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never been in love but want it so bad

i want to be in love. I want to be in love so I can understand. understand all the love songs and poems and movies. but also because i want that connection that’s unlike a friendship or family relationship. i have so much love to give too. it makes me cry to think about. out of sadness but also out of slight embarrassment. I can’t explain it but i’m sure some of you get it. I go through phases of this longing/yearning for someone and at the end just feel lonely. i’ll get over it soon and I know i (21F) am so young and yadda yadda. just wanted to put this out there. Submitted May 23, 2020 at 11:55PM i want to be in love. I want to be in love so I can understand. understand all the love songs and poems and movies. but also because i want that connection that’s unlike a friendship or family relationship. i have so much love to give too. it makes me cry to think about. out of sadness but also out of slight embarrassment. I can’t explain it but i’m sure some of you get it. I go throu...

love

i wanted to talk about love for a second. You see love can be both a noun and a verb. You can do the loving or feel the loving. so which one is the correct way to love? i'm curious to hear your answers in my opinion, love is something you should do. Its almost as though your taking the loving from somebody else, but at the same time giving it back to replace the love that we took. Kind of like breathing. As we exhale, we lose the old oxygen, but as we inhale we breathe in nice, new oxygen Submitted May 24, 2020 at 12:06AM i wanted to talk about love for a second. You see love can be both a noun and a verb. You can do the loving or feel the loving. so which one is the correct way to love? i'm curious to hear your answersin my opinion, love is something you should do. Its almost as though your taking the loving from somebody else, but at the same time giving it back to replace the love that we took. Kind of like breathing. As we exhale, we lose the old oxygen, but as we i...

Why are you still here?

I thought that night was the last time I'd ever think about you. But you are still here, you haven't left. Why do you have to be so hard to forget? You are stuck in my head so bad, I can't do anything except for thinking about it. Why did you have to become such an integral part of my life only to not give a damn about me? From the moment I wake up, to the moment I go to sleep you are always present in my head. I can't listen to music without thinking about you. I can't work without thinking about you. I still look around to maybe see your face somewhere around. I still love you. And I will keep writing this shit to you while I am sure you are never even going to read this and the only you I am mentioning here is an illusion created by my mind. Submitted May 24, 2020 at 12:09AM I thought that night was the last time I'd ever think about you. But you are still here, you haven't left. Why do you have to be so hard to forget? You are stuck in my head so ...

Keeping the conversation flowing/meeting up with a girl I'm interested in with the pandemic going on.

I'll give some context, I matched with a girl pre-lockdown and we've been talking for a few weeks on and off. We're both still working so we weren't messaging all the time. A few days ago I asked for her number, we started texting each other a lot more and the conversation is really flowing. It's pretty bad timing, this girl seems nice and I'm interested in seeing her. Unfortunately there's no chance of a date anytime soon but I don't want the conversation to go stale and either of us to lose interest before we properly meet. Here in the UK, we're allowed to meet with one person outside our household and maintain a 2 meter distance. Would it be strange of me to suggest meeting up, even so we can see each other, have a proper chat and go for a walk maybe? Or does anyone have any other advice? Submitted May 23, 2020 at 11:49PM I'll give some context, I matched with a girl pre-lockdown and we've been talking for a few weeks on and off...

Date ideas in a post-quarantine world still during corona pandemic?

Gatherings are allowed in many places now or will be in the coming months. But large gatherings like bars, sports games, concerts, etc won't be options due to corona. During quarantine there were threads about ideas: ie FaceTime, Netflix party, etc. But what about now? Park/picnic/Netflix n chill ... What else? Submitted May 23, 2020 at 11:55PM Gatherings are allowed in many places now or will be in the coming months. But large gatherings like bars, sports games, concerts, etc won't be options due to corona.During quarantine there were threads about ideas: ie FaceTime, Netflix party, etc.But what about now? Park/picnic/Netflix n chill ... What else?

How to stop overthinking everything (21M)

Hello reddit. Im a 21 year old guy who's first relationship was about 3 years ago and was Very quick and Very toxic (She'd talk about how im perfect one minute to sending self harm pics the next, BPD and Schizophrenia are a fun combo) and ever since then ive had pretty bad Confidence/ Self esteem issues. Jump to now and ive been talking with this girl i met on Tinder for about a week but sometimes she takes a few hours to respond (She responds well, not one word answers and we've had a few really nice conversations, although its a lot of talking about our pets), which makes me start digging a mental ditch about how i must've screwed up. how do I tell my brain to shut the hell up and not think like this? I like talking to her, shes super nice and very cute but my brain keeps telling me "You're Ugly, You're Disgusting, I'm Gonna Kill You, Give Me $200" This is my first attempt at talking to someone since my first relationship. Sorry if this is ver...

Help a girl out

Tell me it’s considered cheating if your boyfriend goes behind your back to flirt with some girl, give her compliments and even went out of his way to lie to her about why he hadn’t talked to her in a while. I have no idea how long they had talked before this, I only saw the messages of him lying to her about being gone and telling her how gorgeous he thinks she is (with hearts.) I confronted him but no matter what, he says it’s not cheating. I know for a fact if it was the other way around I’d have gotten the boot the second he found out. So why am I questioning it just because he’s saying it’s not cheating?? Submitted May 24, 2020 at 12:04AM Tell me it’s considered cheating if your boyfriend goes behind your back to flirt with some girl, give her compliments and even went out of his way to lie to her about why he hadn’t talked to her in a while. I have no idea how long they had talked before this, I only saw the messages of him lying to her about being gone and telling her how...

(20F)Dealing with a confusing guy(22M)

I’ve known him for about 4 months and like all the fairytale romance stories, we met on tinder. He lead me to believe that he wanted a relationship when I first stared talking g to him. Somehow he blindsided me and admitted later on that he changed his mind. I suspected this because after our first date he failed to hit me up again and left me on delivered for several days. Initially I was attached to him and thought about him obsessively. Eventually I cooled off and stopped worrying about wether we’d end up together or not. A month went by without hearing from him and I started posting “thirst” traps on my Snapchat. Then he decided to swipe up on my story and comment things like “nice” and “you look good” I’m just being polite and saying thank you in response. This goes on for a couple of weeks and he finally gets enough of the teasing. He directly asks if I want to have sex with him. I agree because not gonna lie I was horny during quarantine and it had been 2 months. Afterward I ...

Another loser boyfriend question

So here I go, my first post on Reddit, and I have seen variations of the question hundreds times, yet. Make the story short, I have live-in boyfriend for past about 20 months, I’m post divorcee, ended up falling for him, wanted to take things slow, however he moved in within couple of weeks (closer to work etc etc). Many break ups, this time he’s back since last month (we decided to try during quarantine). We had 3-4 months off. I’m already feeling creepy butterflies for reasons I never understood, honestly I just see many red flags but I’m worn out and just so unhappy that I can’t discuss with him any of it. Here is my question (I mean I’m thinking of any encouragement, any words to give me strength to move his sorry a** out of my place...). Social media, Facebook. In my opinion pretty much equals dating app, not that I’m against Facebook at all. His status says Single, additionally Interested in Women (open to public). I mean after 2 years of living in relationship...? (Even if roc...

I'm in love with my best friend, but I dont want to ruin our friendship! PLEASE HELP!😭😭

So heres a little background: I met my Best Friend, let's call him M, for nearly 4 years and he has been there for me through thick and thin. There isnt a moment where he hasn't left my side. Over the years we became close and started telling each other "good night, I love you" and it warms my heart when we text and talk. Recently for about a year and a half I started to developed feelings for him and so I started flirting and of course he teases back. I know he doesnt wanna date anyone until he's older (He's a M18 and I'm F17) and im just wondering what he wants..sorry if I ranted I've never done this thing before heh, thank you! Submitted May 24, 2020 at 12:12AM So heres a little background: I met my Best Friend, let's call him M, for nearly 4 years and he has been there for me through thick and thin. There isnt a moment where he hasn't left my side. Over the years we became close and started telling each other "good night, I love...

/u/quirkycurlygirly on Thought you guys could appreciate this slice of cheesecake.

Probably mint May 24, 2020 at 12:03AM

/u/praysolace on Yes, you can have a romantic relationship without sex, next question?

Don’t be silly. Obviously you can’t be in a romantic relationship without sexual urges. I, for instance, do not love my fiancé because I do not experience the crotch-tinglies with him any more than with literally anybody else on earth. ...Yes, I have actually been told that, although flavored a bit differently. May 23, 2020 at 11:58PM

/u/TShara_Q on Some confusing hate speech in my inbox

I mean, Im ace and am sexually active now. It didnt stop me from being ace. May 23, 2020 at 11:36PM

/u/raskkoito on Help me talk to my sister.

Hey, I know that fear. I'm in a qpr but I can't handle words like boyfriend or sometimes even love-- it triggers repulsion in me. I'm aroace, my companion is alloaro, and I promise you there are many people who will not only "put up" with you, but cherish you. I've been dealing with fear of friends abandoning me in favor of romo partners for a while; the best thing to do imo is to think of other situations that they haven't abandoned you in, so why should that be different? Hope this helped- you can also always message me if you need to talk. May 23, 2020 at 11:29PM

/u/modernTotopo on Help me talk to my sister.

I can relate to her :) I used to close myself up just bc I am asexual and aromatic. But the problem wasn't that I couldn't find anyone, the problem was that I was thinking that no one would accept me the way I am, but that only said that I couldn't accept the way I could be with anyone. Tell her there's no number 1, there's just someone willing to put as much effort as you to care for each other regardless of sexual orientation. There're no limitations. Tell her to stop thinking about whether she can find someone or not, tell her to go out and make new/more friends, to have fun and enjoy life. If she ever meets someone who she really cares about regardless of sexual orientation, tell her to be honest with them about her orientation and feelings. After all, any relationship is about two people working it out ... not about one person carrying all the weight. Tell her to focus on what she really wants! And she shouldn't feel limited just because she is asexu...

/u/Happy_birthday_world on [Part 1] Am aphobe in the wild replying to an old comment of mine.

Woah that’s a lot is words for someone who is basically saying ‘I’m an idiot’ May 23, 2020 at 11:28PM

/u/wobbuffette on Some confusing hate speech in my inbox

I can only imagine how insulted I could have been had he been able to piece together real sentences. May 23, 2020 at 11:22PM

/u/abcdefghijthrowaway on feeling disappointed and done with the overall LGBT+ online community (possible tw i suppose)

it’s good that we’ll always have this sub. thank you dude! May 23, 2020 at 11:21PM

/u/ricecrispieboi on Help me talk to my sister.

I (25m) am an asexual, questioning if I am aromatic, it can be nerve wracking watching my friends get in and out of relationships, having people they cuddle, kiss, or have sex with and knowing because I don't want that I will have a more difficult time finding a person who will commit to just spending time with me. With that said, I have a strong group of friends, they have thier partners but I am fortunate both the boys and the girls do not believe love should only be expressed for your partner. Where there is consent my friends hug eachother, they touch eachother to express their care and concern for eachother, they dedicate time to one another, they snuggle, they tell eachother they love one another. I am so happy I found my friends. My recommendation is that she look for friends who can be that support she needs and she form strong bonds with them. It helps tremendously with the fear of being alone. May 23, 2020 at 11:15PM

/u/GarnetRae on I was a brave chicken.

Coming out in any way is brave. All that matters is your comfort level. I came out through Facebook a few years ago because the only people on it were my close friends and family. Either way, congrats on coming out and I’m glad you got a positive response! May 23, 2020 at 11:14PM

/u/unthinkable-cunt on Thought you guys could appreciate this slice of cheesecake.

all cake is ace culture, no exceptions May 23, 2020 at 11:10PM

who left him on read

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who left him on read

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