Hello dear users of this community. I am 22 years old guy from Valencia (Spain). And i am writing this with a very difficult feelings, i am an introvert, so it's really, really difficult for me to share this kind of thoughts with people, even in internet, but i really need some help and advices. And you can't imagine how many time's i tried to write it here, untill i finally found myself trapped in this thoughts and i just need to express them. I believe many people will find this post funny or consider me crazy/dumb/etc, but i hope there will be people that can really understand me and try to help :D. Anyway, thank you to everyone for your time and please, excuse me for my bad grammar, sadly, english is not my mother tongue and as much as i want to write without mistakes, i just can't avoid them. The reason i actually write and try to express myself here, is because closest people i know, can't understand me and i feel dumb to go and find a psychologist for this,...

Been in an LDR with this girl for a long time, over 8 years. We lived together for 2 years in the middle of it, but due to circumstances we were separated as I had to finish school. We are moving back in together in a year when I graduate. We deeply love each other and are very very compatible. If soulmates are a thing, she definitely is mine. She's had a lot of problems in life which have got worse progressively for a long time off and on with depression leading to her seclusion. She has a couple close friends that she hangs out with occasionally and has grown distant from due to what I suspect are problems caused by her depression and such, but I don't know exactly, leading her to not go out much and just stay indoors. She withdrew from college partially due to costs and to work on her independent art career while working a few hours at a part time job. She's extremely talented and I fully believe in her to make a good living out of it, but she lacks the motivation a l...

So my(24M) girlfriend(23f) has dual citizenship in another country. Things are going amazing in the relationship. However, she's made it very clear that when she spends her summer back home she will be with other people romantically. I'm not sure how she can be "in love" with me and still be planning on spending her summer like that. Should I just enjoy things until then? I care for her a lot:( tl;dr: Falling for a great girl that is reciprocating feelings. But wants to see other people when she goes back to her home country. Should I see things out until the summer? Submitted December 11, 2019 at 12:17AM So my(24M) girlfriend(23f) has dual citizenship in another country. Things are going amazing in the relationship. However, she's made it very clear that when she spends her summer back home she will be with other people romantically. I'm not sure how she can be "in love" with me and still be planning on spending her summer like that. Should ...

Hey guys, First time posting in this subreddit looking for some advice, Recently started associating myself (M24) with a girl (F26) who struggled with addiction / struggling with addiction. We were together for a couple weeks then separated due to reasoning related to said addiction. Recently she has said that she wants to work things out and try and get back together and has gotten clean. She said I'm in between friend and boyfriend. Everytime I ask to hang out she avoids it with some simple excuses. I also have outside people in the situation saying that she is X way but she and other people that know her pretty well defeat those claims. She also claims she misses me and returns love you too or a variant whenever I tell her that I love her. Does anybody have any experience with this type of issue and should I continue to pursue this? I really care about her but it may something related to Trauma Bonding I believe the term is as I've been around before. ​ TL;DR Should I put...

This may seem like a very typical question, but I'm really struggling with this and I need advice. I've been friends with my now-boyfriend, D, for almost 5 years now. We've gotten along well for that whole time, and over the past year, we've gotten really, really close. We've made out on and off, fooled around a few times, but I wasn't sure if I was ready for a relationship. And he knew that. I made it clear, and he was very understanding. A week or so ago, he asked me out, and I said yes. For all intents and purposes, he seems like my ideal guy-- he's sweet, caring, affectionate, thoughtful, and a dozen other things that I want in a partner. But after making it official, something just feels... different. Maybe it's just stress due to everything else going on in my life, or maybe I pressured myself into something I wasn't ready for. I THOUGHT I was ready, and I know that I care about him, but something about the word "boyfriend" just t...

Im sorry this story is crazy, I'll try to keep it simple. My (23F) childhood best friend (24NB) has been in a relationship with this guy (24M) for 8 years. I didnt mind him much, but at this point their relationship has gotten so toxic (for reasons that I wont go into) that it's hard for me and many other ppl to see why they are still together, but I have respected my friend's feelings for him, and even when I felt weird about them getting engaged bc I felt my friend deserved way better, i kept my mouth shut. Another friend (20sF) who left our area a while ago is coming to visit in a couple of days, and she told me that my best friend's fiance touched her inappropriately and without her permission a few years back. She decided she wants to tell our friend when she is here visiting and wants me to be there with her, so I've been thinking of ways to coordinate a time and place when we can be alone without my best friend's fiance around. I'm seeing my best f...

I recently met this girl at work about a month ago and like shes always been flirty with me saying shes my gf and things like that to another colleague. At first I brushed it off as a joke but in the past week or two we’ve been hanging out just the two of us after work and I feel like I’m developing some feelings for this person. We text daily but act like we don’t know each other at work because we don’t want our bosses to know somethings going on. Fast forward to last night, I asked her if she actually likes me and told her that I don’t want our friendship/relationship to be a game as I’m starting to become invested in it. She told me she had some feelings for me but isn’t ready for a relationship as we both don’t really know each other that well. I agreed with her but told her that I just wanted to be clear as to what is happening between us so we don’t take it down the wrong path. Now it feels like I was maybe a bit too confrontational as she didn’t really take it kindly. We bot...

Tldr Fell for somebody real hard, neither of us shoild be in a relationship right now. I asked her anyway. Havent talked much since. Maybe a month. But Im at a loss without her around. I fell for somebody so hard. They made the first move. We went to a dance. We said things you don't say to a friend and you don't make friends by doing the things we did. We both know that we will leave soon so we shouldnt try anything, and we didnt try to be anything. We stopped talking because I cant do it. I dont know if she fully understands how I feel. All I know is that I did not just go back to living an old life. She changed my tastes and now I dont see anything else, do anything. Its like the only point of doing things was her. We havent talked in a month or so. I dont think I want to move on. I liked the way we talked. The way she looked at me. I cant keep avoiding her or ignoring what Im thinking, but she already said she cant do this right now and I know neither of us can afford to....

I recently met this girl at work about a month ago and like shes always been flirty with me saying shes my gf and things like that to another colleague. At first I brushed it off as a joke but in the past week or two we’ve been hanging out just the two of us after work and I feel like I’m developing some feelings for this person. We text daily but act like we don’t know each other at work because we don’t want our bosses to know somethings going on. Fast forward to last night, I asked her if she actually likes me and told her that I don’t want our friendship/relationship to be a game as I’m starting to become invested in it. She told me she had some feelings for me but isn’t ready for a relationship as we both don’t really know each other that well. I agreed with her but told her that I just wanted to be clear as to what is happening between us so we don’t take it down the wrong path. Now it feels like I was maybe a bit too confrontational as she didn’t really take it kindly. We bot...

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As the title says, anybody that prefers dating high maintenance or has experience dealing with these types? Currently dating a 30/F and this is all new territory for me.... Submitted December 11, 2019 at 12:12AM As the title says, anybody that prefers dating high maintenance or has experience dealing with these types?Currently dating a 30/F and this is all new territory for me....

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Me and my crush have been talking and hugging for awhile and now she wants to kiss tomorrow before school starts (I have mint gum) Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:19PM Me and my crush have been talking and hugging for awhile and now she wants to kiss tomorrow before school starts (I have mint gum)

Hi everyone, I (27/F) met this guy (30/M) through my dad. They have a very close working relationship, my dad is not only his PhD supervisor, they also have around 3 published academic articles together. I started texting with this guy, and we texted non-stop for about 2 weeks. One day he told me he liked me as something more, and I told him I felt the same way. However, when the topic of my dad came up, he said he would feel really uncomfortable, like betraying his trust, and with an ethic dilemma. He said we should be friends instead, and that he’s not rejecting me, that it’s the context that troubles him. I felt he was genuine, I do feel he likes me, but he’s just anxious about the whole thing. However, some friends have told me that he’s just making excuses, that if he really liked me, he wouldn’t care about any barriers. I’m really upset because I really like him, but maybe I am being rejected. He told me “Imagine you have a Ferrari and you already started the engine, but you ...

How can you avoid getting obsessed when involved with someone you really like? (28m) Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:29PM How can you avoid getting obsessed when involved with someone you really like? (28m)

So I(18M) have been snapping allot with this girl(18) I went to high school with. We snap on a daily basis and play the stupid snap games or just casually talk all day long.I realized that I kinda like her a lot and I decided it is time to ask her out. But here’s the thing I only speak to her on snap We don’t go to the same school anymore and I rarely see her in “real life”. Normally when I ask a girl out I do it in person but since I rarely see her this isn’t really an option. So my question is how do I smoothly introduce the idea of us going on a date to her via snap or WhatsApp. Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:29PM So I(18M) have been snapping allot with this girl(18) I went to high school with. We snap on a daily basis and play the stupid snap games or just casually talk all day long.I realized that I kinda like her a lot and I decided it is time to ask her out. But here’s the thing I only speak to her on snap We don’t go to the same school anymore and I rarely see her in ...

I am in college and had a class with a girl my age. She laughed the hardest at stuff I say, smiles a lot at me and to stuff I say. She said hi when she saw me ask what's up. We had to do peer reviews and she came to my table sat next to me at my table. She sat between me and a woman Im friends with, talked to her she said something, smiled at me and looked deep into my eyes and didn't stop smiling and it felt awkward, if I didn't break the eye contact she probably would've continued. She was making forced eye contact and scratching her head while resting her head on her hand. One day I sat down waiting for class and sat with a woman I give a lot of attention to in class and she came in for class walked over and started waiting very close to me, hovering over standing in my personal space, she walked right in front of me and started getting close to me and I could smell her but she had her back to me. This was the closest she's been to me. There was a whole room not...

Hi not sure if this is the right subreddit for this but can anyone steer my in the right direction as far as an app or site for primarily hookups? I don’t like using tinder and is rather avoid the ones that link to your Facebook. I don’t mind if I have to pay as long as it’s legit. Thanks for the help Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:45PM Hi not sure if this is the right subreddit for this but can anyone steer my in the right direction as far as an app or site for primarily hookups? I don’t like using tinder and is rather avoid the ones that link to your Facebook. I don’t mind if I have to pay as long as it’s legit. Thanks for the help

So 2 weeks ago this girl says she didn’t really have any feelings for me anymore but suddenly she has started texting me again and flirting and showing interest and saying she miss’s me but I’m not sure of how to read this she says she doesn’t want to get with any other boys and we are having flowing convos I want to hold back a bit this time and get her to want me so I don’t get mugged of again I don’t know how to do this ? And I’m not sure if I’m reading this right please help. I don’t want to give my self false hope Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:46PM So 2 weeks ago this girl says she didn’t really have any feelings for me anymore but suddenly she has started texting me again and flirting and showing interest and saying she miss’s me but I’m not sure of how to read this she says she doesn’t want to get with any other boys and we are having flowing convos I want to hold back a bit this time and get her to want me so I don’t get mugged of again I don’t know how to do this ? ...

nobody has ever liked me. i've never dated anyone or done anything close to dating (except trying online dating on and off, but it has never led anywhere). what can i do to make myself more attractive? i am a nice, smart and funny person but i don't think i'm that interesting (ie. i don't have any extraordinary skills). i'm not hot. i'm 5'0 and 120 pounds, so am kind of fat. i also have no idea how to flirt and am a bit shy and nervous. i'm really trying hard not to die alone - please help Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:48PM nobody has ever liked me. i've never dated anyone or done anything close to dating (except trying online dating on and off, but it has never led anywhere).what can i do to make myself more attractive? i am a nice, smart and funny person but i don't think i'm that interesting (ie. i don't have any extraordinary skills). i'm not hot. i'm 5'0 and 120 pounds, so am kind of fat. i also have no idea h...

I hope my title says it all. I am beyond fucked up. I am beyond being saved. I will never find anyone. Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:51PM I hope my title says it all. I am beyond fucked up. I am beyond being saved. I will never find anyone.

She has no reason not to like my photos. We’ve gone out about 7 times in past 8 weeks, some her idea, some mine. But she likes everyone else’s photos except for mine? Creepy thing to notice but I don’t get why. Submitted December 10, 2019 at 11:56PM She has no reason not to like my photos. We’ve gone out about 7 times in past 8 weeks, some her idea, some mine. But she likes everyone else’s photos except for mine?Creepy thing to notice but I don’t get why.