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/u/rsdiego on I'm very disappointed with my mom

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind, and by the way, i explored myself, and I feel like I am ace, not because whatever others say, but because I don't really feel sexually attracted, as how i said before, thanks and I'll keep that in mind May 23, 2019 at 07:07AM

/u/nessii31 on I'm very disappointed with my mom

She is right - it could change in the future, this could just be a phase. However that doesn't negate the simple fact that at the moment 'asexual' is the label you feel fits best and she should at least try to accept that and just be open to new ideas surrounding sexuality. Also she is right that you shouldn't just follow what others say or do - however this is not about following others, this is about exploring yourself and with what you're experiencing at the moment, the internet's most likely answer is 'asexual'. That's nothing someone else convinced you of, it's the result of your research. ​ Maybe try telling her parts of this if you talk about the issue again. I hope she'll understand your point of view a bit better then. May 23, 2019 at 07:01AM

Post-breakup love letters my ex will never read

Letters I wrote in my notes a week after my 4 year relationship ended... 19/5 Hi X I’m sick today and I’m in bed. Remember when I was sick on the couch and you cooked beef stew? You still kissed me whenever I was sick. You have a good immune system. I miss you. I’m sad because you don’t want me anymore. I’m sorry I didn’t know how unhappy you were with me. I’m sorry I was selfish and I felt entitled that you should spoil me all the time. I should have been more generous to you. Who will clean your ears now? I cry to myself now. You can’t hold me while I cry anymore. I can’t be in your arms while I cry. Are you sad about me at all? Do you think of me? Are you mad at me right now? Are you missing me? Do you think at all that you want to be with me again? Are your messages to me a cold front? I really want you to be with me. I pray God will give you back to me. When does the pain stop? When do I stop crying about you? Why do you make me feel unwanted? What more could I have done for you...

Huh

If love is different for everyone and everyone expresses love in different ways how can I know if she loves me? She tells me she does but how do I know if she is just saying it? I know I truly love her and I want her around, but how do I know she feels the same.. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 02:59PM If love is different for everyone and everyone expresses love in different ways how can I know if she loves me? She tells me she does but how do I know if she is just saying it? I know I truly love her and I want her around, but how do I know she feels the same..

i really like this girl and just wanted to say something

So basically im pretty sure im younger than most of y’all i’m 15 but just wanted to say something. so basically i’ve been friends with this girl for a while and we’re pretty close and recently i’ve realised i actually really like her. i know she prob doesn’t like me so i haven’t told her. sometimes when i’m thinking i start thinking bout what i would say to her( i know i’m weird). and a few days ago i just thought of this everyone has ups and downs in life and everyone’s looking for the guy that can keep them happy forever. and there may be other guys out there that can do that for u. i’ve never been a positive person and i may not be able to keep u happy. but i can promise u one thing. no matter what happens thru all the down points in ur life i’ll be there. i don’t care how much pain i go through to stay with you no matter what. even if we stay friends i’ll still be there for u because i care about u as a person and a friend. i’ll always be there for you. tldr: rly like this girl a...

Getting over someone is such a weird concept...

Slowly as time passes, you’re allowing your brain to forget and to love anew. This person that was your world for so long, the centre of your universe is now separate to you. You live your lives separately for the first time in what feels like a lifetime and you try and forget. At first it’s impossible, it eats you up from the inside, consuming every aspect of your life. It rots away your very existence. Then a day passes where you haven’t thought about them. You realise that your brain is slowly forgetting what that person was like, what those kisses felt like, how they made you feel. The smell of their hair and their little quirks that would make you smile - but only a little. Then comes the denouement, the conclusion to it all, a small brief smile when someone approaches you in a bar or chats to you on the bus. You feel something again. You feel something else than the pain and the sadness. You feel a single fluttering butterfly in your stomach. It isn’t the kaleidoscope that you...

could u be in love with someone while liking someone else?

can u be in love with someone and like someone else at the same time? im so confused bc of this really messy, shitty situation im in. basically, im really hurt bc this guy told me that he liked me a lot and wanted to be with me after he and his ex broke up. i felt the same way and we talked about it. his ex and him didn’t really have a good relationship in all honesty but now he’s back together with her. he told me that he’s still in love with her and he wants to keep trying (mind u, all they do is argue from what he told me). and like he told me he’s in love with her but im buying it. how could u be in love with someone while liking someone else. his reasoning is that he “has so much invested in that relationship and wants to keep trying” but that doesn’t sound like love to me, it sounds like fear of taking a risk. being afraid to let go. it just sucks bc i really wanted to be with him but clearly he doesn’t want me. but like when we were together i could tell he really liked me idk...

I just wanna lay down and never wake up

Is a promise without change just manipulation? Submitted May 22, 2019 at 04:52PM Is a promise without change just manipulation?

You left me single but with a heart that’s still taken.

To this day, FUCK YOU. All I wanted to do was to make you happy, but I’m not happy. I ended our relationship because I just felt it, how unhappy you were with me. You are so fucking nice for not telling me and trying not to break my heart. But you actually hurt me more by pretending that you loved me. So still, Fuck You. I still love you. I’m done. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 05:01PM To this day, FUCK YOU. All I wanted to do was to make you happy, but I’m not happy. I ended our relationship because I just felt it, how unhappy you were with me. You are so fucking nice for not telling me and trying not to break my heart. But you actually hurt me more by pretending that you loved me. So still, Fuck You. I still love you. I’m done.

New Years

I’m currently writing a book based on all my experiences with love and heart break. I’ll post some rough drafts here for y’all. Sorry for format on mobile. Defining screams and drunken stutters of joy pierce my ears. Some people dance around, others fall down. Some are drinking and others are spilling them. But me? I’m sitting on this couch emotionless. Parties are fun but not tonight. Tonight marks the end of the year I dedicated to you. It ends the devotion that I couldn’t break. Tonight will be the last I think of you and the last I cry because of your absence. This last year was supposed to be entirely based on you... and in a way it was. Instead of the year being filled with memories of us it’s filled with memories of lonely nights, unanswered messages and the massive abyss that’s left in my chest. Tonight should’ve been a celebration of us but instead it’s a celebration of giving up. A celebration of not wasting anymore years on a dream as hopeless as this. Submitted May 22...

I love her so much and am scared.

I love you. And I want nothing more than to bring happiness and to relieve stress from your life. But I’m scared to be overwhelmed or to speak to you about the hard things because I don’t want you to leave. I’m scared because sometimes I feel it would be easier to just turn the wheel a little sharper than should be and accept that, but that’s not what I want. I want your love, I want to give you my love. Your heart is all I want, but I’m scared. I don’t know if it’s stress, or if it’s just me going crazy. A few days ago you woke me up with a kiss that was so sweet and deep and meaningful that I wanted to drop everything and just melt right there into you, your kisses are always heartfelt. But this morning you came in and it wasn’t the same, there wasn’t as much meant into it and I can feel that, I don’t know if it was that you weren’t feeling good, or that you don’t want to commit to loving me fully. I love you no matter what. If I can have one wish it is that you love me the same. An...

Hope

I’m a teen and I met this girl at camp. Oh how to explain this girl. She is amazing and yet she still has flaws. She is beautiful. She’s lovely. She’s talented. She is so similar to me. I felt like we clicked. We can talk for hours. But she’s 2 years older than me, and I don’t think she likes me back. But I can hope. ❤️ Submitted May 23, 2019 at 02:23AM I’m a teen and I met this girl at camp. Oh how to explain this girl. She is amazing and yet she still has flaws. She is beautiful. She’s lovely. She’s talented. She is so similar to me. I felt like we clicked. We can talk for hours. But she’s 2 years older than me, and I don’t think she likes me back. But I can hope. ❤️

Bomb.

Love is like a bomb. Fragile. Unforgivable. We want it so bad that once we actually find it, it explodes. Love is an experience. An experience we all desire. We hate that we want it, and yet we can’t wait till we finally have it. Submitted May 23, 2019 at 03:25AM Love is like a bomb. Fragile. Unforgivable. We want it so bad that once we actually find it, it explodes. Love is an experience. An experience we all desire. We hate that we want it, and yet we can’t wait till we finally have it.

The real thing.

So my girlfriend (25f) and I (25m) have been dating for nearly 10 months and our relationship has gotten better and better as the months go by. Not to say we haven’t had our ups and downs like any relationship, but at the end of the day there’s truly no one better to come home to. Recently within the past couple of months we’ve really stepped our communication level, basically meaning we can have a minor disagreement and quickly come to a solution as a team. I love and appreciate this girl so much because she cares about “us” as a whole. My love for her is stronger as each day passes and I’m so grateful to finally have found someone I can fully rely on emotionally, as she does with me. There isn’t an hour that goes by every single day that I don’t think about her beautiful smile and the light she’s brought into my life. I thought I knew what love was in the past, but shes shown me I knew nothing about what true love is all about until now❤️ Submitted May 23, 2019 at 03:37AM So m...

Loveless

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Could you be loved

And be loved? Submitted May 23, 2019 at 04:11AM And be loved?

Poem II-HEART THIEF

And maybe after 5? 10 years? Our paths will cross, and you'll tell me about your wife and children, and about how they were able to bring light into your life. Light that nobody has given you before, light that cannot be replaced. And I'll just stand there, nodding my head and forcing a smile with my mouth wound shut, afraid that if I open my mouth I'd cry and say " It should be me giving you all the light you need." I learned that It's best to say what's on your mind, because it's the only way to get what you want. But why is it that things can only go downhill once I open my mouth, and pour out all my thoughts like a faucet without a tub to hold them in. Why is it that the one who stole my heart was able to find love, while I remain here waiting for my HEART THIEF to come back and return my heart? But that's asking for the impossible, right? Submitted May 23, 2019 at 04:17AM And maybe after 5? 10 years? Our paths will cross, and you'll...

What they tell you about love

I used to think that you only had to decide to love yourself once, or atleast only every once in a while. But then i realized it was a decision you had to make everyday. And on some days, every minute. And now I know why they tell you, that you must learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else. Submitted May 23, 2019 at 04:30AM I used to think that you only had to decide to love yourself once, or atleast only every once in a while. But then i realized it was a decision you had to make everyday. And on some days, every minute. And now I know why they tell you, that you must learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else.

any songs about friendzone and being a rebound?

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Words that were written when missing you became too much. Each paragraph is its own entry.

I met you when I was 17 You blew me away with all the knowledge you held within your beautiful head We moved in sync since the night we met. You always knew exactly what to say, How to make my toes curl whenever you kissed my neck How to make me laugh with you Kermit the frog song/impression I fell in love with you when we started having our forbidden sleep overs Everything was foreign Now, three years later, everything came falling down. My world ripped to pieces. As much as I want to hate you, I understood your feelings when I finally came to terms to us being broken up. I know I could never hate you. Well, at least not in this moment. I have unconditional love I will always unconditionally love you. Sometimes it’s a blessing Most of the time it’s a curse. My first true night out of your bed and arms and I am not okay Will I ever find someone to love my curly hair the way I never will Will I have someone to tell me I have almond eyes and look at me like almonds are their favorite...

favorite person

do u ever had a favorite person? the one you want to talk to everyday, you wanna see everyday, the only one who's making you happy when everything else is falling apart? the one who makes your day, and when you're having a bad day, he comes to save it? and when he's not around, your day is incomplete, like, he's already part of your daily routine? like, he's the reason why you're living this day, like this day was made for you to get the chance to be with him? and he's like, the one you love the most more than you love your family, your friends, even yourself? and his happiness will also be your happiness, even when this will cause to break you? well, my favorite person, i never wanna lose him. but time can't be kept at bay, u know? even tho he's gone, he'll always have a special space here in my heart. because he once made me happy. <3 Submitted May 23, 2019 at 04:47AM do u ever had a favorite person? the one you want to talk to ever...

I just need someone to love me

My last girlfriend was emotionally abusive and honestly did nothing but hurt me. But the good times were so good. I loved her so much. I loved her more than I’ve ever loved anything. I hadn’t seen her since december and then I saw her today. Now she’s dating a guy that lives right next to me. Seeing her holding his hand shattered me. It ruined everything I’ve rebuilt since she left me. I just feel like it’s not fair that she’s the one that hurt me, broke me, yet I’m the one that has to pick up the pieces while she gets to move on and be happy. I feel so many things. Anger and sadness mostly, it’s so deep and so strong. I don’t know what to do. I still have love for her but I wish I didn’t. I wish I hated her, it would be so much easier if I did. I just really don’t know what to do anymore Submitted May 23, 2019 at 05:42AM My last girlfriend was emotionally abusive and honestly did nothing but hurt me. But the good times were so good. I loved her so much. I loved her more than I’...

I'm going all in

So, I respect the redditors that disagree with me on my post here. I enjoy receiving the advice I am given here, and mostly, I want to follow it. I feel like the general consensus is, that when you date, you should have a couple people on the go, and enjoy the encounters and have sex if it's on the table. That the one you end up with, is doing just that. They're out on dates, testing the intimate waters and having sexual contact with the all people they are seeing. But I decided today, to be true to me. I've never been a player, nor have I had a single ONS in my life. It all sounds great though, and in my new single life I am very interested in trying that all out! But. I really like the connection I've made with this woman online. I like the phone conversation we've had. Soon, we're planning to go out one evening together if we can line it up. We both have kids. Hopefully Saturday. I know it's naive. I know it's illogical. But I've always be...

What do you think of Fein/Schneider's book "The Rules"?

I only recently heard about this book, and TBH, I find it appalling. I haven't had a chance to read it yet, but it sounds like an anti-feminist, sexist, archaic bunch of bull. I don't want to be involved with someone who is the equivalent of a starfish in any aspect of their life (see my flair). I'm ecstatic when a woman asks me out or comes on to me, and as a staunch egalitarian believe that I shouldn't be "buying" love by paying for both our meals on every date. I'm also sex positive, so this whole "no sex until date X" thing seems like someone who is uptight and wouldn't be a good match for me. Thoughts? Submitted May 22, 2019 at 05:15PM I only recently heard about this book, and TBH, I find it appalling. I haven't had a chance to read it yet, but it sounds like an anti-feminist, sexist, archaic bunch of bull.I don't want to be involved with someone who is the equivalent of a starfish in any aspect of their life (see my ...

Three dudes.

I am in a place where I never thought I’d find myself. Ever. It feels a little like being in the Twilight Zone. I feel like I should probably be freaking out a bit, but yet I am not. I will try to be brief, but this goes back a few months. Dude #1 We dated a few months ago. The chemistry was 100% for both of us, our personalities clicked and we were crazy about each other. But for his insanely busy life, we were very compatible and we'd probably still be together. However, his schedule really didn’t allow him to have a true dating relationship. We both wanted one with each other but we (he) couldn’t make it work and it ended. There were no bad feelings but we were both very sad that it couldn’t work out. We have chatted on and off as friends and I actually ended up going out with his best friend about a week ago. Dude #2 We met after things ended with D1. In my close circle of friends, this dude is known as “the guy.” This is the guy I always wished and hoped I would find. We ...

Getting back out there after an emotionally abusive rlp

I need success stories and a reality check... Not too long ago i was facing the possible dissolution of my rlp with my 3yo son's father. I know I'm in an abusive situation. (i isolated myself a lot, i talk with my family less, it's not all him but i took after him who's a loner and that's on me) And when I think of geting back out there, it's so fucking scary, i feel totally out of touch with how I used to be and how I want to be. How did you transition to a you you're happy with now? and is the grass greener? Thank God for this comunity, I love reading your success stories !! Submitted May 22, 2019 at 06:11PM I need success stories and a reality check...Not too long ago i was facing the possible dissolution of my rlp with my 3yo son's father. I know I'm in an abusive situation. (i isolated myself a lot, i talk with my family less, it's not all him but i took after him who's a loner and that's on me) And when I think of geting b...

Speed dating - the quick way to dating frustration!

So on Saturday I went speed dating overall the night was fun..... (well apart from the two girls who were so drunk you can't have any form of a conversation with them) So I hung around for drinks after the event along with a few others. The girl I'd liked the most and felt I'd clicked with stuck around and she was a little touchy feely with me, and more than once made comments about how I'd be getting something exciting in my e-mails on Monday (which I assumed to mean her number). Come Monday afternoon and it turns out she didn't tick me.... Thankfully my second favourite girl did match with me. However when I got in touch she said she was off the market now, because in the day and a half since she'd gotten together with the host of the event! Should I be feeling a little annoyed that after paying to attend speed dating that the host is basically taking my money and using it as a way for him to pick up the girls that me and the other men are there to meet? ...

Anyone else not found love yet?

It seems most people my age (36) have found love - sure that love may not have lasted but they found something close enough that they may have gotten married or at least had a long-term relationship, and most who wanted kids have had kids - now they're looking for their second try. IDK I feel other people's difficulties with dating in their thirties are different to mine, like at least you've had your chance - I don't mean to minimise others difficulties but at least you found something close to happy once and/or had kids. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 07:33PM It seems most people my age (36) have found love - sure that love may not have lasted but they found something close enough that they may have gotten married or at least had a long-term relationship, and most who wanted kids have had kids - now they're looking for their second try.IDK I feel other people's difficulties with dating in their thirties are different to mine, like at least you've had yo...

Why do I feel disappointed?

I have been seeing someone for about six months. We connect well and always have interesting things to talk about, are affectionate with each other, and whenever there is a problem we are able to discuss it openly. However, I recently found out that he doesn't really experience New Relationship Energy (NRE) with me. I asked if he did, and he said "To an extent," and went on to explain that he values what we have even more. Of course, I'd rather have a real connection with him than something (like infatuation) that might feel good in the moment, but is fleeting. But I'm feeling disappointed for some reason, and I'm trying to understand what it's about. Maybe it's an ego thing? Perhaps I want him to experience New Relationship Energy with me as a form of validation (I don't like admitting to this, but if this is what it is, how do I work through it?). Or is there an unmet need? ​ He did explain that he has negative associations with New Relationsh...

The guy [33M] I'm [23F] dating is pushing for something I'm not ready for...

Need to start this off by saying I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this since I'm 23 but I've been lurking for a couple weeks and feel like you guys offer great advice. Sub rules say "about" dating over the age of 30, so sorry in advance if I'm in the wrong place. Also, this is a throwaway and sorry for the length. The guy I am dating is 33 and very smart, kind, gentle, handsome, and knows what he wants. I'm assuming that comes with the territory of being in your 30's and being a bit more mature. The 10 year age difference isn't an issue when it comes to our interests, goals, or hobbies but I do concede he is more emotionally intelligent and better at communicating than I am - sometimes I lack the actual vocabulary to tell him how I feel. ​ We met on tinder 8 months ago and agreed we were both hoping to work towards a relationship. Emphasis on work towards. Right away (this was in September) I noticed some not-so-attractive qualities o...

Dating in a multi-generational family

Hi r/dating , here's my situation. I'm 33M and have been divorced for about three years now and want to start dating again, however I live in a multi-generational household. Which is to say, myself and my daughter from my previous marriage live with my retired mother. There is the all-too-common stigma of "living in your parents' basement" that is perceived as inherently negative. However this seems to be an almost exclusively American prejudice. Many other countries and collectivist cultures treat multi-generational families as the norm. There are tons of financial advantages for everyone (any millennial with student loan debt can testify to this), and my daughter's relationship with her grandma is amazing; it definitely helps me to get parenting advice from a live-in expert. I don't need to convince a prospective date that it works for us, or that its necessarily forever (especially if things got serious and we considered living together), but it is som...

Paranoia or something else?!?

Hi all. New to sub and looking for advice. I (36F) recently met a guy (36M) about 3 weeks ago. We’re both divorced. When asked initially what the other were looking for we both agreed that we’re not into serial dating and that we’d like to find someone we enjoy, get to know and see where things lead. Although, I am interested in a relationship more than casually dating. We’ve been on 5 dates since then and have had sex twice, which is usually not my style. We always have a great time, great conversation and are very relatable to one another. It’s early, but I’m very interested in this man! On our last date, me-being all in my feelings, brought up the “are you seeing anyone else” topic. I mentioned that I’m not and that I’m interested in him and seeing where it goes. He agreed and answered the same. We’re both busy people, and I get that. But since before our last date, I’ve noticed a small shift in communication. Not texting as much, taking longer to respond. Still talking everyda...

How to break up

Hello everyone - I'm planning on breaking up with a lady I've been seeing for about 10 months now. I'm feeling ultra-guilty over it because I think she will be devastated by it. It's nothing against her, she's a wonderful person, I just don't see it going for a long term. Par of my problem is that when I'm with her, I'm very enthusiastic and loving - I haven't sent any negative signal, so it will be out of the blue for her. ​ I'm wrecked with guilt. Any advice on how to proceed? Submitted May 22, 2019 at 10:00PM Hello everyone - I'm planning on breaking up with a lady I've been seeing for about 10 months now. I'm feeling ultra-guilty over it because I think she will be devastated by it. It's nothing against her, she's a wonderful person, I just don't see it going for a long term. Par of my problem is that when I'm with her, I'm very enthusiastic and loving - I haven't sent any negative signal, so it wi...

I'm disabled. Am I allowed to have standards?

Recently disabled, divorced because of it. I don't know if I'll recover in a year or never. I understand I can't do anything but be a homebody. Am I expected to just die alone? Edit: Practicalities: I have a kind of rare spinal injury. I'm not paralyzed, I look fine. I should recover at some point, in fact it should have already happened, but in rare cases like mine you just don't have a time frame, it could be a year, ten years, or never. The practical effect is that I can't be upright for long so I have to lay in a reclining wheelchair, couch, or bed. I should hopefully recover, but there's really no timetable and it's been a few years already and I really want my life to be more than it is, but I kind of think no one will be willing to deal with this. Submitted May 22, 2019 at 11:21PM Recently disabled, divorced because of it. I don't know if I'll recover in a year or never. I understand I can't do anything but be a homebody. Am I...

Ughhh Put me out to pasture

New here. Backstory: Married for a decade. Marriage ended because he had no interest in physical or emotional intimacy. So now I’m single. I’m healthy, conventionally attractive, successful, educated...and picky. I don’t want to babysit anyone, or pay their bills, or sit at home while they’re out drinking every night, or be punched in the face. Friend introduced me to her friend. And on paper I was like, wow, great! Attractive, kid in the same general age range, successful. Until I meet him. Hoooooly crap. He IMMEDIATELY starts talking about how much money he has in weird braggy ways (like loudly talking about what brand his shirt is, asking if he should buy a rental property in cash, insisting on showing me his 6-bedroom McMansion on Zillow, talking excessively about his investment choices in the cannabis industry). Pretends to look for pics of his kids to show me while “accidentally” showing me 749192 selfies of him at the gym... including a photo of his back, mid-butterfly curl...

Got my first ghost y'all

Had a really fun first date with this girl last Friday. Stayed out till the wee hours of the morning and we ended up sleeping together that night. Sexted pretty heavily all Saturday so I figured everything was fine. Asked how her Sunday was going and have got nothing since then. Maybe I misinterpreted the txting on Saturday as her wanting some additional company? Maybe this was her MO all along? I guess we'll never know but I'm glad I got this under my belt early as i'm only a couple weeks into the world of OLD. Happy ghosting everyone Submitted May 23, 2019 at 12:00AM Had a really fun first date with this girl last Friday. Stayed out till the wee hours of the morning and we ended up sleeping together that night. Sexted pretty heavily all Saturday so I figured everything was fine. Asked how her Sunday was going and have got nothing since then. Maybe I misinterpreted the txting on Saturday as her wanting some additional company? Maybe this was her MO all along? I gue...

Blocking someone on OLD?

Does anyone know if you can block someone on Tinder? I matched a guy, chatted, then he disappeared from my chat and matches. Figured he unmatched me. But I don’t think blocking is an option on Tinder so wouldn’t I eventually see him again while swiping? Ask because I haven’t seen him again and am now thinking maybe he deleted his account Submitted May 23, 2019 at 12:27AM Does anyone know if you can block someone on Tinder? I matched a guy, chatted, then he disappeared from my chat and matches. Figured he unmatched me. But I don’t think blocking is an option on Tinder so wouldn’t I eventually see him again while swiping? Ask because I haven’t seen him again and am now thinking maybe he deleted his account

Dating first real guy in 3 years and already a month in he’s moving away... I need help

Long story sorry... Ok. So I started dating this guy about one and a half months ago and we hit it off and it’s been pretty good. We’ve only been on like 4-5 dates. I’m 31 and he’s 37, share common interests and overall we get along pretty well. We are both teachers and he got an opportunity to move to another city that’s 5 hours away. It’s closer to his family, so I get why he wants to move. When he first brought it up he wasn’t sure if he was going or not, and I said well let’s just keep goin as is until he knows. Well over a week ago he said he was definitely moving and even started looking at houses. So I figured there goes another possible relationship. Problem is he didn’t act like it changed anything. So yesterday when we went on a date I expressed that I didn’t want to move things to having sex or anything if he’s just going to be moving away. Well he acted like we were already steady and doesn’t see the big deal. I said I like hanging out with him but I don’t wanna be sexu...

I felt so sad tonight

I was hanging out with my friend tonight and her boyfriend got off work and came home. This instantly made me super sad. Im not jealous but I spend most nights alone and wish I could find someone who wants to do something as simple as cook a meal together. I’m a few months post break up. It was mutual. There was no physical intimacy and our emotional connection was weak. All the things I got told were lies which were found out later. My friend asked me tonight if I was ready to date. To be honest, I have been back on the dating websites but right now I’m turned off by them. I don’t want to be lied to again. My friend moved to Ohio from France with her boyfriend. They just found out they might be moving to China for two years. I wasn’t expecting them to stay in my area forever but I’m kind of sad. I yearn for what they have in each other and what they see in each other. If my partner wanted to pick up and move somewhere I would be game. Submitted May 23, 2019 at 02:32AM I was h...

Alright. Lay it on me. Anyone have any luck or experience with speed dating?

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Would you date a coworker?

Went out on a date with a coworker who is on his mid30s and we made out and it seemed okay but the thing is someone said that his friend likes me too and then we planned for a second date but he did not follow through for the second date and I have seen him at work and never mentioned it, what would you do if you were on my place? Submitted May 23, 2019 at 04:17AM Went out on a date with a coworker who is on his mid30s and we made out and it seemed okay but the thing is someone said that his friend likes me too and then we planned for a second date but he did not follow through for the second date and I have seen him at work and never mentioned it, what would you do if you were on my place?

Is he over his ex?

His last relationship ended about a year ago. Every time we’ve met (about 6 times now), he’s mentioned his most recent ex in some form, unprompted by me. Earlier on, it wasn’t anything negative.. he would mention her as a way of relating back to something he was talking about. The last two times, he has talked for a while about the things she said to him and the things he had to endure with her. There’s nothing wrong with talking about past relationships over time, but I sense that he still holds some anger towards her, based on how he talks about her. He says he hardly thinks about her anymore.. but then why does he mention her pretty much every time we’re together? Do you think he’s not over her still? Submitted May 23, 2019 at 05:27AM His last relationship ended about a year ago. Every time we’ve met (about 6 times now), he’s mentioned his most recent ex in some form, unprompted by me. Earlier on, it wasn’t anything negative.. he would mention her as a way of relating back to...

How to make him feel secure in our marriage

We are in our 2nd marriage both 50yrs old. We have been together for 2 years but doesn't feel secure with me as if I am going to leave him. How do I make him feel or give him stability? Submitted May 22, 2019 at 03:41PM We are in our 2nd marriage both 50yrs old. We have been together for 2 years but doesn't feel secure with me as if I am going to leave him. How do I make him feel or give him stability?

Hormone therapy causing issues in marriage?

I've never posted before so hopefully this is in the right area. ​ I need some advice as I'm going through some really difficult times. I dont really know where to begin. My husband and I have been together since high school. We were married in our 20s and have always had a great relationship , minimal arguing - lots of love for each other. We had difficulty getting pregnant with our first child but after 2 years of trying we finally had a baby girl, after that I always wanted more children but knew it might not happen. We both decided not to try for more babies , but "whatever happens, happens" 9 years later my husband quit his long time well paying job , and the next month we found out I was pregnant - with twins. So this has been a lot of surprise and stress in our life , financially its a curve ball for sure but nothing we cant handle. After the babies were born (april 2018) - my husband was having a lot of issues , depressed, moody but I also had postpartum d...