but, by definition, they wouldn't be bisexual. ace people can tell their potential partner that their ace because it lets them no that the sexual attraction isn't mutual. that's why we use it. if a homo romantic only wants to date people of the same sex, they can still call themselves gay, while sleeping with whoever they want if they aren't in a relationship. I think SAM is potentially useful for anyone, but the lgbtqia+ community is so exclusionary and contentious. I don't think allo people are ready for it. I don't think they ever will be. August 03, 2021 at 12:05AM

"but you're married?? How does he feel about it? Aren't you depriving him ?!" Bruh... August 03, 2021 at 12:02AM

No problem, if you have any questions don’t be afraid to ask. August 03, 2021 at 12:02AM

wth?? what kind of logic is that? just because someone is ace that doesn't mean they hate all things romantic. and why "shut you down" because u ask if wonder woman is bi? i don't see anything wrong with that. August 03, 2021 at 12:02AM

I desperately wanna be out to everyone so they stop assuming things or pointing out 'cute boys and giggling but at the same time whenever I fell like I'm actually going to try and do it I get nauseous because I'd have to explain everything about it , and I already came out as pan and I feel like they'd judge me for getting my sexuality wrong or something August 02, 2021 at 11:58PM

My sexuality is personal, and none of anybody’s business. yah i've never really seen the appeal of coming out. it's stressful and it feels like you have an obligation to explain everything. August 02, 2021 at 11:58PM

Source: I painted my nails the bi pride colors the last week of school (I’m a teacher) and no one said anything to me. August 02, 2021 at 11:56PM

Well it does look like some sorta gay flag, but no, I don’t think most cishets would recognize it. August 02, 2021 at 11:55PM

It seems to me that most people who aren’t part of the community (or allies) don’t know most pride flags. August 02, 2021 at 11:55PM

This actually helps a lot. Thank you. I would consider myself sex-disinclined. But yea again thank you, I’ve never gotten a serious response on anything so fast, and never anything that helped this much. I’ll keep trying to figure myself out, but this helped a whole lot. Ty. August 02, 2021 at 11:50PM

what. August 02, 2021 at 11:50PM

Nope, agender is on there too. August 02, 2021 at 11:50PM

It's not a bad idea to talk to a doctor to make sure you're not dealing with a physical problem. There might be something medical going on that can be treated. After that it could be a good idea to talk to a therapist. August 02, 2021 at 11:50PM

As far as I've been able to tell, there isn't too hard a line. same! they seem so similar sometimes i just give up and decide i won't rly try and seperate the two August 02, 2021 at 11:49PM

IDK. but i don't think they're that common. So many of them "grew out of it". and the ones that haven't use it in ways they're not supposed to. tbh, I don't even see the point of allo people using it. ace and aro people use it to describe the kind of relationship we want. allo people don't have to do that August 02, 2021 at 11:49PM

i guess that makes a bit more sense when it comes to friendship vs partnership August 02, 2021 at 11:48PM

Why being an asexual is such a big deal in the first place? August 02, 2021 at 11:46PM

I would agree if allo people knew how to use it with respect. but too many end up invalidating it at some point. I'm sick of seeing it August 02, 2021 at 11:45PM

That's was the main reason why I decided to share. I know the negativity and aphobia impacting us. I'm so glad that it made your day. August 02, 2021 at 11:44PM

Asexuality means little to no sexual attraction. Since you have sexual attraction, I don’t think you’ll be considered asexual. However, it’s all about how you scale sexually. The scales are sex-favorable, sex-indifferent, sex-disinclined, and sex-repulsed. How you’re describing your sexual experience is possible sex-indifferent or sex-disinclined. Definitions of the scales: ~ Sex-favorable: I love/like having sex. ~ Sex-indifferent: I’m neutral when it comes to sex. ~ Sex-disinclined: I don’t care about sex; I don’t really like sex. ~ Sex-repulsed: I hate sex; sex is disgusting, I don’t want to do it. Allosexuals can scale, it’s not just for asexuals or aromantics. There are allos who love sex, there are those who are neutral, there are some who don’t care for it or don’t like it, and then there are those who hate it or find it disgusting. However, this does not mean you can stop having sex. You can still have sex if you want to, being indifferent or disinclined are just how y...

yup, i'll most likely never tell anyone because i know people will either be weird or dismissive about it August 02, 2021 at 11:40PM

maybe they ment agender and used the wrong word? August 02, 2021 at 11:38PM

Is an an urge to have sex, or an urge to connect with someone, and the only way you know how to do that is through sex? August 02, 2021 at 11:37PM