Remember that you're still am-ace-ing!!! July 20, 2021 at 12:02AM

You mean the rear lines? Bisexual are in numerical majority, but our scouts have informed us that the lines of communication are not very solid, it would take some time to transmit the information which makes them vulnerable to surprise attacks, also, their increased lust makes the soldier less efficient on the field and that's another weakness we asexuals can exploit. July 20, 2021 at 12:01AM

AAAHH. How dare people be different! How dare people be unique!! How dare they demand to be treated the same as us who came out of the box with bolts for brains!!! *with obvious sarcasm July 20, 2021 at 12:01AM

Why are you here? July 20, 2021 at 12:00AM

Short social battery, I love it. And congrats! I hope it works out for you. I hope one day I can find an ace partner. July 19, 2021 at 11:59PM

So, my household is very open to things like sexuality and gender identity, and I never had any reason to be concerned about them accepting me. However, I was still scared. It took me weeks to build up the courage. Because even though within my home being ace wouldn't be a big deal, there was always a chance that they'd react the way people who aren't open to those things would react. A tiny chance, but you never know until you take that leap. And you can't take it back once you've said it. The idea of having to keep a secret for the fear of how the people you love will react - even if you know they'll be fine with it - is exhausting. Because everything we see tells us that we're not 'normal'. That we're weird and different and it's hard to love yourself when you've never seen anyone else love someone like you. It was also extremely personal. You internalize what you see around you - and most of what we see is straight 'traditio

It sounds to me like you may indeed be asexual, but I think it's important to draw a distinction between being comfortable alone and being unable to open up to others. It's entirely okay to be put off by the thought of kissing and sex--plenty of us here are--but an inability to be open and vulnerable with anyone is a different matter entirely. It's also okay to have fears about what you might be missing, plenty of us unfortunately have those too. It sounds to me like you're having a difficult time, and maybe you've been having a difficult time for a good while. I hope therapy allows you to find some of the answers you're looking for, and I hope you arrive at a better place than you are now. July 19, 2021 at 11:59PM

Glad I could help. There’s also videos explaining what it means to be ace all over YouTube either as a reference or to directly show your bf July 19, 2021 at 11:57PM

No I haven't yet, thanks for mentioning it, I'll look it up:) July 19, 2021 at 11:56PM

You really need to learn that sometimes words can have two definitions buddy July 19, 2021 at 11:55PM

Have you seen the scene from season 2 of sex education. There’s a great scene with an ace person. You could probably find it with some quick googling July 19, 2021 at 11:55PM

I got a better feeling for how allos feel thanks to books and movies and fanfiction, sadly I can't really offer the same to my bf since I don't really know any asexual rep in media? July 19, 2021 at 11:54PM

No one asked me either. I'm 40 now and it has never happened that someone was rude enough to ask me those questions. I also haven't told tons of people, since I'm fairly antisocial, so maybe it's just the small pool, and if I was out meeting new people it would come up. July 19, 2021 at 11:51PM

Totally. I still have a really hard time understanding that sex and romance weren’t just made up for tv shows and drama. (Even tho I see people dating it just looks like a very good friendship to me. Even tho none of my friendships look super similar.) July 19, 2021 at 11:50PM

Hi! Congrats on working to understand yourself better. You might consider using the gray-asexual (or "graysexual") label. It's an umbrella term that's convenient for folks whose exact asexuality is difficult to define, or who haven't quite figured out exactly what they are yet (or even for folks who just prefer a broad label). You might also consider one of the following labels, though you may not find them as fitting: Demisexual : Someone who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection. Aegosexual : A person who doesn't feel sexual attraction, but can be aroused by things that are sufficiently removed from themselves (i.e. pornography/erotica). You can find more in-depth explanations of these concepts in our sub's wiki page for gray-asexuality, found here . Best of luck! July 19, 2021 at 11:49PM

Nice July 19, 2021 at 11:48PM

When I introduce myself, i don’t add that I’m asexual. Its not like I’m ashamed of it, it just not everyone needs to know. July 19, 2021 at 11:48PM

Thanks for your help, ive also come to realise how big the differences are, even in the smallest aspects of life. For many years of my life I genuinely thought that others feel like I do and thought that my bf was that one making a big deal about sex. Later I learned that I was the one that didn't really fit the narrative. I felt completely in the dark about my feelings until I found this subreddit. July 19, 2021 at 11:48PM

hashtag normalize acesexuality July 19, 2021 at 11:47PM

He’s not worth your time anyway 🤗 July 19, 2021 at 11:46PM

Yea sorry I didn’t really meant “okay” in that type of way and I’ll try to show them that I still accept them and that they can be open with it around me if they were to come out as ace July 19, 2021 at 11:43PM

I don’t really have any experience with this but I can try. (I’m also aro) I would just make sure to take time explaining everything and especially focus on your feelings. Another thing is that I have found that explaining my perspective as an ace person to friends and others because there’s a lot about how I view the world that I’ve slowly been realizing is super different from allo people July 19, 2021 at 11:41PM

I can't even remember. Would have to look at my old laptop. Sans, maybe? July 19, 2021 at 11:40PM