound like you might be harming yourself in the process. Is there another way you can think of to "test" the limits of your sex-repulsion without causing negative thinking about yourself? October 25, 2020 at 11:36PM

Firstly, you're not stupid at all. Figuring yourself out is an ongoing battle that lasts a lifetime and everyone struggles at some point or another but if identifying with Asexuality is what feels right to you then that's good and you do not have to justify yourself to anyone, parents included. There is a whole spectrum of Asexuality too, so really take the time to research and investigate. I'm Gray-A, for example and it's taken 28 years to realise it. My point is, just be yourself. Allow yourself to identify in what feels most natural to you. We're all different, no 2 asexuals are the same so even though this community can give you advise and support when you need it, make sure you're always adhering to what makes you happy and comfortable at the end of the day. October 25, 2020 at 11:35PM

Thank you. You’re much kinder than the troll who commented. October 25, 2020 at 11:35PM

The original purpose of Ace week was to make people aware of asexuality, hence “Asexuality Awareness Week” A lot of people have just been calling it “Ace Week” though, so the awareness part is kinda just a leftover at this point. October 25, 2020 at 11:31PM

Yeah that makes sense, I wish you the best October 25, 2020 at 11:30PM

“Stfu nobody cares you lil shit” ~ throwawayanonymos112 How cruel October 25, 2020 at 11:27PM

Happy Ace week! October 25, 2020 at 11:27PM

This made me smile so damn much hahaha! I'm currently in a blanket tent so not too far off. October 25, 2020 at 11:26PM

Man I could really go for some chilli right now October 25, 2020 at 11:25PM

Ayyy pan aroace gang October 25, 2020 at 11:23PM

Noted! October 25, 2020 at 11:15PM

You should be talking about sex stuff or stuff in the bedroom with him. Personally, my partner's interest in me shouldn't be about sex. Sex would only be a "side effect". But this is your relationship, your body. I'm a virgin and I don't know how these things go about. I can't understand why it's difficult for someone to live without sex and I'm sure many don't either. Make sure you are 110% eager to consent to whatever you will engage in. I didn't help a lot, sorry October 25, 2020 at 11:10PM

Totally on-board with bees! They are why we have good things in the world! October 25, 2020 at 11:05PM

Yeah any kind of act - sorry i’m tryna be specific but vague at the same time haha! October 25, 2020 at 11:05PM

So Sangled is bad, not Picrew October 25, 2020 at 11:05PM