I am a sex and relationship coach in San Francisco. I specialize in helping men overcome performance issues. Not a super common job speciality....but I love it. And, I have helped many folks create more pleasure in their lives. I know there is a huge need for people to get more accurate and helpful information around sexual performance struggles. I want to help address the issue of premature or as I prefer to call this struggle, early ejaculation. My client needed to cancel last minute today, so I have an hour. Go! Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:25PM I am a sex and relationship coach in San Francisco. I specialize in helping men overcome performance issues. Not a super common job speciality....but I love it. And, I have helped many folks create more pleasure in their lives.I know there is a huge need for people to get more accurate and helpful information around sexual performance struggles.I want to help address the issue of premature or as I prefer to call this struggle, e...

No text found Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:28PM No text found

No joke, I (23M) actually think I’m addicted to posting nude pics and vids of myself on the internet and I’m worried it’s going ruin my career. Not to sound arrogant but I have body-confidence and the compliments I get are such a turn-on! I’m a very sexual person and I should actually be a full-time model and/or pornstar, but there’d be no turning back from that. I have high academic qualifications and a lot more to give. How do I get over my addictive behaviour? Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:30PM No joke, I (23M) actually think I’m addicted to posting nude pics and vids of myself on the internet and I’m worried it’s going ruin my career. Not to sound arrogant but I have body-confidence and the compliments I get are such a turn-on! I’m a very sexual person and I should actually be a full-time model and/or pornstar, but there’d be no turning back from that. I have high academic qualifications and a lot more to give.How do I get over my addictive behaviour?

I [19F] was having sex with my boyfriend [21M] in a park and got caught by some guy who also filmed us. I am worried. Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:35PM I [19F] was having sex with my boyfriend [21M] in a park and got caught by some guy who also filmed us. I am worried.

No text found Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:36PM No text found

So yesterday, I'm helping one of our children do something on my wife's computer, and as I'm typing out the URL, one of the suggestions underneath is for a porn site. I get my child's show going on the TV, and I'm curious about the porn site so I go and pull up her history. I just type a couple key words and it looks like she's maybe gone there 4-5 times in the last 6 months, and it's all pretty standard lesbian porn. And she had just watched some while she was taking a nap. I have no issues with that, as I watch porn once or twice a week and tell my wife about it and she has no issues with it. The weird part that I'm trying to figure out is that a month or two ago we were talking about porn, and she told that she hasn't watched porn in years. She said she just wasn't really interested in it and that thinking about me was more effective. I've brought up watching porn together multiple times to her but she never wanted to try it. So I'm ...

Bonus: how did you get scammed Fine with this being removed if doesn't fit, didn't know if it would or not. Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:47PM Bonus: how did you get scammedFine with this being removed if doesn't fit, didn't know if it would or not.

I (20f) want to fuck my boyfriend (21m) but the problem is,whenever I say it apparently I'm too matter of fact and he thinks I'm joking. Like we'll be talking and if I want it I'll just kinda bring up that he could easily be throatfucking me at that moment but I dont think my tone conveys my intention and then he kinda giggles n I feel like a dumbass because ugh. The same thing happens over text,and needless to say,it can be frustrating. Advice? Am I just stupid? Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:48PM I (20f) want to fuck my boyfriend (21m) but the problem is,whenever I say it apparently I'm too matter of fact and he thinks I'm joking. Like we'll be talking and if I want it I'll just kinda bring up that he could easily be throatfucking me at that moment but I dont think my tone conveys my intention and then he kinda giggles n I feel like a dumbass because ugh. The same thing happens over text,and needless to say,it can be frustrating. Advice? Am I ...

I’ve found a way to stop post nut clarity for me at least, cause we all know how weird it can be when you start thinking about the shit you just did. I just start blasting some of my favorite songs and boom I don’t think about anything other than the lyrics (cause I sing them) Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:55PM I’ve found a way to stop post nut clarity for me at least, cause we all know how weird it can be when you start thinking about the shit you just did. I just start blasting some of my favorite songs and boom I don’t think about anything other than the lyrics (cause I sing them)

Im seeing a girl atm, we had sex which was fun and missionary is great but its really tiring me out. I feel like it shouldnt be this much work. When her legs are on my shoulders the penetration is great but the angle is a bit off so i have to get up higher which is super tiring. When her legs are flat to the side, its not as deep. Weve tried the pillow technique which helps a bit. Any advice on how to find the right position? Submitted January 23, 2020 at 11:58PM Im seeing a girl atm, we had sex which was fun and missionary is great but its really tiring me out. I feel like it shouldnt be this much work. When her legs are on my shoulders the penetration is great but the angle is a bit off so i have to get up higher which is super tiring. When her legs are flat to the side, its not as deep. Weve tried the pillow technique which helps a bit. Any advice on how to find the right position?

So last week, me (21m) and my girlfriend (21F) we're hanging out on her apartment and things got spicy so we decided to have some fun. After some foreplay, that's when PIV began. We were having a very good time and after 5-7 minutes of missionary, she wanted to be on top because that's one of her favorite positions. This is when the problem began. All was normal until we switched positions and for some reason, I got soft out of nowhere (I didn't cum). She noticed this and decided to arouse me by playing with me. It worked but then I got soft again. I felt my confidence go down and I kind of panicked but she was very supportive, didn't make fun of me, and just told me it was ok. Plus I think I got her off during foreplay cause her legs we're shaking. Anyways, I felt like shit for going soft and she repeatedly said that its ok and that shit happens. My mind was in a spiral and my self esteem was sinking fast. 2 days later, after making her lunch, we got in the m...

I live in California, and it's starting to get warm enough to think of some fun outdoors. It's the first time I've been dating someone who has their own backyard! Do people use the opportunity to get intimate outdoors? Submitted January 24, 2020 at 12:05AM I live in California, and it's starting to get warm enough to think of some fun outdoors. It's the first time I've been dating someone who has their own backyard! Do people use the opportunity to get intimate outdoors?

As the title says, I need some advice. This question is mainly for women as I’m wanting their point of view, but men can answer as well if they have some good advice. So my wife told me several years ago that she has a ‘daddy’ fetish. We have never really done anything for that or talked much about it since, but we have played into other kinks we both have. Well, I’m wanting to maybe start doing the role play ‘daddy’ thing for the her since that’s one of her kinks, but I’m not quite sure on exactly what the whole ‘daddy’ thing is all about. I know she said it’s not about being attracted to any of her father figures or anything like that. But if you all could give me some clarity on what it is for you, and also some tips that might help me to play into that for her. I’m trying to surprise her the next time we do the tango, but I don’t want to come across as an idiot either. Also of note, at some point in the near future I’m going to talk to her about it amongst other things, as we ar...

I am a 25 year old Canadian male. I lost my virginity to a masseuse. Up until then, I had been a virgin, never been intimate in any way whatsoever with a female, and had never known what sex felt like. I wanted so badly to know what it was like. I had only been masturbating to porn almost every day up until that point. Started masturbating maybe when I was 16 or 17. After debating the idea for 5 months and trying to avoid massage parlour/escort websites and averting my thoughts about them whenever they occurred, I succumbed to my long-fought battle :"(, finally gathered up the courage to go, and lost my virginity to a masseuse last sunday. I went back on monday and had sex again with another masseuse. In both sessions, both blowjob and sex were done with a condom. I feel so ashamed and guilty to have done what I have done. I have no-one to reach out to in regards to this :( I cannot focus on anything else because that thought keeps recurring and haunting me. I almost cried many...

My gf's first sex was with me. So her skill is kinda clumsy. actually we are both clumsy we don't have experience that much each other. since we are in long distance relationship. anyways when I am about to cum and put my peen out from her inside. and try to cum on her mouth. but when she grabs my peen, It really kills my peen I mean it's too rough so I can't cum. even the way of her shaking my peen is hurt. so I prefer cum on her stomach. ​ Well actually this is not main, My worry is literally I don't really cum when we have a sex together. maybe i feel tired with my actions or not feel mood to cum. I really focus on making her feel satisfied. so I give up my satisfaction usually. Is this why it's hard to cum for me ? Or if i try to cum then i have to move it really fast and hard with missionary position for 10-20 mins maybe it sounds tiring for you. and i am not sure if this good for her. but she seems don't hate it. I doubted my peen. It always ...

No text found Submitted January 24, 2020 at 12:22AM No text found

For the last month my boyfriend has not really been into having sex OFTEN. We used to have sex maybe 3 times a week. I know that when he gets stressed he doesn’t want to which is fine but recently it’s been bothering me more. The last time we had sex was probably 2 weeks ago. I asked him about it recently and he said he hasn’t been turned on lately and that he’s stressed. He owns a business and is in the process of moving shops which I know is stressful because he has to do work and try to get the new shop ready by February. Clean, paint, electrical, moving. Am I just a little too concerned that he doesn’t want to have sex? Is stress really a huge factor? To me having sex is a stress reliever. TLDR: Boyfriend hasn’t been wanting to have sex and I’m concerned. He says it’s stress. I’m still concerned. Submitted January 23, 2020 at 10:44PM For the last month my boyfriend has not really been into having sex OFTEN. We used to have sex maybe 3 times a week.I know that when he get...

Married 5 years. We are under a lot of stress right now. He lost his job (due to no fault of his own) and we are going through our savings. I'm working, but it's not enough. We've been selling things and he's been going on interviews. A few look promising but nothing has come through yet. So yes, things are stressful. I get it. ​ Still though, it's not my fault either. And I do a lot to help our situation (from picking up extra shifts to listing and selling everything to looking after a lot of things we used to outsource such as landscaping). I also do a lot to help my husband, such as taking his suits to the dry cleaners to make sure they are ready for interviews, picking up new shirts for him, driving him to interviews, printing out his resume, etc. ​ So I do understand why he's stressed. But I dislike how he talks to me. He speaks to me like I'm an idiot. Or a dumb employee or something. If something goes wrong for him or causes stress and I'm a...

Repost -- last one got locked, I think because I forgot to include ages and genders. I (f, 37) do love my partner (f, 38). We are very good friends and I love her company and her brain. But I am not in love with her and, from my side, the relationship has been a difficult and sometimes lonely one for me during our fifteen years together. What particularly upsets and confuses me is that she seems to think we have the perfect marriage, and I don't understand why. Most online sources suggest that if you're feeling any doubt about a marriage, your SO will be too. But mine says things to me like "we get better every year, no other couple is as good as us" while cuddling on my shoulder, and I feel so guilty because I don't believe this at all. I don't know how she can think it. I don't want to hurt her, at all, but I am so miserably lonely being married to her sometimes that I want to kill myself. The thing is that there seems to be no alternative. I tried t...

My ex gf (of 4 years) and I broke up about a month or two ago and I have thought about it a lot and think that I want to get back together with her. She told me that she would be open to it so I'm not worried about that, but I cheated on her about a year and a half before we broke up and never had the balls to tell her. I obviously felt terrible about the whole incident and knew that it would never happen again, as it was just a dumb drunken mistake. I was at a party and met a girl that was all over me. I ended up going back to her place and she gave me head. The next morning, and for the next few weeks, I felt awful about it and wasn't quiet sure how to handle it. Long story short, I never ended up telling her and I broke up with her about a month or two ago because I felt that we were growing apart. She was very upset, but we ended on good terms. Recently I have been thinking I want to give it another try. But, I ended up telling a few of our mutual friends about the incid...

So I’m in a class with this dude I like- friend wise, I’m gay and he knows this and I’m pretty sure there’s no interest on either side. But I enjoy talking with him when it happens and if I wasn’t so awkward we probably could’ve been pretty good friends. We where close enough to have friendly banter in class and during school trips (I have friendly banter with most guys in my class so it’s not something special) but not to text or hang out outside of class with just the two of us (it only happened once and that was for something school related). I speak in past tense because the normal part of our studies is almost over, in a few weeks everyone will go their own way on internships or doing minors on other universities. Him and me will be going to the same new university, but we’ll be following different minors and it’s a big university. Anyway, we hadn’t really interacted much since before the christmas vacation because we are all busy with a big group project and he’s not in my gro...

Hi all, Long time lurker, first time posting. I’m on mobile so bare with me. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now and we just moved in together a few months ago. He’s my first real relationship and I love him dearly. Since I dropped out of college a few years ago I’ve had this overwhelming feeling of being lost and not knowing who I am. I often make excuses for myself and others and give up very easily when things become hard. I’ve had anxiety for many years which has been helped slightly by therapy but still consumes my behavior. I care too much about what others think of me and crave validation from others. I have low-self esteem and a huge fear of losing people. I believe this stems from childhood. I was a “problem child” in school, so much so that the school requested I be medicated. Instead of putting me on medication my mother would lecture me every day for hours anytime I did something wrong. I know she was trying to help me but it has made me into a...

Hi everyone. This is my first time posting here, but I'm curious as to what other couples have arranged regarding finances during an engagement. Should we be able to "tell" each other what do with our individual money? My [28F] fiance [34M] came home after work today and announced that he is buying a trailer tomorrow. He told me that he wanted to "let me know." Now, trailer aside, I was frustrated that I am not in on the decision-making process. I let him know that I wasn't sure how I was feeling about how to navigate purchase power before marriage. We are both adults with full-time well-paying jobs and have always been able to buy whatever we wanted unilaterally. However, we are recently engaged (two weeks ago) and now have to adjust to a life together. Some context: Fiance and I have been together for four years and have lived together on and off, traveled together, have two dogs together (who we both pay for, granted he pays more than 50% of the dog-c...