My cousin (18f) is telling people that my sister (24f) and I (27f) were abused and other lies.

For reasons unknown to me, my cousin have apparently waged a war against most of our relatives, but especially my family. She is a single child to a single mother and has never gotten a 'no' in her life from neither my aunt or our grandmother, as she for her first ten years also was the youngest in our pack of cousins.

These past few of months I feel things have just escalated to the worse. Back in january she effectively cut me and my sister out after telling us 'she gains nothing on keeping us around in her life'. This happened after one time, while out on town we met her at a club where she told me and my sister to 'talk sense' into her ex of a few months because he was 'torturing' her and other accusations. While we tried to get his side of the story, she repeatedly came over and yelled mean things into his face, in front of everyone, telling him he was ugly, worthless and a psycho. She was downright vile and I feel like a lot of times she is really just projecting. And then she started yelling at me to act my age??

The next morning I got a text from her going on about how awful I was and how disrespectful I am and that she doesn't want anything to do with me for talking to her ex like that (as if she didn't ask me to in the first place).

I blocked her off social media after that, Jan 20th, and now, last friday, she sent me a text. Simply just 'can you drive me to [location] today'. I replied, asking really? No apology for what you said? And all I got back was 'I am no longer mad at you' and then I was like yeaah no I have not forgot everything you said, and then I just stopped replying again.

Up until now, everything have just been me deciding to not bother more with her and ignore her. I hang out with her mum maybe once a week, as they live down the street from me and I just don't bring her up.

Come last night. My sister calls me and asks straight out 'did we get abused as kids?' ... Silence. I am like, wtf, no? What's going on? And my sister replied she had to ask if she have been that traumatized that she couldn't remember, because apparently now my cousin is telling people that she's no longer mad at us - but that she 'pity' us as we 'were abused' as kids.

Now this is where things turn dangerous. While we was never abused, and I can't even remember ever being grounded, let alone disciplined with anything but words of worry, my dad does suffer from PTSD and my sister is very sensitive to sounds and gets startled easily. Both me and her bruise easily. My dog will jump on my leg and I will look hurt enough for people to ask me if I am okay.

My dad struggling with his PTSD already blames himself for my sister being jumpy and I know he would second guess himself and our raising, and could possibly devastate him. This is not a thought I want him to get stuck in his head.

We know my cousin is full of bullshit and will lie and exaggerate to her own benefit, but other people don't. Last weekend my mum tried talking to her about some other matter, but resulted in my cousin fleeing OUT THE WINDOW and claiming my mum attacked and caused her to bruise. However, my mum had her phone record it so we know she is full of shit but still..

I have no idea what to do here. This isn't something that can just be ignored anymore. How do I begin handling this situation? My aunt doesn't want to acknowledge this, our grandmother jumps in her defense and believes every word this girl speaks and my parents are just hurt.

Tl;dr: Cousin is spreading lies about me and my family and has gone from being annoying to potentially dangerous.

Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:47AM

For reasons unknown to me, my cousin have apparently waged a war against most of our relatives, but especially my family. She is a single child to a single mother and has never gotten a 'no' in her life from neither my aunt or our grandmother, as she for her first ten years also was the youngest in our pack of cousins.These past few of months I feel things have just escalated to the worse. Back in january she effectively cut me and my sister out after telling us 'she gains nothing on keeping us around in her life'. This happened after one time, while out on town we met her at a club where she told me and my sister to 'talk sense' into her ex of a few months because he was 'torturing' her and other accusations. While we tried to get his side of the story, she repeatedly came over and yelled mean things into his face, in front of everyone, telling him he was ugly, worthless and a psycho. She was downright vile and I feel like a lot of times she is really just projecting. And then she started yelling at me to act my age??The next morning I got a text from her going on about how awful I was and how disrespectful I am and that she doesn't want anything to do with me for talking to her ex like that (as if she didn't ask me to in the first place).I blocked her off social media after that, Jan 20th, and now, last friday, she sent me a text. Simply just 'can you drive me to [location] today'. I replied, asking really? No apology for what you said? And all I got back was 'I am no longer mad at you' and then I was like yeaah no I have not forgot everything you said, and then I just stopped replying again.Up until now, everything have just been me deciding to not bother more with her and ignore her. I hang out with her mum maybe once a week, as they live down the street from me and I just don't bring her up.Come last night. My sister calls me and asks straight out 'did we get abused as kids?' ... Silence. I am like, wtf, no? What's going on? And my sister replied she had to ask if she have been that traumatized that she couldn't remember, because apparently now my cousin is telling people that she's no longer mad at us - but that she 'pity' us as we 'were abused' as kids.Now this is where things turn dangerous. While we was never abused, and I can't even remember ever being grounded, let alone disciplined with anything but words of worry, my dad does suffer from PTSD and my sister is very sensitive to sounds and gets startled easily. Both me and her bruise easily. My dog will jump on my leg and I will look hurt enough for people to ask me if I am okay.My dad struggling with his PTSD already blames himself for my sister being jumpy and I know he would second guess himself and our raising, and could possibly devastate him. This is not a thought I want him to get stuck in his head.We know my cousin is full of bullshit and will lie and exaggerate to her own benefit, but other people don't. Last weekend my mum tried talking to her about some other matter, but resulted in my cousin fleeing OUT THE WINDOW and claiming my mum attacked and caused her to bruise. However, my mum had her phone record it so we know she is full of shit but still..I have no idea what to do here. This isn't something that can just be ignored anymore. How do I begin handling this situation? My aunt doesn't want to acknowledge this, our grandmother jumps in her defense and believes every word this girl speaks and my parents are just hurt.Tl;dr: Cousin is spreading lies about me and my family and has gone from being annoying to potentially dangerous.