Hi all! Not sure if this is the right place to discuss this, but I could do with some advise. I'm a 30 yo male. I have very little(no?) experience in casual dating. All my relationships were serious and started from friendship. I'm single for almost a year now (longest in my adult life), and struggling to get into the dating game. I consider myself to be decent, not great looking. Definitely not a standout. But I think I am interesting, funny, have plenty of hobbies, do well in career and life, and am very caring. The problem is, I'm very shy/introverted to begin with, or until a conversation starts naturally. I'm not looking for a hookup, but dating to see if there's a good match. I match rarely with some girls I really like, but I'm too nervous to start the conversation. If I say something generic, I know it's going to end the chat real quick. I'm not a person who uses cheesy pick up lines, so I don't want to pretend to be that. I like real or ...

so im an anxious person, as well as insecure, and i recently asked my friend to go give this guy my number. he said the guy seemed flattered and was super nice about it, however, this guy hasn’t texted me or anything and it’s been a day. i’m starting to regret not just going up because this guy has no prior information about me other than what my friend told him. i just wanna know if anyone thinks it would have made a difference if i had just gone up to him or if in general it’s a big no-no to have your friend give a guy your number. let me know!!!!! Submitted November 25, 2021 at 06:07PM so im an anxious person, as well as insecure, and i recently asked my friend to go give this guy my number. he said the guy seemed flattered and was super nice about it, however, this guy hasn’t texted me or anything and it’s been a day. i’m starting to regret not just going up because this guy has no prior information about me other than what my friend told him. i just wanna know if anyone thi...

Scene: I am ordering drinks from cute bartender, around my age (mid or late 20s). When he hands me a bunch of glasses I accidentally wrap my hands around his. I am feeling butterflies but assume this is nothing to him. Later I come up again and ask him what a really nice-looking drink he just served to a couple was. "It's called a cocktail." I laugh at his sarcasm. He asks me if I'm having fun. He and I chat a little about the piano player in the bar, and about how the player doesn't know any modern music. I ask him what music he'd play if he could, and he tells me [band name]. I submit the band name and he makes a thank-you gesture. Finally I go up and ask for my check. "No," he says, jokingly. I pay and tell him that he's super nice and how often does he work there? He tells me which nights he works there and tells me I should come back. He's flirting with me right? Is this a normal bartender ploy to be nice to customers and/or get tips...

Hi guys, today I (38F) matched with a 36M, the bio was limited but suggested they enjoyed gaming and hiking. We had a back and forth conversation for an hour where he answered questions from me on what he enjoys etc. But never once did he ask a question about me (didn't seem interested in getting to know me) so I messaged to wish him all the best but felt it wasn't going anywhere as he didn't seem interested in finding out about me as much as I did finding out about him. He replied saying he did but his ex had messed with his head and meant he didn't consider others, then proceeded to advise they had split up recently and he was in the middle of a very dramatic argument with her. How would you respond to this? Submitted November 25, 2021 at 08:38AM Hi guys, today I (38F) matched with a 36M, the bio was limited but suggested they enjoyed gaming and hiking.We had a back and forth conversation for an hour where he answered questions from me on what he enjoys etc....

A coworker from a past company recently joined the company I’m currently at. We didn’t keep in touch and weren’t close previously, and initially I caught up with them over lunch mostly for the sake of increasing my network. I’m not sure if it was just the sense of familiarity that sparked the infatuation, but we had a fun conversation and I left feeling giddy. I suggested we do a catch-up regularly over lunch, but I don’t want to go into building this connection with a romantic motive clouded by said crush/infatuation. Especially not with the potential ramifications of office drama if things get awkward, even if our functions don’t work together now. I’ve seen too many coworkers crash and burn from mixing personal. Mostly venting, I’ll probably not reach out for a bit to let the crush feelings hopefully cool off as life goes on. I guess my question is mostly, did giving it time help a work crush cool off? Submitted November 25, 2021 at 04:49AM A coworker from a past company ...

Praying for you, man😟 November 26, 2021 at 12:06AM

What the— personality already pushes it with star signs but their sexual activity? really? November 26, 2021 at 12:06AM

one of the first things the trainer told me at my first jobs. "if someone tells you not to do [whatever you're doing], just say ok, and do it anyway." that's how you gotta treat every hater and naysayer. "HEY YOU CAN'T..." "oh? k. 👍 ✌" November 26, 2021 at 12:02AM

sigh How many times will us asexual have to go over the fact that liking s*x, libido, and sexual attraction are all different. Just because you have the first two doesn’t mean you can’t be asexual. November 25, 2021 at 11:51PM

Okay so disclaimer, I'm old enough to drink, but I don't go out to bars or clubs or parties. I don't know the scene or what's normal there. Obviously I have no problem with straight people going to a gay bar, like people can go where ever they want as long as it's legal. Doesn't bother me in any way. Sorry this is stupid, but genuine question, why would you go to a gay bar if you weren't gay or going with your gay friend(s)? November 25, 2021 at 11:46PM

This feels strange to me bc at night everyone is home, while in the day I have a few hours to myself. Is this weird? Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:36AM This feels strange to me bc at night everyone is home, while in the day I have a few hours to myself. Is this weird?

I know I shouldn’t think of them that way, but it’s not that weird as long as I keep it a fantasy right? Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:40AM I know I shouldn’t think of them that way, but it’s not that weird as long as I keep it a fantasy right?

I have never used a cock ring before until the other day, so I wasn’t sure what it was supposed to feel like. I used it twice and kept it on no longer than 10 minutes each time. I have, however, come to the conclusion that it is too tight for me. It completely cuts off my circulation. My penis because a little more red/blue-ish in color, the head was extremely hard and swollen, and the veins were protruding a lot. I didn’t really experience any pain though. Could doing this two times for 10 minutes damage my penis? Or is this what they are intended to do? Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:43AM I have never used a cock ring before until the other day, so I wasn’t sure what it was supposed to feel like. I used it twice and kept it on no longer than 10 minutes each time.I have, however, come to the conclusion that it is too tight for me. It completely cuts off my circulation. My penis because a little more red/blue-ish in color, the head was extremely hard and swollen, and the ve...

Hello, this maybe sounds really dumb, but when I'm using my fingers inside my new girlfriends vagina I notice something I have not noticed in any other girl I've been with. There's this feeling of this string that is attached in the lower bit of her vagina walls. Anytime I touch it, even though she doesn't feel pain, I cringe in case I accidentally tear it and cause her pain. I haven't brought it up with her yet cause it may be normal, anyone have any ideas what it is? Thanks Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:53AM Hello, this maybe sounds really dumb, but when I'm using my fingers inside my new girlfriends vagina I notice something I have not noticed in any other girl I've been with. There's this feeling of this string that is attached in the lower bit of her vagina walls. Anytime I touch it, even though she doesn't feel pain, I cringe in case I accidentally tear it and cause her pain. I haven't brought it up with her yet cause it may be n...

I have leared that to take deeper penetration, I have to straighten my spine as the vagina goes up towards the spine. If I arch my back downwards, the penis hits the vagina wall and hurts but if I arch it the other way, it goes in better and doesn't hurt. Also it hit hits a right spot for me that is deeper. Stronger guys usually pull me back in standing doggy to help me arch. I do not have much back strength, I'm not much into fitness but are there specific exercises I can do to help develop my back strength to sustain longer doggy sessions? Thanks! Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:56AM I have leared that to take deeper penetration, I have to straighten my spine as the vagina goes up towards the spine. If I arch my back downwards, the penis hits the vagina wall and hurts but if I arch it the other way, it goes in better and doesn't hurt. Also it hit hits a right spot for me that is deeper.Stronger guys usually pull me back in standing doggy to help me arch. I do n...

Hey I have very low self confidence and I’m usually paranoid that people I like are going to leave me. So I go on a first date with this girl and we both had a great time just talking and walking. At the end she said she had a great time and we should definitely hang out again, I shared similar remarks. I sent the “after first date text” just rehashing that I had a great time etc. and that we should do it again sometime. Once again she said the same and that she’d like to chill sometime. I was thrown off by the word “chill” so I basically told her “idk if you mean a date or not by ‘chill’ but yeah we could hit up X place or Y place”. Looking back that first portion and my doubt was completely unfounded and made me seem clingy. I was just really unsure if she was implying hanging out as just friends by “chill” or not; like I said, I have very low confidence. However she replied that both those suggestions are good and she’d like to hang out to get to know me better. So I dont think I c...

I just started seeing someone, it’s been about a month. Everything was going great until we spent a weekend together. Now I notice an extreme lack of communication and her demeanor has totally changed. We haven’t made plans to see eachother again and I think she’s giving me the slow fade. Do I message her and address it? Ignore her and ghost? Or how do people normally handle this? Submitted November 25, 2021 at 11:55PM I just started seeing someone, it’s been about a month. Everything was going great until we spent a weekend together.Now I notice an extreme lack of communication and her demeanor has totally changed. We haven’t made plans to see eachother again and I think she’s giving me the slow fade.Do I message her and address it? Ignore her and ghost? Or how do people normally handle this?

would you date someone with more expirence just asking any advice guys or gals? Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:01AM would you date someone with more expirence just asking any advice guys or gals?

A few months ago I made a post asking for advice on if telling a girl I liked her was the right thing to do. I've realized now that I should just tell her, I'm just unsure on how to tell her. If you have any advice that you think could even be a little bit helpful, it still helps, thank you in advance for any advice you may give me Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:08AM A few months ago I made a post asking for advice on if telling a girl I liked her was the right thing to do. I've realized now that I should just tell her, I'm just unsure on how to tell her. If you have any advice that you think could even be a little bit helpful, it still helps, thank you in advance for any advice you may give me

I’m 26 f and I’ve already asked the almighty Google but none of the answers apply to me. I set boundaries, I don’t stick around toxic men, I don’t have low self-esteem, & so fourth. I just keep meeting toxic men. I’m not super picky but I also have standards. I want a healthy relationship where we can have our time apart, talk things through, go out and do fun stuff together etc. I just haven’t met any man willing to do the basics. Anyone else struggle with this? Is it something I could be subconsciously doing when I’m around men that make me a “target.” And any advice on deterring unhealthy men? Thank you! 😊 Submitted November 26, 2021 at 12:15AM I’m 26 f and I’ve already asked the almighty Google but none of the answers apply to me. I set boundaries, I don’t stick around toxic men, I don’t have low self-esteem, & so fourth. I just keep meeting toxic men. I’m not super picky but I also have standards. I want a healthy relationship where we can have our time apart, talk...