Oh this is ridiculous. I definitely relate to compulsively hiding things even if I’m doing perfectly normal stuff. My mother has a habit of making fun of stuff I’m doing/watching (in a non-mean way) especially if there is a conventionally attractive man in there. One time she literally insisted I had a crush on Chris Pine in the Star Trek movies even though I spent the whole time hating his version of Kirk. She didn’t know I was asexual (neither did I though) and I’m glad I was, because I literally had a fear that when I did find a boyfriend, she’d then do the same teasing about us. Now that she knows she mostly appears to have stopped, but the damage is done. I actually think it’s more because she’s going through a man-hating stage and most of her comments are now about that. There is also the time she went through my internet browser completely out of nowhere and without asking me, and also read my notes app. She wasn’t even mad, just worried and/or curious about what was on there

yes May 24, 2021 at 12:04AM

I can't speak for every asexual but I'm 19 and knew that I was ace since I was 13 years old and nothing has changed within those 6 years. Think about it this way, being gay, straight, lesbian, etc. is not a choice, just like being asexual, so it doesn't simply "go away". Maybe the person finds out that they're demi-sexual or grey-sexual? Then that would be the valid case but even then, these are still on the asexual spectrum. May 24, 2021 at 12:00AM

It sorta depends. I don’t really come out to anyone but my closest friends and intermediate family. All of my other friends i just talk about with them, because their 🏳️‍🌈 friendly and it works well, even if they didn’t know May 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

fingerguns whilst slowly moving further and further away until eventually disappearing into the abyss * May 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

You can enjoy music even if you've never been in the situation. Good music is good music. Gatekeeping is silly. There isn't any prereqs for enjoying music. Fun fact: You're still allowed to enjoy the 1812 Overture even if you've never been in a battle with muskets and cannons too! :P May 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

So happy for you!! May 23, 2021 at 11:56PM

I mean... yes and no. Some reasons I want to come out/ like coming out: - More visibility for a very unknown orientation - I hate people assuming I’m straight, since it creates an image of me at odds with the person I feel I am inside - I’ve reached an age where relationships are the norm and a few people are even getting to the marriage stage and I sometimes feel obligated to provide an explanation for my lack of involvement in that sort of thing (pretty sure this is more of an aro concern but it still feels somewhat tied to my ace identity) Some reasons I don’t really care for coming out: - Involves pulling out a mini-dictionary of terms even when trying to keep it simple - I’m a very private person and this kind of conversation feels awkward - I’ve had some less than pleasant responses in the past and wish to avoid similar encounters in the future May 23, 2021 at 11:55PM

My Target is finally doing it this year, I need to go back. Must. Buy. Queer. Stuff. May 23, 2021 at 11:49PM

Im not much one to stay closeted I'm lucky that that my parents are supportive so I can't much imagine not coming out May 23, 2021 at 11:48PM

it’s essentially word vomit. i have a hard time with words, especially in situations like the first “do we love each other,” since i almost always move much slower than the other guy. May 23, 2021 at 11:47PM

I'm also not sure why, but my sister is autistic, so I know that this symbol represents the diversity of the autism spectrum and the greater neurodiversity movement. May 23, 2021 at 11:47PM

I personaly don't feel the need either. In my opinion nobody (except my partner) needs to know the thinks I like to do in the bedroom. I just talked with a handful of people over it to get my thoughts and feelings sorted. I don't hide it, but I wouldn't sit down and tell everybody May 23, 2021 at 11:46PM

I don't feel like I need to "come out" but I never hide my disinterest in sex or romance in an attempt to fit in. May 23, 2021 at 11:46PM

Thanks lol May 23, 2021 at 11:45PM

No problem! May 23, 2021 at 11:45PM

Doesn't "what a coincidence" imply you love them too? This doesn't seem like buying time but saying I love you back without saying the words directly. Have I misunderstood? May 23, 2021 at 11:42PM

Seriously, you should try it at least once. Just once. You never know before you actually do it. Go on, what are you scared of? Are you scared you'll like it? Are you scared you'll enjoy it? How can you know until you try? How do you really know if you're a straight heterosexual male if you don't hire a male prostitute at least once? Yes, sometimes the best answer is a reversal. Tell them to practice what they preach. May 23, 2021 at 11:41PM

Nope! I'm almost 14, I've almost known for a year now. My gender is the problem- May 23, 2021 at 11:38PM

............ A problem has been detected and Brain has been shut down to prevent damage to your relationship. May 23, 2021 at 11:36PM

They are part of the community because they aren't hetero sexual , they are asexual . Take this into account: heterosexual people feel sexual attraction to the opposite sex, while hetero-romantics feel only romantic attraction to the opposite sex. You being greysexual means that you feel little sexual attraction, rather than the norm. Just because they are attracted to the opposite gender, and are hetero-romantic, doesn't mean that we get to exclude them. It doesn't seem fair. The queer community is about acceptance and understanding each other. Exclusion within the community is probably the worst thing that we can do to each other. May 23, 2021 at 11:35PM

You should tell your friend that you are not comfortable hearing about their sex life. You shouldn't have to listen to something you don't want to. May 23, 2021 at 11:35PM

I need the recipe May 23, 2021 at 11:25PM