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To the person who is always catching my eye, whether it may be that crazy cool Spider-Man mask of yours, or that punk rocker Nikki Sixx wannabe wig you can’t seem to take off nowadays, or just that cute bright smile of yours that I love the hell out of. Thank you for being you. Love, 2113 💗 Submitted April 09, 2019 at 05:21AM To the person who is always catching my eye, whether it may be that crazy cool Spider-Man mask of yours, or that punk rocker Nikki Sixx wannabe wig you can’t seem to take off nowadays, or just that cute bright smile of yours that I love the hell out of. Thank you for being you.Love, 2113 💗

In honor of my one year anniversary coming up with my boyfriend, (eek!) I'm gonna share one of my favorite moments. It was October of 2018, me and my boyfriend had been dating for 7 months at this point. we were slowly getting more comfortable with eachother as the months passed and it this point, I felt like I was ready. Of course, I wasn't going to force this beautiful moment and I just waited for the time to come. But I knew that when that time came, id be ready. We're both in band. We've been in it since 5th grade He plays the saxophone, I play the French horn. We spent every Friday, occasionally Thursdays for those Thursday night games, and almost every weekend at competitions together. plus the long 4 days a week practices. Sore arms, legs and lips were all worth it if i meant i could see him. The excitement and just the whole vibe of competitions and football games were so beyond me, I truly love the feeling. But nothing is better than the late night bus ride...

Is it wrong to wish for a love that doesn’t leave? Is it stupid to hope, even into your thirties, even in 2019, that there’s a lover for me that makes my heart race and makes me feel complete? Loneliness aches, echoing through me. Am I doomed to face the void alone? Am I immature for feeling like my youth fades and the cynicism grows like cancer? Is my despair at the lack of love in my life pathetic? I don’t mean to be dramatic but how can I not feel lost... Submitted April 09, 2019 at 06:17AM Is it wrong to wish for a love that doesn’t leave? Is it stupid to hope, even into your thirties, even in 2019, that there’s a lover for me that makes my heart race and makes me feel complete? Loneliness aches, echoing through me. Am I doomed to face the void alone? Am I immature for feeling like my youth fades and the cynicism grows like cancer? Is my despair at the lack of love in my life pathetic? I don’t mean to be dramatic but how can I not feel lost...

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So I[F22] went with this boy [M23] that i meet on tinder on a night date with him and 3 of his friends. They were super nice(they gave a lot of compliments), I had a nice time and all night long he was playing "hard to get" and his friends were giving him funnh looks all night long. We went to dance, he wasn't trying to get close to me, his friends were looking at us and often they talked in privately and they were cheering him up a lot and telling him that he was a champion or a lucky motherfucker. At 3 AM we started dancing, I kissed him and everything got hotter since that. We got to my place a little drunk, had sex and falled asleep. In the morning he just got up and almost left inmediatly like he was running away (without being rude). The date happened on friday and since that he hasn't texted me or something. So on Saturday i saw his instagram histories and I realized he had a girlfriend. I looked at the girl profile and i confirmed. He deleted the stories (or...

I’m a female in my early twenties who started seeing a guy in his early thirties a few weeks ago. We texted for a week or two before finally meeting. First date went well, ended with him kissing me/making out and some hand holding. Texted often after that. He planned second date before first date ended. Second date also went well. No sex, but definitely some heavy smooching. Both agreed wanted to wait for sex. Both initiating texting after date-about 50:50. Sometimes he text first, sometimes I but both keep the convo going. Talked about third date but couldn’t make definite plans due to busy schedules. Third date wasn’t really a date but more of a last minute hangout/wanting to see each other in the spur of the moment. We had both been busy and didn’t plan a formal date but still wanted to see each other. He came over and Spent the night, cuddling/spooning, kissing all night. Morning after I get a text from him saying he had a great time. I asked him out for a date the next week w...

Hi! So this is my first Reddit post, so sorry if it's a little weird. I'm still trying to figure everything out. If this is the wrong place to post this someone tell me and I'll fix it :'''0 But uh... Yeah! I need some like... Major help. See, I'm homeschooled by my mom. I take online classes and don't really get a chance to get out of the house much to talk to other people my age. So I've really only got the internet to help me out as far as socializing goes. And I've been really lonely and wanting to maybe start dating and looking for a relationship or something. So today I was like: "Hey I could just get a dating app." So I looked up how old you have to be to use tinder and the top result said 13+ so I got really excited. I signed up with my number after asking my mom, and got a shower and stuff so I could take a nice pfp. And I was looking forward to maybe finally at least starting to date, even though it's really hard with...

She is my friend. I admitted to her that I like her last Wednesday but I plan to move on. She already has a boyfriend but I have no plans on pursuing her.  I admitted to her that my feelings are so strong that I cannot bear ot anymore. I even told her that I did not want to have this feelings that I like her and I want to get over it. Its hard for me to move on before admitting it to her that I have feelings for her. Hence, that is the reason why I admitted to her because I want to let her know my intentions and she will provide me the space I need. I told her after I move on, I am still open to being friends again. She told me she needs to think about it in which I understand. In addition, she told me that I need to change my behavior (I am clingy to her) Now, whenever I see her in class. Both of us are awkward to each other. Both of us don't talk to each other unless its really necessary. I really feel uncomfortable whenever I see her and I feel like she also feels the same. W...

I have been needing to get over someone for 2 months now but i cant, i think about them constantly even though they definitely are over me. Please help me i hate this feeling. Submitted April 09, 2019 at 04:33AM I have been needing to get over someone for 2 months now but i cant, i think about them constantly even though they definitely are over me. Please help me i hate this feeling.

Why do y'all say stuff like "omG dOnT bOThEr aSkiNG Me HoW I bE dOinG CuZ iM nOt GoNnA AnsWeR" on your dating app bio And later complain saying stuff like "omG ChivARy iS DeAd" and then proceed with "WoMeN DeSeRvE ReSpEkT. FuCk FuCkBoIs" Like... What⁉️🙄🤦‍♂️ I'm so lost. Am I missing something? LMFAO Submitted April 09, 2019 at 04:34AM Why do y'all say stuff like "omG dOnT bOThEr aSkiNG Me HoW I bE dOinG CuZ iM nOt GoNnA AnsWeR" on your dating app bioAnd later complain saying stuff like "omG ChivARy iS DeAd" and then proceed with "WoMeN DeSeRvE ReSpEkT. FuCk FuCkBoIs"Like... What⁉️🙄🤦‍♂️ I'm so lost. Am I missing something? LMFAO

I will make this fast because it is a long story. A girl came up to me at the gym and gave me her number after saying " I don't know if you are single or not but...". We set up a date for coffee and it went well (I think). Tell her I had a good time and we should do it again. She agrees we meet at the gym and work out. At this point I'm still building up the balls to display interest physically but I think I made it clear that I was interested verbally. I think I am scheduling a third date. She wants to go out with some of her friends and I thought I was getting introduced to them. She told me one of them thought I was cute when she saw me. I threw a comment out there along the lines of "tbh I am not the cute one out of the two of us". After that she told me she was actually trying to set me up with this girl that said I as cute. This was an hour before the third "date" I didn't take this well. I didn't snap at her over text or anything j...

Gonna try to keep this as short as possible because I feel pathetic every time I post about my lack of relationships on this website. I’m just getting nervous because I’m about to graduate college and even after four years of this and four years of high school, I’ve still never had a boyfriend. I’ve gone on dates with a couple of guys but nothing has ever led to anything serious and I know the chances are even slimmer after graduation, which makes me fear that I’m honestly going to be alone forever. I tried the dating apps and the only ended up in disaster because I wasn’t interested in sleeping with anyone that I’m not in a steady relationship with (hence why I’m still a virgin as well) and I try so hard not to let this bother me, but I find myself still craving someone to be with even though I know I’m supposed to be working on myself. Submitted April 09, 2019 at 05:00AM Gonna try to keep this as short as possible because I feel pathetic every time I post about my lack of rela...

Me (19F) and my best friend (19M) have been friends since middle school. I had to move away from home because of college but we kept in touch. I've made many friends and I'm not lonely; however, we still often text and video chat with each other a lot. We also hang out every break whenever I'm back. Recently, I've started to develop feelings for him and want to do everything that's related to dating with him except having sex: cuddling, going on dates, kissing, and I even daydream about the two of us living together and adopting kids (he's transgender so we couldn't have biological kids.) He's the only person that I see myself with in the future but don't know what to do since the whole "I'm not sexually attracted to him" is unfair to him but I really love him and he's my ideal guy. Is it possible to become sexually attracted to him eventually? I do think he's good looking so maybe that could help? (Also, to clarify, I'm ...

I'm in college currently and there is a girl in my class that is really cute and smart and I would like to start talking to her, but I don't really know where or how to start. We have had basic conversation and talked about stuff with class but what is the best way to get to know her? Submitted April 09, 2019 at 05:10AM I'm in college currently and there is a girl in my class that is really cute and smart and I would like to start talking to her, but I don't really know where or how to start. We have had basic conversation and talked about stuff with class but what is the best way to get to know her?

You know, there are romcoms and stuff. The guy does this amazing insane romantic gesture to this one woman in the hopes of making her fall for him. The guy just understands her, in a way no one else ever has, and this is so meant to be, and every single cliche and other bullcrap you can imagine... And, get this, when the guy does all that, it works. I say you don't have to go to see superhero movies, sci-fi thrills, Game of Thrones, or action flicks with a bunch of car chases and explosions to see something that would never happen in real life. You just have to turn your eyes to the average low-budget romcom. And you know there is always at least one showing in your local theater (god knows why). A lot of internet talk, and RP or whatever always talk about how this happen in real life. That you come off as desperate, clingy, creepy, etc. and a lot of other types of backfiring I'm not even contemplating. Out of personal experience, I have to agree: no, doing that stuff does...

I (26F) met a guy who I liked a lot back in November and the feeling was mutual, BUT he wasn’t ready a relationship because he recently just got out of one. I’m taking care of some personal things (career-related) but I reached out in early February and he still wasn’t ready. Things are starting to look better on my end (and will hopefully be resolved by the end of the month). I don’t want to end up being a bother but I also want to shot because I think it could go somewhere and it could be really special. Do I try reaching out again? Do I just leave him alone? I’m having a hard time getting over this because of the “what-if” aspect of the situation. I also may end up working at the same place as him and I don’t want to creep him out. But my career is pretty important and if I was offered an interview/job I don’t think I can turn it down. Submitted April 09, 2019 at 05:25AM I (26F) met a guy who I liked a lot back in November and the feeling was mutual, BUT he wasn’t ready a re...

Kind of a long backstory but, please, bear with me. I’m gonna start off saying that we are each other’s first ever / first serious boyfriend/girlfriend; i don’t know if that makes a difference but thought it was worth mentioning. My girlfriend went on a spring break trip with her friends. Barely talked to texted me the whole time. The day she gets back home,we hang out but she makes up an excuse (she admitted it was an excuse) to leave me much earlier than normal and just kind of ignored me all day. Before she left she was absolutely OBSESSED with me, even to the point where she cried the night she left when we were saying bye because she was going to miss me. I confront her about her acting strange since she’s gotten back. Immediately get attacked, she says thing like “how is one trip going to change me” “i don’t even know what you’re talking about” and “i just realized i need to spend more time with me friends”. i told her that it’s great that she wants to hangout with her friends...

So I theres this girl in my class I’m tryna talk to and so far I only talked to her one time and it was for like a minute. Whenever she sees me she always smiles at me. One time I saw her walking back from class and I saw her and she was smiling really hard at me like she was going to laugh, and I said "Hey whats up?" and she kept smiling and looking at me. During my speech my friend said she was looking at me the whole time and smiling too, like really focused on me and facing me too. Another time when she was doing her speech whenever she would look at me she would start smiling after she finished a couple sentences. There is only a few weeks left in the semester and I literally can’t wait anymore, I just want to ask her to do something. But I’m just wondering if I should try to talk to her one more time and then ask next week or just shoot my shot after class. We follow each other on Instagram too, so maybe I could dm her over the weekend too and talk as well? Any advice...

I’m sure everyone else feels the same way. But life’s not that easy now is it? Submitted April 09, 2019 at 05:47AM I’m sure everyone else feels the same way. But life’s not that easy now is it?

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If you have been in a relationship for roughly 8 years and things have begun to change and transition (for both of you) how do you know when maybe the relationship isn't working anymore? (25F) has moved out and is wanting more independence and career focus. She is enjoying a new direction however the relationship is proving to be tiresome with the increase frequency of fights. (26M) is supportive and always has love for her, is on a different paced path and wants the relationship to work. The concern is maybe giving up on something that isn't currently enjoyable and fruitful, when it's just a time of change and adjustment (and waiting for things to find their balance and get back to the good place). On the other hand, it's exhausting and hurtful to continue the turbulent nature of the current interactions. Any insight and advice would be lovely and much appreciated. +we have had a fun relationship for 8years. We're pretty much each others first real loves. We ...

Feels like I can't be enough for my significant other. Even though my relationship is amazing and she gives me no reason to think she dislikes me, I still feel like I'm not enough. It's pretty hard to not have a single night where I'm not judging myself. The only time I feel happy is when I'm with her, but when we are apart I can't help but feel like she could be so much happier with someone else. I don't know how to get out of this self deprecating loop. I'm tired of not feeling like I can compete or like I don't deserve her. Because it's how I feel. I want to feel like I deserve her but I can't. 20m 20f Submitted April 09, 2019 at 06:51AM Feels like I can't be enough for my significant other. Even though my relationship is amazing and she gives me no reason to think she dislikes me, I still feel like I'm not enough.It's pretty hard to not have a single night where I'm not judging myself. The only time I feel happy ...

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(WARNING LONG POST) I (19F) have been dating this guy (19M) for about five months and in the beginning things were pretty good. It was a long distance relationship but both of us were willing to work with it. We talked on the phone and texted a lot, we would watch videos and listen to music online together, and he took extra steps to say good morning to me and let me know how much he cares about me. However, he suffers from depression and I do too. Over time, he eventually fell into a pit of not being motivated and empty. I was there for him and said I will wait for him to get better, but it did hurt me as he didn’t want to talk to me about his feelings and stopped talking to me as often as he did. I went to visit him for spring break but he was still in his mood. I thought that if I arrived then it would be at least a little bit better. Well, he showed up at the airport high which disappointed me. I’m 4/20 friendly but this was our first time seeing each other in real life and he sh...

wow this is identical to me April 09, 2019 at 07:14AM

It wasn’t my intent for that to be taken seriously. My apologizes. April 09, 2019 at 07:12AM

No incitement to violence please. April 09, 2019 at 07:11AM

You might be surprised. I’m 41 and have fallen in love for the first time in the last month. April 09, 2019 at 07:10AM

Thanks for your reply. At 32, going on 33 real soon, I don’t really see anything new unraveling in my life that will suddenly lead to clarity though. April 09, 2019 at 07:09AM

Aww :( I gotta say I'd really miss all the birds if I were to move anywhere too far. I've been kinda lucky really, I've always lived in rural places with lots of wildlife. April 09, 2019 at 06:57AM

You may be interested in our new wiki page, Experiences: sensual and aesthetic attraction , which has some quotes from people describing what sensual attraction is like / means to them. April 09, 2019 at 06:56AM

I’ve been in this situation before, and I know what it’s like to be trying to deal with all this detail and feeling. But I don’t think you can really say much more than you’re questioning. I think you’ve been living in your head an awful lot, while the real experience of getting into relationships gives you much stronger information to work with. I’m sorry; you’ll think that’s a bit of a non-answer, but it’s just too early to tell from what you’ve written. You just have to let your life unfold a bit more. PS - nerve wracking waiting for the replies to come through huh? April 09, 2019 at 06:52AM

I'm sex-positive... I guess? I like the idea of the act, it seems like it could be fun, and under different circumstances, hell yeah I'd do it. I just don't like my body, other human's bodies, we don't have androids or furries or aliens... you get the idea, I hope. Love the mind, hate the bod. There was a partner, years back, that I was okay with the thought of being intimate with -- just the one. Long story short we parted ways, mutually, wished each other the best. No one before or since has hit me with the right personality since. Edit: I'd be okay with it in a... learning kid of sense? Just to experience it, see what my mind does with that information. I'm also okay with the thought of one-sided pleasuring my partner, absolutely hate the idea of someone going down on me. April 09, 2019 at 06:35AM

I crave physical contact with another person. I guess it's different for everyone, but for me it's about that contact happening with everyone's clothes on, and with it not being a prelude to sex or anything closely related to sex. So, cuddling, hugging, sitting closely. An intense feeling of wanting to hug someone, is how I generally know. It's not always linked to romance, either. I guess by asking yourself if you feel like you want to hug or cuddle with another person? There's probably other sensual acts that people enjoy, i would look at what those are and work out whether you feel attracted to do those with someone. But, it's different for everyone. Hope that all helped. April 09, 2019 at 06:28AM

Not anymore. I used to live in Glasgow (not exactly surprising I didn’t see an abundance of wildlife) and then in Sweden, where I saw the only long-tailed tit I’ve ever seen (and only because we were setting up mist nets for the purpose of catching birds for ringing). But now back in the Aus so no chance of seeing one anymore! Appreciate all the tits for those of us that can’t! 😅 April 09, 2019 at 06:23AM

Are you in the UK? Where abouts? April 09, 2019 at 06:17AM

Wow, how lucky! Well, I think so. They are the cutest and I only saw one once in a forest! April 09, 2019 at 06:16AM

Yeah... Long tailed tits, if they're in your area, loovvee fat balls, they come in as groups of 6+ and devour them like they're gonna be gone tomorrow April 09, 2019 at 06:13AM

We sound so much alike! I tried telling my bf this though and while he claimed to understand, he sometimes guilts me into sex when I'd rather just cuddle. He said he understands but also thinks I just don't know what I like etc. If you're ok with having sex at the same frequency he wants then I think telling him will be helpful (but be careful with saying you don't get physical pleasure bc guys are so sensitive about that...) But if youre trying to say that want less sex (like I did,) just be prepared for it to maybe not work out as well as you'd hoped. I think if you care about him though it's worth it to be honest, especially since there is some aspect of sex that you enjoy! April 09, 2019 at 06:13AM

You see long-tailed tits every day?? But I’m always happy to see the common ones, they’re still cute! April 09, 2019 at 06:12AM

No this is wonderful, thank you so much!! April 09, 2019 at 06:03AM

Obviously they shouldn’t actually do that. April 09, 2019 at 05:50AM

swift throat punch should do the trick Great way to land yourself to jail. April 09, 2019 at 05:50AM

They are probably just as common as other nightmares. Idk dreams are always a bit odd anyway, the fear of being assaulted or raped is legitimate it makes sense to have nightmares about it. April 09, 2019 at 05:05AM

Repulsed but curious, oddly. My primate brain says EW NO WHY WOULD I WANT THAT EVEN NEAR THAT, GET IT OFF GET IT OFF but my science brain is wondering how it would feel and affect my personal neurochemistry. So. It’s a bit wonky. April 09, 2019 at 04:53AM

maybe 3 or 4 ;D April 09, 2019 at 04:51AM

Yes. And I misinterpreted it as sexual for a stupidly long time. April 09, 2019 at 04:27AM

Some people would take precautions but some won't.... no one would know it's a gamble. Also I don't wanna feel the hollowness after one night stand either. April 09, 2019 at 04:25AM

True, thanks for adding it! April 09, 2019 at 04:24AM

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Anybody else here with experience dating in San Francisco? I moved here for work about 18 months ago, and also spent much of my childhood in then Bay Area. While there’s plenty that’s wonderful about the city, dating has felt like a distillation of many of the things I find most superficial, soulless, money-oriented, and confounding about SF as it currently is. I’m on the apps, and match with about 15-20% of the women I like/swipe (30, male, tall, decently attractive, lawyer job). Of those, very few turn into first dates. Of those, I’ve had zero “relationships” of note besides one girl that I dated about eight weeks before we realied we have completely different priorities and goals. What’s irritating isn’t the numbers game, it’s the consistently uninteresting/incompatible quality of the matches. I’ve dated in New York and Boston in my twenties, and it was nothing like this. Submitted April 08, 2019 at 09:22PM Anybody else here with experience dating in San Francisco? I moved he...

So my first date was Saturday. Which we have talked over a month.he picked me up and we went to an event however that event was in another state a couple hours away. I thought we had a good time since we spent over 10 hours together. We did not end up getting back to my place till 3 am and since he stayed in another state as well i let him stay to get some sleep.it was rather weird there was no touching of any kind which i wasnt expecting it to be expect maybe a peck or a hand hold there was nothing. I will say he was the prefect gentleman. He hugged me when he left texted me he had a great time and then radio silence. I asked him what it was never any response. Dont get me wrong he was not gods gift to woman however he was a sweet guy . i did text him to tell him i had a great time as well. Im more confused than anything. Submitted April 08, 2019 at 09:19PM So my first date was Saturday. Which we have talked over a month.he picked me up and we went to an event however that even...

I feel like I've been heartbroken my whole life. In every other area of life, I've done okay. I have lots of good friends. I'm a good mom. I did great in college (and even just received a fellowship for grad school). I own my own home. My job isn't super prestigious or exciting, but I'm good at it, it pays the bills, and my coworkers love me. But dating...dating has been a constant source of agony for me. I've never had a healthy or successful long term relationship, but God knows I've worn myself out looking and hoping for one. What this means is that all of my twenties and thirties so far have been wasted on unhealthy, painful or unsatisfying relationships. I don't deny I am the problem. Obviously I am. I'm the common factor. So how can I just stop wanting it? How can I stop being attracted to men and craving their desire? How can I stop hoping that I might one day "get lucky" and find someone to be with? It is obvious at this point ...

*TL;DR:* Love my boyfriend of almost one year very much (we've known each other for about 4 years professionally before dating). He got insecure about my new job, got very drunk at my birthday dinner, broke up with me, and called me a bitch, only to instantly regret it, ask if its over and proceed to make grand overtures of love and devotion for me to take him back. What do? I'm not getting any younger, and I worry hanging on to my pride and my high horse here will leave me alone in the end. But, is calling someone a bitch how you talk to someone you love? Is it a precursor to more problems down the line? Is this settling, or is this the work that you need to do to have a relationship? ​ Some context: after a rocky career road, and getting through a really tough personal year in which my partner stood beside me, (from a string of bad luck/rock bottom/debt creating crises to now being on track to be debt free by this May, all in the span of a year and a half). I've gotten...

A male friend who often complains to me about being single but has no shortage of sex partners, just told me he sees these partners for dinner, movies, drinks but does not considerate it dating as he does not see long term potential with these women. Were both in our 30s. As a single woman looking for LTRs, this was startling because I wonder how common it is and how often I meet that criteria for other men. So is this really common? Submitted April 09, 2019 at 12:38AM A male friend who often complains to me about being single but has no shortage of sex partners, just told me he sees these partners for dinner, movies, drinks but does not considerate it dating as he does not see long term potential with these women. Were both in our 30s.As a single woman looking for LTRs, this was startling because I wonder how common it is and how often I meet that criteria for other men. So is this really common?

32yo F having to get back into dating after 3 years of a manipulative, lie-filled, broken promise soaked relationship. I want my “partner” as everyone does. I want kids and marriage. I’ve got my life all sorted out. I own a house, I have a dog, good degree and a career. I’m not ready to date yet but what do you do to stay out of those situations where it’s just a hook up or not clean cut situation. It’s an internet world and I tend to meet people more from online than in real life (everyone I know is married and I work in a heavy female populated profession). I hate when I waste time seeing or dating someone only for them to say they don’t want a relationship or just want to hook up blah blah. In the same breath, I don’t want to sound like the baby/marriage hungry stereotypical female. I want the cards on the table like hey this is what I want so don’t waste my time but without sounding like a psycho. I just wasted 3 years with someone who supposedly wanted to settle down and do all...

This might end up being a rant or just a story i want to get off my chest. Sorry in advance. This just happened this past weekend. Me: Mid 30s living on the west coast. Never married Her: 30 yr old living UT. Previously married. Met through dating app fall of last year and been chatting(text, phone, video chat) She originally lived on the east coast when we first started conversing but had moved to UT when her family had bought a motel a few months back. For the most part, things had been going well. Conversations and all that have been good. We had been talking about meeting up and finally did it this past weekend. I flew to her state about 3-4 hours away. There was a somewhat tense situation a month or two ago where her family wanted her to be with a guy of a certain caste(we are both indian) and she had gotten distant to the point where i asked her if she still wanted to talk. things ended up going back to normal where we talked normally and she wanted me to come see her.. ...