Very few people, even generally woke people really understand it so I have only told close friends. But the absolute worst part of asexuality is how you almost never meet another ace naturally. Initially figuring this stuff out completely isolated sucks. Especially before I was aware of the relatively small online communities. July 05, 2020 at 12:03AM

Dating is pretty much impossible and I pretty much feel isolated from my friends in certain conversations. July 04, 2020 at 11:57PM

I think you've got it wrong. Asexuality meansthe lack of sexual atraction. You see people, you can think they're attractive, you can get to love someone even, but you won't feel the urge to have sex with them. Aromantics are the ones that do not feel like they need romantic relationships, so love in asexuality is not something crazy. If you're aro/ace, you probably wouldn't think so much about falling in love with people and having a relationship, but being asexual doesn't mean you can't love, it has nothing to do with it. Hope that was helpful ^ July 04, 2020 at 11:55PM

Do you mind telling me where those communities are? I'm trying to make an ace master sheet with pretty much all information and put downs to "you just haven't met the right one yet" type arguements July 04, 2020 at 11:55PM

Frick yeah loom bands! Those are super cute! July 04, 2020 at 11:54PM

Ok? I was just clarifying. July 04, 2020 at 11:54PM

I mean just because you'd never heard it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I lived for 32 years not knowing I was AroAce but oh boy did I feel I was different to literally everyone else. July 04, 2020 at 11:53PM

Haven't used my AVEN account in years. It's still a good resource but I've found communities elsewhere July 04, 2020 at 11:52PM

It's alright dude. But if you never heard of it just feel free to ask questions about it or googling it instead of automatically going "that's not real" and invalidation other people experience. It's alright to admit you might not know or understand some things it just gives you more place to learn. Not many people know of intellectual attraction because it's often linked with platonic attraction but since I don't have that it's easy for me to make the difference x). You might not have it too which is why it could be hard to understand which is completely valid too just don't assume people are lying or making shit up. July 04, 2020 at 11:50PM

Reddit. But I’ve stumbled upon this website once or twice trying to find definitions of words etc July 04, 2020 at 11:49PM

I said watching but that’s not actually correct. I don’t enjoy the visuals, but I do enjoy the audio. Listening to pornography is one of the only things that can actually turn me on (at the moment, single and lonely in lockdown). My favourite dirty accounts have recently been removed from soundcloud and I’m very sad about it. July 04, 2020 at 11:48PM

I like the idea of an ace haven. I really like the idea of not having to watch how you behave incase you give someone the wrong impression (I'm bad for accidental flirting, I'm just being nice!). But not if it's enforced. Like don't force sex on people and don't force chastity either. Whilst not as bad as rape sexual repression makes you fucked up. I like the idea that the aces are protected but it should be their choice. July 04, 2020 at 11:47PM

? No I don't want segregation. I was just curious on how many people felt like me. And also say why are you going through my profile? July 04, 2020 at 11:45PM

Yeah I'm similar tbh I did most of my questioning stuff over there too because theres less chance of some aphobic troll getting to you when you open up July 04, 2020 at 11:43PM

Unpopular opinion. We're already the rarest of the rare, I don't feel the need to start segregating myself even more. I came here to be with my own kind after a lifetime of feeling ostracised and like a freak. I have Aesthetic, my friend doesn't, they're still AroAce to me and that's enough. This reeks of the post in here from a week ago where an AroAce went to a meeting and started attacking a Demi who was into women. I dislike the idea of constant segregation. I'm Aegosexual and Aegoromantic, so do I need my own forum now? Because I've never even seen another Aegoromantic let alone double Aego. July 04, 2020 at 11:42PM

I’m feeling something similar, I’m feeling aesthetic attractions for a lot of guys right now, but I’m wanting a romantic relationship with a woman. It’s confusing the heck outta me, lol. July 04, 2020 at 11:40PM

Whatever I've just never heard that term July 04, 2020 at 11:37PM

You can be attracted to someone's personality so it's not a huge leap as intellect is part of personality. July 04, 2020 at 11:37PM

"If I don't personally feel it then it must be dumb and could never possibly be me lacking the empathy to understand and respect other people's different experience" July 04, 2020 at 11:36PM

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Has anyone tried this before? Lockdown has lifted in my area and I'm resuming dating next week. I'm kinda dreading it after having spent the past 3 months in my house wearing loungewear, no makeup and not having to charm anyone but I'm looking forward to it at the same time. The efficient (ok, perhaps lazy too) side of my brain had the bright idea that fitting the first two dates into one evening thus saving me a lot of time and effort. Only have to get ready and do my makeup once, one outfit, paying for parking once etc. They'd both be drinks dates and the only downside I can think of is that if I'm enjoying my time with one guy, I'd have to restrict the date to two hours instead of spending the whole evening but there will always be the opportunity for other evenings. Am I missing any major flaws to this plan? Submitted July 04, 2020 at 11:50PM Has anyone tried this before?Lockdown has lifted in my area and I'm resuming dating next week. I'm ...

I spent the last six months on and off dating someone and it ended recently. I really liked him and I thought maybe this could finally be it. I could be with someone and just relax and feel secure in a relationship with someone who really liked me. We were having issues where he is really busy so I wouldn't hear from him or see him as often as I wanted. I also accidentally saw a letter he wrote to another girl (it was out in the open, I may have flipped a page though.) This isn't something I would normally do, I am not normally a snoop. But the few sentences I read really messed me up so I made a bad choice. Apparently this letter was old. These issues all spanned maybe two weeks? The rest has been quite good aside from this two week mess. So all of the above brought us to a point where we had a real conversation about where we were going. He told me he really liked me more than once in the past, so I thought it was going somewhere. But the conversation we had made it clear ...