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/u/Gremlin-Overlord on Aces can like NSFW stuff, right?

One of my favorite things was a little comic by someone who represented themselves using Mothman. The comic basically said, "Sex involving me? No thank you. Sex as a concept? Yeeeeee" and I'm just like, "Yeah. This. This is me." October 28, 2021 at 11:59PM

/u/Cloudy_Melancholy on What a great turnaround! :)

I wish a lot of people are like that too... Respect is a amazing thing. October 28, 2021 at 11:58PM

/u/Stavias_Ace_Alt on Did anyone else discover they were asexual by prices of elimination?

honestly, I was the opposite of this. I was like - huh, well I don't really feel the need to date boys, but they boys I interact with regularly are all incapable of holding a good conversation so it must just be this batch that I don't like. But then I also feel exactly the same about girls, and I think my enby friend is literally the most beautiful person on the planet, so I must just be pansexual, right? Because I like all of them? and then I had the latent realization that sexual attraction means you want to have actual body-on-body intercourse with people, not just hypothetically to make kids some indefinite point in the future but just. recreationally and stuff. Yeah, that was a time. October 28, 2021 at 11:52PM

/u/EatingSugarYesPapa on Fond in LifeProTips. I don't know where I went wrong when I tried to explain that what they said is offensive. I mean, I didn't even mention the fact that I think it's a borderline r*pey line of thinking and still got downvoted very quickly.

The fact that some people think that an ace having a romantic relationship with no sex with an allo is abusive is really scary. Like it actually makes me want to throw up. October 28, 2021 at 11:51PM

Sitting on face - why?

Can someone please explain why guys like it when a woman sits their fat sweaty smelly asshole on their face? Sounds fucking awful if u ask me l the smell of shit and sweat 🤮 Thanks in advance Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:48AM Can someone please explain why guys like it when a woman sits their fat sweaty smelly asshole on their face? Sounds fucking awful if u ask me l the smell of shit and sweat 🤮Thanks in advance

I'm really confused about what my FWB wants.

So I have several FWBs and have had them in the past. It's always been pretty clear cut and dry. We hang out, we get a drink, we talk about stuff, but we also fuck. Sounds simple enough. But this 1 FWB I've been seeing for about 8 months is really starting to confuse me. It was normal in the beginning just like all FWB relationships. But she's started to sleep over my apt after sex. Which was cute. No problem. She started coming over 3x a week and we fucked 3x a week and it was AWESOME. But only on weekdays, because during the weekends, she hangs out her boyfriend/ex/whatever-they-are Then, for the past 2 months, she just... comes over... after work... and just... hangs out at my place. I can't even invite other FWBs over. We don't even have sex most the time she's over! Like, I really like her, she's cool, we're good friends... but I have no idea what she wants. She has her own apt but shes over all the time and we're NOT fucking. I'd b

Can you cum from penetration but not from clitoral stimulation?

I’m wondering because I’ve never tried penetration but it’s difficult for me to cum from clitoral stimulation. I know for a lot of women it’s difficult to cum from penetration, so I’ve never really considered it (I’m a lesbian btw). Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:52AM I’m wondering because I’ve never tried penetration but it’s difficult for me to cum from clitoral stimulation. I know for a lot of women it’s difficult to cum from penetration, so I’ve never really considered it (I’m a lesbian btw).

How do I (F19) tell the guy I’ve been hooking up with (M22) that I want to continue seeing him casually but need more emotional involvement on his part?

I feel like he just wants to have sex with me and doesn’t feel like he needs to try and charm me anymore. My sexual needs don’t get met when I don’t have someone reciprocating feelings or just an emotional bond. I don’t want a relationship, I’d just like more effort. Not sure if he’s willing to give. He gave a lot of effort in the beginning but it seems to be dying out. Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:53AM I feel like he just wants to have sex with me and doesn’t feel like he needs to try and charm me anymore. My sexual needs don’t get met when I don’t have someone reciprocating feelings or just an emotional bond. I don’t want a relationship, I’d just like more effort. Not sure if he’s willing to give. He gave a lot of effort in the beginning but it seems to be dying out.

Does it sound like a fetish or is he trying to pimp me ?

Okay so I’ve been seeing this guy for over a year casually… We’ve always had a great friendship but we are friends with benefits. He’s (40M) I’m (24F) . A few nights ago we were messing around and he wanted to FaceTime his guy friend and show him what was going on (I’m a squirter) so I didn’t think anything of it . It was a turn on for me and him but I feel like it made him not respect me as much. Last night he asked me if I would ever sell my pussy … I was shocked he would even ask me something like that. He basically was trying to pimp me out to his friend , I kept saying no and he kept saying I could make hella money and he would fuck with me regardless. I told him I only wanted to be with him and he just said think about what I said and that was it. So my question is do you guys think he’s just into that kind of thing or is he trying to pimp me. ? Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:54AM Okay so I’ve been seeing this guy for over a year casually… We’ve always had a great friend

Had a really nice conversation with someone, but now what?

Hi, I’m just posting here cause I thought it might be useful to get some people’s advice. Recently, I (19M) was wondering what might happen if I messaged my old high school crush (17F) just for the heck of it to see how things go. And to my surprise, it was pretty good! She messaged back and we had a good conversation that flowed really well :). Things seemed to be going great! I was wanting to ask her if she wanted to meet up in person but the opportunity never came around — she said she had to go and have a rest bc the other night she only had 3 hrs of sleep (fair enough). Anyway, towards the end, she sent a message wishing me “good luck with uni and stuff”, which was nice, but IDK, almost seemed like a conversation closer — as if the exchange was just gonna come to a close and be a one-off thing :/. I wished her good luck with her studies and work too and we finished off positively, however, I was left wondering what to do next. The way it ended sort of almost made it seem she tho

What should I do

Yesterday I hang out with some friends and there was this guy, who was a friend of some uni mates of mine. He seemed pretty interesting and I found his personality attractive. He seemed interested in me as well, but the problem is that I am quite socially awkward. I mean, I make friends quite easily but I've noticed that I struggle to bond closer with people, especially in a romantic sense. So, a friend of mine asked him his instagram, then he showed interest in me and asked for my name twice, but not for my insta. Since I am a dumb ass who does not use much social networks and who isn't able to catch implicit signals, my mind was going elsewhere and I spat out only some confused words and didn't give him my insta. Basically I am afraid the response sounded a bit cold, but then the convo carried on pretty fine, even if we only talked about simple things. I really don't know what to think. Later on I looked for him on insta but idk if I should send the following request

How to get a partner in high school.

(For some perspective im 16 male that is into all genders) I got to the point where i love myself and I really want to be in a relationship. My high school is for kids with anxiety and deppresion and my grade has litterly 7 kids. Im not saying its not possible to find someone there, its just there are only 2 girls that im not that into and im pretty sure all the guys are straight but maybe not. I guess the point is, is there anyway to stsrt datting as a teen out of highschool? Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:56PM (For some perspective im 16 male that is into all genders) I got to the point where i love myself and I really want to be in a relationship. My high school is for kids with anxiety and deppresion and my grade has litterly 7 kids. Im not saying its not possible to find someone there, its just there are only 2 girls that im not that into and im pretty sure all the guys are straight but maybe not.I guess the point is, is there anyway to stsrt datting as a teen out of hig

Why do I hardly get matched anymore as a woman with decent men. Pre covid I didn't have this issue. I'm in San Francisco and wonder if covid has anything to do with this. Or is it my age?

I'm between 35-40F and I'm back using dating apps now. Pre covid, it was really easy to get plenty of dates. I feel like it has not been easy anymore. Is it because I'm 1.5 years older since covid started or is it because of covid that people aren't dating as much? Also I wonder if many single people left the Bay area. Something changed and I'm not sure how to address this. Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:04AM I'm between 35-40F and I'm back using dating apps now. Pre covid, it was really easy to get plenty of dates.I feel like it has not been easy anymore.Is it because I'm 1.5 years older since covid started or is it because of covid that people aren't dating as much?Also I wonder if many single people left the Bay area.Something changed and I'm not sure how to address this.

How do I stop feeling so lonely?

I have good friends and great relationships with colleagues at work. I hang out with my friends at least once or twice a week either on or offline. My work allows me to meet many people and stay very social. But at the end of all this I feel so, so lonely. I do not have a good relationship with my family due to past events and barely speak with most of them besides my brother. I don’t have a girlfriend but feel a need for some kind of affection other than friendly jokes and conversations. I just want to be able to hug somebody. I don’t want sex or anything, I just want to feel like someone cares for me like I care for them. I feel so neglected. The other day I had a colleague of mine take my blood (I work in healthcare) and even the small amount of contact just touching and moving my arm made me feel almost relaxed. Is that how low my standards for physical contact have become? That being stabbed with a needle is comforting… how do I overcome this. Submitted October 29, 2021 at 1

What’s your take?

I met this guy, we exchanged numbers and texted for hours. I initiated a hang out and we had the best fricken time. We have a lot in common and we’re just laughing and talking the whole time. We text a lot. I mean, the conversations are great and in depth. So I’m wondering why he hasn’t asked to hang out yet. I thought maybe he’s waiting for me to ask again? If he wasn’t interested he wouldn’t put so much effort thru text, so idk what do you guys think Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:16AM I met this guy, we exchanged numbers and texted for hours. I initiated a hang out and we had the best fricken time. We have a lot in common and we’re just laughing and talking the whole time. We text a lot. I mean, the conversations are great and in depth. So I’m wondering why he hasn’t asked to hang out yet. I thought maybe he’s waiting for me to ask again? If he wasn’t interested he wouldn’t put so much effort thru text, so idk what do you guys think

Is this abusive?

Since my husband and I have started dating I have gained 40 pounds in the past seven years. I have talked about my weight off off and on but the other day after I had sex with my husband he told me that my weight gain has made him less attractive to me, and on my weight may be the reason why he can’t get off so fast. This by the way was after we had had really good sex. I know he’s an honest person Who likes to share his feelings but I feel like there are times are honesty can go to far and this comment really hurt me. I just wanna make sure I’m correct in what I’m thinking. do you believe a statement like this is considered abusive? Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:30PM Since my husband and I have started dating I have gained 40 pounds in the past seven years. I have talked about my weight off off and on but the other day after I had sex with my husband he told me that my weight gain has made him less attractive to me, and on my weight may be the reason why he can’t get off so

25(F) Horny All The Time.

I am 25(F) and I am just horny all the time. I've been dating this guy for a month now and the sex is epic but I just can't get enough. I've had past relationships where it was good but I didn't feel like I want more. Now I'm just horny all the time and don't really know what to do about it. Has anyone else had this experience? Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:34PM I am 25(F) and I am just horny all the time. I've been dating this guy for a month now and the sex is epic but I just can't get enough. I've had past relationships where it was good but I didn't feel like I want more. Now I'm just horny all the time and don't really know what to do about it. Has anyone else had this experience?

What are some ways I can be "dominate"?

As a woman I feel like it's a bit harder to be dominant on my partner since he is obviously taller & stronger than I am but I feel like sometimes initiating sex first or being a bit dominant about like taking the first step rather than him as he usually is the dominant one or the one to initiate first. I wanna know what are some ways I can initiate or be dominant without trying too hard? Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:49PM As a woman I feel like it's a bit harder to be dominant on my partner since he is obviously taller & stronger than I am but I feel like sometimes initiating sex first or being a bit dominant about like taking the first step rather than him as he usually is the dominant one or the one to initiate first. I wanna know what are some ways I can initiate or be dominant without trying too hard?

Where to even begin finding a 3rd for couples threesome?

I have always had an interest in wanting a threesome and my boyfriend has agreed, and now that we’ve talked about it I don’t really know where to go from here. How do you even approach the situation with someone you’re interested in to join? I don’t have anyone in mind right now, but if down the road we met someone, but also don’t want any strings attached. So just looking for advice from couples that have experienced this, and could share your story and how you found your 3rd or what relationship you had with them/how you brought it up!? Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:52PM I have always had an interest in wanting a threesome and my boyfriend has agreed, and now that we’ve talked about it I don’t really know where to go from here. How do you even approach the situation with someone you’re interested in to join? I don’t have anyone in mind right now, but if down the road we met someone, but also don’t want any strings attached.So just looking for advice from couples that have

Blowjobs don't do it for me

My partner loves sucking my dick, but i don't feel anything when they do. I love seeing them happy, and it doesn't feel bad so I'm more than happy for them to do it as much as they want, but should i tell them that i don't feel anything, or just let them enjoy themselves Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:57PM My partner loves sucking my dick, but i don't feel anything when they do. I love seeing them happy, and it doesn't feel bad so I'm more than happy for them to do it as much as they want, but should i tell them that i don't feel anything, or just let them enjoy themselves