For me it is entirely about wanting the action of sex my sexual partner is just a toy essentially (wow that sound really bad) so if they do something something that I like then I may want them to do it again but in the same way that I would prefer one sex toy to another. I am aromantic as well so I don't feel any desire bond with sexual partners no matter how many times I have sex with them. December 10, 2020 at 12:05AM

I would definitely introduce her to the idea. Luckily I learned about asexuality really young, which I think made my experience so much easier. (Super open about it and I’ve never felt ashamed or anything, it made it seem a lot more normal than what most peoples experiences sound like.) The fact that you care so much is super important and you seem like a really awesome partner, so good job! :) December 10, 2020 at 12:05AM

Not all needs are about life and death. While I don't have sexual or romantic relationships, I would collapse without my family relationships. So I just try to imagine someone telling me it's ridiculous to need your family, and understand their sexual and romantic needs. December 10, 2020 at 12:04AM

Say it lowder for the bi-genders in the back! December 10, 2020 at 12:01AM

I looked at the model on Wikipedia and sex isn’t on there. Just partner acquisition. December 09, 2020 at 11:59PM

I would probably do the same until it becomes a "who can scream the loudest" December 09, 2020 at 11:59PM

Who’s gonna die without sex? December 09, 2020 at 11:59PM

Allo here, I like sex, I don’t need it. You aren’t gonna die without sex December 09, 2020 at 11:58PM

Hey! If you don’t mind me asking, what is an “ace ring?” I’ve seen a ton on here and I think they’re cool but is there anything really specific? They seem to have a ton of variety and mostly seem to be basic rings that we’ve attached meaning to (which doesn’t make them any less special, we need pride, I’m just curious), is that what they are? December 09, 2020 at 11:58PM

I would fall in love December 09, 2020 at 11:56PM

Thank you- I haven't seen anyone recognize us yet, this was nice to see in my notifications....🖖 December 09, 2020 at 11:56PM

I've had sex with exactly two. A man and a woman. Yall know how that went December 09, 2020 at 11:56PM

(Biromantic ace here) As an asexual, you are NOT heterosexual. You are completely valid, and whatever your romantic attraction is, you belong here in the LGBTQ+ community 100%! Attraction is not a choice, so if you can, don’t worry about it! Always remember that you are loved and valid. December 09, 2020 at 11:56PM

Note: this so could apply to allo relationships in a way, but I feel like my analogy best fits aesthetic attraction because it shows how it isn't particularly important for anything other than visuals. December 09, 2020 at 11:53PM

Don't forget - just because something isn't a need for you doesn't mean it isn't a need for someone else :) December 09, 2020 at 11:53PM

I LITERALLY LOVE YOU FOR THIS UR ACTUALLY SO FUNNY December 09, 2020 at 11:50PM

Honestly thats the kind of thing I want with someone. Not a romantic relationship, just a partner. But I'm still a bit young so I'll probably figure it out. December 09, 2020 at 11:48PM

Will definitely give this a listen. December 09, 2020 at 11:44PM

💙❤️🤍❤️💙 December 09, 2020 at 11:36PM

Thanks for your reply! That all makes perfect sense. If you don't mind me asking, do you ever feel the desire to have sex with someone you've had it with previously, without them doing something sexual in the first place to make you feel turned on? Even if it's not about "them" but just the way they make you feel? December 09, 2020 at 11:35PM

It seems to have affected my romantic orientation (strongly aro → demiro/grayro) but it didn't change my asexuality whatsoever. Most people I've seen who mention sexuality changes seem to have been bi/pan beforehand, not ace. December 09, 2020 at 11:34PM

Hi, I’m a sex positive ace, who used to identify with gray ace and then realized my libido was definitely there but not directed toward anyone. I don’t feel I need sex, but sometimes there are moments in which I feel like I want to. More similar to a temporary crave that goes away in some minutes than a urge directed towards someone. I have a so (we’ve been together for 8 years) and they’re a very allo very pansexual person. I can say I love them, but I do not have any sexual attraction towards them. I do enjoy the mere act of having sex, but I can go without anytime. I think it’s all a matter of balance. And I do think sexual craves, sexual curiosity and attraction are very diverse. But everyone feel different things, and this is only my own perspective. December 09, 2020 at 11:33PM

I don't feel any sexual attraction at all but I think sex with guys is fun and feels good. Sex is just a physical activity for me. I have kinks and fetishes and I get turned on by physical sensations but it's the actions of the person and not the person themselves. I hope that makes sense. December 09, 2020 at 11:28PM