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Different types of orgasm?

Am I the only one who has a totally different type of orgasm when I masturbate vs from my partner? Same type, stimulation of clit, but totally different feelings. I enjoy both but they're totally different sensations. Anyone else? Submitted August 19, 2019 at 11:15PM Am I the only one who has a totally different type of orgasm when I masturbate vs from my partner? Same type, stimulation of clit, but totally different feelings. I enjoy both but they're totally different sensations. Anyone else?

Texts or resources about sexual psychology?

Hey all, 29 M, and I'm trying to work on getting a better handle of my sex life. I spend a lot of time meditating on issues that might be effecting other areas of my life, but I'm having a really difficult time doing that for sexual issues. I'm not really comfortable talking to a therapist about that kind of stuff, but I'm curious to know if there's anything that might have helped you come to understand your sexual self. Submitted August 19, 2019 at 11:15PM Hey all,29 M, and I'm trying to work on getting a better handle of my sex life. I spend a lot of time meditating on issues that might be effecting other areas of my life, but I'm having a really difficult time doing that for sexual issues. I'm not really comfortable talking to a therapist about that kind of stuff, but I'm curious to know if there's anything that might have helped you come to understand your sexual self.

What's The Standard Protocol For Getting STI/STD Results?

So I'm entering the casual sex scene for the first time. I've never had an STI test done so idk what the standard protocol for getting your results back are & idk how to make sure your partners are 100% clean. I'm still a virgin and have only given head twice (both people were clean & showed me their results without me even having to ask). I'm about to start an fwb relationship with someone new and have already disclosed that since I want to save my virginity for my future long-term bf, I will only be ok with foreplay & oral. He agreed to this. Now...bj's aren't very fun with a condom on and i'm a ball-sucker type girl and condoms can't go over testicles anyways so oral without a condom 100%. I asked if he was clean & if I could see his results (first time doing this). This person's telling me that he doesn't have his results with him b/c since STI results are confidential, you have to see the doctor & they will disclose the ...

How to maintain erotic desire in a longterm relationship?

THANKS in advance for any help. I have been banging my head against the wall on this one. I [26F] have been dating my bf [27M] for almost a year, and I have noticed that the closer we have become, my libido has decreased. (I've noticed this over the last 3-4 months or so) I adore him, I trust him, and he makes me so happy in every other way. The sex was great when we first got together, I got horny so easily, and I was always thinking about sex. This was the norm for me historically while single or in short term/casual flings, but I have never gotten this close/stable/happy with someone. In the past, I loved being a sub and letting the guy be really aggressive, and my boyfriend is totally onboard for that kind of play in the bedroom, but now the thought of my sweet, caring, thoughtful boyfriend tying me up and spanking me doesn't get me excited AT ALL. I also rarely get horny/sex on the brain, and having sex feels more like a massage (i.e. it feels good, but I don't ne...

Do most guys have success with Viagra?

I am in my early 50's. Due to some health issues I have to take 5 medications a day. ED has been an issue since my meds. My current doctor put me on Viagra a couple months ago to help me out. My success with it has not been so-so at best. I hear about guys walking around with erections all night long, but thus far that is never my case. I feel like I disappoint my wife when I have trouble staying hard. I satisfy her every other way I can, but hitting the Home Run is eluding me lately. Submitted August 19, 2019 at 11:40PM I am in my early 50's. Due to some health issues I have to take 5 medications a day. ED has been an issue since my meds. My current doctor put me on Viagra a couple months ago to help me out. My success with it has not been so-so at best. I hear about guys walking around with erections all night long, but thus far that is never my case.I feel like I disappoint my wife when I have trouble staying hard. I satisfy her every other way I can, but hitting the...

I (16M) was sexually abused/raped as a child and I think I have fantasies about raping someone else

So yeah I don't really know how to describe this other then it's something I randomly think about and semi want to do,I know rape is a horrible thing and k 100% agree but sometimes I'll see my girlfriend or anyone I'm attracted to and just think how badly I'd love to rough fuck them and I don't understand why,it could be do to the fact that I was "raped" as a child (nothing went in my "bum" it was the other way around) I don't know if it's because I could be into some kinky shit or my hormones but regardless I still get these feelings randomly,I know if I were to ever do it I would 100% regret it no doubt,just thinking about it sends a shiver down my spine and makes me feel like a bad person, I guess I just needed to put this out there,and also advice on how to cope with it or anything will be greatly appreciated thank you for listening and giving advice <3 :) Submitted August 19, 2019 at 11:44PM So yeah I don't really k...

Can a Madonna-Whore complex be cured? ;(

tHrOwAwAy AcCoUnT fOr ObViOuS rEaSoNs So, growing up, I was dealing with a combination Mormonism, OCD and SSRI medications that made sexual desires/arousal difficult. That insane cult church teaches that even thinking sexual thoughts are akin to murder, so I would never let myself fantasize about any of a woman's body parts that lie underneath a bikini/underwear. I had a few crushes. One I had when I was 15 and she was 16. She was SUPER cute, stereotypically attractive southern girl with shoulder-length dark brown hair. I had such a narrow understanding of sex that I barely knew what it was or how it worked, and sex never crossed my mind. Second crush: knew her since beginning of junior year in HS, started to develop a MAJOR crush on her two years later. She was the most beautiful woman on Earth in my mind, but I was repulsed at the idea of sex with her. Not that I wasn't attracted to her - she's a solid 9/10 and has done a lot of modeling work - but to even see her sh...

How can I make shower sex better?

Hey! So me and a girl met up earlier today. We had sex in the shower (shower in a hostel, so it was in a public place pretty much). This was only the second time I had shower sex. It felt pretty uncomfortable, like it was hard to adjust everything and the only position I could really do was doggy style, and some variation of it. It was fun and all but really uncomfortable. How can I minimize feeling so uncomfortable? Or is that just the nature of shower sex? Submitted August 19, 2019 at 11:51PM Hey! So me and a girl met up earlier today. We had sex in the shower (shower in a hostel, so it was in a public place pretty much). This was only the second time I had shower sex. It felt pretty uncomfortable, like it was hard to adjust everything and the only position I could really do was doggy style, and some variation of it.It was fun and all but really uncomfortable. How can I minimize feeling so uncomfortable? Or is that just the nature of shower sex?

I told him I'd never date him because he had a shitty personality

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/u/throwawaywizzy on Is it possible to be asexual and still feel sexual arousal?

Aegosexuality actually fits me perfectly. Damn. I guess I am asexual/aegosexual. Thank you my guy, gal, or nonbinary pal August 20, 2019 at 12:21AM

/u/fistfox on I feel unlovable

First of all: you are valid, healthy and lovable. You might be a sex repulsed asexual, like me. It's okay if sex isn't for you, there are plenty of people who either feel the same way or are willing to accept all of you - including the part that isn't okay with sex. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships, not everyone can ir wants to live without sex. That's okay, and it doesn't make you any less lovable. I do recommend asking him what he wants, and if sex is an absolute need, consider an open relationship. Some people can make it work. If that's not possible for you, and you do break up, just know there are plenty of people out there who you can meet and love and who will accept you and your terms. I also recommend going on asexuality.org, known as AVEN, and reading up on asexuality and different people's stories. It can help you see that you are normal, that you can live and love happily and you aren't alone. If you feel reluctant to...

/u/GoStarFall on Is it possible to be asexual and still feel sexual arousal?

It's absolutely possible, and you may be interested in reading about aegosexuality (which is a sub-type of asexuality). August 20, 2019 at 12:18AM

/u/LEMIEUXMERCIERS on The ace delegation for the Montreal Pride Parade 2019! So much love and respect there!!!

Ohh no I didn’t know about that pride parade! Would have went for sure.. even though it’s a 3 hours ride 😅 August 20, 2019 at 12:18AM

/u/PM_Me_Kindred_Booty on My first aphobic encounter, oh boy. I put up an AMA to spread some understanding about asexuality, and this guy showed up. They wrongly assumed my gender too lol

Sorry guys I gotta go out to the local SexMart and pick up a 6-pack for the weekend, I'll see y'all tomorrow. August 20, 2019 at 12:12AM

Insults always get the girl

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No more Mr. Niceguy

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/u/ineseseni on Question about arousal and attraction

Woah it's like looking in a mirror August 20, 2019 at 12:07AM

/u/wobbuffette on Ace Trainers Icon

I've always joked that I'd be an "ace trainer" in the Pokemon world with everyone else being none the wiser... I absolutely needed this! Great edit! August 20, 2019 at 12:06AM

/u/ChipDaleChippindale on I'm nervous to think it...

I appreciate that you understand. It's nice to know I'm not alone here. I guess I'm just so nervous to say it because it's kind of a huge deal. It feels so strange to not care about this thing that so many people are so hung up on, it feels like I'm missing out on something, you know? August 20, 2019 at 12:04AM

/u/ExtraSmallAnimatoins on 🎶Chicken Nuggets🎶

We have true power August 20, 2019 at 12:02AM

/u/Raistlin42 on (Relationships, part 3) Navigating sex

Haha, I hope it made sense! Every couple is different, but that's what's worked for us. August 20, 2019 at 12:01AM

/u/TheTitanic10 on 🎶Chicken Nuggets🎶

Nugget, biscuit, nugget and a biscuit Dip it into some mashed potatos Yum yum gimme August 20, 2019 at 12:01AM

/u/BacklnTheUSSR on *shrugs

not even a single one? August 19, 2019 at 11:56PM