My girlfriend (25f) and I (28m) often have to stop having sex because it becomes uncomfortable or painful for her (or else she powers through like the champion she is because she wants me to come - which leaves me feeling guilty afterward). We have a very communicative and understanding relationship and I love her very much. We are heavy on foreplay - I go down on her to get things started and I try to warm her up with my fingers and then I move to a toy that she owned before we started dating. But it seems like once I get my actual self into her she’s really good for a bit and then it starts to get really iffy for her. No matter how slow I go she struggles after some time. She either experiences a lot of pain and has to stop, or says she feels like she’s going to pee herself and runs off to the bathroom. I don’t know what to do. I really love this girl, but this is wicked hard for me. (I could change that to ‘difficult’, but I like the pun.) Submitted October 05, 2019 at 12:08A...

For the first time in my 3 year relationship I was unable to do something my partner wanted me to do as it was too embarrassing. This is the first time in my life I have ever been unable to do something he really wanted me to and I feel really bad about it. The rest of our sex was good as always, but I feel disappointed and can't help but feel like I disappointed him. What can I do to get over feeling this bad? I can't stop thinking about it and I know I shouldn't be beating myself up this much, but I can't seem to stop. This may be a silly question, but I've never had to deal with this before. Submitted October 05, 2019 at 12:20AM For the first time in my 3 year relationship I was unable to do something my partner wanted me to do as it was too embarrassing. This is the first time in my life I have ever been unable to do something he really wanted me to and I feel really bad about it.The rest of our sex was good as always, but I feel disappointed and can...

I have an itch that needs to be scratched and masterbating is just not cutting it. I want to know ladies experiences of using apps for a hook up?! I don’t want anyone to come to my house but at the safe time I don’t want to go over to theirs either. Like what if they have secret cameras set up to film me? -You never know what you maybe walking into! I’m paranoid of catching anything from anyone!! When giving a blowup how do you broach the topic of him using a condom in the least awkward way possible? Basically I just need advice on being safe and enjoying myself. Thanks so much in advance! Submitted October 05, 2019 at 12:24AM I have an itch that needs to be scratched and masterbating is just not cutting it. I want to know ladies experiences of using apps for a hook up?!I don’t want anyone to come to my house but at the safe time I don’t want to go over to theirs either. Like what if they have secret cameras set up to film me? -You never know what you maybe walking into!I’m p...

My boyfriend and I have a designated “sex towel” that we use to clean up cum after sex, that way it doesn’t leak out onto the bed before we get up and use the bathroom. Does anyone else use the towel method? Does anyone have any other ideas for sex cleanup? Submitted October 05, 2019 at 12:26AM My boyfriend and I have a designated “sex towel” that we use to clean up cum after sex, that way it doesn’t leak out onto the bed before we get up and use the bathroom. Does anyone else use the towel method? Does anyone have any other ideas for sex cleanup?

I really want to talk to her but I really don't have any experience in talking to girls. Submitted October 05, 2019 at 12:10AM I really want to talk to her but I really don't have any experience in talking to girls.

It's amazing how vibrant the world can be when you're not caught up in wanting to have sex or be in that sexual culture. October 05, 2019 at 12:36AM

Well, that’s too bad, because ace/aro people have been part of the movement since the beginning. Also, claiming experiencing homophobia is the defining factor of being LGBT would quickly cross out the T. Trans people don’t always experience homophobia, but almost always bigotry of some sort. LGBT, in a nutshell, is the struggle to be accepted for your sexuality. Asexuality must not be excluded. Not when aces experience such similar problems. October 05, 2019 at 12:36AM

He literally said "It doesn't mean ace/aro people are inherently lesser or don't go through their own discrimination" he said ace/aro people have struggles. He was very kind and understanding. He believes ace and aro people are valid he just doesn't think their LGBT. October 05, 2019 at 12:28AM

Hey poly ace friend! October 05, 2019 at 12:23AM

My partner has dogs - going over his place is great! And seeing him is nice too lol. October 05, 2019 at 12:22AM

Youre not a horrible person. I dont know much about this either but if you believe its in your best interest to be honest with him, be honest with him. October 05, 2019 at 12:21AM

My girlfriend and I have been dating for abut a year and two months. Recently, she has been texting/calling me and snapchatting me increasingly less. We never used to snapchat that much, just keeping up a pointless streak basically. But when she started sending less and less I started to feel weird. I feel like I have crossed a line of privacy and nosiness by doing this, but I have started checking her snap score. For those who don't know, your snap score is a number that keeps track of your activity on the app—it increases by 1 when you open or send a message. I have noticed that during the times when she is not responding to things I send, her snap score continuously increases by increments of two (opening one message and responding) and we are no longer best friends anymore (she now snaps someone else more frequently than she snaps me). Am I reading too deeply into this and should I not worry about this kind of thing? Should I bring it up to her? I feel like I have been over-i...

TLDR: i was in an unhealthy friendship for a year and a half where we both hurt and manipulated each other and I don’t know how to recover because I feel like I don’t have a right to be hurt. I’ll first start off by saying that I have quiet bpd, and aspbergers. This isn’t an excuse for anything I’ve done but it’s relevant. So basically I was friends with someone (19 NB) for about a year and a half, and at one point I had romantic feelings towards them but that went away when I realised I couldn’t trust them. But like they became my favourite person, which in bpd terms basically means that I was obsessed with them, and social interactions with them would make or break my day depending on how well they went. They did not ask to be my FP and I greatly regret the role I forced them into. We also had extremely poor communication which lead to me overstepping social boundaries a lot, and then we hurt and manipulated each other in other ways. They gaslighted me, acted like I didn’t like the...

Note, this is a repost: Very sorry for using prohibited words. I think there was only one and I’ve fixed it. Very sorry to anyone I upset using that word, I was quoting what my cousin had said but that’s no excuse. I tried to keep this as brief as possible, but there’s a lot to the story so it's fairly long. Sorry about that. TL;DR: My cousin and I were best friends. She was a catty wild child while I was a square. Her erratic nature made her make poor life decisions constantly, and she made me feel like a boring, embarrassing prude a lot. We got into an argument and stopped talking, but my family tried to get me to forgive her. I didn't want to before, but her recent cancer scare is making me second guess my decision even though I still think she's toxic. My cousin and I have been very close since we were young, even after her parents split up and she stopped living in the same town as us. She would come over during the summer (and sometimes she would spend a year or t...

Me and my boyfriend started dating back in April. On our first ever date, his mom not only dropped him off, but she also went and saw a movie with us. It was the three of us seeing a movie on our first date and it did feel a little awkward, but I was still willing to give him a chance since he seemed a nice guy and his mom was very sweet. He asked me to officially be his girlfriend on our second date and ever since then, we've have some limited time together and his mom has been attending a majority of our dates. The main reason is that his mom is more or less is chauffeur. His license is revoked for having a history of DUI's and me and his mom have to drive him around. We also live across town from each other, and I don't have a ton of free time to always drive a ways to see him. The three of us of have been camping together on two separate occasions and we've gone out to eat and see movies together multiple times. It wasn't until last night that it started to da...

Depending on what card games you like some of them are online October 05, 2019 at 12:14AM

“You don’t have struggles, bye:)” is not respectful. October 05, 2019 at 12:13AM

Hey so aces have been part of the LGBT movement since the 70’s. Whoever this is can sit bare-assed on a porcupine. October 05, 2019 at 12:12AM

Thank you October 05, 2019 at 12:05AM

Well there's my (and many others') life in summary. Well done! October 04, 2019 at 11:56PM

My romantic attraction is a mess but it's there, so I identify as queer ace:) You're not alone. October 04, 2019 at 11:53PM

Namely tinder but maybe other dating apps. I wish it was easier to find someone without having to use an app but in this day and age I feel like people are lost without apps. What’s everyone’s take on this? maybe is just me? (26f) Submitted October 04, 2019 at 11:23PM Namely tinder but maybe other dating apps. I wish it was easier to find someone without having to use an app but in this day and age I feel like people are lost without apps. What’s everyone’s take on this? maybe is just me? (26f)

I'm new to reddit, but I heard it was good for these kinds of things. I'm a south Asian guy that's 16 years old and I've never had a girlfriend or been on a date. Every time I've liked a girl, I've gotten nowhere and whenever I ask I get rejected or friend zoned. The main reason I could think of is my convos with them in texts, its always dry and I don't know how to make our convos interesting. It would really help to get some advice, thanks. Submitted October 04, 2019 at 11:47PM I'm new to reddit, but I heard it was good for these kinds of things. I'm a south Asian guy that's 16 years old and I've never had a girlfriend or been on a date. Every time I've liked a girl, I've gotten nowhere and whenever I ask I get rejected or friend zoned. The main reason I could think of is my convos with them in texts, its always dry and I don't know how to make our convos interesting. It would really help to get some advice, thanks.