What's important in a partnership? I'm unsure.

I’m 30F, he’s 31M. We met OLD and have been together about 8 months. He’s kind, generous, sweet, and a good man. But I’m worried about our future together. He and I are very different in how we approach life. I like to get things done, be organized, have a to-do list, and make goals. I’m more financially aware and try to save for future goals. I also like to live life by traveling and seeing friends.

He’s comfortable with where he’s currently at. He’s messy and his life is a little chaotic. He doesn’t have good time management. He procrastinates and have a hard time getting things done. A few months ago, he was fired from his job for doing something irresponsible. He’s now looking for a new job, but he’s not tackling this issue with urgency. He’s spending his days doing a little bit of job searching and a lot of procrastination. He has clinical depression, that he’s getting treated for, which doesn’t help the job situation. I’ve spoken with him about various strategies to deal with his mental blocks, and he’ll agree to try them at the time, but when I go back to my own life, he gets sucked back into his own mind.

I’m at the point in my life where I want to build a life with someone that already has a stable one. But I don’t know if I’m asking for too much? This man is good to me. We get along so well. He cares about me and my needs. He knows I like things neat and tidy, so he always try to fix up his place a little bit before I come over. He listens to my concerns and validates my feelings. He’s the best man I’ve dated in a very long time. I’m not sure what to do. The way that he lives his life stresses me out, and I’m not sure if I can have a sustainable partner with how things are going. What’s more important? Pragmatic or romantic qualities?

Submitted April 25, 2019 at 04:08AM

I’m 30F, he’s 31M. We met OLD and have been together about 8 months. He’s kind, generous, sweet, and a good man. But I’m worried about our future together. He and I are very different in how we approach life. I like to get things done, be organized, have a to-do list, and make goals. I’m more financially aware and try to save for future goals. I also like to live life by traveling and seeing friends.He’s comfortable with where he’s currently at. He’s messy and his life is a little chaotic. He doesn’t have good time management. He procrastinates and have a hard time getting things done. A few months ago, he was fired from his job for doing something irresponsible. He’s now looking for a new job, but he’s not tackling this issue with urgency. He’s spending his days doing a little bit of job searching and a lot of procrastination. He has clinical depression, that he’s getting treated for, which doesn’t help the job situation. I’ve spoken with him about various strategies to deal with his mental blocks, and he’ll agree to try them at the time, but when I go back to my own life, he gets sucked back into his own mind.I’m at the point in my life where I want to build a life with someone that already has a stable one. But I don’t know if I’m asking for too much? This man is good to me. We get along so well. He cares about me and my needs. He knows I like things neat and tidy, so he always try to fix up his place a little bit before I come over. He listens to my concerns and validates my feelings. He’s the best man I’ve dated in a very long time. I’m not sure what to do. The way that he lives his life stresses me out, and I’m not sure if I can have a sustainable partner with how things are going. What’s more important? Pragmatic or romantic qualities?