The one in which I encounter someone with whom I connect instantly; we sit close and, perhaps, hold hands. Last night we were riding in a car together. There is nothing sexual in the interaction, it is just a feeling of belonging, attachment, and attraction. Like being cold and putting on a favorite sweatshirt. The person is never the same, and, usually, it isn’t anyone I know. I wake up with a tinge of bliss, struggling to remember why I was so content. It’s an odd mix of hope and disappointment to realize that it was all a dream. Do you have such dreams? Submitted April 24, 2019 at 05:36PM The one in which I encounter someone with whom I connect instantly; we sit close and, perhaps, hold hands. Last night we were riding in a car together. There is nothing sexual in the interaction, it is just a feeling of belonging, attachment, and attraction. Like being cold and putting on a favorite sweatshirt. The person is never the same, and, usually, it isn’t anyone I know.I wake up wi...

The idea is you use their answer as the destination b'c it's most likely on their list of a good place to go. ​ But she said "give me a hint" so i replied with "it's cool and sexy, great drinks!" ​ She responds with "I don't know that I've been anywhere here that I'd classify as sexy.. tell me!" ​ So I had to totally come clean with my moves b'c it was building into something ridiculous. Date is still on. I'm scouring yelp. Submitted April 24, 2019 at 05:43PM The idea is you use their answer as the destination b'c it's most likely on their list of a good place to go.​But she said "give me a hint"so i replied with "it's cool and sexy, great drinks!"​She responds with "I don't know that I've been anywhere here that I'd classify as sexy.. tell me!"​So I had to totally come clean with my moves b'c it was building into something ridiculous. Date is still on. ...

So, as the title states: it's date 3 and haven't kissed. We talked on FB for over 6+ months and finally this weekend I was like, dude lets get coffee! So we did and totally hit it off. Sunday he came over and we did Easter eggs. Well, drunk Eviltemptriss invited him over to make dinner and sleep over, why? Uggh i'm such a hornball. Ok, he also doesn't drink. So, he's coming over tonight for tortellini's and a veggie and I think I'll pick up some bread... I haven't cooked for anyone in a long time and freaking out will that be enough? Where do people eat on a date at home? Like at the table or in front of a TV watching Netflix? Like should we do a peck when we first see each other? Since it's a sleep over, does that mean sex will happen, should I prepare? Should I buy condoms? How do I know what size? Will I look like a slut? Is there a variety pack of sized condoms out there; like tampon sizes? Small, Medium, large, Super Size me? OMG I'...

I met my girlfriend after a few serious breakups that led me to change both intentionally and unintentionally over a few years. For better and for worse. She had just gotten out of an engagement with a verbally and physically abusive man who had a cocaine problem. We have been together about 8 months now. We hit it off and spent a lot of time together but she began to push our relationship as if there were a time clock for milestones. I was pressed beyond my comfort zone and went with it because of my affection for her. My living situation fell apart and I lost a few thousand dollars to shit roommates right around the time she and I met and she offered to let me stay with her. I agreed with some resistance. I pay for food, help her with bills, and throw money toward rent while trying to get back on my feet. As long as we have been together she has gotten more possessive, angry, and irrational. She is dealing with shit from her engagement and I feel shes looking for a level of seriou...

My boyfriend and I are 28. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years and recently moved in together. He’s a pretty patient and easygoing person (Type B) whereas I’m more particular (Type A). Of course there are two sides to every trait, and my Type A nature benefits us in some ways too. Like all couples, we have differences in perspective or preference. When this happens, he will usually say something like “I disagree (with your perspective) but fine.” I tend to push the issue in an attempt to get him to understand where I’m coming from. This escalates the disagreement into a fight because he perceives it as me trying to be “right”. I truly just want to be understood (and I want to understand where he’s coming from) so I’m looking for more of a dialogue whereas he avoids conflict and just wants it to be over as quickly as possible. His general approach is “agree to disagree” but that doesn’t make sense to me when it’s an issue that will keep coming up and requires compromise. I’m n...

I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love with her, however I can not seem to open up... and I can tell it’s frustrating to her by the way she tells me it bothers her that she feels she’s the only one committed and the one that’s always sharing... At this point I don’t even know if it is that I’ve gotten too used to it, to the point I’ve became lazy to talk about myself or give any genuine personal opinion... it sucks, really, I need to communicate better... Where do I start? Tl;dr: I can’t be completely intimate with my gf and its frustrating her, I need to communicate better because I really love her... where to start? Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:02AM I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love ...

Long story short he broke up with me because we were incompatible in lifestyle and quality time needs. He has been in therapy for 3 months for working on anger issues and childhood stuff, mainly abusive dad. When he broke up with me, he said (in a very negative way, as if nothing good could follow) “mfuku44, I’ve talked about you at every therapy session I’ve been to.” And he didn’t tell me what it was. And now it’s eating at me. I guess my ego is just hurt, that seemingly therapy was just this “let’s talk shit about my girlfriend”. What do I do? I feel overwhelmed by these thoughts on top of recently getting dumped. Tldr - while breaking up with me, boyfriend made snide comment about how he “talks” about me to his therapy at every session. Now I feel confused and hurt and curious, and it’s eating at me Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:04AM Long story short he broke up with me because we were incompatible in lifestyle and quality time needs.He has been in therapy for 3 months...

TL;DR: I rejected a potential partner because of my insecurity of rejection and I cannot stop thinking if it was a right call or not. About two weeks ago, I went on a date with a dude (N) who checked all the boxes to my list of a potential partner. I have dated previously and most of the dates ended in rejection from their part (ex. ghosting) or me telling them that I did not feel like we connected. Despite this, I kept trying and placed myself out there. When N rolled around I was ready to give up dating for good and just accept the I am not dating material. But I decided to give this date a chance and to my surprise, it was the most fun I've been on. We sang to songs that we both liked and he was very respectful of my boundaries as well. After the date, we hugged goodbye and we went our separate ways. I went to sleep early not expecting to hear from him, expecting another ghosting, but he texted me to my surprise. I replied to his text the next morning and waited an entire da...

A few days ago, I [16,F]went over to my friend’s [16,F]house because it’s been a while since I went over to her house. Arriving there, I saw that she had also invited her boyfriend [16,M]and another friend. [17,M]It was fine since we all hang out with each other. We ate food, talked a bit about our future, and played monopoly. We were supposed to go home after monopoly but then we wanted to go watch a movie on Netflix. That’s when things started going south. Soon after the movie started, the couple started making out and only stopped to make the occasional comment. At first I didn’t mind it. But then after a while, I started feeling uneasy, like I wanted to vomit or just get out of their immediately. I tried to tell them to stop but my voice cracked and they just continued. I tried to focused on just the movie but I couldn’t. My other friend don’t really mind about them making out. My anxiety was at an all time high. It didn’t help that I was literally right next to them. TL;DR! My ...

Me (22) and my gf (23) have been together for 1.5 years, living together for about a year. Here is the problem: I can’t get optimal sleep with somebody else in bed. I’ve never been a great sleeper, even single, but it’s worse now. It’s not horrible, but far from perfect. I’ve tried earplugs, but don’t like that either. It’s a combination of sound (she often snores), movement (she bumps into me a lot) and just simply the thought that there’s somebody there who could wake up any moment. The last part makes it impossible for me to sleep in. When I wake up at 6-7, which I usually do, I want to continue sleeping because I’m still a bit tired, but knowing that she could get up anytime makes it impossible for me to fall asleep again. The only thing that seems to somewhat work is a kingsize bed with a lot of pillows in between so she won’t come close to me (learned from hotel stays with her). But we live in a small student apartment where that won’t even fit. I often, somewhat secretly, mo...

I'm not exactly sure where to begin with this because it has been a lot since day one. ​ For backstory, I started dating my current girlfriend about a month after she had broken up with her ex. They were dating for 9 months and they considered each other best friends before they started dating. He had moved across the country and essentially ghosted her for "mental health reasons" then broke up with her when confronted. Then they went no contact. I met her, we started clicking really fast and we both admitted that we had crushes on each other and wanted to date. It was pretty fast but I don't regret any bit of it because I just felt like she was the one for me. Then 1 month later, her ex starts messaging her again about how he's been having a really rough time mentally being across the country no friends etc yadda yadda and started heavily hinting about how amazing of a girlfriend she was and how stupid he was to have left that behind. Basically, he was trying...

When I was 15, a random girl at a party took a photo of me squinting my face and frowning because of the camera flash. She posted it on Twitter she was a popular senior from our school. Her friends all liked it 35 of them, and all laughed calling me trashy, ugly, and look like a 40-year-old. I feel so embarrassed why would people make fun of me unless I'm ugly. It was guys in the comments saying I look 40. Does that mean I have wrinkles at 16? Why else would people treat me this way unless I’m crazy ugly? It’s been a couple years since high school. I’m suicidal over my looks. I want a lot of plastic surgery. I barely leave the house. I must be so ugly; everyone will treat me this way. Tl;dr: photo online posted of me saying I look old thinking I'm ugly because of it Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:43AM When I was 15, a random girl at a party took a photo of me squinting my face and frowning because of the camera flash. She posted it on Twitter she was a popular senior f...

For reasons unknown to me, my cousin have apparently waged a war against most of our relatives, but especially my family. She is a single child to a single mother and has never gotten a 'no' in her life from neither my aunt or our grandmother, as she for her first ten years also was the youngest in our pack of cousins. These past few of months I feel things have just escalated to the worse. Back in january she effectively cut me and my sister out after telling us 'she gains nothing on keeping us around in her life'. This happened after one time, while out on town we met her at a club where she told me and my sister to 'talk sense' into her ex of a few months because he was 'torturing' her and other accusations. While we tried to get his side of the story, she repeatedly came over and yelled mean things into his face, in front of everyone, telling him he was ugly, worthless and a psycho. She was downright vile and I feel like a lot of times she is reall...

Hey guys, first time posting. Kind of confused and I just need help on what to do next. Never had this sort of thing happen before. I'll try not to ramble. Also, sorry for any formatting issues. ​ My gf and I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. We are pretty good together, and vibe on a level I have never experienced with any other woman. I love her to death and will do almost anything to ensure her happiness. She means everything to me and I try my hardest to be the best person I can be for her. We actually moved in together about a few months ago and I have been stoked ever since moving in. So far, I like our relationship, and try to make sure it only goes up. ​ Now a little background: At the beginning of our relationship, we had some issues. At the beginning she seemed like this carefree woman that didn't seem to mind me having a few close friendships with my female friends. I'm not the jealous type at all, and when she would seem cool with me having a ...

First off, I'm generally an overanalytical worrywart, so that's influencing all of this. I like this girl who lives in another nearby city and we've hung out the past couple times I was in town. She's extremely cool and we seem to get along really well but we haven't broached the topic of whether we like-like each other. I've been too scared to. We hung out about 2 1/2 weeks ago and when we parted we said "hey let's see if we can hang out tomorrow before I go back home". So the next day I messaged: "Hey so unless I decide to stay another night I'm probably heading out of town at like 7, let me know if you're down for anything!" This was on Facebook and she "saw" it but didn't respond. Only today did I realize that kind of sounds like "hey wanna fuck?" A few days later (11 days ago) I asked her an innocuous question which wasn't read. Tonight, on the advice of a female friend, I sent her a message...

Pretty much a girl i really like and i hung out all the time at uni and out, and one day we had a hard test in which i will admit i wasnt ready for, i failed it, but all was fine because i had another shot. Things pretty much went as usual and i was studying and she was helping me and she jokingly said that if i fail again she'll stop talking to me. Well i went to the retake before we had our spring break and was prepared that time and was actually confident i'd pass. And so right before she left for spring break we had a conversation and she basically said she liked me as well and that we will date. She left for spring break, i stayed. Then i get my grade and see that i failed again - in disbelief i asked to see my paper while on my way to the teacher i wrote to the girl and told her that i got a fail and am going to check my paper in hopes of finding mistakes and getting extra points for a pass, we talked a bit and in the end she said even if i go and still get a bad grade w...

There was a traumatic incident when I(17M) was in the fifth grade and it still affects me to this day(I got PTSD from this). Only 4 non family members know about it, as I like to keep everyone out of my past. Three of the people moved away so know there is only one person left who knows about it. We weren’t the best of friends, and she(17F) kinda found out about it accidentally. She used to treat me like everyone else, but recently she started to treat me differently. Whether this has anything to do with my past isn’t the problem. The problem comes when I tried to explain it to one of my friends(17M). He doesn’t know of the thing that happened many years ago, but I still tried to explain the situation about the friend who knows, while being super cryptic. So know he has the wrong idea, and I’m not sure how to fix the situation. TL;DR My friend(17M) misinterpreted something about me(17M) and I don’t know how to fix it. Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:55AM There was a traumatic in...

We've been together for a year now. When we first met, our sex life was incredible. She was freaky and always down, and we had lots of good sex. Over time, though, it started to decrease from multiple times a day to maybe 3-4 times a week, most being on weekends, and I've not been handling it well. ​ I've tried being more accepting for it, but it's frankly difficult for me. I have a high sex drive and I'm show affection physically, and I often feel rejected because she doesn't meet me with the same energy or try and give the same kind of love back. I've found myself telling her to hug me longer when we say our goodbyes ahead of a longer period without each other, because otherwise, she gives me a short hug that makes me feel like she doesn't care. We rarely make out, and our days consist of watching sitcoms until it's sleep time, during which she, more often than I'd like, turns down my advances because she's too tired. ​ I feel like she...

So I [18m] had my first relationship last summer when we connected through summer school. The relationship was absolutely perfect and I couldn’t have asked for anything better. And the girl [18f] I was with was also so perfect as well. There were no fights, arguments, or any negativity whatsoever, and 8 months in she called off the relationship saying that since she was going to the military (on June 8th) she didn’t want to grow the relationship anymore and she thought that if we continued, it would end in a huge breakup. She still wanted to be friends to which I accepted, but ever since then I’ve just felt nothing but heartache. I’ve tried to forget it or move past the relationship, but it was all so perfect and for it to just end with no warnings at all, just devastated me. And it doesn’t help that I still see her every day the way I used to. Idk what to do honestly, it’s just tearing me apart and I can’t think of anything but her. How can I get over it or what could I do? TL;DR...

Backstory: My boyfriend (25 m) and I (23 f) have been together for just over two years. We met in college right before he graduated, and have been long distance (about 4 hour drive) for 95% of our relationship. He comes from a well-off family with no divorces, while I grew up in a poor family with divorces in every couple in my immediate/extended family, including my parents’, which definitely screwed with my perception of marriage. A few months ago, BF told me he knows I’m the one and ask how I felt about getting engaged. I told him I wanted to wait a little, and since then, we’ve had multiple discussions regarding concerns, money, living arrangements, the whole nine yards. Overall he’s been super awesome about the whole thing. He told me to give it thought and we’ve talk about it often. Since his initial proposal, I’ve gone back and forth about how I feel. Whether or not I want to marry him is not the problem- BF has been by my side through some of the hardest years of my life, an...

Essentially the title - they wrote a letter and the recurring theme is “wow you’re all these great XYZ things. It’s your fault I’m in love with you” and it was a recurring theme (fault shifting) in our relationship, I’m supposed to be meeting them tomorrow because they want to be friends but I can’t move forward with any conversation without addressing all parts of the letter. This is the one part I just haven’t figured out how to communicate my disdain for that mentality. I never led them on leading up to our break up or after. This is the first time we’ve spoken in a year. How do I reframe this and explain that 1) this isn’t my fault & 2) it’s not right of them to think that? TL;DR How do I tell ex that it’s not my fault they love me? Edit: fixed typos Submitted April 25, 2019 at 07:00AM Essentially the title - they wrote a letter and the recurring theme is “wow you’re all these great XYZ things. It’s your fault I’m in love with you” and it was a recurring theme (faul...

I don't really want to post my age, but I'm in high school, and I have a few years to go before I graduate. I know the odds of anyone I know seeing this. I just want to be careful with what I put out on the internet about my personal life. What I can tell you is that 2 of my siblings are also in school. They're older than me and I have another one who's at college. I was the product of an affair. My mom had an affair with my dad. I don't know who my dad is. All I know is that somewhere along the line my mom and her husband (not my dad. I call him, Pete for this) got back together. My dad didn't want to raise a kid and I ended up here. Pete has always been good to me, but you can tell there's just. I don't even know. It's a feeling of weirdness between us. He's never been mean, but he's never been as affectionate to me as he has been to the other two. I don't know how to describe it. You'd really need to be me or him to understand wh...

I've known this woman for around 6 months, I was in kind of a superior position to her, we seemed to get closer and got on very well. She mentioned to me once briefly that she had a boyfriend, then completely dropped all mentioning of it almost immediately and would talk about only a 'friend' in any interactions fairly obviously involving him, which I found odd. Due to spending a lot of time together we got on well, and I could see she was flirting obviously and seemed very very interested. This went on for a while and I felt sort of continued to escalate. Every time we hung out it really did feel kind of like a date. But, I knew she was taken so I didn't act on it at all. There were other situational factors to that wouldn't have worked and I was unclear if she was actually wanting to leave her boyfriend or just looking for attention. I forced myself to think about it, decided it wouldn't work and started actively trying to cool down the interactions. For so...

And apparently just because a sense of the word exists doesn't mean you have to acknowledge it, huh? Anyway, the purpose of a dictionary is to describe what words mean, not to decide what they mean. Words mean what the users of those words decide they mean, and most of the people on this subreddit use it as being about attraction towards others. Whether any dictionary besides Webster wants to document that, is irrelevant. Though anyway, Dictionary.com's definition is shorter/more simplified, while I think Webster is trying to be comprehensive. Webster has Dictionary.com's 2 as its 3a April 25, 2019 at 07:11AM

Well the people who are sexually active can ask for calendars for Valentine's Day to make up for it XDD I used to keep a calendar but it just confirmed a loong cycle so I was like 'eh, honestly, if I suddenly eat everything in sight and feel like ze rigorous interpersonal activity, then I know it's coming.' April 25, 2019 at 07:09AM

Sorry its late where I am, still though my point using the actual language (a-sexual) still stands. Along with the fact that dictionary.com agrees with my definition free from sexual desires or sexuality And just because one source has an anomaly does not mean that you can use it exclusively April 25, 2019 at 07:06AM

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I dated a guy for about six weeks and I liked him a lot. But, there were some sketchballs stuff going on in his life and he was never around so I cut him loose. It was a very kind parting of the ways and we have chatted a few times since. It's been about six weeks or so since things ended. I am going to call him George, to make things easier. Over the weekend, George's best friend (I am going to call him Jeff) liked me and sent me a message through an OLD site. I replied to the message and said, "I am pretty sure you don't know who I am, but I know you." Jeff replied, was interested to know how I knew him, and we started chatting. George never mentioned me to Jeff which doesn't really surprise me because I didn't date George very long. But, while we were dating, George mentioned Jeff a lot and told me quite a few things about him, none of which was bad or negative. Another odd coincidence is that George wasn't my first brush with Jeff. I purchased a...