It depends on each individual. Me for example, I only get romantically connected with someone over a long time of friendship. In my case it takes some time to feel something for the person and only after this time (sometimes years) happens I may feel attracted to said person. But this is my personal experience, every person is different February 06, 2020 at 12:04AM

He's told me that she's really been wanting to meet me and I don't know what she's expecting. I'm thinking I'll ask him what he's told her about me.. I'm worried that she wont like my quiet personality (most people don't), or will be put off by how unattractive I am (most mothers would want a pretty gf for their son, right?) (I'm the first girlfriend he's had- we're in the 20-22 age range) Are these worries at all realistic or am I just making a bigger deal out of this than it is..? Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:58PM He's told me that she's really been wanting to meet me and I don't know what she's expecting. I'm thinking I'll ask him what he's told her about me..I'm worried that she wont like my quiet personality (most people don't), or will be put off by how unattractive I am (most mothers would want a pretty gf for their son, right?)(I'm the first girlfriend he's had- we're

I had a pretty intense texting relationship with a guy from school. He asked me to hang out some time but every time he'd ask I was working or exhausted/pms, or just not up to it. But we'd still talk a lot in text. After a few weeks he started being kinda rude in text and eventually I invited him out at night at a restaurant and he said no. I think I invited him out to make sure he knows I wanna see him. And to make sure he didn't think I wanna have sex or something I said "yeah we can hang out n be friends." (which he didn't like, but I've never even kissed a guy so I was nervous n he doesn't know I've never kissed anyone etc.). He insulted my personality and I said he was being a jerk and I don't wanna see him. He commented on me being childish, not talking enough, even dumb (jokingly I think). I'm still upset about it. I texted him a random question a couple weeks later and he just ignored me. Our texts were playful and fun. I miss

I mean, I get it. College can be very busy. But a lot of people on here have said that if they like you, they'll make time. And I'll match with these girls on tinder or meet them through a mutual friend and I'll talk to them for a while to build a connection. And then everytime (this has probably happened 5 times in a row now) they say "sorry, I have a busy schedule haha". I mean with some of them it's not even asking for a real date, just a simple hangout. It's really killing my self esteem and I don't know what the cause of this is other than just I'm not a fun or interesting person Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:09PM I mean, I get it. College can be very busy. But a lot of people on here have said that if they like you, they'll make time. And I'll match with these girls on tinder or meet them through a mutual friend and I'll talk to them for a while to build a connection. And then everytime (this has probably happened 5 ti

This is me: https://imgur.com/a/IHOK362 I’m 30, 5’6M , engineer, coming out of a rough 6 year relationship and need some encouragement. Besides my height(which continues to worry me), I wonder if I’m attractive enough for most women. I’m fit and getting muscular, lift a lot and run, wonder if I should try to get more muscular before dating again or if I’m good to go where I’m at now? Think I’m at 20% body fat now, but I could get down to 12-15, although I would rather get stronger and more muscular first as I don’t want to appear smaller. Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:15PM This is me: https://imgur.com/a/IHOK362I’m 30, 5’6M , engineer, coming out of a rough 6 year relationship and need some encouragement. Besides my height(which continues to worry me), I wonder if I’m attractive enough for most women. I’m fit and getting muscular, lift a lot and run, wonder if I should try to get more muscular before dating again or if I’m good to go where I’m at now? Think I’m at 20% body

This has been on my mind for a little while, I think I’m just insecure but would love any advice from anyone who has felt similarly. My new-ish boyfriend and I are planning a trip at the beginning of March to go to the beach together. I’m thinking of this as a pretty major step in our relationship in terms of getting more serious with each other. We’ve been dating for about 5 months; we are both in our mid-20’s and have full time jobs, so we really only see each other on the weekends. I really really like this guy, I think he’s totally amazing and I always look forward to the time we spend together. He’s mature, sweet, considerate, and treats me with respect; it’s probably the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. However, as this trip is approaching, I’m starting to get really nervous about spending so much time together for the first time. I’m a little scared about just sharing the same space with him with little to no privacy for an extended amount of time— like will he thin

I guess what i am wondering is when do you know the time is right to ask someone out? I have a friend [F,16] , I like her a lot but i have no idea what to do and im not that confident she feels the same way about me. A lot of my friends think she does but idk i perceive myself as a pretty meh person so i assume she doesn’t but from what they said I guess i can see why they think so. P.s her friends always make remarks about us while we are walking together etc. Does this mean anything? -[M,16] Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:27PM I guess what i am wondering is when do you know the time is right to ask someone out?I have a friend [F,16] , I like her a lot but i have no idea what to do and im not that confident she feels the same way about me. A lot of my friends think she does but idk i perceive myself as a pretty meh person so i assume she doesn’t but from what they said I guess i can see why they think so.P.s her friends always make remarks about us while we are walking to

A friend of mine recently caught me off guard with something he said and it has me wondering if this is a normal thing to say to a friend or if he's developing feelings for me? He recently told me he had a dream about us hanging out but then went on to say that in this dream we were in his childhood home and that our families were meeting and having a great time. To me, it seems like an odd dream to have/mention to a platonic friend. Thoughts? Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:29PM A friend of mine recently caught me off guard with something he said and it has me wondering if this is a normal thing to say to a friend or if he's developing feelings for me?He recently told me he had a dream about us hanging out but then went on to say that in this dream we were in his childhood home and that our families were meeting and having a great time. To me, it seems like an odd dream to have/mention to a platonic friend. Thoughts?

This guy from Tinder I had him on snapchat for two years and I put up pictures quite often. He's really dumb (don't ask why I was talking to someone like that) but I had put up unfiltered pictures of me with short hair and without makeup which he had seen, I also used to put pictures of me going clubbing/on a night out/to parties which he used to reply to with heart eyes or the eyes emoji. One of the last pictures I had put up on Snapchat was of me dressed up with coloured contacts, false lashes and curly long hair and he had replied to it with an eyes emoji. When I went to meet him I wasn't dressed up, I had bangs, my normal eyes (no coloured contacts) and no false lashes. He looked disappointed and unimpressed when he saw me. Was he expecting me to look all dressed up? Because he had already seen me at my worst (unfiltered no makeup pics). I've met up with 9 guys before and all asked to see me again, but I was dressed up with contacts and curly long hair when going

I met this girl a couple of months ago and ever since then I’ve really liked her. She’s like my sunshine, I need her, ya know? I really want to ask her out and be with her but I’m worried I’ll ruin our friendship if she says no. Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:31PM I met this girl a couple of months ago and ever since then I’ve really liked her. She’s like my sunshine, I need her, ya know? I really want to ask her out and be with her but I’m worried I’ll ruin our friendship if she says no.

So this is kind of a blurr... TLDR at the end A friend (f, let's call her Laura) I have has developed feelings for another friend of mine (m, let's call him Adam). Adam is happily together with his gf for 7 years. Laura knows that. Adam to my knowledge has never been rejected, and therefore pretty sure doesn't know the pain it can bring. I am not biased by having more than platonic feelings for either of them. When I thought I should give Adam a heads up that she might "confess" her feelings he let me know that if she does he is not planning on letting her down easy. That probably would be devastating for Laura and I feel like I should help to prevent that. Being that I am the one, that has the best information out of first hand. Because Adam is a very stubborn person and tomorrow (if she tells him her feelings it will most likely be tomorrow) I think the way to prevent damage is to tell her he is not interested and that for the sake of not getting ripped apar

Ok guys, I've made a few comments on other topics before about how I'm fond of a co-worker. Quick Recap: I believe we had a bit of a connection, was afraid to make a move, after a while felt I was being friendzoned, we cut a bit of our daily contact afterwards, starting speaking more again but I now feel she just treats me as any other co-worker (well, maybe a bit closer to me still). Since she is now leaving to a new job in another company, I asked her if she wanted to have dinner with me this weekend which she said yes. Now for the elephant in the room: How can I hint that I see (want) this as a date and not just hanging out as friends in a subtle way? (I remember that u/youdneverknowit had a similar situation, how did that go man? :P) Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:35PM Ok guys, I've made a few comments on other topics before about how I'm fond of a co-worker.Quick Recap: I believe we had a bit of a connection, was afraid to make a move, after a while

I haven’t exactly started dating this new girl, but i’ve arranged to meet up with her and i intend on pursuing it a bit. Problem is, she looks so much like my ex. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with that. I don’t see it as a dealbreaker as my type is brunettes so it’s bound to happen but is a bit unnerving Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:37PM I haven’t exactly started dating this new girl, but i’ve arranged to meet up with her and i intend on pursuing it a bit. Problem is, she looks so much like my ex. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with that. I don’t see it as a dealbreaker as my type is brunettes so it’s bound to happen but is a bit unnerving

I met a girl who is checking every checklist that I have & she's the closest that you can get to a 10 base on her personality, looks, charisma, humor, goals, etc. Basically everything that I've every desired from a girl. I'm [23 M] she's [19 F] we met at campus. Ever since day one we were both checking each other out as we crossed paths so after the 3rd of it being this way I approached her. We kinda talk but it wasn't going anywhere until we actually hanged out at the library & we just click instantly like zero dry conversations. She was very touchy & attentive to everything I had to say. But there was one thing she didn't like about me which was that I didn't respond to her within 4-8 hour time span. Why? Honestly I've been on a self improving journey for the pass 2 years that I really hadn't persue girls like that so I was still in that just get laid & get out mindset. She got mad at me for not texting to her one day & every

Ok guys, I've made a few comments on other topics before about how I'm fond of a co-worker. Quick Recap: I (32M) believe we had a bit of a connection, was afraid to make a move, after a while felt I was being friendzoned, we cut a bit of our daily contact afterwards, starting speaking more again but I now feel she just treats me as any other co-worker (well, maybe a bit closer to me still). Since she (30F) is now leaving to a new job in another company, I asked her if she wanted to have dinner with me this weekend which she said yes. Now for the elephant in the room: How can I hint that I see (want) this as a date and not just hanging out as friends in a subtle way? (I remember that u/youdneverknowit had a similar situation, how did that go man? :P) TL;DR Going to have dinner with a co-worker this next weekend and I'm trying to hint to her that it's a date and not just hanging out. Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:41PM Ok guys, I've made a few comments

This literally just happened a couple minute ago, but I ran into a girl that I went out on one date and it was really award and weird. Ive ran into her before and usually we just say high, but it seems like we keep running into each other repeatedly, and I thought I just would start a conversation. I just said our usual what’s up and then I kind of stopped to asked her “oh do you have a class right now,” and she said no “I’m just going to the bathroom” and I was like “cool” with a little bit of an awkward smile and then she walked away so did I. I was like completely caught off guard, I haven’t had really any girl deflect me like that before and I don’t think I’m that repulsive. Usually we greet each other with a wave and a smile, and I never thought anything of it. I don’t know if I’m just reading too much into it, but like damn idk why that hurt so bad. Maybe she just really had to take a shit or was having a bad day idk, it just seemed so weird. And like it’s so insignificant but

I’ll try keeping it brief. Basically girl in my comp sci class day next to me with her friend today and initiated. Wasn’t really looking to date anyone as I’m always busy between the gym, work, and school, but this girl is literally the most amazing person I’ve ever met. She’s really cute and we just talked the entire lecture about life and whatnot. She gave me her snap so I’ll take that as a good sign. Basically I want to know if I should ask her out this Friday or if I should wait until we have class a few more times together. Cheers. Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:47PM I’ll try keeping it brief. Basically girl in my comp sci class day next to me with her friend today and initiated. Wasn’t really looking to date anyone as I’m always busy between the gym, work, and school, but this girl is literally the most amazing person I’ve ever met. She’s really cute and we just talked the entire lecture about life and whatnot. She gave me her snap so I’ll take that as a good sign. Bas

First post but I have wanted to make this for a while. The title says it all, but if you want to talk and get to know your date, please don't choose an activity like a movie or something. If you go and pay to see a movie, you are there to watch the movie, not fool around or chat. If we go fine dining, we are not there to chat or fool around, we are there for the experience (especially given the price). Please, if you want to chit chat with your date and get to know them, or if you want to flirt and make a move, choose something like a walk/hike, drinks or casual dinner, or invite them to your place or something. Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:47PM First post but I have wanted to make this for a while. The title says it all, but if you want to talk and get to know your date, please don't choose an activity like a movie or something. If you go and pay to see a movie, you are there to watch the movie, not fool around or chat. If we go fine dining, we are not there to ch

I want to know your ideas/story for super fun but cheap dates you have either been on or just think are great ideas. Btw I’m going on this date in 4-5 hours 😎 Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:51PM I want to know your ideas/story for super fun but cheap dates you have either been on or just think are great ideas. Btw I’m going on this date in 4-5 hours 😎

I asked my crush if she was busy over this weekend and if she would like to study. She told me shes busy over the weekend but can do Friday and then she changed her mind and said maybe I can do Friday. So Friday comes and she doesn't hit me up. Over the weekend she asked me If I was busy Monday - Wednesday and I said no and she told me she can study Monday. Monday comes around and she hasn't hit me up. Am I suppose to hit her up on the days we are suppose to hang out or is she suppose hit me up? Also like 2 days ago she sent me two video on snapchat and it look like she sent it to everyone because it was just showing what she was doing and you could tell. I sent her a laughing emoji and she took an hour to open it and then left me on read????? Does she have a crush on me or are we just friends? Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:51PM I asked my crush if she was busy over this weekend and if she would like to study. She told me shes busy over the weekend but can do Friday

What do you do when you have just started going out with someone really close to Valentine’s Day. We’re not exclusive or anythno yet, so it feels inappropriate to do anything for the holiday, but then it’s also awkward because we usually go out on Fridays... Should we just pretend it isn’t Valentine’s Day? Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:55PM What do you do when you have just started going out with someone really close to Valentine’s Day. We’re not exclusive or anythno yet, so it feels inappropriate to do anything for the holiday, but then it’s also awkward because we usually go out on Fridays... Should we just pretend it isn’t Valentine’s Day?

Me [F18], Him [M21 soon 22] I met him online on an app where I wanted to practice my English writing skills. It was a letter-like app, so we had to wait to receive the answer of the other according to how far we are from each other. We talked for one month on this app, we felt very friendly immediately (surnames and all). We live in different countries but not too far still. Then, we started to feel frustrated because of the wait for the message. So we switched to email. We could send some for hours when we were not busy... and tried to talk as much as we can. I think we became even closer, even if as friends you can send hearts and very tender and cute messages. We even talked about more personal stuff, to make our conversation like safe places even if you don't want to talk. We then switched to an instant messager app few months after because it was way simple to talk. We became like friends with benefits, but in a very respectful way (because I got hard times in my past with se

Hello everyone, For context, I am a 19M who goes to Uni and I've met great women around me, but I always get nervous whenever I want to ask them out? This is normal for a 19 year old and plus should I do something to counteract this fear? Thank you in advance for any tips! Submitted February 06, 2020 at 12:00AM Hello everyone,For context, I am a 19M who goes to Uni and I've met great women around me, but I always get nervous whenever I want to ask them out? This is normal for a 19 year old and plus should I do something to counteract this fear?Thank you in advance for any tips!