I could really use a different perspective.. Me [M26] and my so [F25] are having a tough time with our long distance relationship of about 2,5 years.. The problem is we love eachother a lot, but it is significantly hard to be very involved in eachothers lifes.. Those who have had or have a long-distance relationship I want to ask you how do you involve or share your life the best with your so?? We don't want it to be a chore tho.. Besides that we discussed our future plans during a recent visit. We'be discuss this more often but usually we had always said that we didn't mind where we would live and work if we just were together. The most recent visit made us realize that we had way different vision on our future. It surprised me a lot that my plans involves finishing college early 2020 and then getting a job where we finally could be moving closer together. Her plans are more focused on moving even further across Europe to finish her master's thesis in 2021. After tha

TLDR: Ex-wife and I are good friends and my girlfriend is fine with it. But now my ex-wife contacts me over the smallest things, too often and otherwise don't seem to accept I am not available all the time. To the point that she makes a messenger conversation with me and my girlfriend asking about how me and her divided our things in our divorce years ago, despite being fully capable of finding that out on her own by looking over her own stuff. All of it is starting to bug my girlfriend and I'm not really sure how to navigate it as I do consider her a good friend, but I am not about to let her be a thorn in my relationship with my girlfriend. Full thing : I divorced my wife a few years ago, we were just not good for each other anymore. Nothing hostile, the relationship was just dead. After the divorce my ex-wife thanked me for being brave in ending it since she hadn't realized how far apart we had drifted and once on her on for a while she realized I was right. So once

I (M20) previously posted here but have since deleted it as I thought it would be resolved. The problem in short was she admitted to openly flirting with guys at work and I was going to break up with her but gave her another chance after she pleaded and promised she would change. For some more context we’ve been together for over a year and a half. Now I know that was completely stupid of me to do. I should have broke up with her and be trying to get over her by now. But instead everything is extremely awkward. We are both in different cities now for the summer (we met at uni) so we are long distance at the moment. She recently started a new job (the one she admitted to being flirty at), where she will often work most of the day. This means we hardly see each other and hardly have calls throughout the day. This is why everything is so awkward and off, we had a massive bust up then promised to work through it but we can’t because we can’t see each other in person for a week, and we on

So basically my girlfriend (that have been together for almost 2 years) and I have been not Ok for the past 2 or so weeks. I was kinda trying to get things better, but she was mad at me and when I asked about it, she never told what it was about. It came to a point that I couldn’t take anymore and sent a text message that i wanted to break up plain and simple. She received and well said, “yes if that’s what you want” (i didn't give her any choice i guess). 30 min after i sent i just messaged her again saying that i didnt mean it and that i was sorry that i even considered to break up with her this way. She was very hurt. She’s a kind of person that was hurt by other people in the past and she said that after this she didn't want to continue our relationship. I tried and tried to convince that that message was an impulsive mistake that didnt mean anything that i said. But she’s very stubborn and is very hurt by this (as am I) and didnt want to take me back. This was all by te

I (28F) have been dating B (29M) for three months now. I feel like our relationship is much more "mature" than I've ever experienced before because I usually date younger people who are in different life stages as me and it's been a trainwreck. B is everything I've ever wanted in a partner and I've never felt so equal to someone I was dating. I also feel like we've created a much better foundation than I've had with anyone in the past. When I think of "relationship goals", I think of what we have. Unfortunately, I've never really had good role models of healthy relationships in my life so I'm not entirely sure what I'm doing. I also struggle with self-esteem issues so there are some days that I feel I don't deserve the happiness I have right now. I really hope I don't screw this up because I've never experienced something so seemingly perfect before. I'm fearful that my insecurities will push B away or make him c

So basically i’m a M18 virgin and I don’t want to have sex with her even when i’m horny I still don’t want to and I simply reject any sexual performance with her, we have been dating for 15 months and I love her a lot we share a lot in common and I always treat her like she’s my everything, she is starting to question why we aren’t having sex, can anyone help me with any suggestions so I can have her to stop wanting sex and just enjoy our relationship TLDR: I don’t want to have sex with her how do I stop her from questioning/wanting to I love her a lot and want her to be happy. EDIT: I told her maybe a few weeks ago if she had feeling for someone else and if she wanted to leave she could, but she told me she wanted to stay with me and saw something in us. Submitted July 28, 2019 at 11:20PM So basically i’m a M18 virgin and I don’t want to have sex with her even when i’m horny I still don’t want to and I simply reject any sexual performance with her, we have been dating for 15

I am going into my 2nd year of university to get my engineering degree in one of the most competitive/demanding undergrad programs in North America (top5 arguable - top10 without question). The other eng. degrees at my university are factually easier hence why we get a more friendly curve and the admission averages are very different too - I'm not making this up to make myself seem better. It's a 9am-6pm of lectures, tutorials, ect with an hour break for food (the times can vary a little). The remainder of my time is spent studying, scrapping whatever time I can find for needs such as eating and cleaning. I feel stuck in this cycle with nothing to look forward to over the summer or school year since I'm constantly working in one way or another with 6hours of sleep on average. I should add, there are some percent of students in my program who do tons of extra-curricular but they were wise enough to study much harder than me and get ahead than people like me, who got by on

Hey Reddit... so long story. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, and I love her to death. So, basically she had this “online” relationship with this guy she had known for years like days before we started dating. She had sent him explicit photos, etc. She tried to hide it from me when we first started dating, and I noticed she was liking his photos on Instagram. That’s how I found out. Not too much of a big Deal right? She removed him, it’s all good. We got into an argument yesterday over something that really isn’t relevant. I accidentally let something slip and told her she betrayed my trust just like she did at the beginning of our relationship with that guy. Well she got clearly upset and brought up the fact that I had my ex on all social media’s and had a Snapchat streak with her. Keep in mind, I never talked to my ex; even small talk. I only sent Snapchat streaks and had her on social media. This only happened for around the first month of our relationship, th

So I'm 30 now, and I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. He is excited for our future together, but I'm still struggling to get over my past. I spent the majority of my 20's as a single woman. I guess I was desirable enough, but I was kind of shy, inexperienced and kept to myself. The only person that made me happy was my best friend who was so bubbly and cool, and I developed strong same-sex feelings for her (she was a lesbian). I was intensely in love and kept it hidden for years and never said anything, torturing myself, until eventually she got a new girlfriend. This basically destroyed every fantasy of us ending up together and it was painful to be around. She then noticed I was being distant with her, so I ended up confessing my feelings in an emotional speech and while she was sympathetic, she didn't want anything more. I felt absolutely crushed, but I had no choice but to pick myself up and move on with my life. After years of following her arou

Basically im (18F) in a 7 months long LDR with my gf (18F) who had her birthday 2 months ago. i havent been able to send her gift package as i dont have the money to send it until school starts (and i dont get money during the summer). For the package, its basically a reminder that shes loved and has friends even if her irls suck. As a result, she has a low self esteem and hates herself. The gift is basically something personal from me and an envelope filled with messages from her online friends, handwritten by me. I already bought the stuff for the gift but the shipping, i might not be able to afford until a month from now. Anyway, as i said a while ago, her irl situation sucks. She genuinely believes shes unlovable and that I'm the only one that can love her and that i help "fix her". (Kinda manipulative, i know). By result i slowly found our how much of a mean and Petty person she can be by nature. im tired of her bullshit + shes not my responsibility but also i wann

Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year, and everything has been going very well up until this point. We clicked from the start, and I've never felt so loved and connected to anyone before, but right now I feel betrayed. So I'll get to the point. I was on my boyfriend's computer checking my email, when a message chat popped up. It was one of his close female friends, who I know well. I occasionally chat to her through his messenger app, which he is happy for me to do. After a brief back and forth, I got curious about what pictures they had sent each other (yeah I know, I really shouldn't have done it and I regret it) and saw that my boyfriend had sent her a load of nudes I had sent him early on into us seeing each other. He sent them months ago, and hasn't sent any more recent ones (not that this makes a huge difference I don't think) I looked back through the chat, and they basically just were complimentary about the nudes, but he acknowledge

Two years I broke up with my then Gf - the whole process was deeply traumatic for me and it took a good year to get over. I am in a much better place mentally now and generally happy with how my life is which is great. The issue I have is I am struggling to emotionally connect with prospective partners - I do date a fair bit and realise that I most likely have strong barriers in place to ensure that I don’t get hurt again. I used to be quite open and would develop feelings quite quickly for the right person, I am just slightly concerned that I haven’t come close to this since Haha Just wanted to see if anyone else has experienced similar and what they have done in this situation? TL:DR - unable to develop feelings for partners after bad breakup Submitted July 28, 2019 at 11:51PM Two years I broke up with my then Gf - the whole process was deeply traumatic for me and it took a good year to get over. I am in a much better place mentally now and generally happy with how my life i

Ive been friends with this girl for over 10 years and we've been drifting apart ever since we left high school but I still considered her my best friend to both me and my now wife. For years we would get in arguments over a political standings and we differ on things such as gender and feminism. Even though we didn't always agree I always respected her opinion. And more importantly I respected her cause she meant so much to me. She got really mad at me because of a stupid fight and just like that she decided to end 10 years of friendship saying things like "it's been fun". She blocked me on every form of media and blocked my phone. She was the best man at my wedding not 6 months ago. I know we always disagreed and I know that things between us weren't always the bass but I still loved her. Surety for me to set back and hate her cause of it but when I really think about it I'm just depressed. I never want to lose her. I was there for her when her dog di

Throwaway for obvious reasons. My boyfriend (20m) and I have been together for about a year and a half. My best friend (20m) and I have known each other for almost 3 years. Best friend and I had a brief non-serious relationship but both went our separate ways. I began my relationship with my current boyfriend a while after. Boyfriend and I had been together for about 6 months when he started saying things that in my opinion were off the wall. He made racist and homophobic remarks among other very disturbing things. I was taken aback, but didn't know how to confront those situations. As time has gone on, the remarks have gotten worse and our situation has followed. He doesn't like sex, he doesn't like anything honestly, he doesn't agree with my beliefs (such as treat others how you would want to be treated), and he's generally a brat. I've lost attraction to him and I honestly think I'm falling out of love with him. We're always arguing and he constantly

Recently my co-worker and I have been getting rather close. Up until a week ago, i thought of her only as a friend. We have been working together for about 2.5 years now. We usually tend to have some pretty deep and interesting conversations and she doesn't really think before she speaks. She would tell a complete stranger some very personal info which she has done in the past. She has been dating this guy for a long time, about 5 years or so. I think he's 23 as well. She tells me all about her relationship with him. If he's been quiet, if he's good in bed. There are no boundaries with what she tells me and not just me either. She just says whatever comes to mind I think. (This will be important later) She often tells me that she's having problems with how her boyfriend acts around her and that their sex life is deescalating. It seems like they have sex once every 3 weeks. She tells me she needs more but he's always so tired and doesn't want to make a big

My boyfriend (28M) and I (28F) have been together for over a year and half. We recently ended a “rough patch” and had a conversation about our relationship. We talked about what we wanted out of our relationship and the future of our relationship. He said that he wanted to see where our relationship goes. I’m not sure what that means. Is he looking forward to our future together? OR because we had this rough patch, does he has doubt about our relationship? tl;dr Not sure if there’s hidden meaning to “I want to see where this relationship goes.” Submitted July 29, 2019 at 12:01AM My boyfriend (28M) and I (28F) have been together for over a year and half. We recently ended a “rough patch” and had a conversation about our relationship. We talked about what we wanted out of our relationship and the future of our relationship. He said that he wanted to see where our relationship goes.I’m not sure what that means. Is he looking forward to our future together? OR because we had this

I started dating this guy last month - we dated for a few months about a decade ago, he ended it by slowly paying less attention to me until I had to confront him, we reconnected last year after he fully apologised for how he treat me and I know he's changed (but the past is relevant now). The problem is that he doesn't maintain much contact, we're seeing each other around once a week but he barely talks via PM between then. Last week he went all weekend without contact and this weekend has been the same, last week he apologized but explained it's just due to work (he works multiple jobs all in bars) days merge. This is just how he is...but it's not great, I like a lot of contact and I don't think it's too much to expect the odd 'hows your day going?'. I get mixed messages too, sometimes he really makes an effort to see me and he's very affectionate, he's also stressed things will be better once he moves as rent is cheaper so he'll wo

My best friend and I have been friends for 13 years. Recently she went back to study and has met a 21 year old and they have become essentially best friends. Neither made any other fiends at university. I work full time and her partner works full time, so she would be alone if she didn't meet this new girl, and they pretty much spend every day together now. I've spent a bit of time with her and she is fine is small doses. She is very negative and sarcastic, and can be a bit selfish. She dominates the conversation about herself, and says mean things, but it's hidden behind sarcasm. I know this type of person and I don't have any friends like that because I don't find it funny. I've said nothing though, not my place. My best friend clearly likes her and they're close, so I'm glad she has a buddy while she studies. However, I want to organise a trip to the theater and I don't want this new friend to come. My best friend brought it up and her friend s

X-Posting from /r/relationships advice Hi all. This probably sounds petty, but it's bothering me and I don't really know what to do. For our anniversary I searched for a lovely gift for my husband, something I absolutely knew he'd love and enjoy without question. I took the specifics he gave me, applied them to my searches, and found something that I knew he'd love. My husband asked me for specifics on what he could get me; I gave him some ideas and specifically said I did not want anything heart shaped as I had a lot of that jewelry already. I even wrote it down in a document for him (basically wants and don't wants) per his asking. Well, I open the gift he got me and...it's a necklace with a heart-shaped pendant. I basically just grinned and bore it because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. He said something like "Yeah it's silver, I saw you wanted something silver in your list with that color gem?" Which is true. But. I stated many

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