I’ve really stopped dating all together since the beginning of the pandemic, which is when my break up happened. I’ve been in lots and lots of therapy since then, self-reflecting on how I could’ve been a better partner and mistakes I’ve made. I do want to date/be in a relationship, but I’m also lonely, which makes me worry that I might be motivated for the wrong/not healthy reasons? I’m working a lot on building up my hobbies and social circles too. At what point makes you “ready” to date? Submitted March 13, 2023 at 01:13AM I’ve really stopped dating all together since the beginning of the pandemic, which is when my break up happened. I’ve been in lots and lots of therapy since then, self-reflecting on how I could’ve been a better partner and mistakes I’ve made.I do want to date/be in a relationship, but I’m also lonely, which makes me worry that I might be motivated for the wrong/not healthy reasons? I’m working a lot on building up my hobbies and social circles too.At what ...

They think I'm naive for believing in internet labels, don't have enough experience from my one year-long sexless relationship and don't get out enough to actually meet someone I might want to do it with. Honestly, the dismissal kinda hurts. I know I don't get out much, but how am I supposed to feel like an adult when people treat me like a child? I think my cousin has an asexual friend and is at least a little supportive, but everyone else seems to think I'm just a late bloomer or something. March 13, 2023 at 12:41AM

For perspective I am a Man who dates Men (or masc-presenting persons, if that ever comes up. Hasn't yet.) It is often my policy to, during a first date conversation, throw someone a curveball. This is mostly to save myself time possibly wasted on a second or third date for those who can't catch it. These curveballs are relatively large parts of my life or things I think about at least twice a week that I notice are not always present in many other people's lives (no value judgement from me either way, just need some common ground). These curveballs can include, but are not limited to: -Obscure hobbies or topics, like Dungeons and Dragons, SCP articles, Nature Conservation, Historical topics circa 5000 BCE-1800 CE, Musical movements from 1400 to 1950, local mythology/legends/folklore from the last two centuries, etc. I am very nerdy and that covers a lot of ground, factual and fictional. -How open they are to alternative religious views outside of Christianity, Judaism, ...

Talk. To. Him. The list of reasons he could be acting the way he is is so long that guessing is pretty useless at this point. It could be that he is ace, could be the religion thing like you mentioned, could be that he thinks he is respecting your boundaries (he presumably knows you are demi and have a low libido) March 12, 2023 at 11:44PM

I had no idea, asexually at the time was such a foreign concept and the only kind I knew of was complete detachment to any kind of sexual feeling And many people assured me this was the case when I voiced my worries. I was told if I touched myself I couldn’t be ace March 12, 2023 at 11:42PM

iirc it was about 1% (old stat I think) of the U.S being ace and the 1% of the world lives in Denmark [Edit (from the Aven messageboard here during July of of last 2021): “Yes quite a Meme based on that the 75,000,000 Asexuals can overthrow the Danish Army of 92,000 so that the population of Asexuals can all fit into the Free State to create a Utopia for Asexuals to be free from Acephobia and form a sexless country. The Meme is only 20 days old and I don't know what triggered it, it might of been Memes from AVEN Memes that earlier began this.”) March 12, 2023 at 11:41PM