Sorry in advance, this is pretty long. My boyfriend of three years is, objectively, a fantastic dude. He’s nice, smart, funny, and he’s been a positive influence in my life. My problem here is that sometimes he’s just,.. a little inconsiderate. It shouldn’t even be a big deal, honestly, but I can’t knock it from my head. For example, here’s some backstory first. My boyfriend works in an office security setting during the day, it’s a very laid back job, all he does is monitor cameras and occasionally stroll the halls of his office. He has lots of free time so he frequently texts/calls me. It’s no biggie, sometimes, but the other day was a little rough. I do some errands during my morning, calling the bank and grocery shopping and stuff. And I get a phone call from my friend, and she is absolutely losing it, she’s having one of the worst days of her life and I, being her best friend, talk her down and stay on the phone with her for an hour so she isn’t going to do something dangerou

I've been friends with this guy I met on a dating site for about six months. Since I met him, I've have one of those awful obsessive crushes on him, even though he told me pretty early on that he just wanted to be friends. A few weeks ago he got a boyfriend and hasn't been in contact quite as much and we haven't hung out in person in a couple weeks, so I'm not sure he wants to even be friends either (I've been getting mixed signals so maybe he's just been busy and/or too high to reach out? Hard to tell). Either way, it really hurts to be friends with him and I want to move on. What should I do? I want to stop following his social media and turn down any future offers to hang out so I can let go, but I'm not sure what to say or whether I should say anything at all. Should I be honest and say why I'm unfollowing him or tell him something vague or should I just wait for a while and hope we sort of fade from each other's lives and then unfriend/unf

Advice needed pls!! I met this girl on Tinder 2 years ago and she’s literally the girl of my dreams. Smart, funny, GORGEOUS, the whole lot. We went on two dates two years ago, and things sort of just fizzled out for a while. (We were both busy with school, I ended up getting a boyfriend for a couple months (I’m bisexual), etc.) We still texted from time to time, but hadn’t seen each other since. Well, last week I texted her and finally got the guts to ask her out again. She agreed and we went on a date last night. The date went really well, but one problem I’ve had all three times we’ve gone out is this super intense anxiety I’ve been getting around her. I’ve never had this issue before, I’m usually very relaxed and easygoing, but I guess I’m just so focused on trying to impress her, or I’m scared of fucking this up or something, idk. She’s told me she’s a quiet/shy person by nature, and after our date last night she actually texted me to reassure me that she does like me and not

Let me first say that I am not at all homophobic, even though I know not everyone will believe me. I'm not even straight myself, though I don't really identify as queer or have much interest in the 'scene'. Anyway, so: I started a new job this month. It's in a pretty young, startup, 'hipster-ish' company, most people there are pretty young and the atmosphere is very fun and informal, and I do enjoy that! There are 4 men in my team and one other woman. The woman seems nice but almost never talks, and one of the guys is apparently straight (has a GF) and is also nice but more on the quiet side. The other three guys are the team lead and two people with the same job as me, and they are all very openly and obviously gay. Which in itself again, is not a problem. The problem for me came in when we had the second afterwork event (essentially there's one every friday). So far they had just been mentioning a boyfriend occasionally. But suddenly as alcohol came

I don't really know where to post this, but I'm kind of freaking out right now. Even though it might be completely unjustified. What started as a little misunderstanding between us seems to be getting blown out of proportion by him. Quick backstory; where I live we have a laundromat in the apartment complex that all the tenants can use. It can only be used by one person at a time and you have to book an appointment to use it, either that or you can take another person's appointment after 30 minutes if they don't show up to theirs. Anyway, this guy lives door to door to me. Yesterday, I had booked an appointment to use the laundromat between 1pm-4pm. You can book appointments online, which I did earlier during the day. I got home around 1:00, grabbed my laundry and was on my way around 1:10. Then I meet my neighbor outside of his door, with a hamper in front of him. He asks me if I'm about to use the laundromat and I said yes so he said "oh, you go right ahe

I was with this girl (F20) for a year and I am (m22) , we have done a lot together, and I can honestly say to this day that I don't regret a single moment and I still love her more than anything. We are not together now but I will do anything to get her back, don't give up on what means the most to you. I've been on holidays and seen a bit of the world I thought I never would of seen. I have been to hospital and gotten over my fear of the place after my mother passed. I learnt to ride a horse which I never would of done without her. I have eaten things I never would of tried. This girl helped me so much and taught me to get out of my comfort zone. Don't ever settle for the minimum, aim for the best. TL;DR this relationship lasted a year, she did a lot for me and I don't regret a single moment, and people should enjoy what they have. Submitted September 28, 2019 at 12:15AM I was with this girl (F20) for a year and I am (m22) , we have done a lot together, a

Hi everyone, This is something that's been affecting me on and off since it happened and I feel very conflicted about. This past summer my best friend and I made a trip to visit my boyfriend when we first started dating, since at the time he lived far from me and she was kind enough to make the drive with me. His best friend was going to be in town at the same time coincidentally for work in his military position. During our visit, my best friend was sleeping in the living room each night. On our last night there, his best friend ends up sleeping over in the living room as well, away from my friend on the couch. The next morning when my friend and I are leaving and driving back home she tells me she's 99% sure my boyfriend's friend touched her/did something to her in her sleep. She half woke up in the night and caught him doing it but fell back asleep as she sleeps like a log, and in the morning found her button down pajama shirt completely undone with the exception of

My mom is not really a good person. She’s antivaxx, refusing to vaccinate my baby brothers who live with her. She thinks that everyone, including her husband, is out to get her. ​ A year ago, she began accusing her fourth husband (yes, FOURTH) that he was abusing her, when in reality, she was emotionally abusing him . She would call my grandparents and me, just to scream about how her husband is “such a horrible person and he should die!”. ​ The only reason she never divorced him is that my grandmother managed to convince her to patch things up with him and stay for the sake of my two baby brothers... but I feel like even then, one accidental action or comment could make her too enraged to listen. ​ And this is what happened with her first husband, her second, and her third. I even once told her to her face that she would divorce him by the end of the year, referencing the other husbands. ​ She kinda got passive-aggressive, saying that she FINALLY found her husband that she w

Throwaway, because yeah. So I [23M] used to live in a student house with my brother [28M]. A girl [21F] moved in, we had a thing for a bit less than a year. I moved out. She ended it a month ago. It's been hard for both of us. My brother was the one consoling her and I found out today he has developed feelings for her, and her... I don't know. She's conflicted. This is too much man. Who comes up with this shit? Feck my life. I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to deal with this. Tl;dr brother has feelings for my ex. I can't. Submitted September 28, 2019 at 12:24AM Throwaway, because yeah. So I [23M] used to live in a student house with my brother [28M]. A girl [21F] moved in, we had a thing for a bit less than a year. I moved out. She ended it a month ago. It's been hard for both of us. My brother was the one consoling her and I found out today he has developed feelings for her, and her... I don't know. She's conflicted. This is too much man. W

So basically i like this girl in class right ? But i pay no attention to her. She doesn't pay attention to me at all, but when i look at her for a couple seconds and look away i can see at the corner of my eye she is looking at me. This has happened 3 times . What do u think this means. I don't want to approach her becoz she seems really shy but Submitted September 28, 2019 at 12:22AM So basically i like this girl in class right ? But i pay no attention to her. She doesn't pay attention to me at all, but when i look at her for a couple seconds and look away i can see at the corner of my eye she is looking at me. This has happened 3 times . What do u think this means. I don't want to approach her becoz she seems really shy but

Hi Guys & Gals, I have this unique situation. I kinda have a crush on a girl at work. We interact a lot. Finally, I dare myself to gave her my phone number, she contacted me and we went to movie once… I’ve tried multiple times to ask her to go out again, she told me that she’ll be going in one condition, that if there’s some people going with us as well (She doesn’t want to date me at this time) So after around 2 weeks, she invited me her regular game night at her sister’s (she’s married) and some other friends. Last week, accompanied by the sister & brother in-law, she also helped me to get gift for my sister’s birthday gift. I did call her after that. I told her (again) I like her. But she told me that she’s already has a close friend, but it’s a not a real relationship yet. Somehow, (I could be wrong) I felt that she’s not telling me the truth? I can sense that her intonation changed when she said that…She lied to me? She's so close to her sister and the bro in-law. I

So I’m dating this guy and we’ve been seeing each other for 4 months. He has an extra property that I just moved into rent free, I’m renting out the extra bedrooms (3) and after paying him part of the property tax, utilities and internet, the rest is mine to keep.. maybe $500-700. To me, it feels like this isn’t enough and that I’m giving him a lot more than what he’s giving me. We have sex about everyday and he just doesn’t help me otherwise with my personal life etc. Is my head getting caught up or am I right? I truly don’t feel like I’m being greedy because he basically set me up to live with roommates. It’s far from town too and it’s an older house, not like a mansion. Submitted September 27, 2019 at 11:33PM So I’m dating this guy and we’ve been seeing each other for 4 months. He has an extra property that I just moved into rent free, I’m renting out the extra bedrooms (3) and after paying him part of the property tax, utilities and internet, the rest is mine to keep.. may

I'm always the one who gets ditched for someone else...relationship wise and friendship wise. I want to be the woman that a guy prioritizes above ALL women in his life. I am NEVER that girl. Even in terms of friendships and co-workers, I always get played. Someone will be nice to me briefly and then when they click with a coworker they like better...I get IGNORED and sidelined. It always happens. ALWAYS. What makes it so bad is that if they like someone else better that means they have to be NASTY to me. It happens so much that when I work a job, I don't talk to ANYONE, unless its work related. I don't even want someone getting to know me because I don't want them ignoring me for another coworker or associate they like much better than me. Submitted September 27, 2019 at 11:35PM I'm always the one who gets ditched for someone else...relationship wise and friendship wise.I want to be the woman that a guy prioritizes above ALL women in his life. I am NEVER tha

As I mentioned, this is a very superficial question and I will probably sound shallow but I'm trying to improve my own physical attraction that women have for me (if any) and would like the opinion from women on how much more weight I can lose, muscle to put on, and get cut to improve my looks and by how much I would be able to improve my looks by doing so. I promise this is not a troll post or a way to feel good about myself. Here are pics of my upper body. https://imgur.com/a/1uacfQg I'm 5'10'', 195 lbs., 37.6% Muscle Mass, and 24.8% Body Fat according to my Weight Gurus app. On a scale of 1-10 (5 being average in the United States) can you rate my body and also how much I need to improve to go up 1, 2, 3 or even 4 on the physical looks scale? I understand every woman finds different body types attractive, but I would like to get a general sense on how much I need to improve. Thanks. Submitted September 27, 2019 at 11:47PM As I mentioned, this is a ver

Totally random question, but how is it possible for a human to be asexual? I need clarification please. I mean, it's impossible for humans to reproduce asexually, so.....how? September 28, 2019 at 12:21AM

Arousal and libido have nothing to do with asexuality. Being sex-repulsed also has nothing to do with asexuality. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. So as long as you don't feel sexually attracted to any specific people ("damn I'd hit that" sort of feeling) then you're ace. Aces are very diverse otherwise, some with active libido (which sounds like you), some without, some with lots of turn-ons, some with few or none, some sex-repulsed, some not. September 28, 2019 at 12:20AM

In this situation it sounds like a joke, I would say something like that tbh September 28, 2019 at 12:15AM

I guess you’d be their Holy Grail? September 28, 2019 at 12:12AM

Do you guys have anything design or animation related? It looks very nice in there! September 28, 2019 at 12:10AM

I’m 17 and I figured out I was ace when I was 16 September 28, 2019 at 12:07AM

Ugh, I hate that. I have had a few rare experiences though when they message something like 'hey I'm not looking for anything serious, you wanna hookup?' And then I reply with a 'not my thing' and they are all 'okay! Good luck!' Those are the best interactions. Like I don't care it you are into that but respect I'm not and there isn't a problem September 28, 2019 at 12:04AM

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I met a man visiting from my favorite country on earth randomly in my city. We grew to be very close friends in the short time we had together. I thought he was SOOOOOO attractive and couldn't figure out why he would even be seen with me, but nevertheless I tried to keep my sanity while hanging out with him. Time passes, and he leaves to go back. We still message, and he tells me he misses me, cries when he has to leave me and got a little loose with the kiss emoji once but that is all. Of all these gestures I feel like he was just being a great friend. Anyway, I am very attracted and he is gone. I feel like I will ruin the friendship I don't even deserve if I tell him... And he lives in another country so... And he invited me to visit as soon as I could go... Nothing about this is rational. I know it's time to let go but I can't shake the feeling of wanting to be close. What is life anyway? 😂 Submitted September 27, 2019 at 11:31PM I met a man visiting from my