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Whats the nicest way to say to someone that you do not like them?

Someone ask me if i liked them and im trying to say no but I want to say it in a very nice way Submitted June 04, 2019 at 11:57PM Someone ask me if i liked them and im trying to say no but I want to say it in a very nice way

There's a girl at work that I (23M) like and want to ask out, but I have 0 experience with this sort of thing.

Maybe I'm just overthinking this, but I really like this girl and want to ask her out. But since she's a coworker (though one I don't see all the time) I don't know if it'd make things weird if she rejects me or if it turns out she has a boyfriend. I've just never gotten the chance to ask many girls out, and the ones I have either ended in rejection or ghosting. Do I just ask her? Do I try to find out if she's single first? I just don't know. Any help would be appreciated. Submitted June 04, 2019 at 11:59PM Maybe I'm just overthinking this, but I really like this girl and want to ask her out. But since she's a coworker (though one I don't see all the time) I don't know if it'd make things weird if she rejects me or if it turns out she has a boyfriend. I've just never gotten the chance to ask many girls out, and the ones I have either ended in rejection or ghosting. Do I just ask her? Do I try to find out if she's single

Just a bit of rejection advice

Hey everyone just wanted to put things into perspective for people that have been rejected. There are billions of people on earth and even if you feel you’ve found the most amazing person and are rejected by them, there are hundreds of people who are much better than that person and you just haven’t met them. Just try to move on and stay positive! Hope this helps 😊 Submitted June 05, 2019 at 12:03AM Hey everyone just wanted to put things into perspective for people that have been rejected.There are billions of people on earth and even if you feel you’ve found the most amazing person and are rejected by them, there are hundreds of people who are much better than that person and you just haven’t met them.Just try to move on and stay positive!Hope this helps 😊

Little person looking for honest feedback from the ladies

So yeah I’m, as the title suggest, a little person and want to know honestly what the ladies have to say. I’m coming out of a 20 year marriage to an average height woman. Dating wasn’t always on my side and I honestly feel like I hit the jackpot when she agreed to start dating me. We built a great life together and had 2 awesome kids! But she fell out of love. Now that I’m single again, and with society at the point where “looks” and “social acceptance” is more important than the person, I fear women will prejudge me solely for my height without getting to know the person first. I’m not the average little person who has the big head and short stumpy limbs (sorry to all my fellow LPs, but yes I can go there lol.). If I posted an upper body shot, you’d never know. Anyways, I just want to know your honest opinion on how to approach dating again and if you think I actually have a shot. Also, any pointers on how I can stand out from the crowd of other guys (aside for my height) and get

Know your value

I was just in a situation where a girl was stringing along three of us, all knowingly. She kept telling each of us individually that "we were the one she was choosing". Wonderful girl at first, except eventually everything had to be about her. One by one she broke each of our hearts when she got bored with us, but during that time we were each under the assumption that she was only dating the one of us. I was so desperate to loved by someone I didnt care how toxic the conditons were, and I think the other guys were in the same boat. She recently asked to start hanging out again. As much as I was into her I had to say no, because I know it would just be repeat of the cycle. Sometimes it's better to value yourself alone than let someone treat you as a token with them. We all have something to offer, even if the person who will appreciate that value hasn't found us yet. Know your worth, non of us deserve to be a consolation prize. Submitted June 05, 2019 at 12:14A

Guys, any advice for me?

So I’m not sure how to even write this post but I really would like to get a guys perspective of maybe where I’m going wrong in ‘dating’/interacting with guys. I’ve had one serious long term relationship from the end of junior year of high school to the summer before my freshman year of college, which is super young but I’d say it was a pretty good experience. I didn’t start dating or even looking at other guys for a year after and spent that time working on myself and my goals. Then I had a weird situationship with a guy I met in one of my classes that was met with varying levels of rejection throughout it all but we’re still close friends. Just this past year in August I downloaded some dating apps. I made some good connections and of course had some great hookups that I accepted were just that, but i’m often met with either two lines of rejection: “you’re a really great girl blah blah I’m just not looking for anything serious.” Or “it’s just physical chemistry/ there’s no connectio

[F] I have no hope with dating and it's making me depressed

I'd like to preface this by stating that I feel absolutely pathetic asking this. I know it's most likely due to my personal perception as opposed to reality, but this has been going on for years and honestly, I'll take anything at this point. Since the age of nine, I've been very hyper-aware of my physical appearance. When I was younger, I was frequently told I looked like a boy due to the fact my mum would often shave my head because she couldn't be bothered with combing out lice. This also prevented me from pursuing ballet, which I am now devastated by. Despite this being a very brief period, it's always stuck with me, especially now since my chest is very flat and I've no curves. Whilst I'm aware that different guys have different preferences, that's somewhat difficult to believe when all of your friends, who happen to be big-chested, seem to get into relationships so effortlessly. It coincides, is what I'm trying to say. My body isn't

/u/dreamverie on Been questioning myself alot abt this...

Ahh, ok. Aromanticism sounds abt right for me, on top of asexuality. I'll have to do a bit of digging n see what i can find. Thanks a bunch! It's really relieving to know that I'm not alone in this n that it's ok to feel this way, heh June 05, 2019 at 12:15AM

/u/TinWhis on A cute drawing I found on facebook

Oh deer, I'm queer. June 05, 2019 at 12:14AM

/u/-puella_ on A conversation my friend literally JUST heard in the laundromat. Wow... 😬😅

Can't help but imagine the mom is black and now it's even funnier. June 05, 2019 at 12:14AM

/u/Twixxboo on A cute drawing I found on facebook

It could be that too. June 05, 2019 at 12:13AM

/u/smcsleazy on A cute drawing I found on facebook

i dont think it's actually anything to do with furries. there was a subset of lesbians called bambi lesbians who wernt into sex, they were more into romance. June 05, 2019 at 12:12AM

/u/phainepy on A cute drawing I found on facebook

Is this a depiction of being furry? I thought it was a Bambi lesbian. As in a lesbian who prefers kisses and cuddles. June 05, 2019 at 12:11AM

/u/MrSmallANDLoud on Friend basically tells me, "Aces dont need to come out. It's not that important."

Also friends like your friend, when you don’t come out : “ But you never TALK ABOUT X. I don’t get you! Your weird! Let me set you up with Y person” June 05, 2019 at 12:09AM

/u/happy_bluebird on Did anyone else do super ace shit as a kid?

Yes, HA, I really like this actually. Ok, off the top of my head... -assumed adults had sex when they wanted to have kids, and when they did it they kind of avoided eye contact because they felt awkward and weird -assumed my classmates in middle school were talking about crushes just to be cool, and in high school assumed classmates were talking about sex because we were "supposed" to, or to be rebellious -never understood celebrity crushes -wanted boobs so I looked more proportional, but now that I realize it would make me get more attention from guys I'm glad I'm almost entirely flat -first pg-13 movie I watched with a (non-graphic at all) sex scene, I kept running to the bathroom to go pee because it just made me SOOO UNCOMFORTABLE June 05, 2019 at 12:09AM

/u/ArchaicAlbatross on What’s your guys’ take on this?

Agreed. There’s no use going to couple’s therapy or other things people are suggesting- if someone has responded to sex/physical affection in a certain way for that long, they probably aren’t going to change, since sexuality isn’t something that can nor should be “fixed” like people are (Indirectly) insinuating. I saw quotes like: “A healthy sex life is part of any healthy marriage.” in the comments, and phrases like that bother me quite a bit. Being in a healthy marriage (Unlike the one in the post) and not wanting/having sex aren’t mutually exclusive! Sex isn’t necessary for everyone, and I dislike the fact that so many people (Not everyone, but many) are acting like it’s the cornerstone of every healthy partnership. Although they may not understand asexuality or things of the sort themselves, it’s distasteful to view a lack of sexual attraction/intercourse as “unhealthy”. June 05, 2019 at 12:09AM

/u/dreamverie on Been questioning myself alot abt this...

thank you! I'll definitely be looking into it and see if anything clicks June 05, 2019 at 12:08AM

/u/Twixxboo on A cute drawing I found on facebook

Honestly its weird being ace in the furry community. We just sit in the back while eveyone goes coo coo for coco puffs. June 05, 2019 at 12:08AM

/u/Emperor_Julian_I on A cute drawing I found on facebook

Cute! June 05, 2019 at 12:07AM

/u/etherealmaiden on Friend basically tells me, "Aces dont need to come out. It's not that important."

So i dont want to sound like its our duty to come out and educate the allos, but they have no idea what its like to inhabit an identity so invisible that people dont even think you exist. Coming out as an asexual is extremely important as its probably the first time most people even hear about what asexuality is. I know that was definitely the case when i came out (worst fucking experience of my life but i would still do it again) Also cut that person out of your life. Don’t keep people who gaslight you like that in your life. June 05, 2019 at 12:06AM

/u/MeDuckie on Does anyone else feel like they almost make up for their lack of sexual desires in just pure romantic ways?

I’m Aro but I still hug people I know well really frequently. Hugging I see as platonic until someone tries to make it romantic, which is when I won’t enjoy it. June 05, 2019 at 12:06AM

/u/MeDuckie on I wish I wasn’t asexual

There are times when I can certainly agree that the worlds constant focus on sex/romance is tiresome. Maybe you have to tell the people in life how you feel. Which isn’t easy, especially if nobody understands. However, these days it seems more likely that they will understand as asexuality is becoming more widespread than ever. The other, less mentally taxing choice is finding someone ace/aro and becoming friends with them. It may be different to find someone ace, but it seems like the time spent would pay off. Maybe you and the person that you find could work together to explain how you feel about romance to other people. Until then, just remember you aren’t alone. June 04, 2019 at 11:59PM

Why Men Struggle To Believe That They've Been Sexually Assaulted By A Woman

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Why Men Struggle To Believe That They've Been Sexually Assaulted By A Woman When they've been abused by another man, they call it exactly what it is — rape. But when it's a woman, it’s a completely different story. June 5, 2019 at 12:12AM "Continue": http://bit.ly/2Z5iwtN #HASHTAGS #blogger, #bloggingtips, #bloggerlife, #bloggersgetsocial, #ontheblog #phxblogger, #phoenixbloggers, #labloggers #theblogissue, #thatsdarling, #darlingmovement, #darlingweekend #thehappynow, #petitejoys, #livethelittlethings, #livecolorfully #fashionblog #instafashion, #ootd, #ootdmagazine #fashioninspo, #styleinspiration, #styleblogger, #stylegram #streetfashion, #lookbook, #lookoftheday, #whatiwore #beautyblogger, #beautycare, #instabeauty, #beautyblog #beautyguru, #beautyproducts, #beautytips, #instamakeup #makeupaddict, #makeupartist, #makeupbyme #hairgoals, #hairinspiration, #instanails, #nailstagram #travelblogger, #travelblog, #cityscape, #travelblogging,