Hello, I'm not really sure how to start. I'm 42, male, and I live in a small town. I'm going through a divorce. I'm not trying to immediately find another girlfriend or spouse, my marriage lasted 17 years, but I would like to go on a date and talk to someone. Have some fun, maybe got out to eat and see a movie or have a day date and play mini golf or go bowling. Anything to curb this feeling of loneliness. I have no idea how to do that, though. We did everything together so I never made actual friends, just work colleagues. I would like to find a woman to just talk to and hang out. I'm not looking to hook up with someone, just share a couple laughs with. Anyway, I'm sorry, I ramble. My question is how do you find someone to date? It seems like there are rules that I don't know about. Don't start a conversation with Hi, or don't ask them how they are. I'm way out of my zone. Please help! Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:58PM Hello, I'm...

Hey Everyone! I hope the weeks been going well for everyone - we're almost to the weekend! I wanted to post tonight about the golden rule - treat everyone the way you want to be treated. This is generally where I operate from: everyone deserves kindness, understanding, and support. Ive been in a few relationships over the last two years where I was treated a little "less than well," but kept falling back on this rule to demonstrate to my partner how I expected to be treated. Looking back I should have been a little more assertive when speaking up and verbalizing how I felt, but actions speak equally as loud. Anyway - I seriously feel like this whole "golden" rule kind of fell by the wayside in the dating world anymore. Does anyone else feel like that or am I just accidentallly dating folks who are putzes? Oh! And to clarify, I do not expect to be treated like royalty in a relationship. But I dont expect to be talked down to, made the butt of jokes, and inva...

Ultimately I do think there's a fine line here. It is sort of possible to want sex for a reason other than feeling attracted to a person, but making broad statements about how you can "desire and seek out sex" and not have that conflict with being asexual, is definitely confusing, because that's sort of a weird edge case in a vaguely-defined border zone where finding the line requires analyzing the motivations behind the action, which is pretty subjective. November 15, 2019 at 12:13AM

Yeah I know I'm just ignoring it at this stage. Getting annoyed just gives the to yell at us for lmao. November 15, 2019 at 12:11AM

She is pretty much all my classes in college and since the past 3 weeks we have been hanging out with a small group of friends during and after school. This week there were no classes and we been staying at a diffirent friends house she is into me as well. Now the question is, do i just tell her I like her or do i ask her if she wants to go on a date? Never been in a relationship before so im kind of clueless on how to handle this situation. She just turned 17 last month and i'm turning 20 in like 3 months, is this still acceptable? Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:12PM She is pretty much all my classes in college and since the past 3 weeks we have been hanging out with a small group of friends during and after school. This week there were no classes and we been staying at a diffirent friends house she is into me as well. Now the question is, do i just tell her I like her or do i ask her if she wants to go on a date? Never been in a relationship before so im kind of cluele...

So, we've (me 17, she 15) been dating for one month and a half i think, we're not yet officially a couple. In this month, we've never been on dates and rarely spent time alone - we usually go out with our friends, but I'd like to spend some time together just the two of us... But when I asked her out she said "i am afraid i may get uncomfortable" - so i asked her "why? are you afraid of getting bored with me? or do you just dont like that people see you with a boy maybe?" she said it was the fact that she does not want to get bored (so i kinda started panicking, cause dammit, i am so boring...) she said "i do know we dont spend much time alone" and also "i dont wanna hurt you" so what? what should I/we do? 'cause we love each other but our relationship seems focused on the love and physical contact we give each other, but I think we need some time alone, dammit it is almost annoying (i was thinking about this: when we'r...

Title says it all, I’ve gotten a new boyfriend, but he doesn’t know how to kiss. I’m his first. I know how to kiss but I know it’s just going to be awkward since he doesn’t know what to do Edit: We’re both 17 Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:33PM Title says it all, I’ve gotten a new boyfriend, but he doesn’t know how to kiss. I’m his first. I know how to kiss but I know it’s just going to be awkward since he doesn’t know what to doEdit: We’re both 17

I (16M) am interested in (17F) she is a grade above me in school and she recently broke up with her boyfriend, I asked a couple of weeks ago if she was interested in me and she only replied back with “I have a boyfriend, sorry. But we can still be friends”. I’m hoping I get a chance to ask her out again, Is that a good idea? Or am I pushing it? Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:37PM I (16M) am interested in (17F) she is a grade above me in school and she recently broke up with her boyfriend, I asked a couple of weeks ago if she was interested in me and she only replied back with “I have a boyfriend, sorry. But we can still be friends”. I’m hoping I get a chance to ask her out again, Is that a good idea? Or am I pushing it?

A while ago I went on a few dates with this guy, it was going pretty well, he asked me out on a fourth date and was going to cook me dinner and then out of the blue called the whole thing off and told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship because off all the stuff that’s he’s currently dealing with, a divorce being one of them. Which I accepted. But then he did the whole ‘we can be friends’ thing and after not hearing from him for a little while I dropped him a message just checking in on how he was. He ignored my message for a month and has only just read it. He hasn’t replied but it’s just got me thinking about him again and questioning why he did what he did and if he blew me off because of his issues? or because he just wasn’t that into me? and after all this time why has he suddenly decided to read my message? I just want to get over him. Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:39PM A while ago I went on a few dates with this guy, it was going pretty well, he asked me out on...

I’m thinking of asking this guy (once he gets over his cold) to walk through a Festival of Lights type of thing then get hot coco? Does that sound good? Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:44PM I’m thinking of asking this guy (once he gets over his cold) to walk through a Festival of Lights type of thing then get hot coco? Does that sound good?

It really distracts me, especially when we’re sitting next to each other. Sometimes he smells good, but I think that smell is from his perfume. I feel bad, we are not in a relationship yet so i don’t feel like i have the right to tell him. We are having our third date this sunday and i don’t know what to do Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:47PM It really distracts me, especially when we’re sitting next to each other. Sometimes he smells good, but I think that smell is from his perfume.I feel bad, we are not in a relationship yet so i don’t feel like i have the right to tell him.We are having our third date this sunday and i don’t know what to do

Obviously i understand why and what she means by it. And i have a grip on being mean and the whole “mean to keep her keen” term. But what are some things/examples i should start saying/doing just to keep her interested ? Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:50PM Obviously i understand why and what she means by it. And i have a grip on being mean and the whole “mean to keep her keen” term. But what are some things/examples i should start saying/doing just to keep her interested ?

So on Monday’s and Wednesday’s when I go to workout, this girl I find really cute also works out and this entire semester I’ve been wondering how to talk to her she seems very quite and focused while working out. I was wondering what my best approach should be. Btw I do not know her age but I’m assuming since we are both in college that she is between 19-21 Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:56PM So on Monday’s and Wednesday’s when I go to workout, this girl I find really cute also works out and this entire semester I’ve been wondering how to talk to her she seems very quite and focused while working out. I was wondering what my best approach should be. Btw I do not know her age but I’m assuming since we are both in college that she is between 19-21

Not sure how this is gonna come off, maybe it's too dumb a problem for a college student to have but for all my college life I was in the same committed relationship (for about three years until we broke up). After we broke up, being old introvert me, I kinda shut down and didn't go out and socialize at all. With that long relationship and being closed off for another long period of time,I think I forgot everything I knew about dating (which was basically nothing to begin with). I just don't know how to start dating again - or make new friends for that purpose. Thank you for reading, I'm open to any advice. Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:58PM Not sure how this is gonna come off, maybe it's too dumb a problem for a college student to have but for all my college life I was in the same committed relationship (for about three years until we broke up). After we broke up, being old introvert me, I kinda shut down and didn't go out and socialize at all.With...

Quick background. I have been out of dating game for close to 5 years due to medical problems(had to follow strict diet and daily routine so I didn’t die), that were recently resolved via operation. Essentially I had no time or confidence to date. Now that I’m finally normal, healthy and confident again I’ve been on a handful of dates. Unfortunately I’ve had little success it terms of moving past the first couple dates. The common theme I’m getting is “I’m a great guy, but they didn’t feel a spark and/or they are too busy to commit” Am I falling into the nice guy trap? I’ve also considered that maybe I’m just boring, but then I compare myself to others in relationship and I find it hard to believe. I’m not the most interesting man but I’ve at least got hobbies and stories to tell. I’ve even tried being fake and over excited ahaha, but face similar outcomes. Due to my lack of recent experience, I’ve been pretty cautions in terms of making moves and getting physical. I also know in to...

So, I’m in a bit of a pickle as I like my coworker. Hes a sweetheart but I’m questioning his behavior after today. One time, we had training together and I mentioned an old teacher we both had. He proceeded to say “Honestly, Mrs.Smith is such a milf. And you know who else? Mrs.Jones. Oh and Ms.Bates but before she got pregnant and had her kid.” His face then fell (probably upon seeing my surprised expression) and he sternly said “Don’t repeat that to anyone.” I would assume this is more so bc I’m friends with his best friend’s girlfriend, but looking back at it, it felt kind of weird. I bring this to attention today because we were at work and out of nowhere, he asks if I knew a girl. I asked if she was related to a guy in my grade based on the last name and he confirmed. I joked if she was better or worse (in regards to behavior cus the dudes a pothead) and he said “Well, let’s just say shes really hot,,,,” I thought?? He was referring to the guy’s YOUNGER sister???? (Im 17, hes 1...

There's a girl in my class. We've been working together all semester and last week we had to break off from the rest of the class and work completely alone together for the first time, and for reasons that don't really matter. During that time, I felt a connection I have never felt before with someone. I sort of made a move, but I don't think it was direct enough for her. I'll discuss later. In general, I feel like it's pretty clear that she likes me, but I do doubt my instincts due to some past relationships and other things... Good news: she seemed to be a lot more vulnerable around me in private - a ton of laughing and smiling, a little bit of anxiousness, and really a different inflection in her voice - excitement and nervousness. Almost childish and immature. She teased me a bit, basically said that our personalities are a good balance for each other, and that she was excited to work alone and away from everyone else. She has grown to be pretty comfortabl...

Ive always followed a rule that if they dont seem completely interested dont bother, but here i am not succesful 🤣. So do you pursue someone whos probably not as interested but not exactly try and force it? Or cut ties and move on? Kinda curious. Submitted November 15, 2019 at 12:08AM Ive always followed a rule that if they dont seem completely interested dont bother, but here i am not succesful 🤣. So do you pursue someone whos probably not as interested but not exactly try and force it? Or cut ties and move on? Kinda curious.

Honestly, how that person acted was a malfunction. It's one thing to not understand this community, but terrible to brush it off as a whole - I am so sorry that this happened to you. November 15, 2019 at 12:07AM

I don't think I would, I would for romantic attraction November 15, 2019 at 12:06AM

I just wanted to share my personal feelings about the game and part of me wonders if I truly deserve the downvotes based on something that’s not “ew you’re different” but I guess I’ll never know. Figured I had a better chance of being understood in the r/humansbeingbros sub but looks like that was wrong. Oh well. November 15, 2019 at 12:00AM

Remembering the new years eve, when we just met each other, hugged while the fireworks were in the sky wishing each other happy new year, sitting together with your head resting on my shoulder. That night was the best I've ever had, it's just undescribable feeling you gave me. You are different than any other girl I knew. Remembering when we were chatting about absolutely everything and making it fun and interesting. All that time you gave me oppurtunity to be open for someone and that someone was you. Then I remember when we met again, this time it was different. It seemed like everything went wrong. That evening I hugged you like it's the last time we meet. That time was the last one. It's been about one year, but still I remember like it was yesterday. I remember all the joy and fun, but all I feel now is just pain. I just can't forget because it was so special for me. Do you think about all of it once in a while or it's nothing special for you? I guess ...

I woke up in pain from period cramps today. My SO immediately got up to make me coffee and breakfast in bed. Then he sat with me in bed and we watched movies together. I had to eventually start work (I work from home) so as I finished that up, he cleaned the whole kitchen and then went out to pick us up some sushi. It was just such a kind bunch of gestures and I so appreciate it. :) Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:43PM I woke up in pain from period cramps today. My SO immediately got up to make me coffee and breakfast in bed. Then he sat with me in bed and we watched movies together. I had to eventually start work (I work from home) so as I finished that up, he cleaned the whole kitchen and then went out to pick us up some sushi. It was just such a kind bunch of gestures and I so appreciate it. :)